Hi Twinkletoes, Don't worry as you're in good company here. A daily guideline for men's alcohol intake is 3-4 units a day, which is about one and a half standard (175ml) glasses of wine so three bottles a night is not really a good thing. The fact your hubby never appears drunk also shows he's built...

Hi Dawn, Your story struck a chord with me because you're doing exactly what I did. Having come up against the same wall again and again, I had completely despaired of getting into long term sobriety. Then I decided, like you, to drink only at weekends and not during the week. I had made this 'rule'...

Hi SB, Nice to meet you. Day 5, and I think I may as well go out and buy a couple of bottles of wine. One drinking recovery group likes to use the acronym - HALT: this stands for ‘hunger. anger, loneliness, tiredness.’ All of these, the group says, are the most compelling triggers for drinker to...

Bev,
Like many things, it's never straight or smooth. The way you're picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and coming back here with that attitude, shows very clearly you've more than got what it takes.

Hi Kerry, Welcome, and don't worry because you are in good hands here. I can assure you there are people here from all stages of the recovery process, from people working for their first dry day in years to some who've got a bit of sobriety behind them, with the help of these forums or by themselves...

Hi Dave, What you are feeling is entirely normal, as far as 'normal' goes in this predicament. You'll find that just about every single person on these forums has felt the same way at one time or another. From what I can see there is ample evidence that you are winning the war, even though this part...

Hi Tee, If I may, I'd just like to pick up what you said 3 months now I've been trying to abstain, and 3 months I've failed miserably. I beg to differ when you say 'fail' because from my experience this is very far from anything like 'failure.' You're still coming here, you're still making the effor...

Fuzz,
Bags I get the furry handcuffs. Sometimes the studded leather wrist restraints just don't cut it.

Kittie,
Saying you are 'good at what you do' is not being in the least boastful. This needs to be illuminated up there along with those Christmas lights.

Stephen.

Hi Lizzy, Yes you have to give it a chance. 25 days is truly outstanding. Hitherto the booze played merry hell with your emotions and moods; it infiltrated itself into your life and manipulated you, causing a lot of imbalances and disturbances. All this is not going to disappear overnight. Phases of...

Hi Helga, Welcome to the forums. Please wander around the threads and post everywhere. You’ll get lots of abstinence tips. You seem to have taken on board some of the most important ones; a desire to stop and recognition of your triggers. You’ll find a lot of people here have their own ‘drivin...

Hi Lily, Don't worry. You've made the most important and valuable decision and acknowledged that you've got an issue and that you want to deal with it. You've registered on a forum like this and are probably doing your own research. The process between deciding this and then finding yourself clockin...

Lily, Thanks for sharing this with everyone. I've found that abuse is indeed a generational thing, passing down from one generation to another as people inherit the damage inflicted by other damaged personalities. Sometimes however this line of abuse meets something nobler, stronger and finer than a...

Hi Zelda, I hope you feel good coming here because you’ll find a number of things. First is that there is nothing ‘freakish’ or shameful about the situation you find yourself in, because nearly everyone here has been in similar situations, myself included. What you seem to have done is treat a...

Jimi, I can't imagine a greater antithesis to a 'thread killer' than your post. I think you put it up during a lull as Darcy said. It's one of those luminous, serene understandings of the error people make when they feel that drink is in any way necessary for a total existence. There are a lot more ...

Hi Lee, This is the way the dependency works. Even though we have been through this hundreds of times, and each time having resoundingly proven that we can't and should not drink, the addiction creeps round telling you things like 'All those other times were non-starters. You know you can drink. Ju...

Hi Lee, This is the way the dependency works. Even though we have been through this hundreds of times, and each time having resoundingly proven that we can't and should not drink, the addiction creeps round telling you things like 'All those other times were non-starters. You know you can drink. Jus...

Taking up something that Bela said: I don't think most of us can maintain anything like an "on top of the world feeling" for very long. That's euphoria and I don't think it is the steady state of most human beings. I can't know what flatness is like for you, but I can read it as calm, wellbeing inst...

Hi MK,
Entirely my fault as I wanted the new threads to be ready for the new month. We cover many times zones so it's impossible to get one time to suit all. I could have left the old one unlocked for a bit for you put you Halloween thingy.
Stephen.

Here's the November hop, folks....

Here's the November Support thread, people.