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Post by Topcat » 03 Dec 2017 14:41

Good luck Janey. Hope things improve <:)>
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Post by janey12 » 04 Dec 2017 18:00

Just a quick message to say thank you for your advice and support. Don't want to use up any more time on SOS, but just to say hubby down to one bottle of cider today and tomorrow should be nil. I managed to stay alcohol free today, difficult but have managed it. Still not asking for his money back, happy for me to hang on to it to stop him going out buying any. Makes me sound like a "control freak", but it stops me worrying that he is going to disappear in the middle of the night to the nearby 24 hour Tesco.

Also want to say a big "well done" to everyone on Brighteye. I always look on Brighteye, not confident enough to give advice while I still drink now and again, but will be giving my support from now on. I am over the moon at the regular names I know from nine years ago, who helped me so much when I was really troubled and you have all done brilliantly. Made my day. Thank you again.

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Post by QueenBee » 10 Jan 2018 22:08

I need help... I've been drinking two bottles of wine a night for 2 years... I've tried getting help from my GP but on two occasions they've just reported me to Children's Service's...

I guess I'm hoping there is help/Support/advice to quit the demon drink but remain anonymous.

TIA

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Post by QueenBee » 10 Jan 2018 22:09

I need help... I've been drinking two bottles of wine a night for 2 years... I've tried getting help from my GP but on two occasions they've just reported me to Children's Service's...

I guess I'm hoping there is help/Support/advice to quit the demon drink but remain anonymous.

TIA

QB

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Post by QueenBee » 10 Jan 2018 22:41

Ok obviously no help on here. Will drink another bottle and get help elsewhere.

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Post by Lush4life » 10 Jan 2018 22:51

QueenBee wrote:Ok obviously no help on here. Will drink another bottle and get help elsewhere.
Only just seen your post sorry!
There is lots of support here try not to be disheartened its getting late here, have a good read around and tomorrow lots more people around ;)?
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Post by QueenBee » 10 Jan 2018 22:56

Doesn't matter... already disheartened..been kicked in the gut too many times.

Thanks anyway

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Post by Shadowlad » 10 Jan 2018 23:18

Queenbee, don't be disheartened, we understand though because we have all felt the same when people dont respond it feels like nobody has heard us, and it is not at all easy reaching out. Will you stay and say some more, like i have just done. I dont drink anymore but have taken the risk of exposing how vulnerable i feel. But this is not about me now, i have support in real life, but it hasnt always been that way. It must be so hard for you to trust. I was once reported to social services, through a misunderstanding , it was a horrible feeling. I hope you are alright xx
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Post by Sandy » 11 Jan 2018 08:04

Hi Queen bee so sorry there was no one around when you posted last night.
I hope you manage to come in again today and stay a while where there are more people around to give you support

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Post by martha » 11 Jan 2018 08:06

Queen Bee, I do hope you come back today <:)>
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Post by QueenBee » 19 Jan 2018 09:59

How did you all quit drinking? I really need to stop as it is completely out of control...I constantly feel like shit and have no patience with my toddler.

The craving to drink is unreal...I just can't say no!

Please help. I've hit my rock bottom.

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Post by Lush4life » 19 Jan 2018 10:58

QueenBee wrote:How did you all quit drinking? I really need to stop as it is completely out of control...I constantly feel like shit and have no patience with my toddler.

The craving to drink is unreal...I just can't say no!

Please help. I've hit my rock bottom.

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Morning QB, i couldn't do this on my own , i tried, tried and tried again going round in circles as you are now .
A understanding doctor was required to help me with cravings/anxiety the whole gambit of problems that naturally come with addiction.
This is no magic bullet of course much work still needed on my part too and i will admit it didn't work for me first or second time , we're all different of course.
So i would say get yourself an appointment , be Very honest with your doctor and i wish you all the very best, this can be done , i know sobriety feels like distant dream but it can be our reality if we want/ need it enough , i feel for you, truly
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Post by Shadowlad » 19 Jan 2018 12:43

Hello again Queenbee,

Have you tried going straight to your local addiction services ? I know it is hard to trust after the GP experiences but when you are struggling so much and at a rock bottom, it could very well be a lifesaving starting point (addiction services). It is such a relief to take a leap of faith and accept help. I understand you have an infant and this must be difficult for you because the child's needs will be quite demanding, leaving very little time or energy to prioritise your own health. I wonder if there is anybody you trust who can help with your toddler whilst you seek help in your local area ? The local addcition services are specialists in our problem and will approach your problems without prejudice (or at least they should do). Obviously they still have to safeguard, but they are there to help first and foremost .As Lush says, we cannot do this alone, many of us have tried over and over but found success once we sought help. I was at a rock bottom and out of control too and getting help was the best thing i ever did. Do take care QB and believe you can get well again, because you can :) <:)>

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Post by QueenBee » 19 Jan 2018 17:34

Thanks Lush and Shadowland.

Unfortunately Lush I've had two bad experiences after confiding in my doctor so I have learnt my lesson to keep quiet.

I will look into Alcohol Addiction Services Shadowland. Thank you.

I will also try and keep in contact here for advice and support.

QB

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Post by Shadowlad » 19 Jan 2018 17:52

QueenBee wrote:I will also try and keep in contact here for advice and support.
Good idea QB. The forum is the best place to guarantee anonymity, perhaps even Tobin's online counselling if it would help ? Addiction services are certainly worth looking into but be sure you can safely be honest without being judged or incriminated.
Also is it worth looking back at what helped you stop in the past, what really helped then ? At least you know if you can get over this hurdle, and back into recovery, you have the determination and skills to live sober. Don't give up ;)?
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Post by Lush4life » 19 Jan 2018 18:50

Sorry QB , i didn't realise , what a shame doctor took that attitude, take our lovely shadows advice she's a font of knowledge ;)?
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Post by faith2be » 22 Jan 2018 21:26

QB I just want to add my support.
I also had/have a problem with alcohol and with kids in the mix it can become debilitating. Many on here will testify to that.
Keep on the forum. It does help.
So does real life help but I know all too well it doesnt always turn out supportive. If child services had turned up on the doorstep unnanounced some time back when it was really bad, cripes, my kids would have been whisked off me. I live in a low alcohol tolerance society.

So noone will judge you here. Only support. And as ithers have said, please have patience if noone responds immediately. Sometimes folks just aren't around. This is why the other SOS thread with emergency numbers was established, for times when noone is picking up the threads.

All the best. Keep posting
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Post by smh1 » 07 Feb 2018 09:03

Hope this is okay to come on here, there is a new contributor on the new member site who I think needs the wisdom of someone who has tapered successfully or sought medical help, can someone with relevant experience help them out please, sorry if not appropriate for this thread. Sue
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Post by Mark. » 07 Feb 2018 11:04

Thanks, Sue - I think I've seen the new member you mean on the New Members thread, last night? I'm afraid I don't have that kind of knowledge/experience, but I'll keep an eye out.

And, hopefully, someone else will have better advice than I can give to the new member ;)? <:)>
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Post by Kokoda » 07 Feb 2018 11:32

We all have moments when it gets very hard to say no. Try to stop and drink something else or distract yourself with something that works for you. Sometimes it's trial and error, but tomorrow is a new day with a new start.
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