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I Can't Stop... Or Can I?

Any tips or advice to prevent a relapse, alternatively any of your stories about your own relapses.
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by notorious » 02 May 2010 21:39

Yes. Yes you can.

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by sammyj » 02 May 2010 22:27

Fairycake

You are NOT useless. You have made it to this site along with everyone else on here. And what an amazing bunch of people. Lost, Daffodil and I started on here about same time and I have found incredible strength and support from them.

I am only on Day 3..... but to get that far is an acievement believe me. I have 2 young children too and I hear exactly what you are saying. Make this Day 1 and join us on the 7 day thread.

We CAN do this!!

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Bela » 02 May 2010 23:11

FairyCake, it's not easy but you CAN stop. You drank yesterday, but today is another day.
Don't beat up on yourself, just don't drink today and you will be fully back on board tomorrow.
Can you schedule a break from your children? Of course you are a good mum and you love them, but can you manage some nondrinking "you" time without them? What you would do with that time that might lighten your spirits?
Whatever works.

Cravings stop going where they aren't fed.

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Bela » 02 May 2010 23:15

Mr. Man, please keep working on this. You CAN stop.
Alcohol is an addictive substance, that is why it is so HARD.

Most of us here who are making progress are not leading lives of unbridled bliss.
Life is still a challenge. Some days are very difficult. Don't expect nirvana.
But life will be better overall when you 'breakthrough" the cycle you are caught it.

Keep posting. You can certainly support others even though you are struggling. <:)>
Whatever works.

Cravings stop going where they aren't fed.

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by fairycake » 03 May 2010 13:14

hello all

thankyou all so much for your kind words and for taking the time to support me - this site is amazing - I have received so many PMs - I cried for help and so many of you answered and sent me messages - each one priceless to me. <:)>

One PM I received pointed me in the direction of help for my eating issues which I believe to be linked to my alcohol issues - I really believe I can not solve one without the other - so I need to work on both..

I am still aiming to cut down (rather than out) and to be honest I have not had great success but I am hoping that working on my eating issues, self esteem, over all health will really help me to cut down...and eventually, maybe quit..

I did not manage a dry weekend - but today is a new day - and I won't give up ;)
'I can't' is dead. He is survived by his brother and sister 'I can' and 'I will'.

'Success is the ability to go from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm' Winston Churchill

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 03 May 2010 20:28

Mr Man

How I sympathise... ...I've stopped for nearly 4 months and then over the last 10 days slid down the snake to the bottom again. Each day I say right- back to the abstinence, and then by lunchtime or early afternoon, orsome suitable other point, I just say "sod it" and open a can or a bottle. Weak willed or what.

Today I have found a little resolve. Water and tea. I hope this lasts.
"Let me respectfully remind you,
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 03 May 2010 20:49

By way of talking myself in to staying sober.... yes, I did nearly four months. I have done 9 months in the past.

Yes I felt better than I have felt for years.. (and yes, I drank again. Bloody WHY?)... I want to have that clear headed, elated, strong and in control feeling again- the feeling of being totally sober and loving it, instead of the shit that is drink.

I don't think I even like it any more - drink that is.

I feel a bit like ranting, but I'm not sure what about. Perhaps I should go into the hills and scream or something.

carol
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Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 03 May 2010 20:49

keep up the efforts everyone its hard but worth it though!!!

Andy
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 03 May 2010 20:53

phm - yellow card from me. I HATE platitudes and I'm in the mood for a rant.
"Let me respectfully remind you,
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 03 May 2010 21:00

rant away then :-D
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by zelda » 03 May 2010 21:02

Well rant your bloody head off then!! You need to get the disappointment with yourself and the frustration at falling back a notch off your chest. I suggest lying yourself on a bed of nails and getting a big fat bloke to jump up and down on you :? That should just about be ok as you are too old for me to send you to the naughty step.
Shit, nine months is fantastic. How did you feel after that stint? I have been told that to succeed, some people need to fail to understand better how to progress more successfully in the future.
Maybe you should write 'why did I do it' nine hundred times? by eight hundred you might know why and know how to stop that happening next time.
You have done it in the past so you can do it again. YOu need to focus now on WHAT YOU WANT.
Get your arse into gear my girl.
Zelda xx
and yes, I am following you round the boards!:! :shock:

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 03 May 2010 21:05

you best watch out Zelda has an evil high kick ;-)
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 03 May 2010 21:08

Ooh errrr missus.. a big fat bloke jumping on top of me on a bed of nails? Now you're talking! Bring him on. Haven't had a bloke jump on top of me for months.....
"Let me respectfully remind you,
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by zelda » 03 May 2010 21:12

:? it was meant to be your naughty step replacement, I will have to think of something more suitable :?

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 03 May 2010 21:15

how about Mrs P's whips ?

or will that be toooo much fun ;-)
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 04 May 2010 08:12

Hi Martin

Ok.. how are you doing? How are the withdrawal symptoms?

After not drinking yesterday, I slept last night like a log, and have woken up feeling much better mentally, though with those symptoms of a muzzy,fuzzy hangover which is withdrawal, I guess.

I think I've sighted my missing resolve in the distance and I'm going off affter it....
"Let me respectfully remind you,
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by damson » 04 May 2010 09:43

Hi everyone, I'm going after Freedom's new resolve as well cos last night I drank OH's wine which I don't even like. Not particularly hungover but not happy with myself.
I guess there are lots of reasons why we do these things and they are obviously all individual - but I don't like going over stuff that I cant change so I'm blocking it out and starting again. I can't even put my finger on what the trigger actually was so that's not very helpful - unless it was just tedium and boredom.
Anyway its a New dawn, new day etc. the sun is shining and altho I can't do much in the garden cos of my bad arm I'm going out to do a bit of pottering.
Have a good day folks - keep strong
Damson

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 04 May 2010 10:35

Ok, then.. pack up yer rucksacks and put on yer hiking boots and we'll set off. I'm sure we can catch the elusive resolve somewhere in the hills.

Do you think a butterfly net would be appropriate?

(Ps, Martin-- I'm doing the washing... by hand.. current marina has no laundrette and I had an unfortunate accident last night when a hatch wasn't properly closed on my boat, and soaked all my sheets, duvet, pillows etc.
so out with the buckets and the equivalent of treading grapes.... at least it cleans my feet!)

Carol
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Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by damson » 04 May 2010 11:23

rucksak packed, hiking boots laced - hope you manage to get your washing done!
Damson

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 04 May 2010 11:50

Washing now done... how about yer ironing, martin?

All ready for the off?
"Let me respectfully remind you,
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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