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The Three P's: Practical, Purposeful, Pleasurable

Post by Mark. » 14 Apr 2013 18:24

loosebanana wrote:As mentioned on 'regrouping' how about a thread for The Three P's?

Do something Practical
Do something Purposeful
Do something Pleasurable

We could list what we have done, it's just three things and is an easily manageable daily thing?

Thanks, Loose Banana - great idea! ;)?

As Loose Banana puts it:
loosebanana wrote:… the three Ps - do something Practical (I did a heap of laundry!), do something Purposeful (I cycled to town to go to a support group), and do something Pleasureable (I sorted through all my photographs and learnt some new techniques, and made a nice curry!).

As active drinkers there are so many wasted(!) days where we achieve nothing. So even setting small goals for the day helps to develop some structure. And even if you don't do everything you set yourself then at least some things got done, and you can do the others tomorrow.

Anyway, that is what is helping me at the moment.
We also liked Dave/Jaxom's further clarification of what the Three P's might mean to someone:
Jaxom wrote:Practical = a chore which must or should be done but which is not necessarily pleasurable e.g ironing, grocery shopping, going to work

Puposeful = an activity which has the main purpose of developing me as a person e.g. attending an alcohol support group meeting, exercising to improve/maintain my physical health, studying to improve my knowledge or employability. Basically a 'good' thing to do and to be done whether I am in the mood for it or not

Pleasurable = something I want to do for the sheer enjoyment of it, whether it achieves anything measuable or not

Of course there are many ways in which this can be approached. I think the main thing is that we aim for three separate activities which include doing the necessary, improving ourselves and just bunking off for some 'me' time. The end result should be a day filled with worthwhile activity while including time just for ourselves to chill out and enjoy life.

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The day's not done yet, but so far, for me, I've done something ...

Practical: finished a job for a client;

Purposeful: written a list of things I need to do tomorrow;

Pleasurable: watched a Moody Blues documentary while eating bacon and eggs.

How about you? :D
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Post by Boris Bike » 14 Apr 2013 19:42

Very well set up, Jarvis. \:)/

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Post by Rachel » 14 Apr 2013 20:09

Today has been a bit of a practical overload for me.

Practical: doing a lot of housework, sort of a spring clean, in preparation for my m-I-l's visit. That in itself could come under practical and purposeful insofar that it will take a lot of effort to remain on a 'spiritually' even keel when she is here). Remotely sorting out a few problems for my mother e.g. finding out how she can unlock her land line phone. Thank goodness for the internet!

Purposeful: some reading prep for the creative writing course I am going on which starts on Tuesday.

Pleasurable: eating a meal of brown bread and butter and creamy, herby, garlic mushrooms, which was nice in itself, but even more pleasurable because I had worked up a proper appetite for once.

All domesticity today.
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Post by loosebanana » 14 Apr 2013 21:13

Practical: Cleaned the windows (looong overdue, bought the cleaning stuff ages ago).

Purposeful: Volunteered for conservation work at a local RSPB nature reserve. Online Sunday SMART meeting. Made a list for the week.

Pleasurable: Went for a bike ride somewhere new, read Jonathan Livingstone Seagull.
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Post by freedom1 » 14 Apr 2013 21:20

Practical... errrr ....best I can come up with is sorting out my grocery shopping list and doing an online order; washing up; getting my dog training records up to date

Purposeful... 30 mins of rebounding exercise in my "fitness and fatloss" campaign; online SMART meeting too...

Pleasureable: gundog training, slobbing in front of log fire
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Post by Hereagain » 15 Apr 2013 14:05

2 o clock and managed my 3 P s already :)

Practical - went to town and did some errands and paid some bills etc.

Purposeful - joined my local gym with the money I have saved this year not boozing :) swimming is one of my real pleasures which I have not pursued for a year or so and I have signed up to do the Great London swim in August in aid of Macmillan so need to get in training fast! Will only be doing classes like Zumba etc. and swimming as I find actual gyms rather boring but it is a step in the right direction to spending time that I now have spare not drinking or recovering from drinking :)

Pleasurable - on my way home treated myself to a pannini and a cappuccino in a lovely little cafe.

Rest of the day to spend on housework before I return to work tomorrow :roll:
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Post by Hereagain » 15 Apr 2013 17:34

Way to go Paula (::) Not sure I ve got the energy to do another 3 today though :o ;)

Love this thread (thank you LB and Jarvis). I think once the initial euphoria of stopping drinking subsides it s great to be able to focus on the 3 P s (so to speak!)
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Post by Mark. » 15 Apr 2013 19:39

Hereagain wrote:I think once the initial euphoria of stopping drinking subsides it s great to be able to focus on the 3 P s (so to speak!)


That's what I think too, Hereagain! ;)?

It worries me slightly that many of my days are very similar and that I might struggle to find different P's. Hopefully, however, this thread will motivate me to live a bit more of a varied existence than I have of late :D

Practical: I got a lot of piddly items ticked off my to-do list, plus I'm about to write a new entry for my proofreading blog.

Purposeful: I finally got round to investigating some new ways of socialising/meeting people in the area.

Pleasurable: I watched The Mighty Boosh on DVD while eating my lunch!
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Post by Hereagain » 15 Apr 2013 20:25

Jarvis - it can become a new "challenge" for us to come up with variations each day. I think it s a brilliant thread and will help to motivate us ;)? If I ve run out of 'P' s by the end of April I ll bail out gracefully ;)
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Post by Sheila » 16 Apr 2013 07:08

Yesterday -

Practical - gave the house a good clean through, hung out washing which actually dried, and did all the ironing ;)?

Purposeful - 30 minutes of yoga and muscle toning exercises ;)?

Pleasurable - had a nice relaxing evening watching tv ;)?


I'll post today's later when I've had a chance to do them ;)
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Post by Rachel » 16 Apr 2013 11:38

Practical: did a bit of tidying and dusting beforework this morning in perparation for MIl's visit. Made/am making a concerted attempt at picture research at work, which I have been putting off because it's hard and I don't enjoy it.

Purposeful: will go out at lunch time and buy stationery for my course tonight, and read another short story.

The first two p's sound a bit trivial, but I am finding it really hard to motivate myself to do anything today.

Pleasurable: hmm... hopefully tonight's course, and might treat myself to a nice lunch.

It's interesting how most us have food as a pleasure so far!
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Post by rexsmom » 16 Apr 2013 15:41

Love this!

Practical - at work trying to make a living :lol:
Purposeful: did Tabata Work out and living a Paleo Lifestyle (no sugar, no grains, no dairy)
Pleasurable: that will be later today - maybe a mini in home spa evening. :o

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Post by Mark. » 16 Apr 2013 17:13

Practical: found, emptied and re-filled a couple of pen drives.

Purposeful: to my slight annoyance (not to say, my complete worry) I've found myself put in charge of organising this year's writers' club dinner. I am not a natural born organiser :roll: But I did bring all the arrangements so far up to speed today, so I can feel quite confident about reporting back to the other members, tomorrow evening.

Pleasurable: I listened to Susanna Hoffs and Matthew Sweet's amazingly wonderful album of '60s covers, "Under the Covers, vol. 1"
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Post by freedom1 » 16 Apr 2013 19:10

Practical: mowed the lawn, refilled all the bird feeders, did some vegetable shopping

Purposeful: ( Fitness and fatloss): 30 mins of rebounding, 1hr walk, detox treatment.

Pleasurable: Watching the birdson the newly filled feeders, walking through primrose filled woodland, log fire. vegetable soup.
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Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
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Post by Jaxom » 16 Apr 2013 19:16

Practical:went to work and fixed things ( tis my job)

Purposeful; Oh, :oops: Went on BE to post a special message to a special person. Does that count? It meant a lot to me cos she is a purposeful person

Pleasureable: taking Sherlock The Parrot out of his cage for Playtime. Cue parrot talk: Playtime?
playtime? Squauwk! It's playtime!" And then they try to tell us parrots just mimic? So why does he say Bedtime at 9 o'clock and no time else?
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Cocked up a bit on Pleasurable bul honestlly I am laughing, The cheeky monkey has just bombarded me with chewed paper, bit my ear hard and shouted 'Arghg'! Sneaky birdie. No hope but loveable!
An Inuit story. An old man is talking to his grandson: 'Inside me are two dogs fighting: a black one and a white one.` `Which one will win?' asks the boy. 'The one I feed'

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Post by Hereagain » 16 Apr 2013 19:37

Practical: back to work so earning a living!

Purposeful: listed some numbers of hypnotherapists in my area because I want to tackle smoking next and am going to make an appointment with one.

Pleasurable: nice long walk and caught up with Broadchurch on sky. Now to watch Arsenal play (might edit that to Painful depending on the outcome :roll: )
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Post by hamsa » 17 Apr 2013 01:57

Practical: Ran errands, grocery shopping, mailed a package

Purposeful: Sent an email to inquire about joining a local Toastmasters chapter to conquer my debilitating fear of public speaking

Pleasurable: Took a 30 minute nap before picking up daughter from school and starting the evening taxi service and meal provision.

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Post by Sheila » 17 Apr 2013 16:44

Practical - Chopped up the last of the leeks from our allotment and put in freezer ;)?

Purposeful - Persuaded OH to tidy the garage ;)?

Pleasurable - Caught up with Emmerdale ;)? (While OH was in the garage ;) )
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Post by freedom1 » 17 Apr 2013 18:33

Practical: emptied the compost bin & gave the kitchen a rather better than average clean (i'm not very good at cleaning :oops: )

Purposeful.. finally stopped procrastinating, went to my studio (aka bedroom!) and started a commissioned drawing piece

Pleasurable: delicious pear and parsnip smoothie, Tai chi (shortly)
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Post by Hereagain » 17 Apr 2013 18:42

Practical: have done 4 lots of washing having been without my washing machine for over a week :x

Purposeful: did some of my online computer course (during my lunch break :roll: )

Pleasurable: went round a good friends for a coffee and a catch up :)
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