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by Tai
23 Nov 2019 07:45
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

For me I feel like I’m stuck in the lift and I’m waiting to see whether it’s going to go up or down. The irony of it is I’m in control...I have to press the right buttons. I absolutely recognise this in me too Action ... not wanting to make a decision in case it’s the wrong one, and not wanting to ...
by Tai
21 Nov 2019 06:48
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I totally get how difficult it is when partners drink whilst we are getting sober. My husband has continued drinking which isn’t an issue for me now but was a major league issue (in my own mind), in the early days. It was so much easier to cave knowing he’d be right there with me pouring the next gl...
by Tai
18 Nov 2019 16:28
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

“There were many points along the way where I could have gone off that awful train and I didn’t,” he said. “If I would impart one message to the drinking alcoholics now… if you want to stop you can stop now. You don’t have to wait for it to get worse.” I remember when I first started going to suppo...
by Tai
18 Nov 2019 08:44
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5155
Views: 315095

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Fabulous Fiz <:)> just brilliant to see you reach this milestone. Many congratulations and I wish you many more days and years of freedom to come. xx Jos
by Tai
11 Nov 2019 14:43
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13310
Views: 505565

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Brilliant Ed \:)/ \:)/ many congratulations! A whole year of freedom ... and many more to come I hope. I hope you feel good about this achievement Ed, that’s a lot of really solid decision making right there. Well done you <:)>
by Tai
11 Nov 2019 08:56
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: General Support and Chat
Replies: 13119
Views: 605944

Re: General Support and Chat

Time away sounds like a good idea Kim <:)> such a tough time for you with weighty decisions that you thought you’d made and now all is less certain again, although sounding more promising if your OH makes some changes. No wonder you feel wrung out with your head all over the place. It’s important no...
by Tai
10 Nov 2019 10:51
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

I remember feeling kind of flu-like symptoms in the early days and weeks of getting sober, low energy, feeling a bit flat, difficulty sleeping, feeling agitated for no discernible reason ... a real hodgepodge of symptoms as well as finding myself getting emotional over stupid stuff which made me fee...
by Tai
09 Nov 2019 06:57
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

It is hard to regain traction in sobriety ... hard to convince ourselves of the necessity, especially when we see people all around us seemingly drinking with impunity. It’s hard to accept that addiction skews our thinking to the extent that we can no longer trust our own thoughts when it comes to d...
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:51
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: Are you drinking now ?
Replies: 3077
Views: 195527

Re: Are you drinking now ?

We live and learn eh? I always found it hard to look beyond how bad I was feeling to work out what went wrong and thus what I might try to get around whatever obstacle was keeping me from staying sober. I had to stop focusing on how awful I was feeling because it wasn’t at all constructive. Plenty o...
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:45
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Learning to ride out cravings is just so crucial Scott, it builds sober muscles and resilience. Cravings don’t last at this intensity for much longer so hang in there! It definitely gets easier but these early days can see us swinging from thinking one minute “this is easy” to the next “this is impo...
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:38
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13310
Views: 505565

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Thanks guys <:)>
by Tai
07 Nov 2019 05:37
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5155
Views: 315095

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Thanks so much, I never forget that it was the people here who helped and supported me when I was in a right old state. It’s only when I look back that I see how much my life has changed. Sobriety rocks!
by Tai
04 Nov 2019 09:17
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: Plan ahead, be aware of dangerous situations
Replies: 274
Views: 32165

Re: Plan ahead, be aware of dangerous situations

It’s difficult isn’t it, this business of families and expectations and wanting to please others ... sometimes at the expense of our own well being. At the same time there’s nothing wrong in wanting to consolidate on the repair work done to mend broken down relationships and sometimes that’s best do...
by Tai
03 Nov 2019 15:55
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

Hi Scott, cravings pass. It’s not always easy to ride it out when you feel like climbing the walls, but knowing that cravings no matter how bad they are do eventually pass can give you the strength you need when you need it. And you know what? There’s nothing inevitable about relapse ... it’s good n...
by Tai
02 Nov 2019 15:27
Forum: Relapsing
Topic: Are you drinking now ?
Replies: 3077
Views: 195527

Re: Are you drinking now ?

Yes indeed it all starts with a sober day Cowboy. Don’t lose heart mate, yes it’s difficult but even so it’s doable ... and so worth it.
by Tai
31 Oct 2019 06:22
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: The Road to Abstinence.
Replies: 11019
Views: 635804

Re: The Road to Abstinence.

It’s good to “meet” you SoberSelf and welcome to BrightEye. It’s great that you’ve made a commitment to stop drinking. That’s a hugely positive step forward. It certainly takes some getting used to, being a member of an online community, I’d never done anything like this before I stumbled across thi...
by Tai
31 Oct 2019 05:51
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13310
Views: 505565

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Thanks guys, celebrating today as the anniversary of my last day one. 9 years of freedom so far and it feels good :D OH is taking me out to our fave restaurant tonight ... going to eat my own weight in noodles or as near as I can manage :lol2:
by Tai
31 Oct 2019 05:49
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5155
Views: 315095

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Thanks Nicky <:)> really appreciate it. Actually I celebrate today ... the anniversary of what I hope is my last ever day one. 9 years of freedom, and I couldn’t be more grateful. Thanks again.
by Tai
30 Oct 2019 18:06
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone
Replies: 13310
Views: 505565

Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Thank you so much guys, really appreciate it. So nice coming from work to see these messages. Makes me remember a time when arriving home from work was the signal to start drinking. What a merry go round that was. Happy to be sat here with my cup of tea ;)? . Thanks again <:)>
by Tai
30 Oct 2019 18:03
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: NOTICE BOARD
Replies: 5155
Views: 315095

Re: NOTICE BOARD

Thank you so much guys <:)> I never ever forget that when I first came to BE it was the kind folk here that reached out the hand of friendship, non judgemental help and support. To be honest I struggled to stay sober for a day or two never mind weeks, months and years. It was the help and support of...