Comments on: Stages of Change in an Alcohol Problem

By: Teazy

Teazy — Fri, 04 May 2012 11:46:08 +0000

also break associations.. i used to think drinking meant fun and happiness..as when we are young it probably is, but now in fact sitting at home miserable with a bottle of wine isnt fun!

By: Teazy

Teazy — Fri, 04 May 2012 11:43:59 +0000

Hi everyone, fantastic to know we are not alone isnt it?? April i have been trying unsuccessfuly to stop for 3 years now.. got it down to one binge every 10 days or so, but my life is so much more better when i stay sober, i can drive any time, i am availabel if there is an emergency, i feel better, everything i do is better, when i am drug im an inactive, self possessed slob.. hope this helps!

By: april

april — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:35:37 +0000

hi everyone im so happy i found this website and reading all your storys and know im not alone.I have got a problem a big one.Drink is destroying me life iv 2 young kids and need to find the willpower to give up for them and my boyfriend or i will loose them all! has anyone got advice?

By: Keith

Keith — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 15:08:15 +0000

Hi everyone. I have been something of an alcoholic for years, and I have been working on it for the past couple. Just found this site, so I am happy to have someone to share this with as my wife is leaving me forever, because, really, of who I become after a few drinks. Man, am I an asshole for not getting control of this, but I am going to. I cannot continue to consume alcohol and destroy my relationships.

By: Liza

Liza — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 03:13:01 +0000

I happen to stumble upon this website trying to get more information for my psychology assignment. Everyone of you deserves a medal for taking this big step and admitting that you have a problem. That’s a huge step! That you are all contemplating change, that’s a good start. Nerver give up on your journey to sobriety, nothing comes easy. Life is nerver meant to be easy there will be ups and downs. It takes determination to win. Anyways, wish everyone of you the very best hope you all come out winners and yes you do come out stronger in the end. God Bless you all.

By: Kendra

Kendra — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 12:15:15 +0000

Sorry this posted before I had finished.
My eldest daughter said I was a real jekkyl and Hyde and not her fun loving happy tiddly drunk mum that she knew. She said I was consumed with paranoia and rage against her and my poor husband. I have no memory of this at all but the shame I feel is excruciating that even as I write this I am horrified.
There had been a few episodes in the past few months with my teenage daughter but I had blamed her attitude for my rage or as she said it was like a light switch changed me into a monster.
My question is…. Have I crossed the line now or can I control my drinking by ensuring I never drink on an empty stomach as this seems to be the trigger or am I just trying to justify my actions??

By: Kendra

Kendra — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:33:28 +0000

Hi
So pleased I found this website and feeling part of this group and admitting my problem without the stigma of going to AA.
My drinking has got progressively worse but recently I’ve had black outs, arguments that i have no memory of and this is really scaring me. I couldn’t understand why as my intake had been fairly light but theses incidences were always on an empty stomach and this site explains the chemical result and the low blood sugar =cravings.
There was a family party at the weekend and I was so nervous about going and couldn’t eat anything beforehand. I should have known better but I had 3 glasses of wine quickly but don’t remember anything after the first hour except crying. My daughter described me as a paranoid schizophrenic

By: Brianna

Brianna — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 03:56:05 +0000

I’ve had 3 DUI’s in 7 years. I worked in a bar for 13 yrs where my job was all about drinking. It started out with just a few drinks a day. Then it got to be more and more, every day….till gradually I was starting out the day at 11 AM with Gin and Tonic. Everyone at work was drinking, so I didn’t think I was odd. I had problems because of my drinking. I’d get into arguments with customers, fights with co-workers, disagreements with my managers and bosses, then it got to the point where they would fire me. I was simply too difficult to deal with. Finally, my husband and I divorced after 10 years. New job, new town, new boyfriend. I sobered up for a little while, then fell harder than ever.I’ve had several car accidents while drunk driving, and thank God I didn’t harm anyone! The fights got seriously violent with my mate,till the cops were called several times, and the problems just came crashing down on me. It was progressing to the point where I’d try to hide how much I was drinking from everyone. After work I’d head to the bar, before work I’d go to another bar, it almost killed me.The evidence was blatant.I’ve been sober over 2 yrs and 7 months now, and tonight I was going to have a few. Even though it never was just a few ever before. Thanks everyone for sharing your stories, you just talked me out of a very big mistake. I am Brianna, and I’m without a doubt, an alcoholic. God Bless you!

By: jills

jills — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 15:08:59 +0000

Hi all.. what a great website, thanks…just wanted to share this with you..see if it fits with anyone. and how to combat it!!
I am a mother of two, ive been drinking one bottle of wine everyother night for the last five years..But recently this changed..it slowly upped, one bottle of wine left me craving more, and off id go (sometimes driving in the night) to get more, id have a bottle and a half (often without eating) and then that upped to almost two when id feel ready to pass out, stagger off to bed and be unable to get up and do my kids breakfast in morning. Off they went to school without me. id feel so rough i would not drink again for a day but then the next day id feel better and at the end of day reward myself with a bottle of wine, (now thats got to two) have a day/night off and repeat this pattern..I’d drink because i was bored and lonely, sometimes to forger the hurt or sadness i feel about the past i can not change or frustrations i feel at the things that aren’t working well in my life..(largely to do with lack of motivation which drink has robbed me of) Recently i decided i wanted to stop this life robbing destructive crap pattern..so went 3days without a drink!!! But by third day i was desperate..had awful headache, dehydration and unable to eat anything…i guess this was my withdrawal..in the end i manipulated an argument with my partner.. and used his lack of understanding and support as an excuse to get drunk!! Which is why im not at work today, having treated my partner like shit feeling guilty (another trigger) sitting here writing this from bed.. alcohol is a trickster and a controller, it makes you think its helping you, when its robbing you.. depriving my kids of a decent mum, my partner of a decent friend and with it taking my looks, intelligence and happiness. I thought i was a nice ordinary woman that could have a few glasses of wine in the eve and tuck my kids into bed and go about my life happily the next day..thats how all this started!!!!

By: Kathy

Kathy — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:37:44 +0000

I feel the same way.. I want to beat this devil!