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by pacy
08 Jul 2008 03:00
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: What happens if I try to have "just one?"
Replies: 220
Views: 20251

Re: What happens if I try to have "just one?"

Yes, I agree that we all have a lot of work to do to be "at peace" with ourselves and this issue. I think that takes many years honestly. But I also think the previous post was right on about labels. It makes me uncomfortable to label myself an "alcoholic". All I know is that if i do not monitor mys...
by pacy
08 Jul 2008 01:38
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Cutting Down - Archived
Replies: 3762
Views: 209106

Re: Social Drinking - or, 'Cutting down'

Hi Candygirl, My friends are just like yours. I'm ALWAYS the one they JUST KNOW will be up for a night of drinking. It's too weird for them the couple of times I've said I'm taking a "a break from alcohol." However, it wasn't hard to say. They will push me to have just one also, but if I say no a fe...
by pacy
08 Jul 2008 01:29
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Anger (and other strong emotions)
Replies: 43
Views: 6275

Re: Dealing with Anger and passive aggressive people

Wanted to add: Also looking for some healthier outlets for my anger, rather than drinking. :x
by pacy
08 Jul 2008 01:25
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Anger (and other strong emotions)
Replies: 43
Views: 6275

Anger (and other strong emotions)

I am an angry drunk. Alcohol has always given me the freedom to let the true me come out. Since I learned to walk I have shut off the human reaction to defend myself in order to be a "nice person". Sober I am nice to all. But when I drink it seems so obvious to me now, that that angry person with re...
by pacy
01 Jul 2008 20:22
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Low Self Esteem and Alcohol Problems
Replies: 290
Views: 26875

Re: Self esteem, confidence and anxiety

But Julie...I wanted to add one more thing. You seem very wise and also understanding. It's nice to know that you could've written the same post as I. Always helps to know I'm not the only one. And thank you <:)>
by pacy
01 Jul 2008 20:10
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Low Self Esteem and Alcohol Problems
Replies: 290
Views: 26875

Re: Self esteem, confidence and anxiety

Hi Julie, Thank you. No I do not see those qualities in myself because despite my actions "jazz class, etc" my insides are curling and nausea sets in when I attempt these activities. You are right though that we are our toughest critics. Learning to accept yourself even though flawed is really hard....
by pacy
01 Jul 2008 19:45
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Low Self Esteem and Alcohol Problems
Replies: 290
Views: 26875

Re: Self esteem, confidence and anxiety

Ditto, on the low self esteem, high anxiety and little confidence. What's wrong with our world that so many of us are insecure? In examining people I work with or my friends and family, so many of them are just as insecure as myself. I am going to therapy, but I'm not sure if people can ever change....
by pacy
01 Jul 2008 19:34
Forum: Relationships
Topic: is drinking wrecking your relationship with your partner?
Replies: 687
Views: 86446

Re: Love or Booze - Making the choice.....

I really feel ur pain right now as i am going thru something similar. I'm angry at my husband for being so damn perfect. The guy has total self control over everything. As if there isn't enough shame in having a problem with drinking, we have to deal with the judgement of our significant others if w...
by pacy
21 Jun 2008 23:12
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: Plan ahead, be aware of dangerous situations
Replies: 274
Views: 37424

Re: plan ahead, be aware of dangerous situations

Thank you for the warning, I know I need it, that kind of situation is such a trigger for me <:)> I'm sorry you are feeling regret. But, it's over, get back on the wagon, and forgive yourself. At least you know that having limited responsibility is one of your triggers. You had noone to be accountab...
by pacy
21 Jun 2008 16:59
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: What happens if I try to have "just one?"
Replies: 220
Views: 20251

Re: What happens if I try to have "just one?"

Wow, good advice. I know the reason I want "just one." I'm not proud of the reason but it's because I don't feel comfortable just ordering a diet coke every time. I feel like I'm not a part of the group when I don't drink. We all sit at a table and order drinks and food once a week. I feel like ever...
by pacy
20 Jun 2008 22:29
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: What happens if I try to have "just one?"
Replies: 220
Views: 20251

What happens if I try to have "just one?"

Ok, I've been one of the people who still don't call myself an alcoholic. I just don't seem to have an "Off Button" once I start to feel good, which can mean after 2 drinks or sometimes 3 or 4. So if I have one, will my cycle start again? Probably, but I still don't fully accept it. There have been ...
by pacy
04 Jun 2008 00:55
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friends, old and new
Replies: 582
Views: 46713

finding new friends who don't drink

Hi Darcy, Thank you, I know that the friendships I had aren't real if my friends don't like the new sober me, but it still stings to feel rejected. I made the mistake of telling a couple of friends that I have a problem and they tried to tell me I am not an alcoholic and that everybody drinks. I thi...
by pacy
03 Jun 2008 19:23
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friends, old and new
Replies: 582
Views: 46713

Friends, old and new

I am finally deciding to get help, however, I have realized on my own that I cannot be around my drunk friends. I believe that a couple of my friendships will stay strong, but I still know that I can no longer "go out" with them. I would love some friends who either are recovering themselves or just...