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by Tai
09 Mar 2020 15:47
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Yes indeed, a very interesting conversation. I spent many years believing that if I could only work out why I drank so much (and so often), I’d be able to work out how to stop. That’s part and parcel of addiction ... that it has a massive impact on our thinking ... to such an extent that things that...
by Tai
01 Mar 2020 14:41
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I found early sobriety to be a roller coaster in terms of anxiety ... well all emotions if I’m honest, but certainly anxiety featured front and centre. I felt a bit cheated, here I was doing the “right thing” surely I should be feeling better not worse! I hadn’t really factored in how reliant I’d be...
by Tai
20 Jan 2020 09:40
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Depression, Bipolar and Other Personality Issues.
Replies: 7301
Views: 344409

Re: Depression, Bipolar and Other Personality Issues.

Hiya Nicky <:)> it is really very hard to cope with low moods. I hope you are managing some self care which we both know is just so critical ... especially when feeling totally disinclined to do it. For what it’s worth it helps me to know that things don’t stay the same, our mood changes even if the...
by Tai
05 Jan 2020 09:33
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341577

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Absolutely fabulous Lushie, well done you. Five years of AFness is brilliant. I hope you feel good <:)> and enjoyed your special day yesterday. xx Jos
by Tai
01 Jan 2020 07:23
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The 2020 Challenge
Replies: 716
Views: 16234

Re: The 2020 Challenge

Morning all, happy new year \:)/ from #3 (thanks so much for giving me my old number TC, thought I might have left it too late <:)> ). Just wanted to offer some encouragement to those setting out to achieve a year sober from today. It can feel daunting or even nigh on impossible but really and truly...
by Tai
31 Dec 2019 20:48
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The 2019 Challenge
Replies: 2347
Views: 72543

Re: The 2019 Challenge

Happy New Year \:)/ \:)/

TC may I have a number for next years challenge please. Thanks so much xx Jos
by Tai
31 Dec 2019 20:46
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341577

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Nicky <:)> so sorry not to have been here to mark your soberversary, bloody fantastic achievement and I wish you many happy soberversaries to come. I hope you enjoyed and celebrated the day itself and reflected on how much life and indeed you yourself have changed in these last seven years. Well don...
by Tai
15 Dec 2019 06:20
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

12 weeks is great Saturn, a solid foundation there to build on towards the next goal ... 100 days is now in sight and then on to the next goal (6 months maybe?). I know for me, when I got to 100 days I started to feel a shift away from doubting I could do this to at least the start of some self beli...
by Tai
23 Nov 2019 07:45
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

For me I feel like I’m stuck in the lift and I’m waiting to see whether it’s going to go up or down. The irony of it is I’m in control...I have to press the right buttons. I absolutely recognise this in me too Action ... not wanting to make a decision in case it’s the wrong one, and not wanting to ...
by Tai
21 Nov 2019 06:48
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I totally get how difficult it is when partners drink whilst we are getting sober. My husband has continued drinking which isn’t an issue for me now but was a major league issue (in my own mind), in the early days. It was so much easier to cave knowing he’d be right there with me pouring the next gl...
by Tai
18 Nov 2019 16:28
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

“There were many points along the way where I could have gone off that awful train and I didn’t,” he said. “If I would impart one message to the drinking alcoholics now… if you want to stop you can stop now. You don’t have to wait for it to get worse.” I remember when I first started going to suppo...
by Tai
18 Nov 2019 08:44
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341577

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Fabulous Fiz <:)> just brilliant to see you reach this milestone. Many congratulations and I wish you many more days and years of freedom to come. xx Jos
by Tai
11 Nov 2019 14:43
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13543
Views: 555196

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Brilliant Ed \:)/ \:)/ many congratulations! A whole year of freedom ... and many more to come I hope. I hope you feel good about this achievement Ed, that’s a lot of really solid decision making right there. Well done you <:)>
by Tai
11 Nov 2019 08:56
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: General Support and Chat
Replies: 13220
Views: 657184

Re: General Support and Chat

Time away sounds like a good idea Kim <:)> such a tough time for you with weighty decisions that you thought you’d made and now all is less certain again, although sounding more promising if your OH makes some changes. No wonder you feel wrung out with your head all over the place. It’s important no...
by Tai
10 Nov 2019 10:51
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I remember feeling kind of flu-like symptoms in the early days and weeks of getting sober, low energy, feeling a bit flat, difficulty sleeping, feeling agitated for no discernible reason ... a real hodgepodge of symptoms as well as finding myself getting emotional over stupid stuff which made me fee...
by Tai
09 Nov 2019 06:57
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

It is hard to regain traction in sobriety ... hard to convince ourselves of the necessity, especially when we see people all around us seemingly drinking with impunity. It’s hard to accept that addiction skews our thinking to the extent that we can no longer trust our own thoughts when it comes to d...
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:51
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: Are you drinking now ?
Replies: 3080
Views: 207207

Re: Are you drinking now ?

We live and learn eh? I always found it hard to look beyond how bad I was feeling to work out what went wrong and thus what I might try to get around whatever obstacle was keeping me from staying sober. I had to stop focusing on how awful I was feeling because it wasn’t at all constructive. Plenty o...
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:45
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11352
Views: 694166

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Learning to ride out cravings is just so crucial Scott, it builds sober muscles and resilience. Cravings don’t last at this intensity for much longer so hang in there! It definitely gets easier but these early days can see us swinging from thinking one minute “this is easy” to the next “this is impo...
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:38
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13543
Views: 555196

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Thanks guys <:)>
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:37
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5234
Views: 341577

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Thanks so much, I never forget that it was the people here who helped and supported me when I was in a right old state. It’s only when I look back that I see how much my life has changed. Sobriety rocks!