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by Tai
05 Jul 2020 11:05
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Might go for a walk tomorrow evening. Spot on NA <:)> I know I found a lot of strength from taking myself out for a long walk ... time to give myself a darn good talking to at the same time! I was plagued with feelings of “this isn’t fair” and other forms of self pity. Just felt like an impossibili...
by Tai
01 Jul 2020 06:59
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

What really made me sad in listening to Alan Carr was the way he frames the notion that we have all been convinced off that there is no 'cure' and that there is a lifetime of struggle. This is such crap and it is most definitely the common view. I am only early in the book so looking forward to the...
by Tai
24 Jun 2020 06:35
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14434
Views: 868760

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

Good decision Melm, stopping is the best thing I ever did ... took a while before I could stay stopped but the good folk here reminded me that patience, practise and perseverance wins out in the end. Well done for getting back here and posting your intention to stop. It’s definitely easier with supp...
by Tai
24 Jun 2020 06:27
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I love that feeling ... waking up feeling well and sparkly \:)/ sobriety rocks doesn’t it Chirpy. Well done on your 40 days, what a great foundation to build on. I remember catching myself singing in the car on my way to work one day ... I was probably 2 months sober or thereabouts ... I just felt w...
by Tai
06 Jun 2020 07:31
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I've always agreed with the idea that I know I have another drink in me but so very unsure I have another recovery in me. This so resonates with me. I’ve faced hundreds of day ones over the years and not one of them easy. But the hardest by far has been trying to get back on track after a sober str...
by Tai
31 May 2020 06:56
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

It's not great (to be honest I never drank alcohol for the taste, but to get drunk) Bang on that, me neither. In the early days of my drinking I preferred recreational drugs to alcohol ... actually had to drink lots of different concoctions before I found some I thought were even drinkable let alon...
by Tai
30 May 2020 10:57
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

At some point, I would be really interested in what people/abstainers think of placebos? Hiya Pink <:)> good to see you and sounding strong and determined. I totally believe you will get to where you want to be in dealing with drinking. Addiction is insidious ... allowing us to kid ourselves over a...
by Tai
28 May 2020 06:58
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Really relating to cognitive dissonance ... I remember when I first started reading about addiction and the mental twists and turns our minds take in the search for a solution to that unsolvable conundrum .... satisfying our desire to drink whilst at the same time not drinking! Knowing that drinking...
by Tai
25 May 2020 13:06
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

You cannot control your drinking, and the only way to solve the problem is to accept that, and not drink again. Totally wholeheartedly agree with this statement. Such are hard place to find though ... that point of fully accepting that we can’t control our drinking. Especially when we look around a...
by Tai
11 May 2020 05:44
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I just struggled to accept.. I was good at getting sober I was good at relapsing. Powerful truths in those three statements Pink <:)> . The way our minds lead us drinkwards is baffling indeed, the fact that we can justify having a drink on pretty much any pretext regardless of history and evidence ...
by Tai
11 May 2020 05:23
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: SOS - Post here if you need help (No General Chat Please)
Replies: 11683
Views: 731160

Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (No General Chat Please)

It’s good to hear that you’re making such good progress Boris, not at all easy but so very worthwhile. I do think it’s still worth making it to your appointment this afternoon if you can. They may not offer much but they may offer something and at this stage any help is worth grabbing on to. It must...
by Tai
08 May 2020 16:24
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5300
Views: 365522

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Absolutely brilliant ladies \:)/ \:)/ well done to you both, 3 years is fantastic SB and 9 years is truly stupendous TC <:)> hope you are both feeling really good about these achievements. Just great to see solid sobriety being celebrated \:)/ \:)/
by Tai
09 Mar 2020 15:47
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Yes indeed, a very interesting conversation. I spent many years believing that if I could only work out why I drank so much (and so often), I’d be able to work out how to stop. That’s part and parcel of addiction ... that it has a massive impact on our thinking ... to such an extent that things that...
by Tai
01 Mar 2020 14:41
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I found early sobriety to be a roller coaster in terms of anxiety ... well all emotions if I’m honest, but certainly anxiety featured front and centre. I felt a bit cheated, here I was doing the “right thing” surely I should be feeling better not worse! I hadn’t really factored in how reliant I’d be...
by Tai
20 Jan 2020 09:40
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Depression, Bipolar and Other Personality Issues.
Replies: 7330
Views: 373827

Re: Depression, Bipolar and Other Personality Issues.

Hiya Nicky <:)> it is really very hard to cope with low moods. I hope you are managing some self care which we both know is just so critical ... especially when feeling totally disinclined to do it. For what it’s worth it helps me to know that things don’t stay the same, our mood changes even if the...
by Tai
05 Jan 2020 09:33
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5300
Views: 365522

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Absolutely fabulous Lushie, well done you. Five years of AFness is brilliant. I hope you feel good <:)> and enjoyed your special day yesterday. xx Jos
by Tai
01 Jan 2020 07:23
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The 2020 Challenge
Replies: 1140
Views: 38275

Re: The 2020 Challenge

Morning all, happy new year \:)/ from #3 (thanks so much for giving me my old number TC, thought I might have left it too late <:)> ). Just wanted to offer some encouragement to those setting out to achieve a year sober from today. It can feel daunting or even nigh on impossible but really and truly...
by Tai
31 Dec 2019 20:48
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The 2019 Challenge
Replies: 2347
Views: 84324

Re: The 2019 Challenge

Happy New Year \:)/ \:)/

TC may I have a number for next years challenge please. Thanks so much xx Jos
by Tai
31 Dec 2019 20:46
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5300
Views: 365522

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Nicky <:)> so sorry not to have been here to mark your soberversary, bloody fantastic achievement and I wish you many happy soberversaries to come. I hope you enjoyed and celebrated the day itself and reflected on how much life and indeed you yourself have changed in these last seven years. Well don...
by Tai
15 Dec 2019 06:20
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11739
Views: 759310

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

12 weeks is great Saturn, a solid foundation there to build on towards the next goal ... 100 days is now in sight and then on to the next goal (6 months maybe?). I know for me, when I got to 100 days I started to feel a shift away from doubting I could do this to at least the start of some self beli...