Ellalu wrote: ↑
30 Jun 2020 07:23
Hi, I have been drinking 4 vodkas a night for years. I want and need to stop now, hope to get some good advice on here on how to do it.
Hi Ellalu, and welcome!
It can feel nigh on impossible to break a habit that has become so engrained. It's easy to say, 'I will not drink today,' but the nearer it gets to the time of day you'd normally pick up the first drink, the scarier it can feel, can't it? It's almost like a superstitious fear: however irrational we know we are being, we still get The Fear: we fear something bad will happen if we don't drink, or we tell ourselves that we really need
this drink today and that tomorrow will be a better
day for quitting.
Actually, unless we've been regularly drinking very high amounts of alcohol, nothing bad happens when we stop drinking. It's all good. We stop hammering our health, we wake up brighter-eyed every day, and we are no longer enslaved to addictive behaviour.
For Day 1 and then sticking with it, I'd recommend the following:
1) Read and post here as often as you can. There's good, friendly advice everywhere on the forum. I'd also advise trying the Sobriety Challenges
, beginning with the First 7 Days
. Doing this in company can really help.
2) Bear in mind that the first few days and weeks will sometimes bring small trials. Your body will begin to adjust (but never forget that this means recovery!) and your mind too. There will be times of stress and temptation but these can be overcome. The two techniques I've found most useful, especially in the early days are the Ten Minute Rule and HALT:
The Ten Minute Rule:
if you find yourself craving a drink, tell yourself that you can have a drink - but not for ten minutes. Almost every time, you'll find that after ten minutes the craving has passed or is a lot less intense. But if the craving's still there, just repeat the ten minute rule... and repeat it... and repeat it. You might be surprised to learn how effective this can be.
when we crave alcohol, aside from the physical addiction, there are often other reasons causing the cravings:
unger: eating can immediately put an end to cravings for alcohol. In fact, often we don't recognise hunger for food and just assume it's a thirst for booze.
nger: anger can inspire us to want to drink. Instead, if there's nobody else to complain to, log on here and rant away. You'll feel better for it and the cravings will pass.
oneliness: another reason to drink. So instead, visit or phone a friend, or again log on here. There's usually someone around to chat to.
iredness: relaxing by watching television or a DVD, reading a book, taking a long bath, or going to bed early are all so much better for us than "relaxing" with a drink.
3) Sometimes, people find quit-lit useful. Personally, I've never found the likes of Allen Carr helpful so I can't comment, but for others his work and that of authors such as Catherine Grey have been life-savers, so investigating them would be something to think about.
In truth, reading as much as you can about problem-drinking here and elsewhere, and thinking about your own relationship with alcohol (asking yourself when and why the problematic habit started, and so on), is highly beneficial. The more you understand the problem the more you will inspired to fight on and fix it.
I'm others will pitch in with other ideas too
Very best wishes, Ellalu, and I'll look forward to seeing you around!
na wrote: ↑
30 Jun 2020 08:21
Another returner here.
I'm crossing posts with Na, sorry! Lovely to have you back!
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