Re: successful cutting down?
Posted: 14 Apr 2019 06:03
You’re not so different you & I ruby
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Good luck with it Moira! I did manage to moderate for a few years by counting units. It crept up - I think that (apart from the progressive nature of addiction) the other problem was a lot of stress associated with an awful relationship break up with the love of my life. It sounds like you're planning to limit quantities and only drink on positive occasions, which is good strategy! I admit to being anxious for you, but hey.Ruby&Tilly wrote: ↑14 Apr 2019 05:08I'm greedy and want the best of both worlds, the default position is abstinence but I want to drink occasionally, definitely not every week (or month?), Just when I'm out with the girls or on special occasions. Definitely not to drown my sorrows. I look at alcohol as a slippery slope, I was pretty far down before I joined BE but from the last year I've clawed my way back up a bit, I don't ever expect to be at the top, ie a normal drinker. It does take a bit of planning, I buy small bottles if I'm drinking in the house, (hopefully) stick to 3 glasses of wine in the pub, neither of which gives me a hangover. I do crave for a day or two after but then it seems to get back to normal, I was at the theatre tonight and it never even crossed my mind, I've also had a few occasions where I planned to drink and decided against it as my friends won't be drinking, I certainly couldn't do that in the past. I hope I can maintain this but I want to try and I can also change my mind at any time should I feel it's getting out of hand. I know it's not for everyone, it's still early days but I feel more confident dipping my toe back in now.
Good luck to everyone in whatever they feel is right for them.
Hi Ruby well done. This is something I’m thinking about rather that the total abstinence route. Seems less dramatic if it’s possible to do it. For now I’m giving up completely for a little while but feels good doesn’t it when you can have a great time and not be wasted
Melon, if you can do a few weeks then set an initial goal of 100 days (there's a challenge thread for this). That's long enough to see some real recovery, form new habits, have a chance to reflect about your relationship with alcohol and how you want it to be, and make clearer decisions.Melon5555 wrote: ↑07 May 2019 06:09Hi Ruby well done. This is something I’m thinking about rather that the total abstinence route. Seems less dramatic if it’s possible to do it. For now I’m giving up completely for a little while but feels good doesn’t it when you can have a great time and not be wasted
Hi Melon and thanks. I was abstinent for almost 6 months (and about 9 months with a couple of blips) before I decided to reintroduce. It's true what they say that moderating is more difficult than abstinence, for me at the moment, it's worth it but I'm still not sure that I will be able to maintain moderation in the long term. It's something I need to keep a tight grip on.Melon5555 wrote: ↑07 May 2019 06:09Hi Ruby well done. This is something I’m thinking about rather that the total abstinence route. Seems less dramatic if it’s possible to do it. For now I’m giving up completely for a little while but feels good doesn’t it when you can have a great time and not be wasted
Hi Liz, I know I'm not normal, and that's my good points!, I wouldn't be here if I didn't have a problem, everyone's different like you said, when I first came to BE I could barely go a day without drinking but I've clawed my way up that slippery slope and, although I'll never be at the top, I'm doing much better now, I wouldn't go on the road to abstinence and recommend moderation and the same goes for cutting down, we all know it's a risk but it's one I'm prepared to take.Condor wrote: ↑08 Sep 2019 19:38I hope you can keep it up Ruby and if I’m honest, I wish I could but I know however long it takes, I’ll still go over the top eventually. I’ve always drank, it was all part of the party for me. I was always very gregarious and fun loving but it all got out of hand after two major tragedies in my life that I have never really recovered from.
I think you’re right that there are lots of people out there who make us feel more ‘normal’ when we witness their behaviour. I’ve often sat and thought of how many people I know who I would class as having a problem but who don’t see it for themselves.
If you met me you’d never believe the problems I’ve had and most people who know me are not aware. That’s the beauty of this forum, honestly, soul searching and off loading. Trying to encourage others makes me feel better about myself too. I like to know what other people are doing and saying.
Anyway, you’re right to chill right now, you’re on holiday!
Have a great time and don’t worry about a thing
Ain't THAT the truth Condor.