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Being an active alcoholic, at my nadir, made me feel like someone on the outside looking in (at people having normal lives, doing normal things, being happy (although I know that this can be allusion, I certainly felt I could have, do and be none of these things)... :? But that was then, and then is quite a long time ago now, thank goodness.

I think I can't get interested and excited about Christmas on my own. I need a little input from others. My mother starts saying how much she hates Christmas in October (and yes it is tempting to say 'Oh well we won't bother with it this year then.') and husband isn't much better. It's hard to maintain any enthusiasm in the context of such relentless negativity ;) Plus there is the whole being at my mother's thing. Ready meals (can't cook there) with eau de commode in the background. She eats very little and can't go out (and wouldn't want to) because of the frequent need for the commode... and our inability to put her, wheelchair and all, in our car. (She can't get into the car.) I am trying to book a meal for OH and I on Christmas Eve (she goes to bed at 7 and gets over stimulated and doesn't sleep if you chat to her after that) and we are staying in a hotel, but these things, while an attempt to make it nicer, are like putting a pretty ribbon on a wreck. Fortunately it is usually fairly easy to make her happy and we might be able to nip into the Peak District in the afternoon while she naps, so there will be a little freedom. Could be much worse.

Perfect Christmas would be just me and him and some nice food which doesn't take me all day too cook (and then ten minutes to eat). Last year came close to this. The last one we had like this must have been around 2008.
But of course I can't not be with my mother. (Last year no choice.) I do feel guilty that since my father died we only had one Christmas with my MIL - and that year (oh horrors) both she and my mother came to use. (They didn't really like each other.) OH used not go up for New Year. I did sometimes. (She didn't like me either.)
The idea of loads of people fills me with horror. Full stop, these days, as well as Christmas. I wonder if I have developed a bit of a socializing phobia.

Impressive number of steps, SG. I have not left the house for two days :o I am sorry about your mother's fear of going outside. I hope you can find some way to help her get he confidence back. If she is falling occasionally, that won't help. The thought of moving when you are elderly must be very disturbing/upsetting for most. I know if I get there, I won't want to. Actually moving at any age is pretty traumatic :?

My mother seems back to how she was before the fall, thanks, Pickles (as close to ok as it gets?!?) She has a hospital appointment the day after tomorrow. I hope it all goes ok. After one mishap I get a bit nervous I might have cocked up her transport (I have to order this a week before). I just hope she takes her new glasses with her (which I am pretty sure she is not wearing) - ophthalmology department.

to done:
work, including blowing soap bubbles :) I am going round in circles trying to get the spread donw though
edited a story (not work) and submitted for tomorrow's meeting
washing x2
sowed peas
planted some more bulbs

tomorrow... the office :(

OH just told me he had a tweet liked by Tim Roth!


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Evening All…Rachel, Pickles, Luna, Mark, Danny and Serend if you pop your head in.

So sorry about your mum’s fall Rachel, I’m relieved to hear that she had a lucky escape.
Oddly it’s my mum who has tried to persuade me to have an alarm of sorts … she is such a worrier.
In fact her anxiety levels are so high that she isn’t making a lot of sense half the time…she jumps from one topic to the next and every thing gets muddled. She’s got lots of trouble with her car at the moment, which is her life line so it’s all a bit frantic :shock:

Well, I had quite a good day. Walked missy and met up with all doggy pals (human and four legged), hoovered through, mopped the kitchen and bathroom floor - oh my good the colour of the water! :oops: and worked on some sketches for a story ;)? I watched a couple of videos I put together for my MA applications a few years back and it really cheered me up. Reminded me what I was capable of.

I have got used to being on my own again, which is reassuring. I am beginning to gain a sense of myself - which is great as I really thought I was lost to my failing relationship, my health and bloody Covid! I feel very grateful to feel this way … fourteen months sober now. I have definitely had to be sober for a long time to start seeing the benefits.

I am seeing my partner (ex partner/friend) on Saturdays. I pick him up and we go for a walk, have some lunch and he helps me with stuff. I cook a nice meal and we watch a movie, he stays but then goes home the next day early evening after another walk and stuff. It seems to be working, although I am having to be firm with myself to keep things very clear and uninvolved. I was really chuffed as he had not smoked for two days (no money for tobacco) but … apparently he’s smocking again now. Also I discovered he’d had a glass of cider Sunday morning so it was a sharp reminder of what I don’t want in my life and to keep him at arms length.

So I’m collecting mum tomorrow morning to take her to the garage …that will be a shock to the system so I better get to bed fairly soon.

Christmas is a funny thing isn’t it. I absolutely adored Christmas as a child and into my early adult years. With no children in the family it doesn’t retain the magic so the emphasis is on getting together, food and relaxing. I struggle because I like to make it lovely for everyone else but my immediate family are quite dysfunctional, and all living separately now. I’m pleased that I am AF because I don’t have to stay anywhere overnight, or catch up with everyone else who’s way ahead of me on the booze front (as I stayed relatively sober to cook the meal). This year I intend to cook the meal early to prevent my mum picking a fight, which is her usual trick on Christmas Day and then we can relax in the afternoon. Last year I managed to prevent it all kicking off (as I was sober) and we played Task Master and it was actually quite funny.

This year is going to be simple, kind and relaxing. I’m not going to put myself under pressure, I’m not going to try and please everyone. There’ll be no Gordon Readings, Alf Garnets or Divas. My favourite thing about Christmas is homemade sausage rolls! :D

Crossed posts with you Rachel <:)>

My mother doesn’t quite start in October but I get “I’m not looking forward to Christmas, etc”, everything is always half hearted and then suddenly at last minute she gets into the groove. I’ve always dreamt of spending a romantic Christmas at a castle in a remote part of Scotland with a loved one…ha ha, oh well. :lol2:
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Oh I do like a homemade (veggie) sausage roll :)

Glad it's going ok Action <:)>
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To do today...

go into office and try to work
ring mother to check she has everything together for her appointment (Oh what a pallaver yesterday. She rang convinced it was happening yesterday. I ended up wasting an hour ringing the hospital then trying to get through to her ('on the hook') to check I had it right and ringing the care agency to ask her to take her phone of the hook... and check that they knew she was going tomorrow. Of course the bloke I spoke to last time had not noted it down. Again. (I have to book her transport so if we get it wrong, that's that.) Turns out the issue was that she thought it was the 25th yesterday. And she has one of these: https://shop.alzheimers.org.uk/helpful- ... ock-8-Inch thing is with dementia people is that you can give them all these aids to help them, but they have to remember to use them, which in this case meant looking up...)
do a bit more work
That's it really, I think.
I could do with something fun...
It would be nice to go shopping and/or take my camera in central London :? (If I can do it when it's quiet. I probably need to take a day off to do it, but then I won't want to go into town.)

I hope everyone has a good day.
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Hi all :\:
Thanks for your nice words, Mark :)
Rachel and Action - ah, families and Christmas.
A lot of families around here DO make it work - they all live close-by, 3-generations of them. Grandkids running in and out of each others' houses.
But this is in rural areas.
I also think Facebook has a lot to answer for. I am actually quite tired of seeing colleagues posts of perfectly set dinner tables, glimpses of beautiful stylish homes, kids taking diplomas in gymnastics, Tai Kwondo etc. Or videos of their teenage talents singing lovely and profound self-written songs. I'm so bl**dy sick of it I stop using FB. It's a mechanism to make people feel inadequate.

My house is a permanent mess (part crafty part DIY and mostly just an inability to keep myself and my kids tidy - I never suceeded teaching them to put stuff back when they take something out - everything just gets left where it was last used and somehow the fight went out of me after a lot of other things combined ...). I live in the sticks, I don't have friends popping in and out, I don't go to trendy cafes with popular people and I don't have kids who are in the limelight.

Well, I'm glad I'm not surrounded with negativity regarding Christmas. I have some restrictions, which I hate - but I've done my best this year to rise above these and make things as good as possible. After all, the days on the calendar aren't the most important - whether we have a great evening on the 23rd or the 25th - well, it'll stick in the kids' minds anyway.

Rachel - I sympathise with your mother situation, I really do. Old age and/or incapacity will come to us all at some point - and Alzheimers' also is a terrible thing. I also have used days and days sorting stuff out for my mother - but in true style, she let me use this time ringing around etc (all of this time gets docked off my salary) - and then in the end she just stuppornly says "naaah, I don't want to do that". I ask so why do you let me think you want this, or give me document info etc so I make endless meetings (online) with counsellors, housing advisors, health-care providers etc - only to say No? Oh she says, you seem to like doing it. AAAAAaaaaaarrrrrgggghhhh!!!!

Actually, will you excuse a diatribe? It's just reminded me of something. I am not sure it is relevant to you, Rachel, but it made me think.

In my childhood, where I spent my summers, at my grandmothers', I had a friend (I recently found her on FB). Well, whe went on to have 4 kids and ran the family farm. Her mother was very protective, turned up every day to cook for the kids, help clean etc etc. Well, I met my friend because she was the daughter of a schoolfriend of my aunt. So I knew the daughter and my aunt knew the mother. No sooo long ago (well about 10 years ago) - my aunt was telling me the sad saga of this lady who had to give up everything to look after her daughter and her kids. Every day - leaving no time for her own affairs or interests. She was proclaimed as a self-sacrificing person by my aunt - and my aunt was lecturing me about how selfish my ftriend was to bring 4 kids into the world without the ability to look after them and leave it all to her mother to sort. Tsk tsk.

Well, when I visited my friend around that time (it's abroad) - she confessed to me that she absolutely hates the way her mother never leaves her alone. She said it also drove her husband away - he felt he wasn't allowed to be a husband - the mother was always there. She (who took over the family farmhouse) felt she was never allowed to be the grown up. Or the mother. She wished her mother would just leave them to make their own traditions and to run their own lives (but sharing the family business made it a bit difficult of course).

Anyway - I sometimes think we go at cross-purposes. We feel duty bound - but sometimes our efforts are rejected.

I don't know the point of the above, but it has just made me think. If I were bedridden and knew my daughter was suffering and spending Christmas with me out of duty - I would like to think by that stage (especially if I profess to hate christmas) - I'd let her go and have christmas her own way. A short visit might be nice, if possible, but if not - I'd hope I'd be able to let go a bit (but then Alzheimers is a terrible thing).

Rachel - I sometimes wonder if you are doing too much? You say she has carers - don't they organise appointments etc? I apologise if this is out of line, but I can just sense the stress oozing through your posts.

Action - I love the sense and capability you are exuding regarding your christmas plans - and your sobriety. It really is true - sobriety brings (most of) what alcohol promises.

I am still sick today, my son kindly shared his virus with me - so I had fever and generally couldn't get out of bed. But I am getting better and last evening I finished making an advent calender for my daughter.

To Done:
Finished packing 24 little items with home-made labels, with swirly artwork on one side - and a motivational quote on the rear. Everything from Profound Ghandi /Dhalai Lama - to my own versions, including "take no shit" - or "noone has the right to make you feel bad without your permission", or "don't let anyone trample through your head with their dirty feet" - etc. She went through a lot the past years, and I am propud of her. The gifts were all little things she has use for in her bedsit - so if I pack shampoo, deo, or some nice shower gel - she can save her allowance. I added some nice things like face masks, some kitchen utensils etc. A couple of useful tools, a sewing repair kit - well in short 24 little gifts. I used to do this if I was away - and I remember by mom doing this too when she was in hospital. I used to pack little gifts for each day I was away.
I hope she appreciates this - it's my way of being there during the run-up to christmas and her birthday - when I can't physically be there.


To Do
Try to get better
Tidy/clean kitchen and house in general (as much as I can)
Maybe try to do some preparatory work on a piece I need to deliver next week.

Edit - sometimes people say the opposite of what they mean. Like Bah Humbug I hate Christmas = I wish someone would make it all nice for me. Yes I want you to do all sorts of admin work for me which I fully intend to ignore = I just want some attention from you.

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Gosh Rachel, I do think you have got a lot to contend with <:)> <:)> That is a lot of admin to sort out not to mention the visits. I have got at least 3 other friends in a similar position to us, all the planning and arrangements and then they turn around and say something that completely changes the plan/ arrangements! The role reversal is ok but weird at the same time. I have to shout too otherwise she can’t hear me at all, it’s quite a strain. I have to do it in a different language which I’m not totally proficient in so that can be hard.

Your advent calendar sounds lovely Luna - she will love it! Your story about that family is :( Hope you feel better soon.

Action - sorry about the break up but you sound like you’re in really good form and clearly seeing things for what they are and making changes accordingly ;)?

I still haven’t fully decided what to do for Christmas yet. I probably will visit my mum but me not drinking will be the elephant in the room as we always have a drink. I could just go for the day. The kids are going to their dad's house but they will want to come back here. Sounds like a plan? I secretly would love to spend the day here by myself, reading, a bit of Netflix and no serious cooking - what’s not to like?

I didn’t really do a lot of To Doing today, however I managed to
- Hoover and mop the kitchen diner - but I think I might have get down and scrub half of it as it still looks grim
- changed my bed
- one load of laundry
- attended the post detox recovery group
- brief foray to the supermarket
- set up my new touch lamps but they don’t work properly :evil:

That looks like more than I thought, plus the usual take meds, remember to eat, drink etc

Tomorrow’s itinerary includes
- getting eyebrows tidied up, in the spirit of self care (going to walk there =steps)
- thinking of going to see a movie in the afternoon as I won't be able to have that luxury when I am back at work (walk =steps)
- scrub floor
-Hoover stairs and try and clean stains on carpet which got hammered during COVID with kids taking drinks/food upstairs all the time

My daughter has just spent ages hanging out in my room, she tidied a little box for me and threw loads of stuff away for me and then spent lots of time trying on my shoes! Goodness knows what she gets up to in here when I’m not at home :lol2:

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Morning, all

Well done on yesterday's achievements, Swordie. I hope the pampering goes well (although getting hairs pulled out of ones eyebrows is a dubious pleasure....) :?

Rachel - hope you feel more on top of things today <:)>
Action - hope you are well too <:)>

To do
PC Work
Drive to physical workplace
Do more work
See if there are any winter duvets on Black Friday sale - mine is from when I left home in 1984 and I must say, it's not that satisfactory any more (although it was a good one then - real feathers). But now, the feathers mystically keep poking out, and by the end of the night all the bulk is down by my feet and there is nothing up-top (they didn't do square-pockets then - I guess there is a reason they do now).
Drive back home
Quick Friday-tidy
Be happy daughter is home for the weekend
Have a nice dinner-for-three - have both home-made pizza and lots of home-made spring rolls in the freezer, so it's going to be a treat - without slaving away for hours beforehand ;)?


I have often posted on here about how isolated I feel and how where I live is just that tadge too far away for townfolks to come visit me eg for a saturday. There is a house in a really nice place - absolutely perfect, I know several people in that village - it was a dying village, and everyone "native" left (all except one couple in fact - they met as schoolkids). Now it is a kind of active community lived in by people who work in town but like to live rurally so they can keep dogs, have wild country right beside them etc. It is quite social, and only 25-30 mins from town, as opposed to 50-60 where I am.

There is just the problem of it being too big and too expensive - it's a big family house and costs about 250 000 Euros more than my house would go for :-(
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Hi all
Luna, that house sounds amazing. The money though :o I keep thinking I should sell my house and buy something a bit newer and more manageable but everything has risen in price so even if I sell this for a reasonable amount I don’t think I can get anything suitable for the 3 of us. And YES buy a duvet! Your duvet is older than some of my friends!

Hi Rachel and Action - hope you’re ok?

I’m not doing very well on the To Doing front. All I’ve done is my eyebrows and sort a few bits in the kitchen and wash a coat. Oldest child has come home unexpectedly so I got him to Hoover the stairs. I finally managed to speak to someone at work today about my sick leave and phased return but it has left me feeling a bit flat. I seem to have run out of get up and go today, but there is still quite a bit of the day left. I’m going into 'sod it' mode and go to the cinema instead and then perhaps I can do a few things when I come back. Afternoon weekday cinema is quite a treat! Am taking chocolates :D This a much better treat than a crappy drink of alcohol. Not feeling any wavering on the sobriety from, just feeling the feelings.

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26 Nov 2021 12:49
And YES buy a duvet! Your duvet is older than some of my friends!
:shock: :shock: :o :o

I did buy one, Swordie - it was still pretty expensive. I have a lovely double summer one that I cherish, but I sleep with the window at least partially open, so when it's -10 degrees C and lower, well, it's nice to have something thicker to snuggle into (without tangling into layers of extra blankets).

The one they have in down in a double size, even when it was on sale was way beyond my budget. So I bought a single one, so I can double up my summer one into a single duvet cover and my son can have the new one. (why can't I ever buy new stuff just for me???)
Sigh... I don't have a partner anyway so I don't need a double duvet :-(

Maybe I should have this new one and my son can have his 2 thin ones packed into a double layer? I feel guilty about this though... :roll:

But still - I am looking at my bank account and wondering if I shouldn't get it changed for that double one anyway (eek - it is soo expensive, I mean seriously - and they only do horrible cheap versions of the synthetic ones in double size - I absolutely abhor that plasticky feeling of a cheap duvet (except of course on hiking trips or staying in cabins etc - then I am happy even sleeping under a horse blanket..)

Sorry for wittering. This is a big deal for me. I had to buy new windows for the whole house 3 years ago :o - it was a lot of choices and a shed load of money/savings/loan. But buying a duvet felt much worse of a choice!!!

Ho hum. Well, Swordie - at least I Did It. It felt good. Thanks.

Congratulations on your day 11/12 - you are rocking, but I realise those feelings will keep rolling in. But you will coast above them ;)?
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I suppose being a vegetarian, the whether to spend more on a feather duvet dilemma is taken away from me... although I am sure you can get expensive synthetic ones. I struggle to get a good pillow. I actually don't like feather ones, I have discovered over the last year holidaying in the UK. (All the places we have stayed have had feather pillows.) I should really get my (synthetic) duvet cleaned. I meant to ask husband to do it while I was in Suffolk. I could do with a new duvet cover set. Might have a quick look. A lot of material makes my face itch though so I've wasted money one ones in the past that sounded like good quality.

Today was ok. (wfh) Felt cheerful this morning but all this talk of the new variant is worrying me. A lot. I just know that work will insist on us going in unless the government advises working from home. It's nuts really. All this anxiety because I am made to do something that is entirely unnecessary (and although they don't know it reducing my producivity - and thus - although they wouldn't care - making me feel less good about myself.) Covid is going round the office too. (As I mentioned in my deleted message :? )

We have a storm tomorrow. Winds up to 37mph. I hope the new greenhouse will be ok :shock: Not sure if we have had wind like this since it went up. Will have a look around the garden tomorrow for things that might go flying. Should have done it today really, but it's too late now. I should also have wrapped up my plants... but it's not going lower than 3 tonight, or so it says...

I hope you enjoyed the cinema, Swordie. Husband went to see Dune the other night and said it was very good.
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Morning peeps
It’s snowing here! Big fat flakes! Can’t tell if it is going to settle yet. There’s just something exciting about snow! I know you must be laughing Luna as you get tons of the stuff! Anyway, have decided that’s a good reason to put the heating back on.

I’m glad you got your new duvet Luna, although you do deserve a double, I have a king size and there’s only me here. What tog rating do you need? Is it worth looking on EBay or FB Marketplace? I have to buy windows too, I kept putting it off because the house was so untidy I felt I couldn’t let anyone in, I have seen worse in my line of work but nevertheless :oops: It’s a lot better now so I had better start getting some quotes. I’m dreading it as these window companies always have to give you the sales chat.

Hope you’re able to make the garden safe today Rachel. I hear you on the concern about the new variant. It’s inevitable it will reach here as it's already in Belgium. Sad you can’t work from home. I’ve read that masks seem to be the best protection but it is hard to wear one all day. Touch points don’t seem to be as much of an issue. I’ve been going in quite a bit but rarely for a whole day, I felt quite isolated at home and it gave me the opportunity to drink so I ended up asking to go back in but there were only 3-5 people in that office. The place I have moved to now is huge with a lot of people. Any chance of you going in for a half day?

I would love to see Dune, I missed it when it first came out and now it is only on the small screen at my local cinema so not worth it. I am thinking of travelling further afield to watch it on a bigger screen but the other cinema has a showing at 4.15 which means I probably wouldn’t get out until 7.30, dilemmas :?

I didn’t do much yesterday and hit a huge slump of tiredness in the early evening, could barely keep my eyes open and I had to go out to pick up daughter plus friend. A decent coffee helped thank goodness.

I haven't really planned today yet as I did so little yesterday, I did delete about 400 emails though. I’m just going to write down a list of random jobs now and hope for the best
- clean stains in stairs carpet caused by kids taking drink/food upstairs
- have another go at the floor under the dining table as it’s irritating me
- sort out a box for all my meds and vitamins/supplements ✅
- get all the wasps out of my bathroom light fitting✅
- change lightbulbs in back room✅
- tackle mildew on back room ceiling
- wash back room curtains ✅ halfway there, got another 2 to go in and discovered a bit of a situation in the dryer :o
- tidy a bit more of the front room
- sort out my bedroom curtains as they’re not hanging right✅
- delete some more emails
- start using my gratitude journal as a start towards journaling
- read a bit more of my book

I know that’s too much stuff but gotta have goals right? I won’t feel bad if I don’t do all of them.

Have a good day peeps ;)?

Update - despite having been home all week, got to go grocery shopping! Therefore have made self presentable and heading out into the madness.
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Forgot to say, I did enjoy watching King Richard, I wrote more about it in the 2-4 week thread. I’m going to read up a bit more about the Williams sisters now as their story really is amazing. There is some original video footage at the end as well that is interesting to see.

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Glad you enjoyed the film, Swordie. I have not heard of that one.

I hope you manage to get some of the things on your list done. None of them sound like very pleasant tasks.

I am doing short days in the office. I roll in at 10.30 and go home at 3.30 to avoid the rush hour. The only other person doing this is my boss! I have permission to do this but feel like I am being judged. I probably ought to stay until later but to avoid the rush hour would be stuck I the office until 7. It's not exactly quiet outside the rush hour...

so far today I have
checked on the greenhouse. I don't if this storm is coming later but it's not even that windy, although the report says it should be here right now.
I have finally wrapped up most of my half hardy perennials in pots - in the greenhouse. Basil (cat) came in with me and nosed around. He doesn’t usually seem interested. He was very sick in the early hours and this morning :(
Washing load no2 is now on.
Last night I de-inked a load of plant labels to reuse. (Very strong alcohol! Knocked me back.)
I am waiting on a delivery right now, then need to go to the supermarket. I realize I have not been for at least a fortnight, although husband has nipped out for bits and bobs.
I should make dinner.
Need to ring place we are supposed to be staying on Friday. They have not replied to my emails asking for confirmation. (We are having an overnighter in France.)
I need to clean the area where the fancy knew water carbonator is going. Maybe tomorrow though.
I hope everyone's day is going well.

I hope everyone is having a good day.
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I didn’t do any more of my list apart from read my book. I prepared a nice dinner but then the person who loves that dinner went to McDonald’s but they didn’t know I was making it to be fair. We can have it tomorrow instead. Going to read a tiny bit more and then sleep beckons.

Hope everyone is ok <:)>

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Reading your book sounds like the best thing on your list.

And you made dinner. (I didn't!)

I hope your day was relatively relaxing. The end of mine has been sent into a bit of a fluster by the news about changing rules and travel... and the reasons for it :? We plan to go anyway. I am sure it's not less safe and we will be in the car (er and the hotel - which has not yet confirmed by booking - and supermarkets... but really the hotel bit is the only bit we wouldn't do here anyway. The French all where masks in doors.)
Will have to self isolate when we get back, which is a bit of a pain, but at least we should have a load of nice French food to eat. Had better stock up on cat food, milk and the means to make bread before we go, though.
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Morning Everyone
Hope all your travel plans will go ahead and run smoothly Rachel. I find it quite complicated to keep up with all the new rules/changes. It will be lovely when you get there!

I seem to have run into a wall of tiredness this morning. I felt a bit sleep-drunk when I got up this morning. I’ve had 2 cups of decent coffee and a croissant. Perhaps it was the croissant that did for me. I know white bread makes me feel tired sometimes. Better leave the rest of them alone!

I’ve decided to just chill this morning and then have a go at the rest of yesterday’s list plus a bit of washing and maybe a walk.

Wishing you all a good day!

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Thanks Swordie. Tying myself in knots trying to think of a way to not go into the office on Wednesday. I didn't want to be pinged... and, hell, I just don't want to travel into work. 3rd case found in London. I'd be happy going nowhere, including France... I could either say up front I would rather wfh to avoid being pinged this week or ask for the day off. Former would be entirely reasonable if weren't constantly coming up with excuses to wfh :? A day off would be a precious day off squandered.

I have done pretty much nothing today. One washing load. Haven't even made mincemeat as intended. Tomorrow... or maybe I will do it tonight. Hmm...
Just had a not great conversation with my mother in which she accused me of being argumentative and starting a conversation that she had started and reached a point where she no longer wanted to talk about it :roll: I confess the anxiety is making me a tiny bit less patient than usual but her accusations were based on me not going along with everything she said, as I usually do to keep the peace, basically.
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Hi all <:)>
Am here, reading and sending <:)> <:)> <:)> to all.

I can't write more just now, will be back later or tomorrow, but just wanted to send hig hugs to all of you.

One day at a time, eh?
:)
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Lots of <:)> <:)> <:)> back to you too Luna! I expect you’ve been busy this weekend :)

Sorry your mum is being argumentative Rachel. It’s never easy to listen to that. I tend to tolerate a lot more from my mum than my sisters do but that’s because I had a nice long break from her when we were estranged :lol2: I normally just let it all wash over me unless she’s being particularly horrid about someone. For what it’s worth I think you should ask to work from home if you’re going abroad that’s a completely reasonable request especially if travel rules have changed.

I have done sod all today and spent a fair bit of time in bed browsing or reading. I have no energy whatsoever. I have managed to serve up last nights uneaten dinner as lunch and cook dinner tonight, one load of washing and that is it. I’m not going to feel bad about it, I must have needed the rest. Not sure why as yesterday wasn’t that strenuous, but it was a bit stressful. Still sober - yay!

Sleep well Rachel and Luna <:)>

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Not a lot done today apart from having a telephone assessment for counselling, deleting about 2000 emails and reading my book. Back to work tomorrow :? Got mixed feelings about that but it’s got to be done. Who knows, it might boost my productivity.

The assessment was a bit knackering to be honest, baring ones soul to someone you will never see/speak to again is a bit much.

Hope everyone is ok and that you got to wfh Rachel.

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