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Re: The To Do List

Post by DannyD » 09 Feb 2020 10:09

My washing area overlooks a wall into next door's petrol station. I used to have ideas of a beach scene, cut out of something so I could move the scene around. Somehow attach shapes and figures to the wall. Now, for this summer, I'm going to put plant troughs in the top and trail geraniums.
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Post by aj » 09 Feb 2020 10:29

Not rude at all Rachel, another thing I love is interiors etc. Your house sounds very interesting 🙂

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Post by Rachel » 09 Feb 2020 10:57

I fell in love with it about three years after we moved in - when I stopped drinking.
We moved in a couple of months after my father died, and I didn't really see it at all for a long while, then the alcoholism kicked in.
It's Edwardian, with lots of original features/details. Cut out wooden fretwork, a porch glazed with stained glass, a balcony to watch Edwardian cricket matches in the field (now school field) beyond the gardens at the back. French windows in the sitting room that open onto the garden. The Edwardians embraced natural light as much as the Victorians seemed to eschew it. (Or at least be less interested in it. I suppose they were all excited by the new innovations in artificial light - primarily gas.)
We haven't looked after it as well as we should. Husband doesn't like spending money on what he regards dismissively as cosmetic things (er like painting the walls) although to be fair, the thought of having work men in, with the issue we have with the cats, makes me drag my feet too.
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Post by aj » 09 Feb 2020 15:06

It sounds lovely, I can imagine a lot of maintenance but nevertheless lots of history. No wonder you love it. Our home in England was an old house, it didn’t have any of its original features only the hallway tiles and some mouldings, it was on three floors and I absolutely loved it until the water would start pouring in every time we had heavy rain...blocked gutters. Then I did a really stupid thing and decided I wanted a new house with no maintenance, preferably in a different country, and we all know how that ended😉.

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Post by aj » 10 Feb 2020 08:16

Morning all.

To do:
Work \/
Doggy \/
Work \/
Study \/
Home \/
C25k (not done yesterday)🏃‍♀️
Essay (I have started...200 words of nothing, but it’s on ‘paper ‘)

Hope everyone is OK 🤔
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Post by DannyD » 10 Feb 2020 08:36

Morning.

I've been awake for hours, but can't get motivated.

To do
Get up and start the day
Play for a funeral
Walk the dog
Eat proper food
Do NOT spend money. I don't need anything
Online YouTube crochet tutorial

Have a good day y'all
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Post by Rachel » 10 Feb 2020 08:47

Morning. Nice and sunny and dry, Still abit windy.
But they have cancelled all the trains on my route so will be late for work (but at least I noticed before I set off, as the next train after my usual is 25 minutes later.)
Mon-day of no obligation (other than work) althlough I have already fed the birds and changed the cat litter. Might check in on the chemist's to see if they have a repeat prescrption for me.
I hope everyone has a good day.
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Post by DannyD » 10 Feb 2020 22:56

I promised myself this morning, that I wouldn't go shopping or spend money today.

And then I picked up a late shift, finished before Lidl closed - and went shopping. A new bird feeder stake thing. I need to find a way of supporting it, as I want it outside my kitchen window, so I can watch the birds as I wash up. Though I'm well aware it's more likely to be rats.

To do. Bed.

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Post by DannyD » 11 Feb 2020 07:54

Morning

I think my mental health has hit the trough and us climbing back out, as I feel more alert today.

To do
Breakfast for me, dog and cat.
Walk the dog
Bus into work for a late morning/early afternoon day shift.
Bank cheque when in town.
Evening at home doing crochet.

I can do this - and smile!

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Post by aj » 11 Feb 2020 08:25

To do:
Work
Do not have to come home lunchtime
Read/notes/read
Home
Dog walk
Mum for tea

Assignment and what to make for tea woke me up at 5.30am. I mailed my tutor Sunday asking her to explain something to me that’s probably very simple but I just don’t get. She mailed me back with a link to an excerpt in a book that I had already read and didn’t understand 😞.

So, if anyone can explain Formal/thematic patterning and repetitive designation to me I’d be very grateful 😂

And yes I do wonder how I have managed to get this far. I was amazed when someone said they had gone through their whole degree thus far, having never read one book but using Spark Notes...how?

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Post by DannyD » 11 Feb 2020 09:14

Maybe you should check out Spark Notes (whatever they are)?
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Post by aj » 12 Feb 2020 08:19

Probably because I’ve spent 5+ years and thousands of pounds doing it, I want to feel like the effort pain and torture was/is worth it.😉 And to be honest if I hadn’t been a drinker for the first three years I wouldn’t be struggling so hard now to try and end with a good classification.😞

To do today:
Work \/
Dog walk \/
Essay
C25k 8/3 \/
Should go to Pilates..but...
Essay
Bed

Jjjj, John, Pickles, Action <:)> <:)> hope you are all well.
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Post by DannyD » 12 Feb 2020 09:57

Good for you aj. I dropped out of OU after a couple of years.

Done
Walked dog. Glorious sunshine bouncing off a calm sea.
Quick Lidl shop.
Fed animaux and myself.

To do
30 minutes gardening.
Then out to lunch. This involves a bus, a ferry and a train. Repeat in reverse to get home.

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Post by Luna_ » 12 Feb 2020 20:04

Hi all.
The only thing I'm doing is keeping sober,feeding kids (or getting them to cook which involves a LOT of dirty dishes) and doing the bare essentials like sweeping the worst off the floors and doing at least some of the dishes that dont go in the machine.

I had what I hope is my last flirt with alcohol in connection with new years and I just am not going to entertain it any more. So long term prospects, not just these "sober stretches). Had a very nasty experience in a shop changing room - you know, bright lights and all-round mirrors - coupled with slightly too tight trousers and sports-bra. Say no more. I fled in terror. :o

I WILL lose the weight and I will get fit (after my planned surgery). And alcohol just doesnt fit in the picture. Self care does.

Done:
Work
Eat (daughters yummy spag bol)
Write a proper paper letter to a friend
Get new contact lenses so I can see things (will need reading glasses though, sigh..)

Next - bed and book.

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Post by DannyD » 12 Feb 2020 21:00

Hi Luna

I have to admit, I try to avoid changing rooms and all the mirrors. I have one mirror in my house, by the front door, just to give an all over check before I leave the house.

I had a situation over the new year, with which I struggled to cope. Alcohol got me through, but I haven't had a drink for a few weeks now, and feel better for it.

I've had a lovely day, involving the ferry, train ride and lunch. I was soooo full I nearly rolled home like a barrel. The sun has been so nice.

To do

Early night I think. Back to work tomorrow. And my manager wants a back to work chat after I've been off sick for a fortnight. So not looking forward to that....

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Post by pickles » 13 Feb 2020 07:04

Morning to doers . Danny hope the talk goes ok .

Hi Luna .

Tree man meant to be coming this morning,but the weather has turned again so he may not . Daughter didn’t get off to a good start ,then who does so early in the morning. Of course she’s been dressing herself for a long time now ,but going to school in summer wear ! I did tell her but she wasn’t listening....music already in her ears . Ah ,teenagers ;)?

She does have a coat though .

Other to dos, Hoover, appointments , try to take dogs out , that’s it for the moment.

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Post by aj » 13 Feb 2020 08:24

😂.

Pickles I can just imagine your daughter, having been there so many times. But yes, at least she has her coat, that’s something 😉.

Hi Luna nice to meet you, your ‘to do’ is the most important one of all, nothing else matters compared to that <:)>

To do:
Work
Home 🐻
Work
Read
Home
Doggy
Mums for tea



<:)> to all.
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Post by Rachel » 13 Feb 2020 08:38

Morning. I hope they talk went ok, Danny.

Luna, I try not to look at myself below the neck in mirrors anywhere. I don't think this is a good thing. I keep telling myself that I have never been happy with my body - always thought it was too fat even when I was probably underweight, and doubtless it's only going to get worse, so I should try appreciate what I have got. N.B. his is not a lecture at you, but at me. Meanwhile, I do need to lose weight too. I have been eating like I want to gain weight lately, and I daren't weigh myself. I have been contemplating a sugar fast, but I think that is partly leading to the daily pudding, biscuit/chocolate consumption. I am doing the old alcoholic always finding a reason not to give up... yet, and meanwhile consuming more than usual. Maybe I should just go on a calorie control diet :( But that way lies OCD behaviour.
I blame my mother for some of this :) She has always been obsessed with her appearance and still worries about being 'fat' at a chair-ridden almost-92.
Her two biggest compliments are to say I look slim (or slightly less complimentary - that dress makes you look slim) or so and so is very clever.

I am not feeling very positive about things at the moment. Very down, anxious and tearful. No hormones anymore to blame. I am not sure if the corona virus and terrorist stuff are contributing to this, or if my mild depression is making these things feel more frightening than they need to. They are justifiable sources of anxiety, but if you live in and travel daily by public transport into a huge multinational, major tourist attraction, city you can't really afford to dwell on such things.

to do
work
maybe lunch out with writing, but not sure where to go. The go-to place has clearly burnt itself out with Veganuary junk food offerings and it's only vegetarian option is now a vegan burger :?
I am supposed to be going to some strange talk on mermaids. I fear it may turn out to be a bit of a new aged bo**ocks thing, but friend wants to go. It's vaguely related to work. I would rather just go home after work and do genealogy at the moment. I am very tired all the time.
try and be a bit more positive? I am not sure if I have the energy...

Sorry for emanating waves of negativity. I hope everyone else has a much more positive and cheerful day.
Rachel

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Post by Rachel » 13 Feb 2020 08:39

AJ <:)> I hope your mother will be ok today.
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