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Partners, families, children and friends - they all get affected by your drinking.
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Family Matters

Post by Bela » 20 Dec 2009 01:07

This new thread is by special request by, and is dedicated to, the one and only Tink.
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Post by Kittie » 20 Dec 2009 04:47

Great idea for a thread :)
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Post by Tink » 20 Dec 2009 14:43

Thanks so much Bela, now I have a place to put all that stuff and others will too.


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Post by Yorkie » 20 Dec 2009 14:56

I have family issues - I got really drunk yesterday and now my boys and I are in bits - we're not speaking to each other, and I am in bed - not sure how to mend this rift
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Post by Yorkie » 20 Dec 2009 19:32

Hi Tink...it's alot to do with getting hungry....things seem to go haywire when Im hungry...that's when I drink.
It sounds easy enough to resolve...just eat little and often...but lately, I've been letting myself get hungry - it was only when you mentioned sugar levels that I made the connection. <:)> <:)>
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Post by Yorkie » 21 Dec 2009 23:17

Hi Tink, thinking of you and the prayer for Payton - consider it done my friend <:)>
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Post by thewho » 22 Dec 2009 13:04

Tink, of course, and the prayer will be said often over the next few days..... xx

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Post by Sheila » 22 Dec 2009 15:58

Hi Tink
What a very sad time you're having....I wish there was something I could say or do to help, but there isn't. All I can do is send you <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> 's.
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Post by Kittie » 22 Dec 2009 16:57

Oh Tink I am so sorry to read this post, she is treating you so very very badly - i think your son needs to get her help and quickly, its most sad because there is a little person involved.

I'm also sorry to hear you drank, but it happens to us all sometimes- you have been so strong not only for yourself but others too I am sure this slip will not stop you on your long term goals - its great you posted and now its time to forgive yourself.

My thought are with you, your son and little Payt

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Re: Family Matters

Post by Ms Kay » 22 Dec 2009 19:04

Reading the story so far then I would say that the grandparental rights route does seem like an option although I think I would agree with your OH by saying warn your son and give him a set time limit to take alternative steps before setting the ball rolling.
I suppose there must be forums around somewhere on t'internet with people who have already done battle with the courts over grandparental rights so perhaps a good starting place might be a forum where you can get the advice of people who are going through the process ( knowledge is power !)

Mediation by a professional would be a great step but by the sounds of it then P's mother may not agree if I'm reading into the situation correctly



Is there a particular reason why P's mother doesn't want you to see her or is she just insane??

Hoping that this resolves one way or the other soon. I would agree that it seems the time has come to be proactive rather than reactive as P is suffering too by missing out on you which isn't fair. If the mother gets away with this then she'll use the little one as a pawn every chance she gets which isn't healthy

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Post by Ms Kay » 22 Dec 2009 20:32

Thats awful Tink - what a toxic lady she is :-(
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Post by Ms Kay » 22 Dec 2009 22:08

Payt is lucky to have you as a Grand mother :D

Having read your two further posts then I think that doing this sooner rather than later is the correct move as it sets access in stone on a legal footing rather than a "dependent on her mood" footing

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