Just wanted to add a warm welcome to SoberSelf and lucy63
Some great help and advice given already so not much i can add that would be helpful xx
Jjjj of Old wrote: ↑
31 Oct 2019 07:37
Off on holiday later today, so all I can do for now is wish all Roadies a good, happy and productive week
Have a lovely holiday Mark you deserve it !
Action wrote: ↑
30 Oct 2019 09:34
Quick question for everyone. It might just be early days but in the evening I really lack any sort of motivation and energy to do anything with my time. I find it really frustrating sober because I’m almost watching the clock until I go to bed. I can’t go to bed too early as I don’t sleep but I would dearly like to be able to combat this inertia. I hate the thought of just wasting my time. Does anyone have any suggestions? I love to write, draw and make things but I just don't have the energy or ability to concentrate. Will this eventually disappear?
Hi Action, i saw this the other day but didn't have time to reply. I see Trojan has given a really helpful reply and i have been thinking of your post also. I really relate to the clock watching before going to bed in early abstinence. Night time always was, and still can be a fidgety time for me, especially long dark winter nights. So flipping boring ! Thinking about you though, you say you are frequently tired too at the end of the day and cannot concentrate. Again i relate. Its hard to know how to relax, or occupy ourselves in the evening, and without drinking the night away to kill time or wind down. It can be done though, and you will manage this, an evening at a time
Given the tiredness and inability to concentrate would it help to find some simple relaxing tasks to fill the evening ? For instance i love to write and draw too but i could not do that in early sobriety. One evening i was climbing the walls for a drink, the family was driving me mad so i shut myself in the bedroom and sat at my desk literally pulling at my hair. Then it struck me to find a colouring book, some pens and some classical music. I set to task, just wanting to escape from everyone and everything and was pleasantly surprised. " hours later i was still colouring and forgot about cravings, just lost in a colourful world of Debussy in the privacy of my room
Lovely ! In time i found other things to fill the evenings, and now my concentration and energy has returned to normal most of the time. Evenings now are filled with swimming, mindless tv in bed, walks with the dog plus torch, surfing the internet, chatting to friends on messenger, wordsearch and other puzzles, baking or batch cooking to smooth radio or magic radio. I dare not put my favourite Queen cds on or would be up all night lol !
Your activity list might look different to mine, but its important to find something you enjoy, something that gives you pleasure. I think i added maltesers to Debussy and colouring, yum !
and nice quality soft drinks to keep hydrated. Anyway, best of luck with all this, i hope you can follow up your writing idea perhaps, without putting any pressure on yourself.
Hi to everyone else, hope all are having a peaceful evening xx
Love nicky xx
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