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Thanks kath. I really need to watch out for Friday nights. And occasional other nights. I’m with SW and not doing too bad so think my plan will be to make sure I’ve got something in the slow cooker on Friday nights to rush home for. :D

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Hi, I’m new, first real post and trying to figure site out, was wondering about people’s experiences with withdrawal ? I had a very scary episode last night after cutting down from 20 units to 10. At 3 am wolk up fell asleep at 4 then had two hours of not knowing if I was asleep or awake, distraught nightmares with waking but not knowing if the waking was real, hilluscinations, felt heart twinges, one point couldn’t breath
I’m scared to go to bed tonight, but sticking to ten units today
Anyone else felt this? Just hope I don’t get the same again
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Hi Carol, sorry to hear what you’re going through. I’ve not had that experience but others may have who could advise you. I wonder if tapering it a little more gently may be better, say 15 units. <:)>

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Carol* wrote:Hi, I’m new, first real post and trying to figure site out, was wondering about people’s experiences with withdrawal ? I had a very scary episode last night after cutting down from 20 units to 10. At 3 am wolk up fell asleep at 4 then had two hours of not knowing if I was asleep or awake, distraught nightmares with waking but not knowing if the waking was real, hilluscinations, felt heart twinges, one point couldn’t breath
I’m scared to go to bed tonight, but sticking to ten units today
Anyone else felt this? Just hope I don’t get the same again
Best wishes x
Carol approach with caution, I had auditory and visual hallucinations that continued for 3 days I did have to seek medical help, am not saying any of this to scare you but just reporting briefly what happened to me.
Get GP appointment if this gets worse and it probably won't, so well done for getting on board with this, you can get well, keep posting if it helps <:)>
I agree also with spats adding a few more units and taper very slowly x
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Yes I had auditory hallucinations a few times too. It's something to do with dopamine. I don't thing those are dangerous in themselves, although they can be a sign of something worrying (can be, but not necessarily) but if you are tachycardic, that's another matter.

The usual is sweats, insomnia, bad dreams if you sleep, extreme anxiety and panic.

Were/are you trembling badly?

These symptoms in my experience don't come and go. If you had them in the night and haven't drunk since, I would expect them to either abate or continue into the day.

As Lushy says, proceed with extreme caution, and really you would be best getting some proper medical advice on how to proceed with this one. It sounds like you could do with a proper detox with some medication tbh, but a much more gradual taper failing that? Certainly Don't reduce again today, then maybe tomorrow by one or two units.

If you get the symptoms again consider calling someone with medical expertise.
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Thank you for your messages, the strange thing is that in the day after it didn’t continue, just had anxiety. No I wasn’t trembling, well I don’t think I was. Last night went a lot better after staying at the same so think will continue with cutting down but slower this time! Hope you are all doing great today :\:

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You are probably over the worst of it.

Not really strange that it didn't continue during the day :)

edit: not that strange, but a great relief, I am sure <:)>

Good luck. Tapering is not easy.
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Hi all

I've been drinking heavily for over 2 years now. Mainly two bottles of wine a night.... I know that I'm slowly killing myself and my life has become unmanageable. It's affecting my little boy and my parents are concerned about my ability to look after him properly.

My aim is to quit drinking altogether but do you think it is wise to cut down before trying to stop?

Thanks
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QueenBee wrote:Hi all

I've been drinking heavily for over 2 years now. Mainly two bottles of wine a night.... I know that I'm slowly killing myself and my life has become unmanageable. It's affecting my little boy and my parents are concerned about my ability to look after him properly.

My aim is to quit drinking altogether but do you think it is wise to cut down before trying to stop?

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Welcome back QB,
I had a brief look at your previous posts (hope you don't mind) before responding because I would usually advise GP support, but that's not something you feel you can do I see , so yes if you can manage it cutting down would be the safer option I think, hard to do by the very nature of addiction .
I believe there's a few here who have successfully done this and hopefully they can give more advice than me .
I wish you all the very best , you've had 6 year's of sobriety so you know it's doable ; one day at a time.
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Thanks Lush4Life

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Hi Everyone,

I was on the abstinence challenge but decided to try to just cut down instead. I was abstinent for three years back around 2012, but had a few drinks here and there after that until I had way too many again one night in January or February this year.

I'm finding as I get older that I struggle to wind down and perhaps it's perimenopause, but I find myself obsessing over issues. For example, my neighbour, whose yard is directly outside my bedroom window (it forms part of their back yard) put an entertainment decking an inch away from my bedroom wall. I'm about to take legal action to have it removed, but it's got me to the point today where I am so agitated that I am having a couple of drinks just to relax.

I guess part of my agitation stems from not being able to understand how inconsiderate we as a race can be. At times I don't really like people very much and I'm finding that more and more.

I know it's not great to self-medicate with alcohol, but I was desperate tonight.

Hope you're all okay xx
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Hi Kokoda,

If I could be moderate I would go that route. Hats off if you find it’s comfortable. For me it added stress. I still serve drinks to the moderates at the table.

On your neighbor problem. A stress inducing situation and hella good reason to have a drink. What came to mind was a training I took for work once. Based on Harvard Negotion Project, ‘Getting To Yes’ author’s work. You save your BATNA, best alternative to a negotiated settlement for the last course of action. In that case it’s taking the neighbor to court. He knows this. He knows it will cost you. He thinks he has you beat. He will enjoy seeing you spend on a lawyer.

First write the neighbor a letter with your issues stated. What solutions do you see or want. Have your lawyer look at it, suggest strategies, remedies. Then send it yourself. Return receipt.

You can manage this. The world is full of this now. Don’t let it spoil your day. Google ‘Getting to Yes’ for more. Outwit them.

I admire peeps who can be moderate. I unfortunately cannot be moderate. About anything.

Nice to see you.
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Thanks D&D,

Did you get my message?

I'm afraid two bottles of champagne later I was a right mess. I'm thinking that abstinence is a good choice.

I have heard of that book recently. I think it's an '80's publication. That's a good suggestion, thank you x
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Hi Kokoda,
Saw you on 7 Day ;)?
Two bottles of champers I remember those days and woozy aftermath.
Getting To Yes ideas seem quaint now. Too ethically minded.

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Lol, love that song D&D :D

Ethically minded is perfect. I was reading an article by the Huffington Post today about the things that identify considerate people. It was quite interesting.

I had a win, by the time they went back to their other house today, the entire decking was gone. Feeling much better now \:)/

Thank you for being there.

Hugs x
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Hi all am trying the whole cutting down slowly thing and hoping it will lead to a totally alcohol free me, I work at a school so having drank last night (not planned) am telling myself no drinking on a school night for the rest of the week. Fingers crossed I can do it

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Hello Pandabear73 :)

Just dropping in to wish you well with cutting down. This thread can be a bit quiet so please do post around the forum if you struggle. It helps to talk things through and to feel less alone <:)>

Best wishes , nicky ;)?
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This thread is very quiet but I don't know where else to post; the 'withdrawal /kindling' thread is even quiter so I thought I'd try here. Am on day 2 of cutting back, from a starting point of 2 bottles of wine a night. One of my barriers to stopping completely is the absolute fear of seizures etc (I Google far to much and then worry about what I read!). I have not had an AF night in about 1 and a half years. SO Tuesday night I drank 20 units, last night 9, tonight will be 7. I will continue to cut back until I feel comfortable to stop altogether . Then I hope to join others on the challenge threads. Am still reading widely across the site and getting lots of inspiration from all the great posts. Thanks everyone

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Hello Felix :)

Well done on your progress in cutting down, you are doing well. If you are comfortable with how you are doing then keep going. Some people try tapering, and then may have a day where they drink more units than intended. This sometimes leads them to feel like they have failed and then they disappear leaving themselves without support and encouragement. There is no such thing as failure for anybody actively trying to overcome a drinking problem. I wish you well ;)?

Take care, nicky x
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I posted here for quite a while when I first joined BE Felix, the thought of staying sober for more than a couple of days seemed unimaginable.But eventually, with the support and encouragement of so many people, I moved on and am now in a much better place.Change is always possible if you want it badly enough and we all have to start somewhere - there are plenty of other threads that aren't about abstinence so you can post there too if it feels too quiet here.

Best of luck, keep posting, stay focused and you'll get there in the end.

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