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- 25 Aug 2010 07:07
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: Old SOS - Archived
- Replies: 11782
- Views: 666217
Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE
Hi Twinkletoes, Don't worry as you're in good company here. A daily guideline for men's alcohol intake is 3-4 units a day, which is about one and a half standard (175ml) glasses of wine so three bottles a night is not really a good thing. The fact your hubby never appears drunk also shows he's built...
- 22 Aug 2010 05:37
- Forum: Relapsing
- Topic: The Confession Parlour...
- Replies: 4625
- Views: 341624
Re: The Confession Parlour...
Hi Dawn, Your story struck a chord with me because you're doing exactly what I did. Having come up against the same wall again and again, I had completely despaired of getting into long term sobriety. Then I decided, like you, to drink only at weekends and not during the week. I had made this 'rule'...
- 21 Aug 2010 03:44
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: Old SOS - Archived
- Replies: 11782
- Views: 666217
Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE
Hi SB, Nice to meet you. Day 5, and I think I may as well go out and buy a couple of bottles of wine. One drinking recovery group likes to use the acronym - HALT: this stands for ‘hunger. anger, loneliness, tiredness.’ All of these, the group says, are the most compelling triggers for drinker to...
- 20 Aug 2010 10:32
- Forum: Relapsing
- Topic: The Confession Parlour...
- Replies: 4625
- Views: 341624
Re: The Confession Parlour...
Bev,
Like many things, it's never straight or smooth. The way you're picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and coming back here with that attitude, shows very clearly you've more than got what it takes.
Like many things, it's never straight or smooth. The way you're picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and coming back here with that attitude, shows very clearly you've more than got what it takes.
- 19 Aug 2010 14:37
- Forum: Relapsing
- Topic: The Confession Parlour...
- Replies: 4625
- Views: 341624
Re: The Confession Parlour...
Hi Kerry, Welcome, and don't worry because you are in good hands here. I can assure you there are people here from all stages of the recovery process, from people working for their first dry day in years to some who've got a bit of sobriety behind them, with the help of these forums or by themselves...
- 16 Aug 2010 05:11
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: Old SOS - Archived
- Replies: 11782
- Views: 666217
Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE
Hi Dave, What you are feeling is entirely normal, as far as 'normal' goes in this predicament. You'll find that just about every single person on these forums has felt the same way at one time or another. From what I can see there is ample evidence that you are winning the war, even though this part...
- 10 Dec 2009 02:20
- Forum: Relapsing
- Topic: I Can't Stop... Or Can I?
- Replies: 628
- Views: 67638
Re: I can't stop.
Hi Tee, If I may, I'd just like to pick up what you said 3 months now I've been trying to abstain, and 3 months I've failed miserably. I beg to differ when you say 'fail' because from my experience this is very far from anything like 'failure.' You're still coming here, you're still making the effor...
- 08 Dec 2009 05:35
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: NOTICE BOARD
- Replies: 5361
- Views: 447233
Re: NOTICE BOARD
Fuzz,
Bags I get the furry handcuffs. Sometimes the studded leather wrist restraints just don't cut it.
Kittie,
Saying you are 'good at what you do' is not being in the least boastful. This needs to be illuminated up there along with those Christmas lights.
Stephen.
Bags I get the furry handcuffs. Sometimes the studded leather wrist restraints just don't cut it.
Kittie,
Saying you are 'good at what you do' is not being in the least boastful. This needs to be illuminated up there along with those Christmas lights.
Stephen.
- 03 Dec 2009 10:07
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: KIDS/FAMILIES - how do they feel about your drinking
- Replies: 402
- Views: 52312
Re: KIDS/FAMILIES - how do they feel about your drinking
Hi Lizzy, Yes you have to give it a chance. 25 days is truly outstanding. Hitherto the booze played merry hell with your emotions and moods; it infiltrated itself into your life and manipulated you, causing a lot of imbalances and disturbances. All this is not going to disappear overnight. Phases of...
- 19 Nov 2009 03:39
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: OLD new members introductions - (on the last page)
- Replies: 14470
- Views: 824017
Re: NEW MEMBERS - PLEASE INTRODUCE YOURSELF HERE
Hi Helga, Welcome to the forums. Please wander around the threads and post everywhere. You’ll get lots of abstinence tips. You seem to have taken on board some of the most important ones; a desire to stop and recognition of your triggers. You’ll find a lot of people here have their own ‘drivin...
- 16 Nov 2009 13:02
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: Old SOS - Archived
- Replies: 11782
- Views: 666217
Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE)
Hi Lily, Don't worry. You've made the most important and valuable decision and acknowledged that you've got an issue and that you want to deal with it. You've registered on a forum like this and are probably doing your own research. The process between deciding this and then finding yourself clockin...
- 14 Nov 2009 10:11
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: family history - does drinking run in your family?
- Replies: 202
- Views: 22990
Re: family history - does drinking run in your family?
Lily, Thanks for sharing this with everyone. I've found that abuse is indeed a generational thing, passing down from one generation to another as people inherit the damage inflicted by other damaged personalities. Sometimes however this line of abuse meets something nobler, stronger and finer than a...
- 13 Nov 2009 04:48
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: OLD new members introductions - (on the last page)
- Replies: 14470
- Views: 824017
Re: NEW MEMBERS - PLEASE INTRODUCE YOURSELF HERE
Hi Zelda, I hope you feel good coming here because you’ll find a number of things. First is that there is nothing ‘freakish’ or shameful about the situation you find yourself in, because nearly everyone here has been in similar situations, myself included. What you seem to have done is treat a...
- 08 Nov 2009 11:02
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: SUPPORT/CHAT/GENERAL: January- December 2009
- Replies: 2707
- Views: 135676
Re: Support/Chat/General November 2009
Jimi, I can't imagine a greater antithesis to a 'thread killer' than your post. I think you put it up during a lull as Darcy said. It's one of those luminous, serene understandings of the error people make when they feel that drink is in any way necessary for a total existence. There are a lot more ...
- 03 Nov 2009 07:30
- Forum: Relapsing
- Topic: How to say no to a drink
- Replies: 278
- Views: 46045
Re: How to say no to a drink?
Hi Lee, This is the way the dependency works. Even though we have been through this hundreds of times, and each time having resoundingly proven that we can't and should not drink, the addiction creeps round telling you things like 'All those other times were non-starters. You know you can drink. Ju...
- 03 Nov 2009 02:27
- Forum: Relapsing
- Topic: How to say no to a drink
- Replies: 278
- Views: 46045
Re: How to say no to a drink?
Hi Lee, This is the way the dependency works. Even though we have been through this hundreds of times, and each time having resoundingly proven that we can't and should not drink, the addiction creeps round telling you things like 'All those other times were non-starters. You know you can drink. Jus...
- 02 Nov 2009 13:05
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: SUPPORT/CHAT/GENERAL: January- December 2009
- Replies: 2707
- Views: 135676
Re: Support/Chat/General November 2009
Taking up something that Bela said: I don't think most of us can maintain anything like an "on top of the world feeling" for very long. That's euphoria and I don't think it is the steady state of most human beings. I can't know what flatness is like for you, but I can read it as calm, wellbeing inst...
- 01 Nov 2009 05:34
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: SUPPORT/CHAT/GENERAL: January- December 2009
- Replies: 2707
- Views: 135676
Re: The November Hop
Hi MK,
Entirely my fault as I wanted the new threads to be ready for the new month. We cover many times zones so it's impossible to get one time to suit all. I could have left the old one unlocked for a bit for you put you Halloween thingy.
Stephen.
Entirely my fault as I wanted the new threads to be ready for the new month. We cover many times zones so it's impossible to get one time to suit all. I could have left the old one unlocked for a bit for you put you Halloween thingy.
Stephen.
- 01 Nov 2009 02:10
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: SUPPORT/CHAT/GENERAL: January- December 2009
- Replies: 2707
- Views: 135676
The November Hop
Here's the November hop, folks....
- 01 Nov 2009 02:05
- Forum: General Recovery
- Topic: SUPPORT/CHAT/GENERAL: January- December 2009
- Replies: 2707
- Views: 135676
Support/Chat/General November 2009
Here's the November Support thread, people.