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by Tai
27 Sep 2020 06:59
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

they don’t have the alcohol problem that I had and even if they did, they would still be separate to me. Totally nodding along here Pink. It’s tempting sometimes to focus on other people’s behaviours and problems. The comparison game isn’t generally productive in my experience. There will always be...
by Tai
26 Sep 2020 17:41
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Hiya Button <:)> it’s so brilliant that you recognise what’s going on and those old lies that get trotted out by our conditioning ... old habits (and old ways of thinking) die hard. I found AF beer really useful in the early days. They made me feel less “deprived” and still felt like a treat. I was ...
by Tai
25 Sep 2020 14:18
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

One of the reasons I love BE and this thread in particular is that it’s OK to keep it real. We’re free to come here to ramble and ponder and try to work out what’s going on ... we can share insights and experiences that help us all to learn and grow. No one here pretends that getting or staying sobe...
by Tai
24 Sep 2020 05:48
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

So interesting this “label” thing. Words have an effect. For me acknowledging and accepting that I have an addiction to alcohol was the catalyst I needed to change ... and to take responsibility for changing myself rather than hoping or wishing that some kind of change would just kind of happen all ...
by Tai
24 Sep 2020 05:21
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5389
Views: 387938

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Brilliant JohnC \:)/ well done you. 50 months of freedom is fantastic.
by Tai
23 Sep 2020 17:44
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13641
Views: 652531

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Fantastic news Ed <:)> congratulations to you both. Just wonderful. \:)/
And I agree ... BE is life changing, at least it has been for me.
by Tai
22 Sep 2020 05:49
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I find walking helps me to relax, it’s being outside, it’s engaging my mind with what I’m seeing, hearing, smelling and sensing around me. It takes my mind away from the cycle of over thinking / analysing and worrying. When I can’t do this, I set a time limit, get a piece of paper and write bullet p...
by Tai
21 Sep 2020 07:29
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Morning all <:)> Bobby, good to see you here on the road. It’s not easy if you feel pressure from your other half to drink. My OH still drinks which doesn’t bother me so much these days but it certainly bothered me when I was first trying to get and stay sober. I had to remember that it’s me who had...
by Tai
20 Sep 2020 07:28
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Morning all. Nice to have you back Trojan <:)> Fantastic musing on self and self discovery ... and self recrimination in some cases. We are who we are ... a mix of positives, not so positives, areas that could benefit from improvement ... and downright negatives. We all know we have weaknesses ... a...
by Tai
19 Sep 2020 07:47
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I love reading this thread. The people here are amazing, insightful, resilient, and honest. It never ceases to amaze me how willing we all are to share our innermost thoughts with each other. I find it so helpful, and since I relate to pretty much everything I read here I never feel like I’m the onl...
by Tai
17 Sep 2020 18:11
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Good to see you Pink <:)> , sounding determined and upbeat about what being sober has to offer as a lifestyle choice ... and it is a choice. Topcat is bang on the money about alcoholism, it’s progressive and no matter how long we manage to hold drinking at a given level it just so easy to let it cre...
by Tai
17 Sep 2020 17:43
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5389
Views: 387938

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Fantastic Pickles \:)/ 8 years is fab!
by Tai
13 Sep 2020 06:17
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I don’t think that’s trivial at all Action <:)> , I think it’s the kind of fundamental shift in mindset that can pay real dividends in terms of driving change. Once we’re able to recognise that we don’t have to react to every emotion or uncomfortable situation ... that we can pause, think and then c...
by Tai
12 Sep 2020 10:13
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Sorry to read about your friend and nephews ex Chirpy, two blows in such a short period make it hard to know where to start in processing and responding. Staying sober is absolutely the very best way to be fully present in what looks likely to be a very challenging time for you <:)> . Self care ... ...
by Tai
11 Sep 2020 06:39
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Hi Button, welcome yes absolutely echo Chirpy in that I ate what was easy and was advised to eat some sugary / sweet treats as well ... this helps with cravings but also with the headaches as our bodies are adjusting to a massive sugar deficit compared to when we were drinking (lots of sugar in alco...
by Tai
08 Sep 2020 05:40
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Gosh I thought I was the only one here bonkers enough to work in a company that holds all day meetings! It is total madness really because after the first two or three hours who is really fully engaged with it all? I know for me that’s about my limit before brain fade starts to kick in. I calculated...
by Tai
07 Sep 2020 17:27
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here
Replies: 14551
Views: 933229

Re: New Members - Please Introduce Yourself Here

Hi Nik, welcome to BrightEye, I see you’ve already found your way to the 7 day thread which is a great place to start. Have a good read around the forum, I’m sure you’ll find lots of stories you can relate to. You definitely aren’t on your own now <:)> . My OH also drinks and we were stuck in a hold...
by Tai
07 Sep 2020 08:34
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Morning all Action <:)> I hope you’re doing OK. Setbacks are so dispiriting and yet such a normal part of the recovery process. Please don’t feel disheartened, clearly you’ve learnt something and even more clearly you’re determined to make some changes based on what you’ve learnt. As Trojan so wisel...
by Tai
06 Sep 2020 06:34
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Now that is a truly wonderful view to wake up to Cowboy. Love the way the bird table is positioned right in line of sight as well ... it’s just so “grounding” to immerse oneself in nature. Such a great time of year to watch the trees as the leaves turn. Day 4 ... great stuff Action. I’m not surprise...
by Tai
04 Sep 2020 14:19
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11889
Views: 816645

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I agree Cowboy, alcohol addiction is a powerful foe ... powerful and mind bending. It’s one of the few conditions that seeks to persuade us of it’s non-existence. If we aren’t addicted there’s no real problem right? How many times have I been led astray by such thoughts ... too many to mention. What...