Thanks for the info. Yes definitely hangxiety. Nothing specific currently, but there has been things over the last few years which have lead to the build up of drinking. Guess the drinking cycle has just kept it high.Mark. wrote: ↑23 Feb 2021 13:48That's a conundrum for a lot of us, I think! A vicious circle, perhaps. What I do know is that alcohol really does only increase anxiety, often unfocussed anxiety (what they call "hangxiety" - the anxiousness you get while hungover).
Also, if there are specific issues that are making you anxious, they really are better handled while sober.
So, giving up or even just cutting down is a really good idea!
Please read around the forum and join in as much as you can, wherever you wish, and ask all the questions you need to. There's loads of friendly support and advice here from a lot of members who are either in the same boat or have been there.
Very best wishes and I'll look forward to seeing you around
I shall be reading things and hopefully improve myself. I have drank again yesterday and today. But not the silly level which ended up with overload anxiety and pretty much nill by mouth for a day.
I think due to past experience I am not setting a short term or long term goal right now. Just a medium term. Which is lower gradually to avoid the anxiety and then have a month off. Then I may be able to focus better and see where I am.
Hopefully I'll keep around. I know how people can pop up and never be seen again on this sort of thing! Once of the worst things about the drinking is that I seem to never do anything that I like doing. Have too much and just sit and do nothing. I miss my hobbies and actually being focused.
Thanks for that, I am only really starting to see how much of my anxiety is caused by the alcohol alone. I have been putting it down to other things for too long. I'm not dicounting the fact I may have some actual medical issues under everything which cause some anxiety. Just that I need to get clean/low use in order to determine what is what.SoberBoots wrote: ↑24 Feb 2021 17:59Hello Guybrush, welcome! I used to be superanxious too. I'm amazed how much of it was caused by the alcohol, both directly as a withdrawal effect, and indirectly becasue of things I'd done/not done while drinking. You're absolutely doing the right thing - don't expect instant results, as things that take a long time to build up can also take a long time to unpick, but both your physical and mental health will greatly improve without alcohol in the mix.
I am looking forward to my chat with the local support on Monday. They helped me before but early 2020, well you know what has been going on. It was not an easy change for them either and I got all this is not working. But like I said I feel more up for it again. My main issues is that I am very picky about who gives support and if we don't get on right it makes it pointless and I am often unable to say, sorry you are not working can I have someone else (it's not easy!). In the past I had a good hypnotherapist but he has retired. He was good becuase he was a RMN previously and before that actually trained my mother in general nursing as a reandom coincidence! So had the sort of background I liked. But such are hard to find.