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Hi Martha :)

You sound very anxious, which goes hand in hand with a heavy drinking bout. I remember it well and i hope to reassure you and help you feel less worried and more in control of your thoughts. The most important thing to hold onto is that this awful feeling IS going to pass, if you can stay away from alcohol just for today. Try not to panic or think too far ahead. Stay close to BE and post as much as you want, and then you won't be alone in monitoring your health today. If you are at all worried about anything else then remember NHS 111 is a good first place to call. Good for you in reaching out, thats what BE is here for xx
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Hi Martha, Shadowlad is right, try not to think too far ahead, just focus on today, take it hour by hour if you have to. You said you want to numb your thoughts, is there anything else you can do to distract yourself? Take time to cook a nice meal, do a jigsaw, anything which isn't too taxing, but which will take your mind off drinking.

Stay close, you're not alone xx

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Martha I hope you are ok. We were on the threads together back in January. I know how you are felling today - I had gotten myself into a right state recently where each day was progressively worse than the one before. I was panicking and thinking 'I can't to this, I can't stop'. Yesterday morning I honestly didnt know how I was going to get through the day but then I posted on BE and some lovely people gave me support, reassurance and really good advice. Today has been much better - it's really amazing what a difference 24 hours can make - what I'm trying to say is it will get better, and like Shadowland says, it will pass. Hang in there and keep posting if you can, there is so much support for you here.
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Hi Martha, Felix and Shadow,

Martha, I am in a similar place this morning. You provided such kind support to me when I was on the 7 day challenge a month or so ago. I hope you read the previous posts and are feeling more optimistic today.

I drank a lot this weekend with my OH. It started nice weather and both of us having a day off. But I carried it through the entire weekend and cannot drink today because I have work later. I am anxious even though I know I have nothing real to be anxious about. I actually accomplished a lot over the weekend, but sleep was awful. I know it's the alcohol withdrawal that is making me feel this way so I am trying to stay positive. I know it will pass for me and I know it will pass for you.

My plan is to stay hydrated, accomplish a few small tasks before work, and eat nourishing foods. AND stay connected. Best wishes all.

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Hello there Martha, Clovercat, Felix and Scarlet :)

Good idea to keep well hydrated Scarlet, and eat regularly if you can to get your energy levels up. When i used to drink like that it played havoc with my nervous system and everything felt out of sync, both physical and mental. The trouble is it only gets worse over time and the binges can get closer together, and longer, leading to worse withdrawals. That happened to me eventually and the nightmares are worse than the general anxiety, and so is vomiting when you are trying top keep alcohol down to ease all the discomfort. We really don't think we will get that bad, but the good thing about BE is that you don't have to if you can stop or reduce consumption in time :)

Like the others i was just wondering how you are today Martha ? I hope you are alright <:)>

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Hi Martha :) Well done for your day one. That must have took a lot of strength and determination to struggle into work. Try and get plenty of rest tonight and do reach out any time you need some moral support.

Take care xx
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Hi Martha. Excellent job getting to work. It shows that you are dedicated and you care about your employment and fellow employees. I suggest making a plan before work is over for how you might handle the temptations in the evening. And, yes, REST! Rest makes everything clearer. Best wishes!

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Martha, good to see you are still with us and have posted again. I think we may be in a similar place having gone through a shocking Day 1 yesterday. I didn't make my work, which only adds to my worries, so well done to you and for making it through the day. I'm not posting on the challenges at the moment because I'm finding them too daunting but the other threads are just as good with so much support and kindness from members. Hopefully see you posting around too. Take care today.
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*Felix* wrote:Martha, good to see you are still with us and have posted again. I think we may be in a similar place having gone through a shocking Day 1 yesterday. I didn't make my work, which only adds to my worries, so well done to you and for making it through the day. I'm not posting on the challenges at the moment because I'm finding them too daunting but the other threads are just as good with so much support and kindness from members. Hopefully see you posting around too. Take care today.
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Thank you for taking the time to post JoholdBrook. I'm doing much better and it is all thanks to being here on BE. The advice and support from others is truely quite amazing, and humbling, and I would say to others who find they are struggling - stick in there and keep posting, you will be helped through.Thanks again, to everyone.

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Ok this is not good. It's 6.30am and I'm downing a bottle of wine (after two bottles last night). I'm drinking so the hungover won't be so bad... Vicious circle?! My baby is safe. His daddy is home and knows I'm an alcoholic so he will take charge. I so want to stop but can't. I know I can do it.. I was sober for 6 years before drinking again after giving birth to my baby..PND was diagnosed.
I don't really know where I'm going with this and will probably pass out in awhile but just wanted to talk.

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Hello QB
I'm glad you posted. I know all too well where you're coming from <:)>
Is there anything specific that triggered this?
Can you get some water too?
In my experience depression causes us to drink but then we get even more depressed.
I'm here if you want to talk more, here or pm me.
I got through a very bad day yesterday thanks to some very kind PMs and know how much being able to talk here can help.
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Morning Queen Bee. So sorry you're feeling like this and you're right - it's not great to need a drink first thing in the morning. Good that your partner is able to take care of baby. I wonder if there is any way you could go back to bed and ride out the hangover if he will take over for the rest of the day? On the other hand, depending on how much you normally drink, it could be dangerous to stop 'cold turkey'. Can you talk to your doctor about your drinking and ask for help to stop safely? If you're still depressed and on medication, drinking will counteract any good it may do you. You're not alone with this so keep posting if you need to and try damage limitation today. Drink plenty of water, try to eat a little throughout the day <:)>
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Morning QB, am saddened to hear after 6 yrs.
Sobriety you have fallen foul into addiction again , but well done for trying and reaching out again . Am thinking you probably need medical help with this and obviously you realise that , bit like teaching my grandma to suck eggs really .
Please get the help you need and deserve , keep posting when you feel you can <:)>
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Hello QueenBee, welcome to the forum :)

Yes many of us here will recognise the vicious circle of drinking to quieten the awful morning after. It just seems to go on, like there is no way out.

I'm sorry you suffered with PND, which must have been very difficult for you. The 6 years sobriety previously is to be commended, this is a lifelong condition and staying on the abstinence road is the real challenge, as we all know. With help and support you can get back on it ;)?

Right now though you may need some medical intervention to stop drinking because of the large amount of wine that is being consumed. The safest advice is to seek some advice either from your GP or to ring NHS 111.

Do take care and i wish you well,

Nicky xx

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I drank all weekend long from the moment I got up. I feel like death along with the shame, awesome combo :| I need to stop this but can't seem to do it. No booze today and I'm going to ban it from the house. I want to be free.
Let's do this.

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Jamie*angel wrote:I drank all weekend long from the moment I got up. I feel like death along with the shame, awesome combo :| I need to stop this but can't seem to do it. No booze today and I'm going to ban it from the house. I want to be free.
Morning Jamie, am sorry you feel so rough today , am thinking GP help might be needed here , this is nothing to be ashamed of ,not everyone can do it on there own.
Also if possible support groups in RL would be useful when you can face it or even just a chat on the phone can lift the weight a little .
Take care , keep posting ;)?
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Hi....well im new 44 male admitting i have a drink problem. I can go days without a drink and i never drink at home but wen i want one i go all out to get it. Its cost me my job an worst still my wife. It doesnt matter if theres an important event drink wil win if i get the chance and if it doesnt i will make the chance....sneaking out ect. It started wen i had a successful custody battle for my son against my ex and has since gotten steadily worse.....i cud go months without binging now its days an it doesnt help that work payed me off an im bord sitting on a potential booze fund. I want to take control of this but i seem to have my finger pressing the selfish switch. Im not violent or even agressive even wen drunk but im incosiderate stupid and selfish wen i am and im hurting those around me.

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Hello Cookie1972, and a warm welcome to Bright Eye :)

Firstly credit to you for admitting your alcohol problem and for your very honest post. It is half the battle to overcoming the problem when we don't blame others and accept responsibility for a problem that is ours and ours alone. You have picked up the reigns to take control by seeking help and i hope you find this forum useful. It has certainly helped me stay sober.
Have a good read around the forum and post where you feel comfortable. It might be a good idea to start on the 7 day challenge to give yourself a week free from alcohol whilst you work out what to do from there. People who wish to stay completely AF often carry on with the sobriety challenges to feel the benefit of abstinence, with lots of support and encouragement along the way.

Once again well done for recognising your alcohol problem,

I wish you well,

nicky xx
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Hey Cookie1972 <:)>
It's a good place to be, here on B E.
Hope to see you on the 7 days thread (if that's what you want to do).
I'm on day 2 today.
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