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Generalised Anxiety (GAD) or Excessive Worry

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Re: Generalised Anxiety (GAD) or Excessive Worry

Post by Luckychap » 21 May 2019 10:25

Hi thanks for your messages of support I intend to keep posting on this section until Thursday when I go back permanently and then move to be involved posting in the other areas as like a closure to the whole thing. Does that make sense, just hope I can keep it at bay. My tablets are called escitalopram and are for anxiety and depression. Normally they work ok but I could have done with something else during the last two months. I could not have got through without the unwavering support on here. You are all lovely people x thank you

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Post by SoberBoots » 21 May 2019 21:42

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Hi thanks for your messages of support I intend to keep posting on this section until Thursday when I go back permanently and then move to be involved posting in the other areas as like a closure to the whole thing. Does that make sense, just hope I can keep it at bay. My tablets are called escitalopram and are for anxiety and depression. Normally they work ok but I could have done with something else during the last two months. I could not have got through without the unwavering support on here. You are all lovely people x thank you
Good thinking LC, post as often as you like, I'll keep an eye out for you <:)>
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Post by Luckychap » 23 May 2019 16:54

Hello lovely people. Well today I went back to work. Clean shaven, white shirt, silver tie. Tried to feel smart so I felt better. I got through the day ok without too much anxiety so I am coming out of it now. I may have the odd bad day but at least I am coming through it. I will be posting on the other areas of the site unless I am helping someone on this thread. Thank you so much for the kindness, support and love. Xx

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Post by Mark. » 23 May 2019 16:56

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Hello lovely people. Well today I went back to work. Clean shaven, white shirt, silver tie. Tried to feel smart so I felt better. I got through the day ok without too much anxiety so I am coming out of it now. I may have the odd bad day but at least I am coming through it. I will be posting on the other areas of the site unless I am helping someone on this thread. Thank you so much for the kindness, support and love. Xx
Many congratulations, Luckychap - you've done so well to get back to this point, and I hope everything continues to go well at work ;)? <:)>
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Luckychap wrote:
23 May 2019 16:54
Hello lovely people. Well today I went back to work. Clean shaven, white shirt, silver tie. Tried to feel smart so I felt better. I got through the day ok without too much anxiety so I am coming out of it now. I may have the odd bad day but at least I am coming through it. I will be posting on the other areas of the site unless I am helping someone on this thread. Thank you so much for the kindness, support and love. Xx
Well done LC. Take things slowly won't you?
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Post by Luckychap » 23 May 2019 18:56

Hi jjjj thanks for your kind words :D hi SB. Good point as it's easy to slip back. I know I am vulnerable and would only need a breeze in the wrong direction to set me back. I am going to do as you say x

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Post by TrueState » 23 May 2019 22:13

So glad you're feeling better will see you on the some of the other threads
Oh and I have started reading I met a Monk so thanks for that

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;)? <:)>

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Post by Shadowlad » 27 Jun 2019 10:41

Hello, sorry i haven't read back this morning but i have woke up feeling drained and anxious. I think it is because of doing too much this week and meeting up with my mother who is staying in a guest house with her companion. Ive met up with her more than a couple of times and have arranged to meet her today from 11.00 am for the day. Also been doing voluntary work, training and health appointments this week. Last night was a bad one with 3 hours sleep.

I'm writing here just to kind of work out why the anxiety. Its not been too bad for some time now. I think it is because my mother is starting to irritate me and am also very tired. Ive said before she can a difficult character and this is what i'm afraid of. With my lowered coping mechanisms today i have a strong feeling we will clash if i spend the whole day with her, also with the heat and busy seaside shops. So today is probably the day to use self care ? I'm all ready and dressed but it has taken all my energy just to do this and am quite shaky. Have rang her companion's phone to cancel meeting up but it has gone straight onto answer phone (Mum has left her phone at home). I'm determined not to feel guilty at having to cancel, but for some reason i suspect she will overplay her disappointment to make me feel that way. But i won't ! Right now i am reading the personal bill of human rights (all 25 of them, lol) and it states clearly that we have the right to change our minds. Its a great read for those of us who are sometimes people pleasers and forget to take care of ourselves. Hope everyone else is ok, thanks for listening, it helps to write things down and share xx
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Re: Generalised Anxiety (GAD) or Excessive Worry

Post by Mark. » 27 Jun 2019 10:59

<:)> <:)> Nicky

I'm sorry to hear about the anxiety, but I think that your advice to yourself is absolutely excellent - spot on! ;)?

After a combination of factors - meeting up with your mum, voluntary work and appointments, bad sleep, and this heat - you are definitely right to feel no guilt whatsoever about stepping back today and taking care of yourself. It would do neither you nor your mum any good if you were to end up clashing, so well done in identifying the danger zone and deciding to step away from it (::)

I'm not sure that I've heard of the personal bill of rights - I'll look it up! :D

I'd imagine that all the many things you've done this week will have left you tired, and that's when anxiety can creep in - even when the anxiety can feel unnecessary or unfocused. It's just (regrettably) a very natural thing to feel when we become a little bit run-down. I suppose that, up to a point, anxiety might even act as a warning sign: it's the tired mind and body telling you not to overdo things too much. I suppose the trick is to try not to allow the anxiety to run riot and become ingrained.

And, if you're anything like me, you're bound to feel a bit anxious until you've heard from your mother.

But, like I say, I think you're being eminently sensible, thinking it through and realising that you need time to relax and recharge.

I hope your day goes really well, Nicky ;)? <:)>
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Post by Shadowlad » 27 Jun 2019 11:21

Ah Mark thank you for your very understanding response <:)> You are spot on, i was getting more anxious until i spoke to my mother this morning, imagining them stood waiting for me at the place we agreed to meet ! I guess anxiety just builds up to a catastrophe in our minds and we imagine all the worst things are going to happen. I think you're right though, the anxiety can be a warning sign to slow down and look at self care. I was wrong about my mother's reaction, she was actually understanding because she gets anxiety herself. Infact because she was supportive i think i can still meet later (just for an hour) to view some flats with them that they are interested in. I can go on my bike, which is better that getting on busy buses or trams. Phew, it shows how important it is to recognise how much we can take on. Thanks Mark <:)>

I'll write out that personal bill of human rights on the relationship with self thread. It is quite useful and empowering ;)? <:)>
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Post by Trojan » 27 Jun 2019 12:15

Nicky <:)>

At busy times there can be so many factors at play that we sometimes only recognise the overreach when stress and anxiety appear. It’s a positive that you recognised the process developing, and could draw back. Good news too that your mother was understanding :)

Like Mark, I had never heard of the “Personal Bill of Rights”, so thanks for mentioning that :)

I hope everyone enjoys a good day ;)? <:)>
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Post by Mark. » 27 Jun 2019 12:18

Nicky, I'm really glad that your mother was understanding, and I hope everything goes well if you meet up briefly, later today \:)/ <:)>
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Phew, it shows how important it is to recognise how much we can take on.
That's definitely true ;)?

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I'll write out that personal bill of human rights on the relationship with self thread. It is quite useful and empowering
Many thanks - I'll go and have a read :D <:)> xx

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At busy times there can be so many factors at play that we sometimes only recognise the overreach when stress and anxiety appear. It’s a positive that you recognised the process developing, and could draw back.
Just crossing with Trojan - well put! And I hope you have a good day too ;)?
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Post by Topcat » 27 Jun 2019 12:49

So pleased your mother was understanding Nicky <:)> Hope everything goes well for the rest of your day. Love the Personal Bill of Human Rights ;)? TC xx
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Post by Shadowlad » 27 Jun 2019 23:33

Thanks again Mark, and Trojan and TC <:)>

I hope you have all had a good day xx

That list of human rights is a godsend, lol.

I had a quiet afternoon and just went out early evening, feeling calmer even though mum's mood had changed again, snapping at others, though not me. Somehow felt more empowered to respond, rather than react to any scenario, though it feels like i have to be one step ahead and be alert for potential incident.
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Post by Alexendra » 25 Sep 2019 12:26

Hi Tobin !!!! I found this informative posts with some helpful suggestions. I had read it all ….. \:)/ <:)> (::) :\:

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Post by Shadowlad » 24 Mar 2020 11:35

Hello i hope everyone is doing ok <:)>

I'm currently feeling a lot of anxiety as i know many people must be in this current global crisis. Now our country has gone into tighter restrictions for the benefit of our health and that of our health system i confess to feeling very unsettled and emotional. I'm grateful to still be able to go out for walks or a cycle but feel unsettled with so many changes. I feel let down by my daughter who came home from Greece and days later has gone to isolate with her boyfriend. I have my best friend here who is a great help, she is staying with me because i was about to ask our lodger to leave and now i can't. The lodger is daughter's friend ! I have helped her all i can but was ready for her leaving as she irritates me greatly. Anyway, i'm sure many others are also having to make many adjustments in their homes right now and i feel a bit guilty for getting irritated and edgy with daughter and her friend. Oh well. At least my own friend has stayed so we can help each other. I am grateful for that. Take good care everyone, and stay well xxx
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Post by Topcat » 24 Mar 2020 12:41

Sorry you're stuck with a lodger you don't want Nicky. That's really tough. Perhaps you can isolate from her a bit even though you are stuck in the same house (If the house is big enough for that of course).
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Now our country has gone into tighter restrictions for the benefit of our health and that of our health system i confess to feeling very unsettled and emotional.
I actually feel happier about things now (although "happy" isn't really the right word). We're all in it together rather than being grouped into categories depending on our age and state of health. Feels weird though with all this 2 metres apart (makes the supermaket queues a mile long) :lol:

Glad you have your friend with you Nicky. Must admit, I'm glad I live alone and have nobody else to worry about other than myself (I can be completely selfish) :D Take care xx <:)>
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Post by Shadowlad » 24 Mar 2020 14:10

Thank you TC my dear friend, for your lovely supportive reply. Its funny but i also feel happy with our government decision, it must be very tough for them trying to get on top of this extreme problem. I feel better for a little cry and talking about pent up feelings. Things are much worse for many people and i sincerely hope this new move helps to slow down the acceleration of the virus and that people will be ok.

I ran out of medication and haven't had any for a few days due to not forward planning. That is now sorted and i will get it in the next day or so.

When shopping for mum and her companion yesterday the supermarkets were quiet, and many shelves empty as people have been talking about. I'm so glad to read that your local shop is looking after it's regulars TC. :)

I was exhausted yesterday going shopping to two supermarkets, but to see the gratitude and happiness on my mother's face as she arranged her flowers, and took in her food shopping, was priceless. We managed a chat at a distance in the street. It makes me realise the importance of looking out for others in need right now. A lot of our neighbours are in complete isolation and one neighbour has severe mental health problems. She was so happy with my note through her door yesterday. She is suicidal and i never knew. But my contact made a difference to her day.

Halfway through writing this my counsellor has just done the weekly appointment by 'zoom online' (face time a bit like skype) so i feel a lot better since that, anxiety has lessened x

Hope everyone else is ok xx
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Post by Topcat » 24 Mar 2020 15:13

Glad you have your medication sorted now Nicky.
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but to see the gratitude and happiness on my mother's face as she arranged her flowers, and took in her food shopping, was priceless.
Ah that's nice to hear ;)?
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Halfway through writing this my counsellor has just done the weekly appointment by 'zoom online' (face time a bit like skype) so i feel a lot better since that, anxiety has lessened x
That is also very good to hear Nicky. Glad the anxiety has lessened for you now. I found pottering in the garden a real tonic this morning. Take care my dear friend <:)>
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