Comments on: What type of Drinker are you?

By: Teazy

Teazy — Mon, 14 May 2012 08:53:35 +0000

Some tips that have helped me.. making a list of all the reasons why i want to stop drinking eg. damaged relationships, health, productivity, work..mental health, remorse, guilt, lack of control, i could go on and on..

and a list of the benefits of stopping..being in control, no hangovers or sickness, weight loss, better relations, better appearance, not worrying about smelling of booze, always being able to drive.. feeling positive, good luck folks!

By: Jill

Jill — Mon, 07 May 2012 15:50:50 +0000

Have just found this site and this forum. Along with so much else I have read today it so resonates with me. I am 60 and have been a drinker since my twenties. Only ever wine but every night. Have now graduated to two bottles a night as a result of excessive stress and I am finding my “Jekyll and Hyde” personas and it is terrifying me. I have struggled to stop for so long but never manage it. Always find an excuse by 5pm to go and get my ” friend” ( which is now 2) I have to get some control somehow….I really hope this site might be the breakthrough I need to the right kind of help for me. I certainly understand what everyone else has written. I hope you you are starting to make some headway with bringing alcohol to heel.

By: Midas

Midas — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 10:52:42 +0000

Some of the things I’ve read here make me think ‘I wish I only drank that much’. I’ve been drinking to excess for about 33 years. It started when my mum left – I was 16 – then my dad kicked me out. Drink was my friend. I moved 50 miles away for a ‘new start’ but that never happened. Life got worse and the drinking progressed to new levels. After 26 years I moved again to the Midlands, but again – the fresh start all went horribly wrong.

I have been lucky as a functioning alcoholic to have been with the same employer for 30 years, good salary and own home. But I have lost my car, many friends and my health. I used to win Triathlons, have done the Tough Guy several times, the London Marathon twice and a half Ironman.

I had a couple of days last year when I didn’t drink – and I had two seizures. One at home and the next day at work. I ended up in hospital and yet still that has not been enough to make me stop.

I have a loving boyfriend but he drinks to excess also. We have a regular pub and everyone there drinks to excess. I want to stop but then again I don’t. I have lost friends who were ‘healthy’ – didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, went to the gym etc – all died very young. it kind of makes me think ‘what’s the point’. I’m nearly 50 now and still alive after years of excessive drinking.

I wish there was some help. I went to AA years ago but it seemed like they had just swapped an addiction with alcohol to one with God – and I don’t believe in any God’s. So that’s me pretty much on my own and unable to stop. I wish someone would come up with a magical pill that would stop me drinking. But the reality is, I do drink, I can function to an acceptable level, and until I get some real health issues then I don’t suppose I will be scared into stopping any time soon.

Good luck to all out there who are making the strong and admirable decision to stop drinking. I wish you well and also wish I had half your willpower and determination.

By: Aj

Aj — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 09:54:09 +0000

Hi,

I opened up to my mother about my drinking problem.to my surprise , she was very supportive.she suggested that every time I want a drink,I write a list of dangers down ( such as falling over on my little dog and hurting him)…or losing my husband….im only sober a few hrs…but I intend to try it….

By: lifeiskey

lifeiskey — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 16:46:28 +0000

David hi, I was in a relationship with a man who turned nasty when he was drunk, I also enjoy 2-3 glasses most nights, we had the worst 2 years together before I left him. I feel I drink a lot and am terrified that I will become like my ex, so I understand what you are saying. I knew a friend your age who stopped drinking completely… same reasons as yours, what he did is change his living situation: he found new friends who where non- drinkers, he found a fitness group that he attended most evenings and he started collecting teas. (i know it sounds daft, but it helped him so much!) He is now happily married and has 2 children, he is not drinking and his wife and him have left the place where he used to live his boosy lifestyle. ..I am thinking of loosing some of my heavy drinkers – friends.. as sad as it might be I don’t want to get any worse. I am also thinking about joining a dance class 3 days a week to get my mind of drinking. Good luck to you!!

By: DAVID

DAVID — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 02:07:23 +0000

I am 28 years of age and l have lost practically everything l have loved through alcohol, in general l am a good guy but when l start drinking, all is well then l drink excessively to the point of being aggressive and slightly violent. This is my dr jekhyll and mr hyde routine, for me l need to get this sorted once and for all as l fear my life will be over shortly if l dont, if there is anyone out there who has any advice are able to talk some please get in contact with me, l think l need all the help and advice l can get. I also hope those who are dealing with this addiction are smiling a little more …

By: Haywood

Haywood — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 09:33:33 +0000

I never drink during the week, and generally have my first drink weekly on a Friday after 6pm. Usually start with 8-10 beers and then onto scotch – half a bottle, unless there is more to be found.
I repeat for Saturday and then Sunday is recovery day and the week begins on Monday, waiting for another drink on Friday.
I have scared myself on occasion where there has been more drink in the house. If there were 2 bottles of scotch, I may get through 1 and half – no control once started!

By: Tobin Hunt

Tobin Hunt — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 16:20:28 +0000

If you want to converse more easily with other people with similar problems, we've got a free forum on this site.

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 13:25:32 +0000

I just this minute found this site. I have to keep looking to see if there are more recent posts. Emma, I really understand where you are. I can easily drink two bottles of wine or 3 double vodka gimlets. It has to stop, and I am trying now!

By: Ali

Ali — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 19:51:12 +0000

I’m a 41 year old man that binge drinks,..I can go some weeks without a beer, but as far as I am concerned alcohol is drunk to make us feel different, and the more we drink, the more “different” we feel.

It has just messed up my relationship too.

I had some problems in my younger years and turned to different substances for solace.
I have those problems still, and they have slowly pulled me down.
I am currently living with my sister,( after having split from my partner in Germany and having to leave my job there) and I am also unemployed.
I am a fairly lucid, and intelligent with varying interests, but because of my core values, I suffer from my perceptions, my beliefs ( or lack of them) these manifest through stress and anxiety, and these negative feelings are “purged” ( momentarily) via the medium of alcohol.

This , of course, leads to further bouts of anxiety in that wonderful cyclical way of things!

What I would say to any youngster on here who is worried about their alcohol consumption, is to be honest and address the reasons why that need exists.
Being honest with ourselves is the first step on that road to recovery.
It’s not an easy road..but look around you!..there are many of us walking beside you.