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Are you drinking now ?

Any tips or advice to prevent a relapse, alternatively any of your stories about your own relapses.
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Topcat » 23 Oct 2018 08:00

Na - So sorry to read of your troubles and I echo the wise words of Jos <:)> Drinking is not going to help the situation at all, but you know that. Your son needs you to be there for him and to be strong <:)>
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by na » 23 Oct 2018 13:03

Thanks guys....really appreciate it. You are both so right, I think part of the problem is he has lost confidence. But he definitely still needs me. I'm rough today but I'm not giving up.
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by na » 07 Nov 2018 19:37

Its 7.30pm and the drinking thoughts are coming thick and fast. I decided to come on BE and seen that I was the last person to post in this thread and I couldn't remember what I had posted...so I was drinking last time (according to my post) because of the stress of my son, leaving sixth form etc. He started work today! Apprentice to a barristers clerk so what would be the reason for my having a drink tonight? To celebrate of course :roll: I will not make excuses and drink tonight, celebratory or otherwise.
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by na » 07 Nov 2018 19:40

Topcat wrote:
23 Oct 2018 08:00
<:)> Drinking is not going to help the situation at all, but you know that. Your son needs you to be there for him and to be strong <:)>
This really spoke to me last time. I'm not drinking now or tonight
Na x
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Topcat » 07 Nov 2018 20:32

na wrote:
07 Nov 2018 19:40


This really spoke to me last time. I'm not drinking now or tonight
Na x
Glad it helped Na <:)>

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Summer Dreams » 13 Nov 2018 07:20

Yes I am. I think I will drink myself into eternal oblivion this time.

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Lush4life » 13 Nov 2018 07:28

Summer Dreams wrote:
13 Nov 2018 07:20
Yes I am. I think I will drink myself into eternal oblivion this time.
Have responded to you my friend on sos thread.
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by SoberBoots » 13 Nov 2018 07:37

Summer Dreams wrote:
13 Nov 2018 07:20
Yes I am. I think I will drink myself into eternal oblivion this time.
I responded to you on the other thread too. I remember that 'I feel terrible about drinking, so I'll drink more to blot the feeling out' loop all to well. It doesn't have to be like this, it really doesn't. Life can turn around surprisingly quickly, and the catalyst for this for me was understanding that I simply couldn't carry on as I was - quite apart from the physical damage, I hated myself so much. I look back now and it's like looking at a film, it's so different to how things are for me now.
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Spats » 23 Dec 2018 01:25

Yes. And I’m going to holiday back until New Years Eve (w)

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by SoberBoots » 23 Dec 2018 09:13

Spats wrote:
23 Dec 2018 01:25
Yes. And I’m going to holiday back until New Years Eve (w)
Spats <:)> You're just giving yourself licence to binge for days on end. Is that life really what you want? There's never a good time to start, but every time is a bloody good time to start!
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Spats » 24 Dec 2018 08:40

Posted on another thread SB. Back on it. Aiming for one full week AF, day one today ;)?

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Post by Cowboy » 24 Dec 2018 11:46

That's great Spats. So many times when I have fallen I just let the booze wrap me in it's arms. It takes courage and guts to jump right back on the wagon. Pretty sure you will feel better on Christmas morning without a hangover.
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Post by Spats » 25 Dec 2018 22:25

Didn’t stick to it though. But AF today and will be tomorrow as I’m driving ;)?

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Spats » 03 Jan 2019 00:22

Why ? I don’t know. And smoking too. Why? I don’t know. Actually maybe because I didn’t have a plan. Day was mixed and unpredictable. Then got caught up with diy project which took me over and didn’t eat much.

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Post by DannyD » 03 Jan 2019 04:36

Spats I'm trying for Dry Jan. Yesterday - only day two - I drove home from work with the teasing 'I want a drink' thought, so stopped and bought a Chinese. And that was that. I got home, ate, and the drinking thoughts faded away. Eat, EAT, EAT. It makes a huge difference.
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Pork » 03 Jan 2019 06:37

Don’t eat Chinese ppl though. You will get in trouble :?

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Maypole » 03 Jan 2019 17:35

DannyD wrote:
03 Jan 2019 04:36
Spats I'm trying for Dry Jan. Yesterday - only day two - I drove home from work with the teasing 'I want a drink' thought, so stopped and bought a Chinese. And that was that. I got home, ate, and the drinking thoughts faded away. Eat, EAT, EAT. It makes a huge difference.
So true DannyD..... I was so close the last couple of days to saying sod it and picking up a bottle of wine, but ate instead and watched yotube videos about drinking and curtailed the drinking thoughts... waking up Day 4 and really pleased with self.

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by SoberBoots » 03 Jan 2019 20:01

Maypole wrote:
03 Jan 2019 17:35
DannyD wrote:
03 Jan 2019 04:36
Spats I'm trying for Dry Jan. Yesterday - only day two - I drove home from work with the teasing 'I want a drink' thought, so stopped and bought a Chinese. And that was that. I got home, ate, and the drinking thoughts faded away. Eat, EAT, EAT. It makes a huge difference.
So true DannyD..... I was so close the last couple of days to saying sod it and picking up a bottle of wine, but ate instead and watched yotube videos about drinking and curtailed the drinking thoughts... waking up Day 4 and really pleased with self.

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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by martha » 03 Jan 2019 20:24

Spats wrote:
03 Jan 2019 00:22
Why ? I don’t know. And smoking too. Why? I don’t know. Actually maybe because I didn’t have a plan. Day was mixed and unpredictable. Then got caught up with diy project which took me over and didn’t eat much.
How are you now, Spats? Come back and post again soon. We need you!
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Re: Are you drinking now ?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 03 Jan 2019 23:45

<:)> <:)> <:)> spats, you can do this. ;)?

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