Are you Drinking Too Much ?
Everyone seems to drink alcohol in our culture. Many seem to drink to excess on occasion. But how much drinking is too much?
Many of our clients say - why can’t I be like other people? They seem to be able to drink without getting drunk all the time.
Regular drinking is not necessarily a problem - in Mediterranean cultures families will usually have wine with dinner on most days. But they just have a glass or two. Few people in those countries see any problem with drinking like that.
The truth is, it varies from person to person - there’s no absolute level of alcohol consumption at which you have a problem.
Most people know if they’re drinking too much
… even before other people tell them. Basically if the negative consequences are more than the positive ones. But there are many signs to look out for -
- if you’re looking forward to a drink more than the other things in your life,
- if you’re often feeling depressed or guilty - like you need to hide how much you’re drinking from others, or even having a ’secret’ drink when you can get away with it,
- if you’ve ever noticed a pile of your empties and thought ‘wow, that’s getting big’,
- if the following day, you can’t concentrate on what you need to, because you ‘just can’t face it today’ - (you’re too hungover),
- if you’re finding it difficult to look people in the eye, because you think they might be judging you,
- if you’re buying a bottle during the day, do you buy lots of groceries with it to hide the fact that you’re buying alcohol before lunchtime?
- but one of the surest signs is this - if you’re hungover, and you start thinking ‘just one drink will take this hangover away’, then you’ve definitely got a problem.
September 24th, 2007 at 7:39 am
Hi,
It’s 8.00 am and I could really use a drink. I have been drunk the last three nights, and I have a long drive and a flight later to-day, and quite frankly, I am scared. But on discovering this site, and completing the cravings questionnaire, I realise that I do have some control, and to give in to cravings is a bit of a cop out. Anyway, keep believing that you are not helpless, and believe in the power of yourself.
September 30th, 2007 at 5:46 pm
Hi Gerald, thats spot on advice. I am on day two of being alcohol free. I dont think cutting down is an option for me as once I have the one drink I don’t seem to have an off switch. Like you, I realise that I do have control and its up to me. If I carry on as I am its only going to end one way. I can deal with cravings if I want this badly enough. I think you have to decide what you want to be: A drinker or and non drinker and then just be it.
October 4th, 2007 at 5:53 am
Hey guys, I am Bon from Hong Kong. I drink every weekends and get drunk every weekend. Like Paul said, I don’t have an off switch neither. I throw up on streets, sleep on roadside. I embarass my boyfriend in front of his friends and would say and do things I don’t recall on the next day.
I want to enjoy wine as my other friends do, chill out at gatherings…but it always ends up they need to take care of me.
I am very depressed and want a way out. I honestly love to get drunk because it would be worry-free, but I know I am hurting people I care.
I do have cravings and am trying to suppress it, so I am trying to stay off gatherings meanwhile because i know i have no control…
October 9th, 2007 at 12:24 pm
Hello there my name is Paul
I have just found this website and read the comments all of which I can totally relate too. I am on day three without a drink, I don’t even want one at this very moment but I know come the weekend I will be wanting to down a few and then a few more and of course a few more. By this time I will become loud and good fun to be around but then as if a switch goes off I wake up in the morning only to see the look of saddness on my partners face and I desperately try to think about what I have gone and done this time. Slowly I try and piece the evennts of last night back together, hoping I can recall some of it, most of the time I have been horrible to my partner not caring about their feelings.
This happened at the weekend and still today I cannot remember a thing about what I said or did. I am now at my mothers racked with shame but lucky enough to still have my partners support. I have decided we both need space and I need to start dealing with the issue I have around the person I become because I simply cannot just have a few drinks. i wish everyone in my position all the very best and would very much like to be in touch with atleast one person who may be going through a simular experience. I am a very suppotive guy and think sharing my own experiences I could also help support someone and help them too give up drinking and make the choice to not be the terrible people drink induces. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Paul
October 14th, 2007 at 7:27 pm
Paul, just read your comments and you wouldn’t believe how close our circumstances are. My girlfriend works in a restaurant and doesn’t finish till midnight on weekends, if I go out with my mates then by the time I go to meet her from work I’m in-variably drunk, argumentative and un-caring. What makes it worse is that in the morning I don’t remember a thing. I’ve tried going out and just having a few but my decision making has gone after the first drink. None of my friends see this side and all think I’m the life and soul of the party, as I’m writing this my phone is going off with invites to watch the rugby down the pub but I know if I go then by the time I meet my girlfriend it will have happened again.
On friday I finally accepted this is a problem I’ve had for years and havn’t had a drink since. I don’t know how long I can last but I don’t want my drinking making my decisions for me any more. I wish everyone in this position the best of luck and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
October 15th, 2007 at 6:01 pm
Hi fr the U.S. just stumbled across this site & will be back, but must run for have an appt to make me feel better, a massage. Anyway…I know I drink too much & a bed freind of mine, too. I think he thinks that only HE has a drinking problem, but deep down I know I do too. I drink ’cause I get or am very depressed (on Zoloft, too..bad huh. My Dr put me on that 2 yrs ago for early menopause issues & marital depression, too, I think then). Have been seperated fr my 11 & 13 yr olds Dad for 2 1/2 yrs & still hate that our marriage has fallen apart (he went a stray..I don’t believe my drinking ’caused it. He is a gambler & I am his 3rd wife & is my 1st marriage. So, we weren’t perfect). Anyhow, I tend to stay home alot more so that I don’t get caught drinking & driving, but then again I grab a wine to go & off I go w/wine in hand in the car to get the kids. BAD…..so then I can’t wait to get home to a safe place to drink till I sleep or give up usually on everything. I always argue w/kids’cause I’m always either, tired, depressed or overwhelmed w/life & they don’t help me enough. I DO have ALOT, alot to do, way too much, but i find I can’t handle it anymore & just want to jump in bed 2-3 times a wk w/my now really cute, younger than my husband boyfriend (who drinks whiskey) . Do u think we can help each other thru this? I stopped drinking, all on my own,2 yrs ago for 2 mths, till Thanksgiving. At the time, the bed friend stopped seeing me & said he was bk in AA. So, I did not want to be the ’cause of HIS problems & DID stop drinking. Well, a few mths later he called me bk & has constantly gone thru ups & downs abt his drinking still & is now trying some drug to stop his cravings.Maybe I should to. What do u think? Have ck’d out a few AA meetings before, but womans & group, but not sure if I want to go that route yet. The thought of having FUN at socials without my wine scares me. Makes me want to just crawl into my bed under the sheets. Thanks for listening. Any advice is greatly appreciated.My massage is ’cause I think I am sick, sore throat,achy today, not a hangover. At least I don’t think, I’m hungover. That’s usually all in my head. Anyway..no drink for 16 hrs now…gee pat me on my back, but can’t stop thinking abt buying a bottle or two before the kids come home fr school today since none in the house rt now. Nuts huh? At least I did not buy 1 bottle last night late when I went to the store w/my 11 yr old. He wouldn’t of let me anyway. Thanks for listening.
October 25th, 2007 at 3:01 pm
hey its like every day is so stressful for me i cant go a day without drinking my niece told me to go off drinking because she was scared i would end up dead. Its hard for me to go a full week without drink but I am willing to stop for my neice
October 30th, 2007 at 8:07 pm
Hi jase and paul,
both your coment are exacly the same as mine, im the nicest guy normally, and even with a couple of pints in me, but i end up getting hammered and have lost the last 3 girlfriends from being so drunk and just acting an idiot. i have to be told in the morning what i have done. What a disgrace.
Please keep in touch and il msg soon.
October 31st, 2007 at 2:00 pm
Hi Orchid,
Very similar story to you. Early menopause too. I’m on 3rd husband, he’s younger, but he doesn’t really drink. I wake up and see his disappointed face as I desperately try and remember what I did, what I said. I don’t want to lose him. My children mean the world to me. They deserve more than a hungover mother who won’t take them swimming ‘cos she’s not up to it or doesn’t want to take them to out of school clubs ‘cos she’d have to be sober to pick them up.
I don’t have an off switch.
Really hoping this site can help. I’ve not had a drink for 3 days. I would like to but I hope I can stop taking that first one. The thought of never having another drink for the rest of my life terrifies me. Why does drink mean that much to me? I really don’t want to let down the people who love and rely on me. I want to be a good wife and mother. I want to be a sober wife and mother.
Why can all my friends recognise in themselves that they are starting to get ‘tipsy’ and switch to water ? Why can’t I do that? When I’ve started drinking I don’t think of my husband or children.
Guys - good luck with what you are doing - I hope I can do it too.
November 2nd, 2007 at 7:06 am
Hello Everyone
This is kash, I must admit i have a drinking problem. For the past 2 years or so, i have really hit the bottle big time hoping foolishly to find solace for my sorrows. My problem is i love alcohol. I love to drink and it does taste pretty good to me. Professional failure, personal failure togather made me run to alcohol big time. Today, looking back i feel alcohol has taken a lot from my life. I have been renamed as alcoholic from my previous nickname - Genius. On many occassions i have gone overboard with drinks and has ended up as an embarrasment.I have embarrassed not only myself but my friends and family. Now everyone when they meet us ask” Are you still drinking a lot” rather than ” How r u?. I have thought about this many times, and make an effort to quit only to hit the bottle again. My determination is at its peak in the morning and deminishes totally by 7PM. I ve already developed a condition called fatty liver. Inspite of it i have been drinking for 6 more months. Today at this moment i feel scared, scared of suffering physically and dieing. I dont want to die as an alcoholic. Being a B School grad i am not doing any justice to my education rather i feel i am a disgrace to it. I feel bad, really awful. I need to quit this habit before i am finished forever. Some good help would be really welcome. Pls drop in some good lines on my id - kashmonyklik@gmail.com
have a great day folks
November 2nd, 2007 at 10:31 pm
hi am name is conor and no i do not have a drink prob.as i wright this i am having a drink of wine,witch i do most nights.but the fact is that alot of people belive they are one thing when you are only an other.yes people get drunk and make a** h*** of them self but thats a part of life!we are here to have fun,if you are hurtting people when drinking, YES you need to look at your self and find a diffent path,this is a great site as i have been on before as my father has a drink prob.you may think i have one also,but i tell you know that i have never been late for work or not let my son down in any way over drink. we have one life and if you can not look at your self and see that the life you have is a good one then my thoughts are with you. i love my son,wife, and my life but yes you could say i dont see the big picture but at the end of the day we can only paint are own picture,and mine is great at the mo.i am only 32 and have had two hip replacements in the last five years,but please dont think for one min that i feel that the world owes me any thing.i feel for you all but we all know it whats inside you that make the person and not the drink.hope you are all well and i will think of all you. thanks for your time conor from ireland.
November 5th, 2007 at 9:23 pm
Hi everyone. Orchid are you still alive? You’re in my prayers today,but get help now.This is my first time on this web-site. I’m a heavy drinker but can stop at 2 or 3 when out,especially if I have to drive.I drink daily but only at night. I’ve been using alcohol to treat my insomnia. I often require 6 to 7 drinks to feel ready for bed. 3 to 4 isn’t enough and I lay in bed wired. 5 is as low as I can go. I’ve had no car accidents, DUI, fights, embarrassing events, missed time from work,my health is good, a jog 5 miles daily. I’m not depressed, I have lots of energy, BUT I’ve walked and talked in my sleep since I was a kid.If I have more than 5 drinks a night I sleep walk like crazy. I’ve had some serious falls. I like to drink and want to continue drinking socially. I want a good night sleep without taking something more addicting like Ambien,Lunesta etc. The tricyclic antidepressants are notorious for weight gain dry mouth and urinary retention. Any thoughts?Good luck all.
November 12th, 2007 at 8:59 pm
I find when I drink Beer I am fine, but as soon as I drink wine I pick arguements and become aggresive.
December 31st, 2007 at 5:02 am
dreams nevere cum true,i shud know! y aint u mosses talkin to me? if u had a real drink problem ud still b up
January 14th, 2008 at 12:11 pm
need help cutting down. drinking too much about 3 crates of beer a week. I have a 7 year old son who i am missing time with because of this problem. I work nights so have the house to my myself in the day so I drink. my mood is up and down. any body with problems please get in touch james2000@talktalk.net
January 30th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
Hi there, Andrew from London….. phew…. big step just typing this. I’ve always liked a drink and used to play rugby a lot and it was just part of it and lots of fun. Then 8 years ago my wife left me for a number of reasons (none alcohol related incidently) and at the same time an injury ended my rugby career….. but instead of cutting back on drink I increased it and in that 8 years I’ve gone from weighing a very fit healthy 15 stone to a blubbery 20 stone who drinks 6 or 7 pints a night and never takes any exercise….. i’m thoroughly depressed by my size, lack of friends (who wants to know the fat soak?), lack of girlfriend and terrified by my health ….. too scared to see a doctor but convinced I have high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes and goodness knows what state my liver is in. Its almost a case of what will get me first? The alcohol? The obesity? I’m only mid forties but can’t see me making 50 at this rate.
Before Christmas I had a wake up call; a guy that goes to my local pub died from all the things that I fear I have and it was like everyone was looking at me thinking “you’ll be next”.
I feel better for typing this and honestly I’m not looking for sympathy or anyone to come up with a quick fix because the solution must come from me; from within.
I look at Andy Fordham and how a wake up call has saved his life.
I don’t know if I can stop drinking, eat sensibly and take exercise all at the same time - its too big a change…… so I’m going to half everything. Half the food, half the beer and some exercise everyday….. maybe thats a good place to start?
February 5th, 2008 at 11:46 pm
Hi Andrew
I do feel for you. You said you had a wake up call and that someone died. Well, my problem is that I found my daughter dead in bed 8 months ago and I can’t get that image out of my head and the time I spent pumping her chest and not knowing that she was already dead.
That is my excuse and I hate it. I hate saying that I drink more because my daughter died because it is not her fault and I shouldn’t be using that as an excuse anymore. When she died, we were fed tablets and brandy for the shock so why should we still be drinking excessively? I know it is because I can’t cope without her but I also know that I am turning into an alcoholic or maybe already am one. I am going to try the herbal medicine that people on here are talking about. It can only be a bonus even if I don’t stop drinking totally.
Thanks for listening.
Babs xx
February 10th, 2008 at 6:43 pm
hi
Am looking for some advice here. My partner is disabled and awaiting further surgery in the hope that he can regain some mobility. he has not worked for over a year due to disability and chronic pain. He has liver damage from a combination of alcohol and medication. he knows he should not drink alcohol so he tries to hide it from me. i find empty wine/ brandy bottles in cupboards, behind furniture and in the attic etc. He does not admit to having a problem but it seems pretty obvious to me.
When he had 3 weeks in hospital last summer he became confused and unwell. he tried to tell me it was due to anaemia and infection which could have been true had I not known that his gamma gt was over 3000!!! I have tried reasoning and begging him to get help but he refuses. HELP
February 13th, 2008 at 9:17 am
Hi All,
I fear I’m drinking too much and have been doing do from the time my father died 2 years ago. He died of acute chirosis of the liver caused by alcohol and had other complications such as diabetes type 2 and emphesemia. I cared for him alone when he was dying which was very hard and then had to do probate, clear his flat and bury him too. I feel I drink mainly through boredom and as I get depressed, and it can range form having about two bottles of wine at the weekend to sometimes drinking during the week after work, which I have just started doing for the past two weeks. I’m trying to cut down now as I’m worried about the level I am drinking and as I take pain medication and anti depressants. I’m 31 and have no kids or boyfriend at present. This was difficult to deal with as I had been with him five years and we were supposed to get married, have kids etc. I have very little family and they arnt in my area but I’m staying in touch with them by phone. I’m going to try to start seeing my friends more and start the gym again. Any other ideas?
K
February 20th, 2008 at 2:58 am
Hello,
I have been drinking heavily for about 10 years now. It has increased since my boyfriend died five years ago this year. I live alone and only drink at night. I drink about a 1/2 gal. a week of Rum because it doesn’t give me a hangover. I have tried to stop on my own, but have not been able to. I live near 3 or 4 liquor stores and have enough money to support my addiction. I am a recovering drug addict who has not actively used illegal drugs for three years and still attend NA meetings, but cannot kick this alcohol addiction. At night, I have one or two water glasses of 1/2 alcohol and 1/2 of whatever I have on hand. I will mix rum with ANYTHING. But when I wake up the next morning, it’s over until that night. I go to work, clean my house, do my shopping, visit my kids, all the normal things. I have NEVER driven with any alcohol in my system. I want to stop because I know sooner of later it will impact my health if it hasn’t already. Everytime I try to stop, I experience such depression that I always go back to drinking again.
ANY help welcome!
Thanks for “listening”
Margaret
March 6th, 2008 at 9:13 pm
Hi Paul,
after reading your blog, it sounds like you are a male version of me. the guilt feelings of the next day trying to piece the story back together. its such a horrible place to be in. So why do I keep doing it? I tell myself that I am a nice person, a good person who is loving and caring and would never be so horrible when sober. so why do i get so awful when im drunk? I am 26 and used to take alot of recrational drugs (cocain, ectasty, mdma, speed etc)when i was young from age 14 to 20, my mum has had a serious drink and depression problem for 20 years +, my dad passed away 3years ago, is my drinking because of these factors? who knows? not me. I am happily married now and seriously at risk of loosing my husband. I can go out and have 2 or 3 drinks, the moveonto water. But then every month or so I have a total blow out. get blind drunk, kiss people , fight people, wet myself,cut my self with a knife( this only happend once), be cruel to my husband, talk to strangers, make a fool of myself. then in the morning not recall it all. I would like to think that today is the first day of a new begining but i am scared of the thought of giving up alcohol totally.Its part of my life, social, work and family. But im afraid that I just cant cope with the cutting down methods as it just creeps back up with me. I would really apprecaite any replies and feedback. Thanks for reading this blog.
Mrs
March 11th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
what i see here in common is the use of “recreational” drugs. I have been married to my husband for 4 monthly only. We have know each other for about 4 years. I got to a stage a few years back where i sent him away becasue i could not tolerate the drug habit. He has been free of drugs since then, but we missed and loved each other so he came back. Things were great. We have even been talking about having a baby. But about one month after the wedding he started drinking heavily again. Look he has always been a rather heavy drinker. And i always used to drink with him, but not quite as much as he drinks. Today i asked him to move out. He is begging me not to do this, but i cant anymore. He came home from the clubhouse in our complex in such a state that he passd out in the bath, luckily i woke up to find him and let the water out. Do i have to see my new husband drowned in the bath or die in a car accident? How do i help him, i have asked him to stop drinking for a full month. This wont help will it?
April 11th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
Hey jase and paul;
I have read your stories and can relate to your partners. My boyfriend has been the “life of the party” for years- lots of binge drinking. He can go for a while without a drink and does not consider himself an alcoholic. However this past fall he was caught drinking and driving and in my country it carries a criminal record. He blew more than twice over the legal limit and he does not remember the event, I have stood by him hoping that he would get off, but now it is going to trial in September and does not look good. If convicted he could lose his job, he will lose his license for a year. I can imagine how awful he must feel but I think he is hiding a lot of shame. He was good for a while but on our last vacation we were delayed in the airport and he proceeded to get drunk to the point that I was scared he was going to get arrested. Life of party maybe for him … I was really upset. Now coming back from our trip, he has completely shut me out. I want to walk away but I feel I am giving up on him, I am not sure what to do.
April 12th, 2008 at 6:34 pm
hi i saw all your problems with alcohol, my daughter is 20 and she drinks every day, she had a baby taken last year and ever since has progressed to drinking every day.She has had time off of work and has been ill with a flu type bug.she falls asleep on the bus and has many rows with family,she has a boyfriend who is older and tries to be her father, i just dont no what to do for her any comments will help. kim
May 16th, 2008 at 2:56 am
Hi Erin,
I’ve been in your partners shoes, and my partner issued me with a trespass notice, and involved the police to get me to leave the house. She had enough of my bingeing, which usually resulted in me becoming verbally abusive, saying all the things that sober, would push down inside. So after 3 or 4 wines, the inhibitions disappear, along with any memory of what I either said or did. I can relate to those correspondents who wrote that the disappointment on their partners face in the morning makes them feel so very embarrassed and disgusted with themselves. She had been telling me for such a long time that my drinking was out of control, and felt she had no other option but to have me removed from the home. It came as a complete shock, and I had to live on the road for three days. After the anger faded, I spoke with her (on her initiative) and am once again back in the house, but in a separate room. We need to deal with the anger we feel towards each other which has grown through the five and a half years we have been together. I too am on Prozac. We are going to couple’s counselling, and are finding this helpful, as well as starting to be really honest with each other. It’s step by step right now, but I can tell you that without reaching bottom, and finding this site, I would still be an angry person in denial, willing to blame any and every other thing for my drinking behaviour. You need to take control of the situation and start to live for yourself, keep yourself safe and happy. He would most likely benefit greatly from visiting this site on his own, and reading some of the amazing stories that have been shared - it may plant a seed of self-realisation for him. I hope this helps, good luck and stay safe.
May 16th, 2008 at 9:12 am
Hi Kim,
You really sound like you need a friend right now. What to do, watching your daughter self destruct as she is doing is like being in hell. I also have a daughter who had similar issues, and you know what Kim, she ended up OK. It wasn’t alcohol for her, it was drugs, and she freely admits, anything she could get her hands on. She is now 20. And you couldnt meet a more empathetic, compassionate woman. I am so proud of her. Please if you can, (and I hope that she is still in contact with you) don’t give up on her. Let her know that she is loved, just the way she is. She is hurting so bad,giving her baby away must just reinforce her complete feeling of self loathing. Forgive yourself so that you can forgive her, and just remember who you both are, nothing more precious than mother and daughter. Best wishes
Jude
July 8th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Hi there. I relate to your blogs. This morning on the way to a mtg (I work in the UK public sector, reasonably senior job). I rang a helpline to discuss my drinking. I had been drinking heavily every night for the last 5 nights. Last night went to bed (no booze) and cldnt sleep, felt agitated and woke up pouring with sweat. I was revolting. Self-loathing and cldnt even look at my daughters picture on way to work as I felt so disgusting. How did I end up this way? It creeped up on me as like others, I NEVER go onto water after a few drinks. I drink til I pass out if I’m out. If I am at home, I will drink one bottle of wine a night with my partner but he’s a big bloke and I drink more than him. I’m only small, 36 and sacrifice food for booze so I don’t put weight on. I’ve just come off citalopram which I’m proud of, but the booze is making me depressed and overall self loathing. I hate myself. I look bk on my life and wonder how I became this. I’ve always been a piss head and used recreational drugs. I’m ashamed and embarassed of what I’ve become. I just want to be like everyone else. Few wines with food and no binge cant-remember-a-thing nights out. In fact I stopped going out to avoid this and have since developed a habit of drinking at home. The last straw was when I went on a company overnighter and got trashed in the bar afterwards when it just wasn’t that type of event. A big hug out there to you all. Its a horrible disease. Chrissey
July 23rd, 2008 at 1:58 pm
Hi,
It’s really helpful reading everyone’s comments - in some cases at least I can say ‘well, I’m not that bad’ but in others I can recognise my own denial. I have two voices in my head - one says that I have a good job, children, house etc and none are affected by my drinking and the other voice says that I do have a problem because I drink wine EVERY night. My new partner says its a problem that I drink every night but I suspect thats partly because when he drinks he drinks heavily and cant stop at 3 glasses where I can and I’m putting temptation in his way. Saying that, I probably do need to cut out a few nights at least, its just hard when I dont see any associated problems and it really helps me sleep. I’m scared my new relationship will end if I don’t stop, but when I dont see it as such a flaw it feels more like I’m just bending to his whim. Denial again? I drink 3 glasses of wine a night, a little more if I go out at the weekend, never drink before 8pm, never disgrace myself in public, never crave a drink in the day, never put off doing something else (I’ve done evening classes and activities until late), yet I still need a drink to sleep. Really cant tell how bad that is?
PS: I find my partner critising my drinking annoys me to death - is there any helpful advice about a better way for partners to handle the situation without causing an argument by direct accusation??
August 13th, 2008 at 10:40 am
Hi,
I am looking for some advice, I feel my partner is drinking too much, he has always liked a drink, but for the past four weeks he has drunk a bottle of wine and four or five beers every night, before that it was three or four times a week, he becomes rude, tactless and the malicious look in his eye really hurts as when sober, he is calm, gentle and kind. When I mention it he makes me feel as if I am neurotic and can’t recognize when someone wants to have a bit of fun. Last night he didn’t drink at all for the first time in weeks, and he had jumpy legs and couldn’t concentrate..i privately wondered if this was withdrawal but didn’t dare say it. We have children and have overcome problems in the past and it would be such a shame for alcohol to come between us now. Has he got a problem?
Also, i read everyones story on here with much sympathy and i wish you all much luck and hope that with support things get better for you all..
September 9th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
Hi,
I need help. I know I drink way too much, nightly I would drink maybe one and a half bottles of wine or half a bottle of vodka. I know I am drinking too much and I drink because I am unhappy, I live with someone who suffers from depression and is sad all the time. I’m fed up with the hangovers and the financial problems my drinking is causing me. How can I help myself. Any advice would be very welcomed. Thanks.
September 27th, 2008 at 10:31 am
Hi!
I’m 28.I’ve drinking a lot in the last five years. I usually drink at home. My partner who I live with doesn’t drink that much & so I hide the fact I’m drinking from him as I know he wouldn’t approve. We don’t go out that much socially & so at weekends i will drink a bottle of wine whens hes not home or take a bottle into the shower with me & drink it there. I usually do this every weekend & would be drunk but he can never tell. I don’t know why I,m doing this-I don’t know if its boredom or I just love the feeling of being drunk like a way to unwind. If we go away on holidays I never drink or even crave it & that could be for 2 or 3 weeks, so I don’t think its an addiction maybe just a strong habit. I’d be interested to see what anyone thinks or if anyone is in a similar situation?
Thanks