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I Can't Stop... Or Can I?

Any tips or advice to prevent a relapse, alternatively any of your stories about your own relapses.
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 05 May 2010 12:43

Martin get back on the 7 Day thread :-)

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by freedom1 » 05 May 2010 16:40

Martin....
See what happens when you do the ironing rather than put on yer hiking boots and come with Damson and I in search of resolve. you need to find it!
"Let me respectfully remind you,
Life and death are of supreme importance.
Time swiftly passes by and opportunity is lost.
Each of us should strive to awaken. . .
. . . awaken,
Take heed. Do not squander your life."

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by damson » 05 May 2010 21:04

Martin if you want to post somewhere on a daily basis what about jumping on the hop thread and just committing to stop for that day? Or you could try the I havent had a drink today thread and post on that each evening ... I would hate you to feel that you can't post until you've had 6 or 7 successful days - in my experience that is really hard.
Good luck
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 05 May 2010 22:29

I guess the I will not drink today thread could be thought of as the 1 day challenge, and the I have not had a drink today thread where you post that you where successful :-)

Martin, I'm sure if you keep trying you'll get there :-)

Or do we need to get a 10 min thread for you ;-)

Andy <:)> <:)> Just remember if at 1st you dont succeed try, try and try again :-)
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by damson » 07 May 2010 15:18

Hey Martin, we don't need a 10 minute thread - just post on here every 10 minutes, that'll do the job.
Come on take a deep breath and jump in - you can do it if you try
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by tee » 07 May 2010 19:44

:o :o :o Martin what happened to your avatar? It's like last night when I tucked you in you were my wee cute cousin yet today you have walked in all grown up, full of lankiness and pheromones... :shock:
Perseverance is not a long race, it is a series of short races one after the other.

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 08 May 2010 11:06

Hi Martin,

How are you :?: :?:

BTW Lucy Lamb may be joining you soon :-)

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Dave K » 25 Jul 2010 00:02

I haven't been on here for almost 8 months now. I was doing great without drinking then all of a sudden I did something stupid. I started selling my personal belongings to get a pint of liquor here and there. I don't know why I did it. Something just snapped. I was hiding it from my wife which almost completely ruined us when she found out the first time, which was why I started posting here. I thought this would be enough to help me kick it. I even bought Allen Carr's book Easy Way to quit drinking. I guess thaat wasn't enough. Today she found a receipt from yesterday for a pint of vodka.
I'm afraid things might never be right between us again. She has forgiven me for so much in the past and I keep f**king everything up. I don't get it. She does everything to insure our happiness. I destroy it. I am going to attend my first AA meeting tonight as a last attempt to make things right but I'm afraid it may be too little too late. What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I just stop? It shouldn't be this tough. Why can't I just get my shit together? There's so much going on in my brain right now that it feels like a scribble.
My wife even joined this website the same day I did last year in hopes to pull me out of this. I just don't know if I can fix this. I don't want this to be a pity party for me but my wife just doesn't want to hear this line again. She's so tired of hearing the words that she can't believe me anymore. Any bit of credibility I have is long gone now and I am no longer a man in her eyes, just a constant failure.

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 25 Jul 2010 06:12

Hi Dave,

Welcome back :-)

As youve not posted for a while might be an idea to post a bit about yourself on the New Members thread!!! Not many are likely to find this thread!!!

Have you come across the challenges? Sounds like the first 7 day challenge would be a good place to start :-)

See you around on the threads :-D

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Digga » 25 Jul 2010 06:28

Hi Dave K.
Ive sent you a PM, I hope it is of some help.
All the best.

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Sandy » 25 Jul 2010 17:35

Hi Dave k
Wishing you well at the meeting tonight
can you come back and let us know how you got on?
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by gardengirl_val » 10 Aug 2010 03:17

I can't stop!!!
I'm on ,my 6 th glass tonight/ I've been to a alcohole consellor 3 -4 weeks ago and feel like I have been drinking even more since seing her. How do I stop???????????????????
Pl EASe HELP Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by roledog33 » 10 Aug 2010 03:55

gardengirl_val,
6th glass of what? Wine? Whiskey? Beer? Not that it really matters. I was a whiskey drinker myself.

Are you afraid to stop? I mean, afraid of withdrawal symptoms? These pass in a couple of days.

In my humble opinion:

1. You have to WANT to stop. It seems like you do or you would not have posted here.
2. Dump all alcohol down the sink, toilet, front yard.....get rid of it.
3. Give your car keys to your OH or a trusted friend so you do not try to drive to get more alcohol.

I'm no expert, but that is what I did. And I have been sober 7 days now; after drinking 1/2 bottle to a whole bottle of Jack Daniels or Crown Royal whiskey on a daily basis.

All the best,
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by George » 11 Aug 2010 12:15

Hi Val

Roledog makes a couple of very good points. Firstly, you have to want to give up and if you do then that's half the job done. Secondly, does it scare you? That is a huge problem for a lot of people who worry about not only the withdrawal symptoms, which the doctor can deal with, no problem but also fear of losing the escape route because that is what drink is to a lot of people, me included. For what, thirty years it went on. If there's a problem then pour a drink, not sure what to do then pour a drink and think about it, don't like what's happening so pour a drink. It got to the point with me that if it was raining I'd pour a drink, if the sun was shining then I'd - you get the idea I'm sure. When you do stop these things are no longer the problem they were. They might still need to be dealt with but it's a lot easier if you're not drinking. Sober, with a clear mind and the problem is still a problem but you can sort it. What do you think :?:

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 11 Aug 2010 12:36

Hi Val :D

Not much I can add to george and Roledogs comments here, other than to take a good look around the forum and post any questions you have.

Roledogs point about wawnting to give up is an important 1, and very important. Do you want to stop or is it a case of you have reasons that mean you think you should stop? For most people it seems to be the latter. Not sure how that really helps, but moving your mindset from I'm stopping for some external reason to I'm stopping because I DONT WHAT TO DRINK IS a big move in the right direction :-)

Not sure if you want to cut down 1st or just go big bang cold turkey, that is for you to decide, there is the Cutting Down thread, also the I will not drink today because thread and also a bit of fun on the August Hop thread, best of all is the First 7 Day thread which gives you the 7 day target as a good first step, but all give you a great chance to meet and get to know a lot of others who are at the start of the same journey as you :-D

Andy, hope to see you around on the treads :-)
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by flowerkid » 12 Aug 2010 10:11

i wish i could stop :( dont know why i cant.I just find myself going down the Alchol isle,and there at the checkout 2 bottles of wine.Then off to the bottle bank with the empties,today it was 12 that is over 4 days.I did phone AA never went what a coward.Would love any suggestions if anyone out there has got some,Determined today no wine :( hope i can stick to it

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by damson » 12 Aug 2010 10:16

hi flowerkid, we've not met before and you have my heartfelt sympathy. I have felt like you and believed that I couldn't stop ....but you know what? You can.
I'm glad you're not going to drink today - and you will feel so pleased with yourself tomorrow. Stick around here lots and talk to people, you'll get lots of support. Or do something completely different and go out for a walk or go swimming or something - nothing that involves going past alcohol shops though!
Good luck, you can do it. Just take that first step
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Andy » 12 Aug 2010 11:24

Hi flowerkid <:)>

Welcome to BE, the 1st step is admitting you have a problem and starting to do something about it :-)

Take a good lok around, there are loads of threads covering most drinking issues and many others :-) Just ask any questions you may have.

A good place to start are the challenges, most people start on the first 7 day challenge which is a great place to meet and get to know others going through the early stages of stopping, so there tends to be a good concentration of advice for those early days :-)

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Re: I can't stop.

Post by Sandy » 12 Aug 2010 11:30

Hi Flowerkid and welcome to BE
Good advice there from Damson and Andy.
Have a good read around and post where best suits you.
believe me you are among people who have felt/feel exactly as you do today..You are not alone!
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Re: I can't stop.

Post by momof5girls » 05 Feb 2011 17:50

So I am posting here as I think this matches up with my current state
I was so hungover last Sunday I had to spend the day in bed.
I had a charity function and 2 pieces of my work were donated as prizes.
I also worked as a volunteer
(and I also drank way too much...thankfully I did not cause a fuss but I can't represent my company and designs while out of it)
I read Allan Carr Easy to Control your Drinking" I also bought easy way to Stop Drinking...turns out to be almost the exact book.
It made huge sense...but I continued drinking all week.
I have a ton of exciting/stressful developments in my life
After 3 years of very hard work...my little design business is gaining ground
I have passed the jury and been accepted as an exhibitor to the One of a Kind Show in Toronto Canada in March
over 500,000 visitors in three days. That is excellent exposure and truly an opportunity of a lifetime.
Since October I have battled to quit.
I stopped for 29 days
started back
Quit for 11 days in December
Back with a vengeance
I finally plucked up the nerve to talk to my doctor
He prescribed Valium for "tremors and shakiness"...only for that
I want to take my LAST DRINK (Allen Carr) today...something gross
Pour out the bit of vodka I have on hand
Last time I did this Tobin suggested that I have a couple of beers for tapering down...the night before
Does the Valium replace that need?
And join a 7 day challenge
I have been on self destruct for too long...
I have to win or I fear I will lose everything
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