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A beautiful inspirational post Nicky. Thank you for sharing and thank you too for the support, advice and humour you have freely shared. Greatly appreciated. TC xx <:)>
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Hi, I completely new to this, so forgive me if I’m posting in the wrong place! My husband is a recovering alcohol (hasn’t had a drink in 6 yrs). He’s had really bad flu for last 5 days, and had started taking Night Nurse, and I’m really worried this is going to set him back as it contains a small amount of alcohol. But he’s got through 2 bottles in 3 days. Should I be worried? Any advice welcome please!

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Louise1979 wrote:
28 Dec 2019 20:40
Hi, I completely new to this, so forgive me if I’m posting in the wrong place! My husband is a recovering alcohol (hasn’t had a drink in 6 yrs). He’s had really bad flu for last 5 days, and had started taking Night Nurse, and I’m really worried this is going to set him back as it contains a small amount of alcohol. But he’s got through 2 bottles in 3 days. Should I be worried? Any advice welcome please!
Hello Louise. I can feel your anxiety. I think a lot depends on him! What does he think himself? And is he taking it appropriately, or necking it? I've been sober for 2.5 years, but I still use cough medicines and mouthwash which contain alcohol, and I drink "alcohol free" drinks whick contain up to 1% alcohol - none of these have sent me into a relapse. However no one addict's recovery is quite like another's...
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Thanks for getting back to me. He thinks I’m stressing about nothing. But he is taking much more than he’s meant to, already on the second bottle in just a couple of days, but only meant to take 20mls at night! I’m just so worried as we have young children, and he’s done so well, I’d just hate for him to relapse now! He has a really addictive nature in general, not just with alcohol. Don’t want to treat him like a child,but I just want to hide the bottle!

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Hi Louise
Night nurse does contain alcohol as well as paracetamol, antihistamine and a cough suppressant. It can be abused, and your husband is more vulnerable than most.
The paracetamol is probably the most toxic ingredient and 1 x 160 ml bottle should last 2 days, so he has exceeded the maximum dose already.
I wouldn’t advise he takes any more, everyone has different liver reserves and it would probably be a good idea to get a medical opinion. If you’re in the uk, I’d phone 111 for advice.

Shadowlad, what a journey you’ve been on, thank you for sharing. I’m so glad you have your life and family back. You must be a huge support for your son xx
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Ok, thanks for reply.

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What an inspirational post Nicky, thanks for sharing and good luck with the next 7 years. \:)/
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Thank you kindly Ruby, Winkler and TC, hope you all have a lovely Sunday <:)> <:)>
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Went into my local Co-op (other stores are available) this morning and, gone is the Christmas bumph, but in its place (and piled high at the check outs) are hot cross buns (w) Easter eggs will no doubt soon be on the shelves as well.
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Not sure where to put this. I've arranged a date with someone I met on a dating site. I'm very nervous but I'm not sure if he's the real deal. I guess I won't know until I meet him, he doesn't have a photo up and I even asked him if he was married. Don't know if he's lovely or a lying scumbag?

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Ruby&Tilly wrote:
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Not sure where to put this. I've arranged a date with someone I met on a dating site. I'm very nervous but I'm not sure if he's the real deal. I guess I won't know until I meet him, he doesn't have a photo up and I even asked him if he was married. Don't know if he's lovely or a lying scumbag?

Ruby xx
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I am with martha on this R&T
Just meet in a safe place where you can cut the date short and leave when ever you wish.
I hope he is lovely and not a liar <:)>

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Proceed, but with caution! You'll be able to get a sense of whether he's for real or concealing things when you meet. I always think the way to look at internet dates is that it's not very likely to to lead to anything, so I have low expectations!
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Ah Ruby <:)> great advice from all above. It can be a bit of a rollercoaster can internet dating. I know someone who has become addicted to it but if it is approached with a level head then it can be fun too. You may have to sift through a lot of people before you click with someone but that is pretty normal ! Above all have fun and stay safe :D <:)>
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Oh and watch out for scammers trying to get money out of you, it happens :roll: xxx
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Thanks for all the advice guys, I will keep myself safe and I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much. I have done internet dating before but it's a long time ago. I am quite suspicious about this guy but in some ways I'm thinking of it as a trial run lol so if it doesn't work out I'll not be too disappointed. The guy I really liked disappeared, he must have deleted his profile and there is another guy I like, unfortunately he's a psychiatric nurse and works at the hospital I volunteer at and have been an inpatient at. :o what a tart eh, I'll keep yous posted how it goes tomorrow night.

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<r>Morning all, well I only gone and done it !<br/>
5 years sobriety today; am bit chuffed/ amazed that this is actually me being able to write this, in many ways it feels like someone else is writing this and tbh in many ways, they are <E>;)</E> <br/>
I've changed, I had too of course.<br/>
I'm still trying to understand who I am, what are my true thoughts now, what I will/ won't accept anymore.<br/>
Last year was a tough one for me in my personal life and probably going forward I think, will be difficult also, many factors, decisions i need to make.<br/>
Throughout it all though I remain sober, I admit at times , being very tempted to both drink and smoke ( I gave up smoking also, but I do vape)<br/>
The rewards of being sober are many , my physical and mental health are both greatly improved, especially my mental well being, no more awful anxiety , its crippling, soul destroying and played a major factor in my continuing to drink. The feeling of waking up sober is a great feeling, can't be under estimated , and even after 5 years hasn't, as yet, got old <br/>
The other night I was watching a film that I'd seen years before (in my drinking and "watching" telly days)<br/>
I realized while watching this time around there was so much in the film I'd missed/ forgotten , things that were important to the plot tbh.<br/>
That got me thinking then, how much of my every day life had I missed, forgotten?<br/>
I had very nearly, quite literally " lost the plot" .<br/>
I can re - watch a film that's easy, but I can't re wind my life get back those things I didn't see/ experience because I was drunk.<br/>
And while I have regret about that there's not much I can do , but in a way it was important "grist to the mill" if you like, to keep me focused, aware and grateful that today, that is no longer me.<br/>
I Will remember everything, I Will see everything. ( husband, take note <E>:lol2:</E> )<br/>
and in the main, I'm so glad I do <E>;)</E> <br/>
Just my thoughts on this day and this milestone I thought I'd never see . Many thanks to those who, over my time here have kindly given me support and advice when I've needed it most.<br/>
This is a great forum and although I don't tend to post as much, I always read, I always care about others well being and love to read of people's success stories.<br/>
Much love Kim <E><:)></E></r>
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That's awesome Lushie. I'm happy for you, and proud of you. Very thought provoking post - last night I was thinking about my drinking past too... when times are really tough, it can be easy to underestimate how much damage drinking did. You're a new woman, which brings challenges but also enormous benefits.
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