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successful cutting down?

Any tips or advice to prevent a relapse, alternatively any of your stories about your own relapses.
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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Pork » 14 Apr 2019 06:03

You’re not so different you & I ruby 👍😎
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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 14 Apr 2019 06:24

Pork wrote:
14 Apr 2019 06:03
You’re not so different you & I ruby 👍😎
Keep on flower 😎💪
Got the same sense of humour too 💩 :D when's your holiday? I hoped to get a winter holiday but this court case is still ongoing, maybe next year. :evil:

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Pork » 14 Apr 2019 08:10

27th so two weeks :D

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by SoberBoots » 14 Apr 2019 09:10

Ruby&Tilly wrote:
14 Apr 2019 05:08
I'm greedy and want the best of both worlds, the default position is abstinence but I want to drink occasionally, definitely not every week (or month?), Just when I'm out with the girls or on special occasions. Definitely not to drown my sorrows. I look at alcohol as a slippery slope, I was pretty far down before I joined BE but from the last year I've clawed my way back up a bit, I don't ever expect to be at the top, ie a normal drinker. It does take a bit of planning, I buy small bottles if I'm drinking in the house, (hopefully) stick to 3 glasses of wine in the pub, neither of which gives me a hangover. I do crave for a day or two after but then it seems to get back to normal, I was at the theatre tonight and it never even crossed my mind, I've also had a few occasions where I planned to drink and decided against it as my friends won't be drinking, I certainly couldn't do that in the past. I hope I can maintain this but I want to try and I can also change my mind at any time should I feel it's getting out of hand. I know it's not for everyone, it's still early days but I feel more confident dipping my toe back in now.

Good luck to everyone in whatever they feel is right for them. ;)?

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Good luck with it Moira! I did manage to moderate for a few years by counting units. It crept up - I think that (apart from the progressive nature of addiction) the other problem was a lot of stress associated with an awful relationship break up with the love of my life. It sounds like you're planning to limit quantities and only drink on positive occasions, which is good strategy! I admit to being anxious for you, but hey.
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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 14 Apr 2019 14:55

Thanks for caring Sally, I certainly will be monitoring it closely and I think, if things go pear shaped, I will be able to go to back on the wagon, good luck with your own sobriety. ;)?

Pork, have a lovely holiday when it comes. (::)

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Pork » 14 Apr 2019 15:04

Thanks Ruby. I’m not anxious for you or me 👍😎😜
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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 29 Apr 2019 06:16

Honestly i'm quite anxious for both of us pork, I really hope it works out for us Both, are you going back to abstinence after your holiday? I'm planning a few little bottles of wine at the Beltane festival tomorrow night, about 6 units. Just hope I can stick to it. Hoping to do may and most of June sober.

Have a great holiday. (::)

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 01 May 2019 00:23

The Beltane Festival was fab, home now and just finishing off the last of the wine. Really pleased I managed to stay within my 6 unit limit, it helped that most of my friends weren't drinking and we left earlyish.

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Spats » 01 May 2019 07:09

Great news Ruby, so good you managed to keep your alcohol intake down (::) Seems that more and more people are looking to becoming sober ;)?

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Melon5555 » 07 May 2019 06:09

Ruby&Tilly wrote:
01 May 2019 00:23
The Beltane Festival was fab, home now and just finishing off the last of the wine. Really pleased I managed to stay within my 6 unit limit, it helped that most of my friends weren't drinking and we left earlyish.

Ruby xx
Hi Ruby well done. This is something I’m thinking about rather that the total abstinence route. Seems less dramatic if it’s possible to do it. For now I’m giving up completely for a little while but feels good doesn’t it when you can have a great time and not be wasted ;)?

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by SoberBoots » 07 May 2019 07:31

Melon5555 wrote:
07 May 2019 06:09
Ruby&Tilly wrote:
01 May 2019 00:23
The Beltane Festival was fab, home now and just finishing off the last of the wine. Really pleased I managed to stay within my 6 unit limit, it helped that most of my friends weren't drinking and we left earlyish.

Ruby xx
Hi Ruby well done. This is something I’m thinking about rather that the total abstinence route. Seems less dramatic if it’s possible to do it. For now I’m giving up completely for a little while but feels good doesn’t it when you can have a great time and not be wasted ;)?
Melon, if you can do a few weeks then set an initial goal of 100 days (there's a challenge thread for this). That's long enough to see some real recovery, form new habits, have a chance to reflect about your relationship with alcohol and how you want it to be, and make clearer decisions.
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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Melon5555 » 07 May 2019 11:57

Not a bad call that. Longest I ever went was 13 weeks and with a new job coming up soon that’s probably a very good idea 👍🏻

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Re: successful cutting down?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 07 May 2019 22:34

Cheers Spats, hope you're doing well too. (::)
Melon5555 wrote:
07 May 2019 06:09
Ruby&Tilly wrote:
01 May 2019 00:23
The Beltane Festival was fab, home now and just finishing off the last of the wine. Really pleased I managed to stay within my 6 unit limit, it helped that most of my friends weren't drinking and we left earlyish.

Ruby xx
Hi Ruby well done. This is something I’m thinking about rather that the total abstinence route. Seems less dramatic if it’s possible to do it. For now I’m giving up completely for a little while but feels good doesn’t it when you can have a great time and not be wasted ;)?
Hi Melon and thanks. :\: I was abstinent for almost 6 months (and about 9 months with a couple of blips) before I decided to reintroduce. It's true what they say that moderating is more difficult than abstinence, for me at the moment, it's worth it but I'm still not sure that I will be able to maintain moderation in the long term. It's something I need to keep a tight grip on.

Good luck with whatever you decide. ;)?

Ruby xx
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