SOS - Post here if you need help (No General Chat Please)

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I am ok - there will be no problems if i stop drinking as I am a binge drinker - i can go for weeks without a drink and then slam it hits me. I am so ashamed of my past - is that normal ? no its not i don't think. even if i went to a counsellor it wouldnt make any difference to my mind - its a total shambles . and God ?? i believed in him but where is he now ? AA is all about God

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That's really good that you can stop without medical intervention, it does make things less complicated.I'm a binge drinker too, the fact that you can go weeks without alcohol is something to hang on to, you know you can do it, 'just a matter of keeping going.I know that's a lot easier said than done, but you will find all the support you need here, so use it.Most of us get stuck in feelings of shame about the past, so yes, it's very normal, but not at all useful.There's nothing you can do about the past, but you can definitely change your future if you want to.

I'm not as AA person either, but I know lots of people here go to meetings and don't do the God thing.

Again, if you look around and read through the posts you will see that you're not alone and that to-day could be the start of a new life for you.The 7 Day Challenge may be a good place to start, lots of people there in the same boat, supporting each other.

I'm afraid I have to go now, but I wish you all the luck in the world.Stick around and give it a go - what do you have to lose?I'll be back later, but there will be other people around through the day - you've made an important decision to change your life for the better by registering with BE, you should be proud of yourself for that.Take care of yourself, see you later.

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Very wise words Tom ;)? Space/AFC(i wont use the other word)/Caroline95.. Never ever be ashamed to ask for help, this problem will not go away on its own or by ignoring it...Space i can say i know you have tried cuz i have read your posts..There are many alcohol support networks out there...Tobin here has one, also SMART recovery, then there is ALCOHOL concern and others,if you put in you search engine you will come up with a few, then you will have local or somewhere near where you live(within a few miles) unless you live in the outbacks....It does not have to be AA but sometimes people CAN NOT do this alone..... You must if you want to get better and have tried and failed, then outside help might be needed. And this does NOT mean you will be carted away to some detox centre or anything sinister like that....But get the help that's there b4 you loose everything/and everyone you love......Sorry these words come across blunt...But swallow your pride and ASK FOR HELP....... ;)? ;)?
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Hi,
I'm Debbie,
I've always been a drinker since I can remember, but since my second marriage ended a couple of years back it's increased significantly, I sought help from th GP, went to a local ADSIS group, where I found my mentor quite patronising! He made me feel awful, it took me alot to ask for help, needless to say, after a few visits I stopped going. I have cut down thanks to my new partner, from a bottle of wine and maybe 2-4 lagers a day to 1/2 - 1 a bottle a day. However, last night he was working a late shift, i drank 4 v large glasses of wine and his 2 bottles of beer from the fridge...yet again I have woken up thoroughly annoyed at myself, feeling a bit rough too! Ive put 3 stone on in the last 2.5 yrs...spend a fortune...I do so enjoy a drink but I am realising as much as I dont want to ...me 'n' the booze will have to part company...I have found this site this morning, and am going to start today...one problem though...I go away on holiday sunday, all inclusive too.... any advice??

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Space wrote:.

I have to face up to this, no more tricking and lying to myself, it's just easier not to, it's Wednesday have the week wasted!!!! :o

Go od on you . I just came back to add that when I said earlier get proper help ( AA or similar ) I didn't mean that in a "don't come to brighteye " way ... I meant as well as posting here

And even though its Wednesday then how could the week be wasted if this was the session that pushed you to accepting you can't drink and control it and you got yourself some proper support
I'd say this coud be the most productive week you've had in a while ;)?

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exactly Tom - we are alkies,drunks etc why not use the words at least I am not denying it ;)

yes i do understand that AA is not all about God but I find it difficult to think of a higher power when in reality YOU are the higher power

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I would NEVER say "Oh don't come on BE" .. But i couldn't do it with BE alone... :)
I Have a Guardian Angel in heaven... I call him DADDY BEAR. I AM NOW 10 YEARS DRY AND LOVING IT,SO PROUD OF ME ;-)
We are all given a 2nd chance every day, it's just we don't usually take them . I TOOK MINE :\:

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Hi Deb

Welcome to Bright Eye. You say that you and the booze will have to part company - good on you ;)? It would be a good idea for you to start on The First 7 Days, you'll find it under Sobriety Challenges

Speak soon ;)
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Hi Tom - oh yes I would love to believe in a higher power !!! but lets face it mate its us that do the drinking how the hell is something intangible going to help us ???????? We make the decisions - do you honestly believe there is a higher power or is it that you need to believe that ?

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Sorry guys but this is SOS.....Used for emergency or reply to a SOS only....Find a thread and chat away ;)?
I Have a Guardian Angel in heaven... I call him DADDY BEAR. I AM NOW 10 YEARS DRY AND LOVING IT,SO PROUD OF ME ;-)
We are all given a 2nd chance every day, it's just we don't usually take them . I TOOK MINE :\:



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alky4sure wrote:em linda - this is a SOS !!!!
What is? Asking tom who is the higher power? Anyway don't take it up with me..Im just pointing out this is SOS thread...
I Have a Guardian Angel in heaven... I call him DADDY BEAR. I AM NOW 10 YEARS DRY AND LOVING IT,SO PROUD OF ME ;-)
We are all given a 2nd chance every day, it's just we don't usually take them . I TOOK MINE :\:


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Linda is quite correct, please chat on another thread as this thread is for people who need immediate and urgent help. Thanks for your co-operation.

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After many mistakes, many lessons not learned, i've finally decided its time to make a change. Today is my 3rd day of sobriety and although I'm happy with my decision, I haven't reaped the benefits yet. I know- "Time heals all wounds" & "give it time". I'm ready to wait.

Alcohol has put a wedge between many things in my life. Relationships, family, friends, strangers, my reputation. I'm ready to give it up and to get healthy.

On top of drinking, I always battle daily with severe depression & anxiety. Yes I'm on a boatload of medications, which also contributes to my black outs during drinking. Some days, I can't get out of bed and it hurts to breathe (even on medication). Some days, I'm functional. A few times, i've stopped my medication to allow my drinking habit to continue.

Currently, I'm single. I've ruined the past 4 relationships I've been in due to drinking & blacking out & cheating. That is not me and its certainly not the person I ever expected to turn into.
If anyone has tips, advice, encouragement for me... It would be greatly appreciated. I don't have much of a support system just yet. I've just freshly admitted to myself I have a problem, I'm not ready to swallow an even bigger pill & admit it to others- Yet.

I feel guilty for what I've done, and for choosing alcohol over special people I once had in my life. Its hard to live with such regret and sorrow.

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Hi, this is my first time using Bright Eyes. I am 37 years old and tend to be a bit of a binge drinker.I have a couple of drinks and get a taste for it and have difficulty knowing when to stop. I gave up drinking completely for a month recently and was so proud of myself! but after a friends reunion party had a few drinks and i am back to square one! I am wondering if anyone has any tips or advise about if it is possible to control how much i drink or if it is best to just give up completely. I would like to give up completely but it seems difficult with socialising etc. Any advice will be helpful!

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Hi Rose

Good to meet you and welcome to Bright Eye. Well done for the month off, you've got every reason to be proud of yourself!!!

By what I read it might be a good idea for you to give up drink, certainly for two or three months because after that you can sit back and think about your next move and you can do it truly sober. Why not start on The First 7 Days where you'll meet a lot of people that have just started, what do you think :?:
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Rose 13 wrote:Hi, this is my first time using Bright Eyes. I am 37 years old and tend to be a bit of a binge drinker.I have a couple of drinks and get a taste for it and have difficulty knowing when to stop. I gave up drinking completely for a month recently and was so proud of myself! but after a friends reunion party had a few drinks and i am back to square one! I am wondering if anyone has any tips or advise about if it is possible to control how much i drink or if it is best to just give up completely. I would like to give up completely but it seems difficult with socialising etc. Any advice will be helpful!
Welcome to all new members :)

Rose - I can only say that I was in a similar situation to you and finally found it easier to abstain totally. When I tried to control my drinking I'd be successful for a while but then the amounts built up until I was back at square one - and all the time I'd have the double stress of worrying about how much to allow myself to drink and worrying if I'd go over that. At least with abstaining there's only the single stress of remembering that I don't drink (and that's getting easier - even managed a holiday totally AF). George's suggestion of the sobriety challenges is excellent - you'll get support from others at the same stage as you.
Good luck with whatever you decide. xx KK
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Thank you Krafty Kat and George for your advise and for the The first 7 days link.I am going to join that now.It will be great to talk to people at the same stage to.When i gave up last time i found the first 14 days the hardest so that will really help.
thanks again

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