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Re: The To Do List

Post by JohnC » 08 Nov 2019 22:18

Hiya Folks

Today's been a great day, porridge for breakfast then fed menagerie then other half & me we went out, first stop was Caffé Nero for "2" lge cappuccinos ( I'm a coffeeoholic without doubt ) then to the carvery restaurant for dinner and J20'S then we sat in the lounge/bar supping J20'S and reading newspapers then back home, fed menagerie again ( mxd vegetables am and nuggets pm ).

Hiya aj, pleased to meet you, you sound busy, best way to be I reckon.
Hiya Rachel, hope you're feeling a bit brighter.

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Post by JohnC » 10 Nov 2019 09:52

Morning Peeps

To Done
Washed, shaved & dressed
Had a cappuccino
Had a small bowl of cereal
Chopped a bowl of veggies for menagerie's late breakfast

To Do
Off out with OH for a veggie fry-up at the pub
Back home to feed menagerie
Sit with poorly neighbour for a couple of hours
Back home fir dinner
Feed menagerie
Chillax

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Post by Rachel » 10 Nov 2019 11:49

Glad yesterday went well, John. I hope today is equally good!

I have just planted a load of blubs. I have over 300 to plant :oops: I think I may have just done half. I have a device to make holes which you stand on. A bit like a pogo stick without the spring. Would have been nice to have done them all, but don't want to over do it as still very coldsome and tired. I also had about two hours' sleep last night (at both ends, which is unusual. I got up at 5am wrote half a new story. I can't vouch for the quality...), but hoping the activity and sunlight will help with sleeping tonight. This is the frustrating thing though now winter is nearing. If I want to do anything in the garden I have to do it at the weekend or not at all, as not enough light to do before or after work.

I have also photographed and listed some rather extrovert boots I want to sell on eBay. Worn once (... to local authority-run alcoholics' group in 2011 :? So lovely boots. Not so lovely memory.)

Hoping to go out for lunch, but OH in a mood because I asked him to help me :o He didn't help me (I only wanted him to getch me a bag of compost and help fill in the holes), but did come out and slash away at shrubs and question everything I was doing. He really hates gardening, I guess. (or me?! :o )

to do today
lunch
supermarket for a few basics.
nap (maybe shouldn't as that might use up my gardening sleep aid?!)
some genealogy for someone who has contacted me via DNA results?
I'd like to make biscuits (I have some lovely biscuit stamps I've not tried yet.) I'd like to make dinner. (operation Sunday roast dinner once a month.) But probably won't do either.

I hope everyone is ok and is having a good day.
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Post by Jjjj of Old » 11 Nov 2019 11:15

Morning :D

I hope everyone's had a good weekend!

Sorry, Rachel, that your husband didn't help much (or as you had wished) with the garden. Did you go out for lunch, and did you make the biscuits?
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Aj I like your third question. Would be fun, but small independents do struggle these days. They seem to suppliment income by putting on lots of author events.
A school friend of mine runs a bookshop with her husband in a fairly small town down south. They clearly love their business, but they do have to put on a lot of author events and events connected with their local community. There's no denying that I sometimes bristle with envy at the selfies she posts with the authors she's had in the shop, but I am really happy that it's working well for her :D

Our town is much larger but has no bookshop at all - unless you count the Christian bookshop and tearoom, which is a lovely place but doesn't stock anything non-religious. We used to have three - W.H. Smith's and two second-hand bookshops. All are gone now!

To do:
Monday-is-Sunday, so...
1) Long walk for doggie, who didn't get many over the weekend due to first my bug and then my shift at the shop yesterday
2) Buy the newspaper for the weekend football reports. Yes, I already know the scores but who wouldn't want to read again about Liverpool's magisterial victory over Man City? Not to mention my beloved Peterborough's 1-1 at Stevenage (ahem)...
3) Plan the week: juggling work on the kitchen with proofreading work
4) Dinner, bath, book, bed

I hope everyone's day goes well ;)?
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Post by Rachel » 11 Nov 2019 12:18

Yes to lunch, predictably no to biscuits.

There are quite a lot of independent book shops near me in south east London. Herne Hill, East, West and Dulwich village, Crystal Palace, Sydenham, and doubtless others. I know that the CP one, in particular, is constantly under threat of being pushed out by greedy landlords trying to put up the rent. CP is achingly trendy but often has empty shops because of this issue. Crazy. At the moment it's full of indie shops, but there is a risk that in the end it will be full of Costas, McDonalds and the like and will then cease to be fashionable, of course. Looks like they are shooting themselves in the foot, but of course the landlords don't care about community, only money, and people will still want to live there, I imagine. London is a bit ridiculous really.

to do today:
work (more) I have been doing fruitless picture research. I need to get on with some philosophy.
That's probably it. It's Monday. Although I should take myself out for lunch and do some writing. I have a new (but alas silly) one in my head.

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Post by Jjjj of Old » 11 Nov 2019 13:12

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I know that the CP one, in particular, is constantly under threat of being pushed out by greedy landlords trying to put up the rent. CP is achingly trendy but often has empty shops because of this issue. Crazy.
That is crazy, Rachel, and I can see the ridiculousness of greedy landlords forcing out the very businesses that have made an area fashionable in the first place.

I think a similar effect has been felt in Cambridge during the last two or three decades, to some extent. Plenty of indie shops and eateries still exist; however, many of the most interesting streets (Green Street, Trinity Street and Rose Crescent) have become slightly less unique due to chains moving in because they can afford the rents.

'Tis a shame!
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do some writing. I have a new (but alas silly) one in my head.
I hope it goes well! ;)?
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Post by aj » 12 Nov 2019 08:04

Hi to all,

Lots of writing going on, when I open my bookshop I shall have you come to sign copies of your books 😉.
There is a bookshop in the next town it’s been there for quite a long time, and the only one as far as I know in a twenty mile radius, it has no competition apart from the local Tesco which isn’t a big one.The bookshop itself isn’t that big but has quite a good children’s selection.

Enjoyed my trip to London, although now that my daughters partner has moved in, and her best friend from uni (in fact the three of them started off in halls together) it seems a bit strange. I want her all to myself and realise that someone else wants her to himself too. I think the main problem is the fact that I’m not that bothered about her partner, so humph 🤔.

So back home, pondering life again, and realising that one way or another I have to make my own way forward now.

But for now:
I shall got to work.

Have a good one everyone.

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aj wrote:
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Enjoyed my trip to London, although now that my daughters partner has moved in, and her best friend from uni (in fact the three of them started off in halls together) it seems a bit strange. I want her all to myself and realise that someone else wants her to himself too. I think the main problem is the fact that I’m not that bothered about her partner, so humph
I see where you're coming from, AJ. I really like my daughter's partner, but it did feel a little odd when they first got together. There had always been private jokes between us that I wanted to continue (but without excluding him), and they now had private jokes and so on of their own. It was a change in our relationship that took some getting used to, but it's all fine now.

To do:
1) Get up
2) Kitchen work
3) Walk dog
4) Early night: I have proofreading work, this week, plus some OT backshifts at the shop, entailing a rare five-day working week for me, beginning tomorrow

I hope everyone has a good day ;)?
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Post by JohnC » 12 Nov 2019 21:41

Hiya Folks

Another late entry from me, Wifey and Moi, we've been to Lichfield on the train for most of the day, we had a good time, Wifey bought a pair of boots from a charity shop and a beany hat, we visited the cathedral and later we had dinner at a Wetherspoon's, it was great, I'm tired out now.

Carpet cleaning tomorrow joy of Joy's.

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Post by aj » 13 Nov 2019 10:26

Hi to all,

Everyone seems to be having a busy or productive week 🙂.

Today:
Walk dog
Write some form of study/life timetable
Watch Hamlet online
Read some stuff..not sure what yet
Tesco delivery (first in about a year)
More reading
Pilates
Tea/get sorted for work Thursday
Hour tv maybe
Bed

Back to bookshop dream, a woman came in yesterday that’s starting up a soap shop just over the road from us. This town (village) has a major attraction apart from the beach, but absolutely no traffic through the high street (high more in the sense of height than anything else 😂). Apart from the empty shops there are the obvious charity shop, two antique/junk shops, a failing Spar, Chemist (us) a newsagents come sells everything else on the planet, a cafe that also sells wool (?) a material/upholstery shop, ice cream parlour and a few cafes and restaurants oh, and a nice house stuff shop.
The ice cream parlour and upholstery shop do amazingly well, some of the cafes and the newsagents. The rest are struggling, so I wonder what makes some things work and not others, is it because it’s your own that makes it more appealing, lots of hard work etc.
I wondered yesterday if there were more little independent shops, would that make it more appealing and could I be a part of it. I don’t know anything about Brexit, but is that going to push us more to homegrown stuff.
Answers on a postcard please 😂

Have a good day everyone <:)>

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Post by Rachel » 13 Nov 2019 11:14

I imagine it's a massive learning curve opening a shop as a novice, even having done a lot of research.

Do the successful shops have online shops too? (Obvs not ice cream.)

A cafe/ice cream parlour has just gone down the pan due to raised rents in my local shopping area. This follows on from the delightfully eccentric Jamaican vegan cafe going bust. Ironically a chicken shop was trying to get the vacated vegan premises.

We are lucky to have a bookshop (with large second hand bit), butchers/fishmongers, a slightly crappy greengrocers and some brilliant Turkish supermarkets, a couple of over priced booze shops (won't last? Area not hipster enough) but there are loads of chicken shops, charity shops (not a bad thing, but indicative of the local economy? as are...), non-chain pound shops, kebab shops, nail shops 'unlock your phone' shops, and other things that don't attract my interest enough to register what they are. Probably quite typical of a London suburb, on the crappy shop front. We had a Co-Op which closed, was inhabited by Budgens for about six months (rude/disinterested staff and very little on the shelves) and it's been empty for the last 5 years now.

To do today.
work. Handed chapter over yesterday, so dragging heals a bit (I feel I need a break), but the last spread was not finished so I should get one with some more research.
Problematic dinosaur book may come back today. Hurrah! :? It will need proofing today. Want a job, Jjjj...?!
meeting one-time (two years) ex flat mate. Not seen her for 7 years, or much at all, indeed, over the last 22 since we parted domiciliary ways. I am a bit nervous.

I hope everyone's day is going ok.
Rachel

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Post by aj » 14 Nov 2019 08:27

:\: to all.

Hope you enjoyed your day Rachel. And that dinosaur book is Ok, I’m intrigued though, why problematic?

Today:
Work, home 1-2pm to feed let dog out
Work, home 3pm for dentist
Back to work?
Walk dog
Make soup


Day of toing and froing with not a lot in-between

Hope everyone is OK.

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Post by DannyD » 14 Nov 2019 09:21

Morning peoples. Didcha miss me?

To do
Walk dog
Shop. Get some 'nice' cheese (because I'm worth it).
Bus to work and back. I've an afternoon shift. I could offer to stay on for the evening (did that last week), but on balance think it's more important for me to get some down time. I haven't had an evening off for some time. And because I've picked up shifts, I haven't had a day off for a while. We've still another week of a very busy show.

And that's it. A very one sided life at the moment. I must force myself to do some socialising.

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Post by Rachel » 14 Nov 2019 11:21

Morning!

AJ. Not sure I can mention the problems even somewhat anonymously :shock: They have legal ramifications. I can say that the whole book was ready to be printed, when we discovered something that meant we had to change all the artwork in house.

Certainly did miss you, Danny. I hope all is well.

Busy today.

Corrections to take in - tricky ones for philosophy - ideally before 4pm.
Get train to St P.
Buy things at M&S for mother
Train up north.
As early a night as I can manage. Tomorrow will be tough.

John, Pickles, Jjj... \:)/ Action, I hope you are alright.

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Post by DannyD » 14 Nov 2019 18:54

Well. My whole day got thrown off kilter. Email came round asking for early workers, so I went to bus in - only to have a carload of colleagues stop and give me a lift. So extra hours and a different work role. I'm home now and healthily looking forward to the treat of an early night. Lush.
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Post by JohnC » 14 Nov 2019 21:14

Typed out a post and lost it grrrrrrr.

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Post by aj » 15 Nov 2019 08:25

Hello all, hope everyone is ok,

Work and not much else today, apart from the usual studying/reading. I was very good last night and watched Hamlet, three hours, but I have to say David Tennant was fantastic, no wonder he got rave reviews. I never much cared for him but he’s grown on me in the last few years. There’s another version with Maxine Peake, who I do like, so I shall attempt to watch that over the weekend.

Right I need to get a shift on, after months of going makeup free, yesterday I started putting it on again which means I have to find an extra 5 minutes 😉. I have no concept of time at all, I think I read once that it is an actual thing 🤔

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Post by DannyD » 15 Nov 2019 08:55

Love Hamlet, but I'm not sure I could cope with a Scottish Hamlet. Make up is very over rated....and if you wear it every day, how will you posh yourself up on special occasions?

To do
Take vitamin D. I'm not sure if it's working or if it's a placebo, but this time of year really gets me down usually.
Walk dog
Breakfast
Community cafe for coffee and cake?
Work shift this evening.

Haven't had a full 24 hours off in a few days now.

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Post by Rachel » 15 Nov 2019 09:02

Morning.

Failed journey to mother's last night. I could have cried. Trains cancelled due to flooding. Two consecutive weeks of anxious build up, then nothing on each occasion. Also had an aggressive man verbally abusing me into me for standing too close to him on the train on the way to the station. I apologized but he just wouldn't stop.

Staying at home today anyway. Will do some tidying and writing. Weather a bit rubbish for photography (dull, mask of grey sky, so not even that good for monochrome), but I suppose I could have a go. Study photography theory? And sleep. (Bad night coughing.)

AJ would be interesting to see David Tennant doing Hamlet. I was watching him in Good Omens and it felt a bit like a variant on Doctor Who at times. I have not seen him do much serious stuff. Was wondering if certain aspects of him always tend to peep through. We went to Stratford twice with school. (A long day trip from Sheffield) and saw a version of Hamlet with Roger Rees, Virginia McKenna and Brian Blessed. I didn't know the play (wasn't studying it) but was riveted throughout the whole thing, in spite of cheap, hard seats and only being about 15. Also saw an amazing version of Othello with Ben Kingsley and David Suchet. I love looking at the old programmes - especially to see all people you hadn't heard of then who were/became famous.


So to do:
washing load one on, many to go
feed birds \/
dishwasher \/ running
writing - start silly story, maybe try and finish another silly prompt story for next week's meeting.
tidy bedroom
clear out wardrobe and stick dehumidifier in it :o \/
see if I can download all icloud photos. (but why...?)
maybe take photos for eBay selling.
nap
old family photo scanning session?
make biscuits?
make dinner?
I could try taking self 'portraits' of me in potential wedding guest outfits to help me choose...

I hope everyone's day goes well.

p.s Blimey. Look at the cast of the Roger Rees Hamlet production!
http://collections.shakespeare.org.uk/s ... 409-hamlet
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Post by Rachel » 15 Nov 2019 09:03

re make up, you posh yourself up by putting more on (for me, lipstick and maybe mascara and maybe but probably not eyeshadow.) I wear a bit if I am going out, but not much.
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