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Anyone Over 50 Here?

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Re: Anyone Over 50 Here?

Post by Spats » 06 Dec 2018 22:05

How many lives have you got left now TC, especially after your run in with the tree :lol:

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Post by Topcat » 07 Dec 2018 09:50

Spats wrote:
06 Dec 2018 22:05
How many lives have you got left now TC, especially after your run in with the tree :lol:
:lol: I'm not counting anymore Spats :lol:
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Post by Action » 30 Dec 2018 01:52

Crikey TC that was a close shave!
I’m 49 and 3/4s and have been sadly brainwashed/tempted by those blooming over 50 ‘pay for your funeral’ adverts.
I feel like that’s what you’re supposed to do when you reach the big 50.
I want to be actively involved with the rest of my life, not some pathetic person sat on the sidelines watching it float by.
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Re: Anyone Over 50 Here?

Post by Spats » 30 Dec 2018 06:50

No Action :o Kick the booze and start LIVING Afraid I waited until after 60, but I’m certainly living and enjoying life now (::)

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Post by Lush4life » 30 Dec 2018 07:38

Action wrote:
30 Dec 2018 01:52
Crikey TC that was a close shave!
I’m 49 and 3/4s and have been sadly brainwashed/tempted by those blooming over 50 ‘pay for your funeral’ adverts.
I feel like that’s what you’re supposed to do when you reach the big 50.
Aha, buy before you die adverts ?
Noo not Me !
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Post by Topcat » 30 Dec 2018 09:42

:lol:

I can't wait to see them trying to instal me Stannah Stairlift in my bungalow :lol:
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Re: Anyone Over 50 Here?

Post by Lush4life » 30 Dec 2018 09:54

Topcat wrote:
30 Dec 2018 09:42
:lol:

I can't wait to see them trying to instal me Stannah Stairlift in my bungalow :lol:
😂🤣😎
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Post by SoberBoots » 30 Dec 2018 09:57

Action wrote:
30 Dec 2018 01:52
Crikey TC that was a close shave!
I’m 49 and 3/4s and have been sadly brainwashed/tempted by those blooming over 50 ‘pay for your funeral’ adverts.
I feel like that’s what you’re supposed to do when you reach the big 50.
I think 50 + is good. I've certainly got a bit of a drive to do things that I want to do, while I still can. I'm 55 and have lost some of the health I never noticed I had when I had it :shock: but there's an awful lot I can still do. I'm tied at the moment by an elderly mother for whom I'm sole carer, but I am planning ahead to spend part of my life overseas, have always wanted to spend a couple of years immersed in another culture and there's no reason why I shouldn't...
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Post by SueDenim » 30 Dec 2018 17:43

I had my 60th birthday on Friday, and feel about 25 in my head. I know everyone says it, but it's true. I creak a bit, and obviously have alcohol-related issues; but so far they aren't too much of a problem #fingerscrossed. It's just the sleeping that gets to me; but there are worse problems to have.

I think a long term plan is a great idea, SB. I used to go to Malaysia a lot with my work, and they had a scheme to encourage ex pats to live there, as they were seen to have more income to spend and boost the economy. I think they got a free car, and reduced rent, but I'm not sure of the detail. Obviously, things have changed, economy-wise, as theirs is booming, and ours is in freefall; but it might be worth looking into if somewhere like that appeals to you.

It isn't a dry country, but alcohol is very expensive, and not as easy to get as it is here (hotels and 7/11 stores are about the only outlets),so not a bad place to be from that point of view. The food is to die for as well, and English is widely spoken and understood, thanks to the colonial past.

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Post by SoberBoots » 30 Dec 2018 19:00

Sue, I have always felt about 47, and on a good day I still do...

I have a few places on my possibilities list, for overseas living. The one I'm going to investigate throroughly first is Costa Rica, if it proves unappealing I'll start again with another candidate. The considerations are things like climate, political stability, healthcare, affordability, ease of getting visa/residendency permits etc. I've a long standing interest in ecological issues and Costa Rica's record is pretty impressive. I'm currently learning Spanish, although I'm not great with languages and don't anticipate ever getting really fluent!
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Post by Rachel » 31 Dec 2018 00:26

I am now 51. The thing about hitting 50 is that it hits you (or me) that you are kind of on the home run :shock: Past the half way mark, at any rate. The young ones at work think I am ancient. I am not much younger than their parents, after all. I am trying to think of it this way: I may have another 30 years. That's almost the same as my adult life to date. But time does seem to speed by faster and faster as I get older. The old, but true, cliche...

OH and I do think about moving somewhere (warmer) abroad (when both our mothers are gone, of course), but there is the danger of isolation, especially when one of us dies. I don't find it easy to make friends full stop, and if one lives in a country where the language is not English, even if you do your best to learn it, I think it would be hard to make friends on a deep level. A friend of mine who has lived in the Netherlands for 20 years said that, even though she is fluent, there is somehow a barrier to deep connections. And that's without my antisocial tendancies/social deficiencies.
There are the expats of course, but no guarntee you would have much in common with them other than their also being expats.
Still, it's a possiblity. I want to get out of London when we retire, at the very least.
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Post by SoberBoots » 31 Dec 2018 01:26

Yes I think you're quite right about the language issue. I'm only intending a year or two's residence, although I suppose it might turn out to be a more permanent option.
Ex pat communities vary a good deal I think - I certainly don't want to live in a gated enclave anywhere.
A warm climate is definitely attractive, I have quite severe arthritis already unfortunately.
I know what you mean about elderly mother's- of course I'm grateful that I still have mine, but it is a massive tie.
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Re: Anyone Over 50 Here?

Post by Spats » 31 Dec 2018 09:32

The year I turned 60 I was flying to Vancouver to meet up with old friends. I’d traveled there before with my husband. This time I was alone. Decided to catch up with friends in Alaska and to take in other places I’d always wanted to see while there. 6 weeks traveling alone in strange places, meeting new folks along the way. I may not do that sort of trip again but I won’t stop traveling ... doesn’t matter where, there are people and places to see. Need to save the money from booze and cigarettes ;)?

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Re: Anyone Over 50 Here?

Post by Ruby&Tilly » 07 Jan 2019 07:13

Here in bonny Scotland you get a bowel screening kit for your 50th birthday from the NHS, lovely. :lol: i definitely still feel im in my 20s in my head, unfortunately I had a lot more sense in my twenties than I do now, not to mention everything moving south, oh the joys of being a fifty something.

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Post by SoberBoots » 08 Jan 2019 07:15

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Here in bonny Scotland you get a bowel screening kit for your 50th birthday from the NHS, lovely. :lol: i definitely still feel im in my 20s in my head, unfortunately I had a lot more sense in my twenties than I do now, not to mention everything moving south, oh the joys of being a fifty something.

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I just had mine done - we get to wait till we're 55 in England. But I've previously had full colonoscopies (and will continue to have them, colorectal cancer runs in my family and killed one my brothers) and the bowel scope is a doddle by comparison. There's talk of this new non-invasive test coming in, hope it becomes standard before my next appointment!
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Post by Rachel » 08 Jan 2019 17:09

I didn't know they were routine. I had my first mamogram last year (OUCH! Was surprised there were no bruises.) I have kept ignoring texts suggesting I go and have a general health check up, but then it occurred to me that when I have had my annual thyroid 'check up' recently, they didn't bother to take my blood pressure. In fact, last time, they said I needn't go in at all in future. I can just book the blood test on the phone. Not sure what that will include though and am keen to get liver etc tested each year.

As for the cervical smear. I find that agonizing and have been caused to bleed on several occasions. tmi?
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Post by SoberBoots » 08 Jan 2019 17:52

I haven't had a mammogram - think the reviews on whether it's actually effective are too mixed. The smear experience sounds horrible, poor you! I thin that in another generation we'll look back and be appalled by these primitive screenings. Still, in 1900 we'd have expected to be dead at 48!
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Re: Anyone Over 50 Here?

Post by Spats » 08 Jan 2019 19:36

In my 40s I had a routine cervical smear test, was called back for further tests, looked problematic and had op to remove growth. 20 years on and I’m still here. What would have happened otherwise?

2 years ago I had a routine mammogram, was called back for further tests. Nothing could be detected physically. Scans found growth hidden. That and large amount of surrounding tissue removed. I’m still here with annual mammograms. What would have happened otherwise?

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Post by Ruby&Tilly » 08 Jan 2019 23:34

Yeah the mammogram is awful, had a cancer scare last year but fortunately it was just cysts. Can't remember when I last had a smear? I get bloods checked every year coz I'm a loopy lol hoping to get good liver results this year. ()o

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Post by SoberBoots » 09 Jan 2019 07:11

I can just book the blood test on the phone. Not sure what that will include though and am keen to get liver etc tested each year.
You have to ask for liver function tests, they're not included in the standard blood test any more.
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