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by littletower
26 Sep 2014 09:53
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

redeyes, thank you for truly supportive post. I agree with everything you've written, especially with regards to a marriage and raising children. It's reassuring to read that someone else i.e. you, can see it from my perspective. It has been a very reaffirming experience to find that others with exp...
by littletower
26 Sep 2014 09:49
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

Like Doingbetter, I'm wondering if he really is just having one or two. I think if be was, it wouldn't be such a big deal to stop having it at home. After all you've been through I think it is really wrong of him to still drink at home. It just really sounds like he is dependent and can't stop and ...
by littletower
26 Sep 2014 09:38
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

I guess I would ask you to have a think about whether it really is only two glasses that he is having. This seems a quite small amount to be so demanding on. It would make me wonder if he was really having more than that at other times, and this is just the "official amount" that he claims. You are...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 19:41
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

It's not entirely the same thing, but when we were dating my husband told me that if I continued to smoke he could never marry me. It took me a while but I did stop. I appreciated that he had a boundary he wasn't willing to compromise on and that he lay his cards on the table for the choice to be i...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 19:36
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

LT <:)> Having a drinking partner is a very hard problem to solve, and it does sound as though you've both talked this all through at length. I suppose I'm lucky in that I'd already had my family before my drinking became a problem, so it's difficult for me to imagine how hard it must be for you wa...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 17:37
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

Hi Shelia. The way my husband and I see (saw) it is that as a team we struggled through the bad times and we both vowed to work together to ensure our happiness, and part of that is supporting my recovery...it's in both our best interests that I stay well; financially, for our happiness and for the ...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 16:16
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 514
Views: 76324

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

Hi. I posted this in the welcome section but understand it's more appropriate to post in here... Long story short (sort of)...2 years ago I was told by my GP that I had to quit alcohol. Two years later, after 4 horrific relapses and withdrawals, I have now been sober for 11 months, and 10 months bef...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 15:53
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14668
Views: 1018569

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

I realise that I'm taking up the wrong thread...I'll move over to the relationship threads..I've seen one that's relevant :) Thank you everyone for your input.
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 14:40
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14668
Views: 1018569

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

Thanks Halberg :) That was the compromise. And for the most part he stuck to it. But even under the promise that he will lock it away and hide it...I still know he's drinking because he'll sneak off to his office or 'work late' i.e. sit in his office drinking. All the time, I know what he's doing an...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 11:58
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14668
Views: 1018569

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

I forgot to add that he did agree to see my key worker with me (the person who has offered support throughout my journey) but we left the session with a compromise that I was not happy with (that he drink in secret) and at no point would he concede that he should stop nor that he had a problem. His ...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 11:56
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14668
Views: 1018569

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

Hi Scout. Thank you so much for your response. It's a huge relief to see my feelings reiterated by someone else. I feel less alone and less like a selfish person. With this one exception, he is not a selfish man. I adore and respect him in every other way but on this one topic he is being selfishly ...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 11:22
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14668
Views: 1018569

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

Thank you Caroline for the very warm welcome :) Your final point is spot on...making sobriety priority :) I did see the relationship section but I can't seem to post a new thread in there? My husband and I both work from home so our only sanctuary, away from work, is our living room. We both use thi...
by littletower
25 Sep 2014 10:07
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14668
Views: 1018569

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

Hello. I thought I'd introduce myself. I'm a young woman who after years of slowly developing alcohol dependency, hit a point two years ago where my GP told me I had to stop drinking. I was no longer functioning and clearly had a serious problem. From that point on I worked towards sobriety...relaps...