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by DoingBetter
17 Apr 2017 13:44
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Butterfly, I hear you on the thinking I can drink socially. I really can't and I know that my feeble brain keeps trying to tell me I can. However this is a horrible, horrible lie. I was thinking today that by me choosing alcohol I'm saying that I need some chemical to alter my brain enough to make e...
by DoingBetter
16 Apr 2017 12:24
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Hi Felix, I am the same (day 1). Feeling so sick and self-loathing at the moment. I did reach out to two friends (one online and one here in town), and that helped a bit. But still feel wretched. The worst part is that my last binge was done at a friend's house who is also my boss (bad situation). S...
by DoingBetter
05 May 2016 08:32
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 490
Views: 62704

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

Hi, I am not totally abstaining, but I have cut way down. Prior to that we too had the constant rows every night. As I tapered back farther and farther I was able to see the "requests for a fight" that he put out and ignored them. A friend of mine has a plaque in her kitchen that says "You do not ha...
by DoingBetter
26 Sep 2015 11:59
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Thanks for the replies everyone. I am feeling more chipper now that my hangover has left, but I am committed that I need to stop. I have a counselling appointment on Thursday, so that should help. The thing is when I have cut down in the past my husband has done the same. I think in some ways we ena...
by DoingBetter
26 Sep 2015 06:52
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Day 1 for me again. I really think that I need to quit permanently, but my husband is a huge drinker as well. Too embarrassed to type about all the stupid things that I've done recently while drunk, but I need to stop.
by DoingBetter
26 Sep 2014 01:06
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 490
Views: 62704

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

I struggled for many years with my husband's drinking. I knew he would never give it up because he told me so when we first started dating, and many times over the years. No matter how many bad things happened due to the drinking, he had to have it. Eventually my previously only social drinking beca...
by DoingBetter
18 Jun 2014 01:53
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When loved ones drink and you don't
Replies: 490
Views: 62704

Re: When loved ones drink and you don't

Hi Rainbow, I think that its great that you are going to quit drinking. As far as being boring, I highly doubt that will be the case. Most sober people can think faster, and be more witting than the average drunk person. Not drinking opens up all sorts of doors for activities that you can't do while...
by DoingBetter
30 Mar 2014 10:01
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Hi Ched, You're right, he definitely does have a problem, but he doesn't want to face it. He has the same pattern as I do, where he drinks heavily for a day or so, has a few the next day, then a big day again. He also fails to recognise that a 5'5" woman cannot keep matching a 6'2" male drink for dr...
by DoingBetter
30 Mar 2014 00:40
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Hi Envy, he is looking for work but not finding it. He's in that trap of too educated and over-qualified for some jobs and doesn't have the right job skills for others. The economy here is in the toilet, even though Australia's economy overall is doing well. He's been called back for some second int...
by DoingBetter
29 Mar 2014 20:51
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Back again. Fell off the wagon, and then had a week of drinking hard one night and then being sober albeit hungover the next. I can't go on this way. It's so hard that my husband drinks and keeps offering me alcohol because he doesn't want me to quit. But at the end of a big session we always have a...
by DoingBetter
24 Mar 2014 09:55
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Freshie, that darn black pixie dust is hard to get off the wall. :)

However, she made such a satisfying sound, sort of like Whack a Mole!

Best of luck everyone, I'm off to bed.
by DoingBetter
24 Mar 2014 08:41
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Just finished work on Day 2. Very long day, and the AF was right there at my elbow saying "you deserve a drink". No I do not deserve a hangover, guilt feelings, and that horrible searching of my memory on first waking thinking, "ok did I do or say anything bad last night?" Nope. Ping pbbbbt. (sound ...
by DoingBetter
23 Mar 2014 10:07
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Hi everyone, nearly finished on my day 1 here in Oz. Had a very quiet one, although I did get out to the shops to buy the groceries for us all. I also got some nice non-alcoholic drinkables, cranberry juice that I mix with soda water and some nice diet lemon cordial. The kids and hubby are happy wit...
by DoingBetter
23 Mar 2014 01:23
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Well I'm counting today as day 1, it's only about 11am on a Sunday so I have a ways to go today. I've been going through a depressed period where I don't feel happy about anything and I've been treating my husband poorly. Not huge bad things, but just not being smily or kind or even paying much atte...
by DoingBetter
22 Mar 2014 18:02
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Thanks for the support Swordie. :) I have a very stressful job right now, but increasingly I feel like someone is saying "It's your life, and you're doing it wrong". I have tried quitting before, and I did it briefly (on and off for the last 10 years). How do people manage to do this when you are co...
by DoingBetter
22 Mar 2014 17:04
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: The First 7 Days
Replies: 82498
Views: 3614671

Re: The First 7 Days

Hi folks, I want to try quitting again. I've tried in the past and done all right, but my husband drinks and that seems to give me the excuse that its ok for me. I have all the symptoms of a big drinker, and I know that for a long time my husband's over-drinking was just an excuse for me to indulge ...
by DoingBetter
15 Jan 2014 12:23
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Two Week Challenge
Replies: 17436
Views: 666661

Re: Two Week Challenge

Deleted, because this is the wrong place for it.

I'll find another thread that's more suitable. Best of everything folks and keep hanging in there.
by DoingBetter
13 Jan 2014 04:39
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Two Week Challenge
Replies: 17436
Views: 666661

Re: Two Week Challenge

TiredTrying, my husband (who I separated from a month ago) has pretty much quit drinking and is sorting his life out. He wants us to try dating again and to get counselling if I want. I'm feeling pretty conflicted about this. I was able to spend several hours with him yesterday chatting without drin...
by DoingBetter
09 Jan 2014 08:06
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Two Week Challenge
Replies: 17436
Views: 666661

Re: Two Week Challenge

Hi RedEyes, my step-kids are 21, 19, 17 and 13. I have known the youngest one since he was 4 years old. The kids have said that they want to continue having a relationship with me, but its difficult, because their dad wants to exclude me no that I'm not with him. He tells them "DB has left the famil...
by DoingBetter
08 Jan 2014 12:56
Forum: Sobriety Challenges
Topic: Two Week Challenge
Replies: 17436
Views: 666661

Re: Two Week Challenge

Hi Folks, another newie on the thread, just swam over the 7 day island adventure. :) I'm just finished day 8 and feeling kind of low. Not because of the drink withdrawals (they are being ok at the moment) but about the marriage I have just left (due to his alcoholism and abuse). I was a step-mum and...