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Any tips or advice to prevent a relapse, alternatively any of your stories about your own relapses.
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Post by TrueState » 28 Mar 2019 20:40

Maybe you just have to accept this is gonna be a bit of an ongoing internal struggle Pork and just make sure you prepare.
Prepare for not drinking, either completely or most days with making sure you have all the alternatives with you, AF beers if you like those, busy schedule, fantastic food etc. Prepare for drinking but maybe not as much as you might have done back in the day so to speak Prepare for it all to get a bit out of hand and the drinking continuing beyond your holiday and how you will get yourself back on track.
All that's left then is to get excited about your holiday and spending time with your mate.

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Post by Pork » 29 Mar 2019 08:13

Aaarrrhhh 😎👍🦄

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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 12 May 2019 22:11

I'm seeing my psychiatrist on Tuesday, very worried how it's gonna go but planning on having a drink (6 units) that evening. I don't get any negative side effects from this much wine as long as I stick to it. Hopefully, I'll stay over at Jim's and he will have a few drinks too. Will probably go walking on Wednesday as the weather is so nice.

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Post by martha » 13 May 2019 20:09

I hope things go ok tomorrow for you, Ruby, with the psychiatrist.
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Post by SoberBoots » 13 May 2019 20:42

Best of luck tomorrow
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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 13 May 2019 22:55

Thanks Martha & Sally, I've got a long list of questions I want to ask the b'stard (psychiatrist). I've found an email address for another one of my ex psychiatrists and thinking of emailing him about the Ultradian bipolar cycling I get as it only lasts a day (that's why they all think it's borderline personality disorder). It may backfire but if it doesn't go well tomorrow I may tell the psychiatrist to go f**k himself. I think a reference from him may be worse than useless.

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Post by SoberBoots » 14 May 2019 13:02

Would he be more co-operative if you focused on the medication you find helpful and want to have, rather than getting into a debate about diagnosis?

Sorry if that's an umhelpful thought!
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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 14 May 2019 20:20

Cheers Sally, he refused to discuss anything on my list, he was annoyed but agreed to lower my olanzapine slowly, probably because he had a student in to impress, I'm seeing him in 2 months, I'm taking an advocate next time, all I asked was the criteria I have that gave me a BPD diagnosis and he wouldn't look at the ultradian cycling information that I googled.

I've had my 6 units and now on the AF cider.

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Post by martha » 14 May 2019 20:47

Ruby&Tilly wrote:
14 May 2019 20:20
Cheers Sally, he refused to discuss anything on my list, he was annoyed but agreed to lower my olanzapine slowly, probably because he had a student in to impress, I'm seeing him in 2 months, I'm taking an advocate next time, all I asked was the criteria I have that gave me a BPD diagnosis and he wouldn't look at the ultradian cycling information that I googled.

I've had my 6 units and now on the AF cider.

Ruby XX
Hi Ruby. It seems so frustrating. I wondered about advocacy so that's a good idea for next time. Hope you're feeling ok xx
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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 14 May 2019 21:24

Hi Martha, to top it off I had a very stressful time with my befriendee, it's really not in my remit to counsel her, so I've given her the crisis number and will speak to my boss tomorrow.

As for the psychiatrist, I'm playing the long game, need to keep the bastard on side til then, all I want from the twat is my driver's licence and my pip assessment.

Feeling ok, may phone the samaritans later and have a good moan, already moaned to my friend and sister and Jim.

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Post by martha » 14 May 2019 21:32

What a tough day, Ruby. You're handling it all well.

Samaritans is always a good call <:)>
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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 14 May 2019 22:07

Thanks Martha, I may regret this but I've just emailed another ex psychiatrist to try and get a diagnosis of Ultradian Cycling Bipolar. I'm past caring what that arsehole has to say.

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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 14 May 2019 23:31

Ruby&Tilly wrote:
13 May 2019 22:55
Thanks Martha & Sally, I've got a long list of questions I want to ask the b'stard (psychiatrist). I've found an email address for another one of my ex psychiatrists and thinking of emailing him about the Ultradian bipolar cycling I get as it only lasts a day (that's why they all think it's borderline personality disorder). It may backfire but if it doesn't go well tomorrow I may tell the psychiatrist to go f**k himself. I think a reference from him may be worse than useless.

Ruby xx
Just got an email back from Prof Ebmeier (it only took 10 minutes for the reply), he's given me the email of a Professor in Glasgow who specialises in Bipolar and hopefully I'll be able to get a second opinion from him. I'll probably speak to someone in the advocacy service before I contact him just in case there's clash of interest, but I'm really hopeful that I'm getting somewhere.

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Post by SoberBoots » 15 May 2019 07:59

That's brilliant Ruby, and what a great way to approach it. You've stayed on track and come up with a strategy, instead of diving into a bottle (::)
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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 15 May 2019 11:34

Thanks for all your support Sally, it really means a lot. ;)?

Moira xx
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