This is interesting Marsha, i hope you don't mind me quoting. I can relate to this, trying to juggle so many things at once, working long hours and taking on too many roles at home and work. I wasn't a professional, but was at one point working towards that too. My mind was kind of set at that time, i convinced myself that i could manage, but in truth i didn't.DoneandDone wrote: I stayed with girlish ideas my whole life. I thought I could do all the adult things around house and the education and feeding of family and still let it all go over and over in a whoopdedoo or hullabaloo. Plus trying to keep a professional career going. It was an impossible jumble.
I have never read any of Allen Carr's books, but that is an interesting theory about our alcohol troubles being culturally induced. Does this mean in the way it is promoted to us nationally, or the culture in which we were raised ? I was never surrounded by heavy drinkers growing up, but most of my adult life was aware of a growing obsession with the substance in this country (UK) inducing a culture of binge drinking and recklessness. I was a home drinker and for many years thought i had it under control, but then carried on even when i knew the control was gone. If i could rewind the clock i would have followed the admirable example of my teetotal Irish friend. She made a decision long ago never to drink alcohol because of a family history of alcohol abuse and violence. She never drank AND was a virgin until 30 ! Wow, that really is self control isn't it. Its kind of a clever way of rebelling against the 'norms' of society lol.
Seriously though, whatever the reasons we got into difficulties with alcohol, it happened and we are here now with a chance to develop and grow, especially inwardly. How good it would be to find inner peace. Acceptance of what i can and can't control seems to help bring some peace and calm. Especially where relationships are concerned.