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Re: Personal Goals

Post by Spats » 08 Oct 2019 06:51

Morning folks hope you’re all still waking up sober ;)? Another day done AF (::)
Sorry to hear you’re not too well Kath but if you went into work they would probably send you home wouldn’t they? Take time to look after yourself <:)>
Goal 1 done - 1 week AF \/
Goal 2 - get through 2nd week :)

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Re: Personal Goals

Post by kath » 09 Oct 2019 06:11

Morning everyone
Well done Spats!
I stayed at home most of the day yesterday. Going to go today and see how it goes. Still fee pretty rubbish but it could get better.
Nice to be on day 4.
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by Spats » 09 Oct 2019 08:35

Hope you start to feel a bit better later today Kath <:)>

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Post by soberfun » 09 Oct 2019 22:21

Well done Spats achieving a week AF.
Hope you are feeling better Kath.
Hi Ruby and Seismic.
Went to Italian for family birthday yesterday and drank 3 beers. AF today. So 2/1 so far this week.

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Re: Personal Goals

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 10 Oct 2019 00:36

Hi soberfun and all the goalies, hope you're on the mend Kath. <:)>

Got my new car today, a wee fiesta, so happy to be back on the road. Another AF day.

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Post by soberfun » 10 Oct 2019 17:23

Great news Ruby. Enjoy your fiesta.
Already in pjs so should be a 3/1 so far.

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Post by kath » 10 Oct 2019 17:37

New car, great! Enjoy Ruby.
Hi everyone. Still feeling bit yak! Day 5 and keep swaying from let’s get through this weekend sober to well it doesn’t really matter if I drink at weekends.
The thing is if I drink at weekends I don’t feel like it’s the end of the world, however when I drink I always think well was that worth it? Did it make a huge difference to my night? No! It doesn’t but for some reason I’m still drawn to it. It does make a huge difference to my next day. Tired, less patient, hungrier, lazier in turn making me a worse mum. All that being said still not convinced I’ll make it through the weekend.
Still no date for treatment sf?
Hi spats, Seismic ;)?
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by Winkler » 10 Oct 2019 19:41

Hey Kath, do you consider yourself to be addicted? Just wondering :)

Sorry , don’t mean to ignore others! Must be good to have wheels back ruby (::)

Hi everyone else - seems as though things are going well ;)?

Yeh seismic - 16 units taking it easy? :shock:
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Post by Pork » 10 Oct 2019 19:59

I’m an addict

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Post by kath » 10 Oct 2019 20:13

Winkler, yes I think im addicted maybe not to the same level as some, but it definitely takes over my thoughts and I have to work at not having it.
I have a friend who likes to drink and is a binge drinker but she can choose not to drink and that will be that. She won’t continue to have will I won’t I thoughts. She went on holiday to America and decided not to drink because it was very expensive. That would of wrecked my holiday! She wasn’t bothered.
If I know I’m going to drink that day I’m just killing time until I can drink, not actually enjoying my day.
My addiction has lessened I can now go mon - fri without dwelling on it too much. But then it’s also easy to accidentally slip back into mid week drinking after a holiday or Christmas and sometimes can carry on for months until I make a conscious effort to change it.
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Post by soberfun » 10 Oct 2019 20:42

I find it easy some of the time to be AF but then unexpectedly permission thoughts come in. I must practice socialising sober. I think I ll be bored if I don't drink. I feel as though the enjoyment will be taken away. If others can manage to have fun sober I need to learn to do so as well.
OH is being fitted for a mask on Monday so I think treatment will be soon. He is keen to get started and fight this horrible disease.

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Post by Winkler » 10 Oct 2019 22:37

Hope it goes well, soberfun <:)>

Yes, I identify too, with what you all say. Shades of addiction. Bloody stuff :|

I agree, getting used to socialising AF is definitely key isn’t it?
I’m going to something next week and am relieved to be meeting up with the lighter drinkers and the driver first rather than the drinking girls. I think I hadn’t realised until recently that of course, the people I used to enjoy seeing are heavy drinkers so it did make me feel like I stood out to not be drinking - there were definitely times of feeling awkward.
Takes a bit of time to find your new tribe but they are out there!
And there’s often someone not drinking in group things

Drinking socially always gets me back to the buying it on the way home habit again, sadly.
Although I’m not missing it like I did
It ceases to be something important, I think, or as important, anyway
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by kath » 11 Oct 2019 06:19

Winkler you’ve done so well!! I’ve just had a weekend away and although the booze was flowing I honestly think I could of done it sober, in reflection. It was a very chilled weekend around a lodge and in reflection I honestly don’t know what the booze added. Even with that said i can’t see me ever making that choice.
Sf oh good, glad you think the treatment will start soon. Xx
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Post by Winkler » 11 Oct 2019 08:10

Yes, stay strong soberfun <:)>

Kath - yes that choice thing is absolutely what it’s about isn’t it? That and acceptance.
Thank you for saying I’m doing well, I suppose it depends how you look at it - some would feel sorry for me not drinking, others would think I’m weird, I think I’m at the stage where not drinking feels normal to me, so what other people might think is much less important than when I’ve been ambivalent and times I’ve thought I’m doing well I’ve still had the habit, I guess.

I’m almost completely comfortable with those kinds of weekends away now, you know and would be almost 100% looking forward to them with much less dread mixed in these days! Its taken a lot of trial and error though and I’d still have to give it a lot of forward thought. You absolutely can do it sober and there’s no after effects :)
I’d say it’s about fake it til you make it, having something, preferably a choice of AF bottles already chilled and definitely the smoffee :D

Have you read ‘naked mind’? That’s been my bible this time ;)?
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by kath » 11 Oct 2019 15:11

I don’t think I have read that one Winkler, maybe I’ll get it.
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by seismic23 » 11 Oct 2019 16:22

Hi gang.
I had an AF Tuesday due do joining the tri club for swimming (8-9pm), though I was still thinking of swinging into tesco when I got out.Wednesday short bike ride, went out last night with a running club locally(a gentle 7 miles to ease the 1/2 marathon legs)

Those two clubs had me with more interaction than at work all day. Definitely work to live. It's progressing, will be getting my hands dirty soon enough, currently just writing documents, which is dreary. I'll take the salary though, it's good.

Kath, you're right, AF would mean lighter me, would mean faster me. I'm averse to targets though as 2012s depressive low was associated with targets and not achieving them. This was mostly teaching, however, the fitness took a tumble as well. It all contributed.

Currently twitchy but it's weigh in tomorrow. Sunday I'm marshalling, rendezvous 5:30 :o so early start, AF Saturday.

Wound it back to 15 units last night. Better, but got the munchies.

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Re: Personal Goals

Post by kath » 12 Oct 2019 09:01

Good luck with weight in seismic although if you had munchies you might not managed it. I always found I could get away with drinking 3 times a week but it meant I’d have to be perfect on the food side of the diet. Definitely couldn’t do both an lose weight.
Early start for you tomorrow maybe a good excuse for an af Saturday night?
I’m on day 7 af I’d really like to get through the day and make it a week af but I don’t know if I’ll make it. My ww is already telling me I “ deserve a bottle tonight “ and I already have one in from last week. Looks like I’m in for a day of Will I, won’t I. What fun!
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by Spats » 12 Oct 2019 21:21

Hope you’re staying strong tonight Kath ;)?

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Post by kath » 12 Oct 2019 21:47

I’ve done it!! Stayed af. It’s been a big fight though !!
Thanks spats
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Re: Personal Goals

Post by seismic23 » 12 Oct 2019 22:52

0.5lb off. I ended up on a bit of a bender last night. 25+. Surprised at the weight loss. Maybe shouldn't have done parkrun,,,,only 20 seconds off my PB, go figure. Had to run home too, said colleague was a no show.

Planned on AF tonight but I've had 4 beers, totalling 11 units. Had 3 AF beers too. I don't feel cheated. Got a 4:30 alarm call though.

I'll say it, though I don't often adhere to it. 'I deserve a bottle', 'I deserve that hangover'. Don't you deserve something better? The days I drink less or abstain, I wake up great and think to myself, why do I do this sh1t to myself? Then go and buy a load of crap that evening.

Well, this week, having been out with two clubs, much better mentally/socially. My wife can see it in me. Going to make them regular.
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