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by Bupster
22 Jan 2010 21:42
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Old SOS - Archived
Replies: 11782
Views: 598086

Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE)

Just to add to the others, Lorie - when we're very scared it's normal to try to focus on something else. It sounds very much as if you're scared and trying to pass on at least some of the responsibility to your OH. While nobody can really comment on what's going on inside a relationship, we've all b...
by Bupster
04 Jan 2010 19:58
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Cutting Down - Archived
Replies: 3762
Views: 241550

Re: Cutting Down

Hi, Mel, It's a great idea to have lots of back up in the beginning. Once you start getting a few good nights' sleep under your belt the world will seem a lot less scary and you'll be able to deal with things much better - like you say, one step at a time. Walking is brilliant, especially in this ni...
by Bupster
03 Jan 2010 21:10
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Re: The Two and Three Month Challenge
Replies: 20951
Views: 1059448

Re: The Two Month Challenge

Drinking a cup as we speak. Camomile or Rooibosch is good too. <:)>
by Bupster
03 Jan 2010 19:48
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Re: The Two and Three Month Challenge
Replies: 20951
Views: 1059448

Re: The Two Month Challenge

Very good plans, Ace. Be careful about the tea though, full of caffeine - I've stopped drinking it after 6pm as anything later and I can't sleep!
by Bupster
03 Jan 2010 13:46
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Cutting Down - Archived
Replies: 3762
Views: 241550

Re: Cutting Down

Hi, Mel, If you can get comforatble with having two nights off a week, that would be marvellous. In fact you'd probably quite quickly want to try for three - if you can do it comfortably. Why don't you have a go? The worst that can happen is that you realise that it isn't working for you right now, ...
by Bupster
03 Jan 2010 00:17
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The 4 Week Challenge
Replies: 8005
Views: 440775

Re: The 4 Week Challenge

Yay, made it through the night working in the pub - was a piece of cake, though I was a bit grumpy, but that was partly because the place was full of mad people...
by Bupster
02 Jan 2010 13:57
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The 4 Week Challenge
Replies: 8005
Views: 440775

Re: The 4 Week Challenge

Also going for a dry January, and day two for me as well - but I'm going to work in a pub tonight! As long as I can get through that without buckling it should be a piece of cake ( :shock: ). I've done this before, I know I can go for long periods without booze - but this is a fairly new job and I'v...
by Bupster
02 Jan 2010 13:51
Forum: Physical and Mental Health
Topic: Depression, Bipolar and Other Personality Issues.
Replies: 7340
Views: 445330

Re: Depression and Alcohol

Hi, Chrissie, I understand exactly how you're feeling. There's a sense of post-Christmas anticlimax in the air anyway; the weather's miserable, the flat's a tip, I miss my family now they've all gone home, and I spent yesterday not only with the traditional hangover but completely on my own. I feel ...
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 21:26
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82940
Views: 4685795

Re: The First 7 Days

Glad you've got a plan, Dave, that sounds reasonable and well worked out. From my experience, though, the first time you tell people you're not drinking is hard, though not as hard as you think it will be, and after that it's much easier because they're not surprised any more. It's just another smal...
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 18:59
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Old SOS - Archived
Replies: 11782
Views: 598086

Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE)

The trick is to keep climbing. It's in your power. You can choose to do what's right for you regardless of what's happening around you. Hang on in there chick! <:)>
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 18:55
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82940
Views: 4685795

Re: The First 7 Days

Very true. Ultimately you have to be on your own with this because it's only you that can do it - you have to make a decision not to drink and stick to it regardless of what anyone else says or does.
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 18:53
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Old SOS - Archived
Replies: 11782
Views: 598086

Re: SOS - Post here if you need help (NO GENERAL CHAT PLEASE)

Hang in there chick, it's only the EAF knocking. It's just an excuse for a drink, not a reason. Things happen that make us cross and angry. That's life, we can't avoid all conflicts or unpleasant things. Booze is irrelevant. We just have to accept that we are cross or angry and that's all there is t...
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 18:46
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82940
Views: 4685795

Re: The First 7 Days

Just tell them you're on the wagon for a week to recover from Christmas. A week's long enough so they'll know there's no point trying to get you drink, but short enough so you don't have to do too much explaining (you could get away with having a dry January too - lots of people do that). They'll ri...
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 17:40
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82940
Views: 4685795

Re: The First 7 Days

It made me laugh too, I thought it was referring to breath that smelled of treacle, rather than something you breathe through! :D I know what you mean about those sort of days though, had plenty of them...
by Bupster
01 Jan 2010 14:31
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Old Hops Archive
Replies: 5576
Views: 229725

Re: The January Hop

Hop!
by Bupster
31 Dec 2009 14:31
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Cutting Down - Archived
Replies: 3762
Views: 241550

Re: Cutting Down

Hi, Dee, I found that I'd got very run down and my immunity had dropped - I started taking big doses of vitamin C and echinacea and that seemed to help a lot with avoiding colds and bugs that were going round. The best thing you can do though is to take a few weeks off the booze completely, it'll gi...
by Bupster
28 Dec 2009 20:54
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82940
Views: 4685795

Re: The First 7 Days

Hi Dave - a hot bath often helps on the first few days. It calms you down and kills some time. I take a book in and a cup of tea or something - preferably without any caffeine when it's late at night.

All the best,
Bupster
by Bupster
28 Dec 2009 18:24
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: New Years Resolutions and Recycle Bin.
Replies: 201
Views: 24623

Re: New Years Resolutions and Recycle Bin.

Keep my promises to myself regarding booze
See more of my family
Keep getting fit - start cycling more
Start writing regularly outside work
Meet a new bloke!
by Bupster
20 Dec 2009 10:33
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Cutting Down - Archived
Replies: 3762
Views: 241550

Re: Cutting Down

That's one of the most frightening things I think when we first try to sort this stuff out. I think it helps not to frame things like that even in your own head, if you can avoid it. I found myself getting so nervous about the idea of never drinking again that I would go and have a drink, presumably...
by Bupster
19 Dec 2009 15:49
Forum: General Recovery
Topic: Cutting Down - Archived
Replies: 3762
Views: 241550

Re: Cutting Down

Hi, Rach, I don't think I'll ever be completely relaxed around booze. But the compulsion has receded, yes. Sometimes it'll still come upon me - because it's Friday, or raining, or I'm tired, or any one of the excuses I used to make - but I can generally just make a cup of tea and wait for it to go a...