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Goal #1 Make Swordie laugh or at least smile

Swordgirl,

Don’t make much of this. Learn from it. Learn learn learn. Spend no time in remorse and regret.
People at the top of human performance have immense self control and discipline.You have that too as is evident by the way you manage family and work.

People at the top of the game slip up too. All the time. However, they spend zero time in regret. Don’t you do that either. This is a wobble. We minimize attention paid to those. Keep going. You are a champion. Champs slip. They just keep getting up again and never quit.

Tons of love, D&D

Someone wants you to join them for a cup of tea
Swordie, do join me for a cup of tea  won’t you?
Swordie, do join me for a cup of tea won’t you?
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DandD your response to Swordie rings so true. I’ll take that on board myself (w)

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ScarletB wrote:Hi everyone. I'm back and struggling. Major binge thus weekebd and panic yesterday. Had to keep drinking to get through yesterday but I had my last drink lastnight. I really want to be done with all this crap. I'm so exhausted with trying to function. I know life would be so much easier without alcohol in the mix. My oh and best friend say they support my decision. I just need to get through today. Shaky. Dark circles under eyes. Ashamed and scared. Have work today and child. Wondering if others know. Neighbors. Work.
Scarlet,
Do not put your mind on others knowing. It’s the wrong focus. It’s you that has to know. Our drinking persona is someone we don’t really know I think sometimes. They just kind of show up at the door uninvited and take over. Take your life back. Do not worry about the gossips. You can’t do anything about them.

A few days sober your mood will lift s bit. If drinking heavily taper, don’t try cold turkey. Uneccessary suffering, Sleep sleep sleep as much as you can. Eat nutritious food no junk. Do your makeup everyday. Gives you a chance to look in the mirror and love yourself for a second. Keep your chin up. You can do it. D&D
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Spats wrote:DandD your response to Swordie rings so true. I’ll take that on board myself (w)
That message does go for you my friend

Spats, you are still going through the loss of your husband. It’s natural you would seek relief. Honestly I think you should go with the Harm Reduction Approach for a bit rather than shooting for abstinence. Trying for that is harming your self esteem too much. This is a very emotional time getting rid of all those possessions and you are under more pressure.

Something to look forward to is that people say when they go through this they enter a positive new phase. They haven’t lost anything. They are free of the past. They still have their memories . And now they can create new ones. You are on the brink of all that. Cut yourself some slack. My biggest recommend for you is home cooked meals only. No takeout, no junk food.

Love
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Thank you D&D.

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Hi all. So many of us struggling here. You’re not alone.

I’m on holiday but have booked a shift tomorrow morning to get me back on track. Let’s just try and stay as positive as possible. We have made the decision to stop again and that must be recognised as an important step forward surely?

<:)>

T xx

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faith2be wrote:
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CC and LB - you guys still hanging in there?
Swordie? Yooo-hooo... :\:
Yep still hangin' here!

After work is hard, I had to taxi it Monday because of ice, then today I was on the normal pushbike and the hills were brutal so I had to just get on with it after work and head for home, took the longer route as less traffic and at last stopped at the village to catch my breathe (and have a rollie, tsk!), some bloke started talking to me and was almost trying to convince me to try out the new pub (I didn't realise I was outside a new pub, used to be a tea shop). But I bid farewell and made it home.

Work going well, just got to stay focused each day on staying away from the first drink.

And I'll be bloody fit if I have to continue riding my normal bike whilst I save up to get the electric one fixed and serviced.

It's all good. :\:
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Thank you DandD ;)? I will remember that. And go for Harm Reduction as you suggest. I have made appt with GP next week and will speak with her again about this. So tired today so early night for me AF.

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loosebanana wrote:
faith2be wrote:
<snip>

CC and LB - you guys still hanging in there?
Swordie? Yooo-hooo... :\:
Yep still hangin' here!

After work is hard, I had to taxi it Monday because of ice, then today I was on the normal pushbike and the hills were brutal so I had to just get on with it after work and head for home, took the longer route as less traffic and at last stopped at the village to catch my breathe (and have a rollie, tsk!), some bloke started talking to me and was almost trying to convince me to try out the new pub (I didn't realise I was outside a new pub, used to be a tea shop). But I bid farewell and made it home.

Work going well, just got to stay focused each day on staying away from the first drink.

And I'll be bloody fit if I have to continue riding my normal bike whilst I save up to get the electric one fixed and serviced.

It's all good. :\:
LB. awesome resistance to not check out a new pub! That would have been tricky for me for sure. Enjoy the new job. ;)?
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Hey guys
Good going lb , i would have probably gone in that pub & ordered a cup of tea, but secretly probably also scoping out its beers & prices & wotnot !

Man,i remember when you first got that electric bike ! Remember i had to cycle to train station everyday due to being banned? Bikes in sis's garage now, fed up of flat tyres all the time

Still AF here, just tea overdose !

I see someone mentioned naltrexone, i took that too, but didnt find i reduced.

My nurse also mentioned nalfamine or nalmafine? ! That was supposed to make you reduce too, but there was a global shortage so i couldnt try it.

Tad, i know what you mean about just one night drinking, i think we all do. Just friday nights,yeah? Mmm maybe saturday too, oh sod it,

What about ant from ant & dec then? Like it says about addiction, taking our drug of choice is just a symptom of an underlying problem. And money & fame isnt going to change that, he has a dark hole that he is numbing with alcohol but really needs to shine a sober light on it & investigate why he drinks.
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I do feel a bit sorry for Ant. There is no excuse for drinking and driving (particularly as he could easily afford to pay for a driver); but he clearly has a lot of 'issues', and it must be really difficult to deal with them under the glare of the media spotlight. There is so much money involved in what he does (and lots of people relying on him to do it) that the chances are that he left rehab too early the last time, and wasn't properly well.

He always seems like a decent guy (although of course that could be a media construct), and his whole 'brand' is about being clean cut and 'ordinary', so it's going to be really difficult to pull this one round.

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Just wanted to say hello to everyone today. It's extremely dreary here but I got sleep and back on meds. I forget to take my antidepressant when drinking so last weekend was a loss. Lord, I never want to have that panic attack again. So good to see familiar names here and it sounds like most are doing pretty well. I'm going to keep posting. Cheers for a good day for everyone.

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Hi Everyone
Thanks for the support everyone especially D&D - that video made me smile :) . I am still struggling with getting back to sobriety, but feeling hopeful that today will be better. No point in self flagellation and turning everything into a catastrophe. The sober days still outnumber the drinking ones for me recently, so trying to get back on track today.

Hope you all have a good day ;)?

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Hindsight Swordie is a good thing. Must learn from it and keep things in perspective ;)?

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Morning all.

Still struggling here. Such a shame as I’m in holiday. Two days left. Determined to make them sober.

T xx

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Hi all.

I’ve escaped to the beach. I’m in Jaywick!! It’s a beautiful beach in such a deprived area. Quite fascinating really.

T xx

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Hello. Me again.

I’ve made it through the day sober. Lovely time on the beach, did some jobs around the house and went to the gym. Phew. Hopefully my latest disasterous cycle is over.

How’s everyone else?

T xx

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Hi tad , thats great to hear , good one !!!

Just going back to Ant again, i read a qoute he made in the paper along the linea of ' my experts told me im not an alcoholic, which is good because i look forward to a good cold beer, especially when we do 'im a celebrity' in oz.

Pity.

Mind you im kinda the same. Although i admit i have a drink problem, i still talk myself into thinking i can control it again. Everytime.
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Me too cx. That’s the problem isn’t it? Every time I have a few days on the booze I hope that when I finally knock that episode on the head it will be the last one. Sadly it keeps tearing its ugly head again.

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Just wanted to say hi. Especially CC and Tad. Good job staying positive. In 30 min I'll start my day 4. I've already had several thoughts today of making this just a "break" when I know I need to abstain for good. One day at a time though.

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