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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Spats » 12 Feb 2019 08:38

Ahah, found you bizzy! Good to see you’re reconsidering your way through this ;)? I’m with AmyJean in that you have to find what best fits you. After a while you’ll look back and see how much AF time you’ve clocked up. I jump across the threads to maintain that AF feeling. Best of luck to you and I’ll see you here sometime ;)?

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by BizzyBee » 12 Feb 2019 22:54

Thank you Amy and spats.
I've just reset the counter again this evening after a ridiculously full on day at work. Need to stop finding excuses tho and just not grab a drink!!!
The only good thing about having tonight's drink was that it was the last drink in the house. A bottle of cider that's been sitting in the fridge for nearly 2 weeks so the fact it's been there that long is pretty good for me!! Usually if there's anything in, I drink it. Especially if it's wine or cider! So my will power has been pretty good. It's gone now so hopefully I'll pull it back. I do need to change my mindset of having a drink when I've had a stressful day. Especially with my job!!!
Anyway, I feel quite tiddly off one 500ml bottle so thinking that's a good thing too? My tolerance is much lower!?! It is a 7% bottle, but still!!
Drinking water now to try and rehydrate before I go to bed.
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by DannyD » 15 Feb 2019 14:29

Happy birthday Amy. I hope you have a lovely day and all your parties go as you want.

<:)> <:)>
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by caroline95 » 15 Feb 2019 17:42

Happy Birthday Amy, have a great time and a lovely party 🎂

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 15 Feb 2019 18:18

Happy birthday amyjean \:)/ \:)/ \:)/
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by martha » 15 Feb 2019 21:10

Happy birthday Amy! \:)/
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Spats » 17 Feb 2019 10:06

Bizzy I’m just the same. I think we need to add to the anacronym to remember

Hunger
Anger
Lonely
Tired. And now S
Stress

There’s also Emotions. Different emotions can waken up that alcoholic demon : Sadness, happiness, extrovert or introvert

A number of feelings have got to me this year and I’ve ended up drinking. I only started to keep a journal recently so now I can see what is affecting me. Even so I have been mainly sober this year. I’m hoping Friday will be the only time I caved this month.
We can only try to remember our triggers when those cravings arise and control them. Sometimes it’s easier than others.

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by DannyD » 17 Feb 2019 19:52

Recognising your triggers is a clever trick. Then try and match it with a tool from the box.

Not sure what my trigger is at the moment. February blues I think.
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 17 Feb 2019 23:34

Hi Mostlies :\:

Been feeling quite down today too Danny. <:)>

I've done absolutely nothing today, not even washed. :oops: Didn't get up till 2 pm and barely got dressed, back to my volunteering tomorrow so hopefully that'll cheer me up.

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Spats » 18 Feb 2019 07:36

Was the same on Saturday Ruby, drank Friday night and woe is me Saturday (w) Yesterday I got to grips and got on with a lot of work. I’ve still got a lot of things to do on my house and could have finished them a while ago but for drinking getting in the way. I’m learning though, I’ve come a long way since I’ve been with BE ;)?

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by DannyD » 18 Feb 2019 12:15

Ruby I can totally agree. I know I should have a shower - and decide to not go out - and not bother. Yesterday I met with a group of ladies all on their own and all older than me (and I'm in my 60s). Mostly saying that a) they don't feel lonely (I do), and b) they cook for themselves every day (I don't). Recently, all I ate all day was roasted nuts and maltesers that someone had given me. That's not really caring about yourself is it? Just February. Bet I die during a February, because I can't be bothered or something.

Spats my loft ladder is broken (broke last week), so the hatch is balancing on my jammed-open bedroom door. I could try and fix that. Can't be enthused.

Doom and gloom. Just call me Eeyore.
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 19 Feb 2019 00:04

Spats wrote:
18 Feb 2019 07:36
Was the same on Saturday Ruby, drank Friday night and woe is me Saturday (w) Yesterday I got to grips and got on with a lot of work. I’ve still got a lot of things to do on my house and could have finished them a while ago but for drinking getting in the way. I’m learning though, I’ve come a long way since I’ve been with BE ;)?
Sorry to hear that but glad you've learnt from it and moved on. ;)?
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18 Feb 2019 12:15
Ruby I can totally agree. I know I should have a shower - and decide to not go out - and not bother. Yesterday I met with a group of ladies all on their own and all older than me (and I'm in my 60s). Mostly saying that a) they don't feel lonely (I do), and b) they cook for themselves every day (I don't). Recently, all I ate all day was roasted nuts and maltesers that someone had given me. That's not really caring about yourself is it? Just February. Bet I die during a February, because I can't be bothered or something.

Spats my loft ladder is broken (broke last week), so the hatch is balancing on my jammed-open bedroom door. I could try and fix that. Can't be enthused.

Doom and gloom. Just call me Eeyore.
I also get quite lonely Danny,I need to talk to somebody every day or my mood dips and I've been living on cereal and peanut butter toast ever since I started this diet! I guess we both could do with some pampering, luckily I've got Jim, I see him a couple of times a week and he cooks. :D

Yeah February is quite depressing, roll on spring. <:)>

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by DannyD » 19 Feb 2019 08:50

The sun is trying to burn it's way through a very frosty start. If I can find sufficient energy, I'll do some digging. Sunshine and exercise should make me feel better about myself.
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by DannyD » 22 Feb 2019 06:05

Fog horns going. I guess it's a cloud kissed wake up call. The birds are singing - one of the blessings of Spring.

Recently I've been mostly drinking. I need to focus more on the fact I am still fairly healthy, and can't go on like this. Get a grip and be mostly sober.
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 22 Feb 2019 23:34

DannyD wrote:
22 Feb 2019 06:05
Fog horns going. I guess it's a cloud kissed wake up call. The birds are singing - one of the blessings of Spring.

Recently I've been mostly drinking. I need to focus more on the fact I am still fairly healthy, and can't go on like this. Get a grip and be mostly sober.
Sorry to hear this Danny. <:)> Hopefully spring is just round the corner (if it hasn't arrived already), there's a difference in the day length already. How's the crochet and knitting coming along? I haven't picked mines up in months and the wool cost me £40! And soon we'll be able to get back into the gardening. Have a great weekend, sober or otherwise. <:)>

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by DannyD » 23 Feb 2019 07:01

Thanks Ruby. Just can't seem to find my mojo. However, a little Bon mot from fB this morning, reminds me that My Curren Situation is Not My Final Destination, which gives me hope.
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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by leesmythe » 26 Feb 2019 00:06

I often think do I need to stop all together or can I get this heavy binge drinking that turns into morning drinking and no sleep for two days into normal social drinking like others do?

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 26 Feb 2019 00:18

Hi Lee and welcome to BE, I think it's extremely difficult for a binge drinker to turn into a normal social drinker, many people would say it's impossible. I certainly think a period of abstinence would be a good idea, most people start on the 7 day challenge.

Good luck with your journey.

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by leesmythe » 26 Feb 2019 08:08

Thankyou Ruby
There are times when I can drink sensibly and normally however I am vulnerable to when I am stressed I seem to pursue absolute oblivion. Maybe a period of abstinence and then re assess?

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Re: Mostly Sober

Post by Spats » 26 Feb 2019 08:37

Drinking increases and often causes the stress lee

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