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by shoshy
31 Dec 2019 22:11
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341780

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Thanks blifter, I'm so glad the anger "method" resonated! I feel if we would be justified getting mad at our kids for the same thing, then we should treat ourselves the same way, and avoid being hypocrits. Ta, Tai! You have been an absolute inspiration for me; thank you. xxx Hey MH, if you're lookin...
by shoshy
30 Dec 2019 22:15
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341780

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Thank you so much everyone for your kind congratulations, it means a lot to me. I hope you are all going fantastically well too. It totally is a new world when you shed the old and worn skin. I hope Mountainhare is OK with this; we corresponded a couple of months ago, and he is doing amazingly, bles...
by shoshy
30 Dec 2019 01:04
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341780

Re: NOTICE BOARD

8 years sober for me now. Thank you so much to everyone who has ever contributed to this amazing site; every story and history helped me to shed my skin and move on. Thank you to Tobin too, the Charlie behind the scenes to the Forum Angels. Take heart, all those struggling. It's a New Year; if not n...
by shoshy
15 Mar 2018 04:27
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The Next 2 - 4 Weeks
Replies: 9869
Views: 440460

Re: The Next 2 - 4 Weeks

I lived in a French village for over 10 years and knew most of the people. In the village and surrounding villages and towns it was actually known that certain women were alcoholics, and called by that name. Occasionally they would die and everyone would be very sorry and sad, and say "if not for th...
by shoshy
04 Mar 2018 21:48
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The Next 2 - 4 Weeks
Replies: 9869
Views: 440460

Re: The Next 2 - 4 Weeks

Some really fantastic posts here from suffolksally and Horse. They are all very true lessons and should keep anyone struggling on the straight and narrow not just for now but afterwards too. After over 5 years sober, just a note to say that the cravings have totally gone and more; smelling any alcoh...
by shoshy
20 Feb 2018 22:27
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82154
Views: 3484939

Re: The First 7 Days

Thank you for appreciating my posts 7 dayers! I'm holding hands here for you! Come ON! Just even if you "pretend" to yourself temporarily that you have this amazing strength to vanquish the foe...then pretend if you must; try it on, play with the feeling. After a while you will see you weren't just ...
by shoshy
20 Feb 2018 05:47
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82154
Views: 3484939

Re: The First 7 Days

Thanks for the thumbs up suffolksally, Horse and faith2be. I've been trying to think what I've learnt in a nutshell to maybe help someone move on; like so many things in life (and life itself) I guess it's both simple and complicated at once. Looking back, I think that striking the right note betwee...
by shoshy
18 Feb 2018 00:45
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82154
Views: 3484939

Re: The First 7 Days

I hope this doesn't cause more upset, but I also thought it would be relevant to post it and didn't want to be deterred, because of that. You can see from my last drink date that it was over 5 years ago; I had been actively trying to stop for about 17 years (that I counted, probably longer subconsci...
by shoshy
26 Nov 2017 23:12
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341780

Re: NOTICE BOARD

5 years in a few days since I switched up my optical-and-every-other-illusion prescription; and went from finding God at the bottom of my half empty wine glass to my full and overflowing lemonade of Life glass. I've had 5 years of being re-born, of being able to invent a new God Pod to carry me thro...
by shoshy
30 Jun 2015 07:28
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11353
Views: 694591

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

nonevernomore, Please, go ahead and use it (the "process" quote"); I'm so happy you like it and that you think it will help you; thank you. mkj, I think I have understood, and also I think I have pinpointed where my confusion lay. It is here: that, you are saying that the child and the adult have di...
by shoshy
29 Jun 2015 09:24
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11353
Views: 694591

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Hi Stitch, Yes, I think it is insightful, it's what I was saying too, that not drinking is more important than drinking at some stage (whether we know what that moment consists of or not). It is often not something we can plan for to happen at a given time and place, but it is something that comes a...
by shoshy
29 Jun 2015 07:59
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11353
Views: 694591

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Hello mkj, I read a lot on this forum, and it has helped me to give up alcohol after more than 35 years. Although I don't post all that much, the reading and learning how to help myself is what helped me more than did the more generally popular support and supporting. That's just how I am; I do thin...
by shoshy
24 Jan 2015 03:59
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Darcy's Fitness and Weight Management Club
Replies: 21748
Views: 687315

Re: Darcy's Fitness and Weight Management Club

Thanks for that Rachel,
I am so thrilled to discover (I think) that I am like someone from Bangladesh! It is the bottom ranking; but I am still healthy (raw food vegan yogi no-longer drinking girl, yay for me!)
Stay with it fitters!
by shoshy
02 Dec 2014 21:51
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11353
Views: 694591

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Something I find interesting, looking back, is that in many ways I needed to self inflict a state of spiritual coma, to the point where I was curled up into a self protective foetal position, in order to enforce almost an *in*ability to "act", and just to "be", however inept. I once read a book call...
by shoshy
01 Dec 2014 21:38
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11353
Views: 694591

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

That's very true and quite profound, that a lot of effort goes into getting ourselves ill, ditto into getting ourselves well again. Well said mkj.
by shoshy
30 Nov 2014 21:08
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13545
Views: 555605

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Thank you Pickles, Gerard, chickdip and Rachel. Being "normal" is mind-blowing. At the same time that life is a nightmare, it is also beautiful. Yin and Yang. The veil between birth and death. "The mind...has mountains...hold them cheap may who ne'er hung there" (Hopkins, GM) All we need to be stron...
by shoshy
30 Nov 2014 05:52
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13545
Views: 555605

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Hey CJ...it took me 17 years from wanting to stop to stopping; I hear you.

Thanks heaps Topcat!
by shoshy
29 Nov 2014 23:41
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13545
Views: 555605

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Thanks heaps for that Vertical Man; I tend to underestimate my success (as in "shouldn't have taken so long in the first place"), but as I would never think that of anyone else, I try not to think that way with myself either (not as unsuccessful as I have been, is the best I can say!) Wishing you lo...
by shoshy
29 Nov 2014 21:50
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13545
Views: 555605

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

2 years sober for me today. I also kept drinking past it's use by date due to years of grief and many losses. The jolt back to life has taken this two years for my body to eternally attempt to re-balance. However painful it is, and it is, I am grateful to feel it all. Thank you BE, and heartfelt sol...
by shoshy
29 Jun 2014 23:13
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: The Spirituality Connection
Replies: 2714
Views: 126306

Re: The Spirituality Connection

God exists, it is just varying definitions of what God is (as unique as every individual) that allows some people to "believe", and others to "disbelieve". For example if your definition of God is the Go(o)d in the world, then to you, God exists when you see an example of that. Or if your definition...