Re: The relationship I have with myself.......
Posted: 09 Jun 2019 17:39
Hi Pork, I'll see your meme and raise you a pair
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I feel the same, there is really no need for me to keep social media. I can keep contact with 'positive influences' in other ways, and check out animal videos on you tube (occasionally) as freeflow says. I feel so much better when not living my life behind a screen, it affects physical and mental health having too much time on the internet. I do appreciate BE though, but again it is just trying to use it in moderation.Pink Panther wrote: ↑09 Jun 2019 21:33One of the issues that came up was social media and how it is used to hurt each other, be it deleting someone, ignore someone etc etc and the negativity this can create along with paranoia etc. I came home full of all kinds of emotions, not necessarily resolving much but at least agreeing to disagree which is a start. I also decided I don't want to live my life behind a screen and have removed social media, along with other chat methods due to feeling like we are living our lives in each others pockets although that is far from the truth, people knowing every move you make, knowing if a message has been read or not, its like having no privacy at all, can see when people have been active etc...Its just not real life and I reckon it will do me good, certainly for a good while to get rid. Will move on from today and build strength.
Good for you, deciding that this is the last time, and for initiating an amicable platform. Also for deciding to not get involved in with other's issues. 'Not my monkey not my circus', my fave sentence atm. My mother and her partner argue nearly every week, and i have vowed not get involved or take sides. Taking this stance feels right, and ensures no pressure is placed on my shoulders. Her partner, her choice. Not my business at all.Pink Panther wrote: ↑09 Jun 2019 21:33Following my posts on here, I decided enough was enough and to try and resolve or at least sort out a situation to be amicable in particular when it comes to family events, as opposed to having an awful atmosphere which is what causes me anxiety. The other person agreed and we talked, shared views, didn't agree with views, a few tears by myself as I'd got so worked up and due to dynamics. Before I went to the meeting, I decided this was the very last time I would ever put myself in this position, ie. not getting involved in any way shape or form with issues that are either beyond my business or control, it will always backfire even if your intentions were good. I was 100% fixed firm with this.
And you should be very proud of yourself pink too, well done !Pink Panther wrote: ↑09 Jun 2019 21:33I am now going to concentrate on myself and my family and put all of my efforts into what is important to me, what I can control and have the courage to accept the things I cannot change.
Could I have drank today?...……….probably could have got wasted any other time as all kinds of emotions were dredged up but I'm glad I suggested it if nothing else but to clear the air...………………...As I have chosen the sober path, I chose not to react to these emotions which I am truly proud of and believe this is a cracking achievement...there is only family who can do this to me emotionally.
Yep and this week i'm gonna get it. No ringing my mother for at least a full week