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Any tips or advice to prevent a relapse, alternatively any of your stories about your own relapses.
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You'd be in a terrible mess if you let your toddler rule!
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LolaCat wrote:
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SoberBoots wrote:
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You'd be in a terrible mess if you let your toddler rule!
Yep! Have spent most of my adult life in said mess, enough is enough.
Me too. It's never too late to start again, but it is foolish to throw away the chance.
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So sorry to hear you're struggling Lola but well done on going to the shops and not buying alcohol (::) , I didn't trust myself to go out last night in case I ended up in the offie. Sounds like you have a plan, but don't hesitate to post if the cravings get out of hand again, besides I've only just made it to the twofers, we were gonna share that gateaux. :lol2:

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Wish I could rule out drinking on holiday but those thoughts are still present.
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It might be easier if you try and put the "shall I/shan't I" thoughts to one side until the holiday actually becomes a reality Piggy. Then you can decide if you want to at that moment rather than agonising over it beforehand.

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Thanks Topcat.
I mostly do just think about it from time to time.
I want to not drink but I also want to chill with my mate.
Even if I do decide to drink I will not go back to bad times. Hopefully :?
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How difficult would it be to chill with the mate without drinking?

I get bored with AF beer in pubs, but it does serve a purpose, making some occasions doable. Would it help with your holiday? I don't know where you're going, but in Tenerife earlier this year I was surprised to find that every bar and restaurant had AF lager.
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Hi Pork

Was just wondering if you'd talked with your mate about it? Always hard to predict how other people will respond even when we've known them ages and know them well (or the opposite for that matter). Sometimes the reaction from them can unlock what we really want deep down. Anyway, I hope the internal battle doesn't become all consuming.

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I know the answer from him. \/
Was round another mates for dinner last night & they think I will drink.

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I find most friends have little insight about me and drink. Even the most supportive and understanding, have a detectable inner scepticism about me maintaining it long term, and are always surprised if the subject of it being nearly two years comes up. Most of the others don't think that I ever had that much of a problem. I see my drinking as being entirely about me, and nothing to do with anyone else (this is the perspective that enables me to hang out with drinking friends, go to the pub etc without finding it a challenge to my sobriety). So I don't think you should be influenced by what your firend's think. We all have a wise self, and if we're quiet and listen generally we can hear what it's saying (even if a lot of the rest of us doesn't want to listen!). So I'd listen out for that voice.
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Doctor told me to ignore those voices :?
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Maybe you just have to accept this is gonna be a bit of an ongoing internal struggle Pork and just make sure you prepare.
Prepare for not drinking, either completely or most days with making sure you have all the alternatives with you, AF beers if you like those, busy schedule, fantastic food etc. Prepare for drinking but maybe not as much as you might have done back in the day so to speak Prepare for it all to get a bit out of hand and the drinking continuing beyond your holiday and how you will get yourself back on track.
All that's left then is to get excited about your holiday and spending time with your mate.


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I'm seeing my psychiatrist on Tuesday, very worried how it's gonna go but planning on having a drink (6 units) that evening. I don't get any negative side effects from this much wine as long as I stick to it. Hopefully, I'll stay over at Jim's and he will have a few drinks too. Will probably go walking on Wednesday as the weather is so nice.

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I hope things go ok tomorrow for you, Ruby, with the psychiatrist.
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Best of luck tomorrow
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Thanks Martha & Sally, I've got a long list of questions I want to ask the b'stard (psychiatrist). I've found an email address for another one of my ex psychiatrists and thinking of emailing him about the Ultradian bipolar cycling I get as it only lasts a day (that's why they all think it's borderline personality disorder). It may backfire but if it doesn't go well tomorrow I may tell the psychiatrist to go f**k himself. I think a reference from him may be worse than useless.

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Would he be more co-operative if you focused on the medication you find helpful and want to have, rather than getting into a debate about diagnosis?

Sorry if that's an umhelpful thought!
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Cheers Sally, he refused to discuss anything on my list, he was annoyed but agreed to lower my olanzapine slowly, probably because he had a student in to impress, I'm seeing him in 2 months, I'm taking an advocate next time, all I asked was the criteria I have that gave me a BPD diagnosis and he wouldn't look at the ultradian cycling information that I googled.

I've had my 6 units and now on the AF cider.

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Cheers Sally, he refused to discuss anything on my list, he was annoyed but agreed to lower my olanzapine slowly, probably because he had a student in to impress, I'm seeing him in 2 months, I'm taking an advocate next time, all I asked was the criteria I have that gave me a BPD diagnosis and he wouldn't look at the ultradian cycling information that I googled.

I've had my 6 units and now on the AF cider.

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Hi Ruby. It seems so frustrating. I wondered about advocacy so that's a good idea for next time. Hope you're feeling ok xx
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