Online Alcohol Therapy |  Do you need professional help? |  Alcoholism & Recovery Articles |  Self Help Resources

The First 7 Days

User avatar
ODAAT
Posts: 1676
Joined: 15 Apr 2014 08:56
Last Drink Date: 20 Apr 2016
Location: UK
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by ODAAT » 04 Feb 2015 16:37

Sorry not posting much got a banging headache. Back when it eases. Still sober and intend to keep it that way

Will
#58 2016 Challenge - Sober 21/04/16 onwards
#44 2017 Challenge - Complete
#44 2018 Challenge - Complete
#44 2019 Challenge - ODAAT

Isabella
Posts: 349
Joined: 04 May 2014 20:29
Last Drink Date: 14 Dec 2014
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Isabella » 04 Feb 2015 18:36

Day two and it's been a mixed bag. Picked up happy pills from docs to try and get raging anxiety under control as meditation just wasn't cutting it. Had counselling about sex abuse case which was good. Then got back to an email from my ex to say he he's decided to simply stop paying maintenance. Full stop. Which is nice. I will NOT hit the bottle though! I really bloody want to but I have to find more work to make up the difference. Knob.

Ann Short
Posts: 335
Joined: 09 Jan 2013 08:42
Last Drink Date: 27 Dec 2015
Location: North East England
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Ann Short » 04 Feb 2015 19:32

Just popping my head around the door to wish everyone who is on the 7 day thread the best of luck - am thinking of you all :)
Abstinence makes the heart less fonder

User avatar
ODAAT
Posts: 1676
Joined: 15 Apr 2014 08:56
Last Drink Date: 20 Apr 2016
Location: UK
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by ODAAT » 04 Feb 2015 21:58

Day 1 done. Its been really hard. Ill post more tomorrow just felt so down today. Thank you all for your support.

Night everyone.

P.S Shell....the love of my life ()o
#58 2016 Challenge - Sober 21/04/16 onwards
#44 2017 Challenge - Complete
#44 2018 Challenge - Complete
#44 2019 Challenge - ODAAT

Hunnie
Posts: 44
Joined: 04 Feb 2015 22:27
Last Drink Date: 03 Feb 2015
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Hunnie » 04 Feb 2015 22:59

Hi.
I'm new to the forum. Day 1, but more through feeling so ill after binge last night.
Working tomorrow, so I know I will manage day 2.
The thought of 7 days without wine seems impossible, but I'm going to try my hardest. I need to get well

User avatar
Weisir
Posts: 600
Joined: 05 Mar 2013 19:04
Location: Blue Mountain
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Weisir » 05 Feb 2015 00:22

When the day is done...

Hi and 'lo everyone, so glad to see so many winning the day, good to see the good days coming for some, good to see the worst of days overcome. An especially soft fluffing of hair to those who had an extra tough day today. There is enough struggle for all of us, but enough hope too.
I've been in a foul mood but I've ben telling myself just to wait, soon is sleep and then it will be another day. It is funny, this giving myself a stern talking to, how I don't believe what I'm telling myself but still somehow it does work. I am tired and determined, sad and optimistic... Tomorrow I will find a bird and smile at it.

Goodnight all.
The Sun / Is Free


A sort of blog: Oenochoai.com/road
Doing a diary there now during my stay at a detox place.

Zandra 1
Posts: 561
Joined: 29 Aug 2014 06:18
Last Drink Date: 03 Jan 2015
Location: Whales :-D (Wales)
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Zandra 1 » 05 Feb 2015 07:11

Hunnie wrote:Hi.
I'm new to the forum. Day 1, but more through feeling so ill after binge last night.
Working tomorrow, so I know I will manage day 2.
The thought of 7 days without wine seems impossible, but I'm going to try my hardest. I need to get well

Welcome to BE Hunnie xxx your in the right place and the natives are all friendly around here ;) and well done for stepping in the right direction and getting sober. The first few day's are not easy but do stick with it no matter what the end results are so worth it, life is very different without the beer goggles on ;)? . Being sober isn't instant sunshine but its sure a lot better than dragging through life every day feeling like hell and no way out.

And the longer you stay AF ( Alcohol free' )the much easier everything is to deal with and you smile more, and feel good about yourself too. Also i don't know if you know what EAF mean's s you'll see it a lot here on BE so just incase its 'The Evil Alcohol Fairy' that sits on your shoulder telling you to 'go on, have a drink then, you need it, enjoy it, can't function without it. etc. You got to swat her off and not listen to her lies ;)?

Love Zandra xxx <:)> <:)>
Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.
Epictetus

All philosophy in two words, — sustain and abstain.
Epictetus

Born to rock and roll
not roll rock bottom
by Zandra

User avatar
Bodger
Posts: 162
Joined: 24 Sep 2014 07:56
Last Drink Date: 12 Oct 2015
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Bodger » 05 Feb 2015 07:35

Well done PJ. I know it's not easy so be proud of yourself.

Day Five here. Yesterday was hard. Today will be harder.
O God, that men should put an enemy in their mouths to steal away their brains! that we should, with joy, pleasance, revel, and applause, transform ourselves into beasts! ~William Shakespeare

Grace77
Posts: 367
Joined: 21 Jun 2014 12:30
Last Drink Date: 18 Aug 2015
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Grace77 » 05 Feb 2015 07:46

Good morning all you 7 dayers, back on the wagon for me after thoroughly trashing my new years resolutions. Day 2 now following a Tuesday night binge resulting in a day off work. Not good. Haven't had time to catch up properly on posts, but see plenty of old faces are still fighting the good fight. It's encouraging to see people sticking at it and still trying no matter how many blips there are. Have a good day everyone x

User avatar
Hedgehog
Posts: 3120
Joined: 09 Aug 2014 10:32
Location: UK
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Hedgehog » 05 Feb 2015 08:18

Today has triggers galore. I'm wondering whether to go back to bed and stay there until tomorrow. :?
Breaking on through to the other side. \:)/

Hunnie
Posts: 44
Joined: 04 Feb 2015 22:27
Last Drink Date: 03 Feb 2015
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Hunnie » 05 Feb 2015 09:16

Thank you all for your warm welcomes!!
Day two dawns. I know I should eat (yesterday was only capable of sleep and water) but still feeling incredibly sick.
Have a late shift today, and all I want to do is hide under my quilt!
Going to try a cup of tea.....and take it from there.
On a plus, I feel so crap I don't feel like drinking

User avatar
ODAAT
Posts: 1676
Joined: 15 Apr 2014 08:56
Last Drink Date: 20 Apr 2016
Location: UK
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by ODAAT » 05 Feb 2015 09:20

Day 2 and f**k me i dont feel well. Nightmares all night and feel like ive been hit by a bus. So glad took today off, gona go back to sleep guys. Havent got to day 3 since may last year, but now is my time.

Thank you PG always so good to hear from you. Ill be back later.

Peace and love to you all

Will
#58 2016 Challenge - Sober 21/04/16 onwards
#44 2017 Challenge - Complete
#44 2018 Challenge - Complete
#44 2019 Challenge - ODAAT

User avatar
Bodger
Posts: 162
Joined: 24 Sep 2014 07:56
Last Drink Date: 12 Oct 2015
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Bodger » 05 Feb 2015 10:18

PyjamaGirl wrote:Bodger, today is Thursday and I know how hard this will be. Something needs to be different today to make a change. Shop this morning not tonight? Walk after you drop your daughter off? Please do post as we are all here, and Hedgehog will have her stern hat on!
Thank you PJ but I think we've already given in today. Back tomorrow for day one.
O God, that men should put an enemy in their mouths to steal away their brains! that we should, with joy, pleasance, revel, and applause, transform ourselves into beasts! ~William Shakespeare

Zandra 1
Posts: 561
Joined: 29 Aug 2014 06:18
Last Drink Date: 03 Jan 2015
Location: Whales :-D (Wales)
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Zandra 1 » 05 Feb 2015 10:30

Hedgehog wrote:Today has triggers galore. I'm wondering whether to go back to bed and stay there until tomorrow. :?
Put the gun down then Hedgexxx ;) Pour an AF drink sit and chill http://youtu.be/wgVxHNYnA9E" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
http://youtu.be/JmxB1DAVdA4" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
http://youtu.be/AQSknI8Kb4g" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

And remember 16 bottles of wine ago? Do you REALLY want to do a total reconstruction to destruction :? Nay!!! thou dos't not methinks yer lady ship!! ;) C'moh you are now looking for 'validation' dressed as an EAF lie to drink to :mrgreen:
Swatter out now chick!!! ;)?

Love Zandra xxxx <:)> <:)> <:)>
Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.
Epictetus

All philosophy in two words, — sustain and abstain.
Epictetus

Born to rock and roll
not roll rock bottom
by Zandra

User avatar
bentnotbrokenwings
Posts: 553
Joined: 02 Dec 2014 21:02
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by bentnotbrokenwings » 05 Feb 2015 10:56

Bodge & Hog, if you don't mind mw saying, why don't you try and stop now. Have the couple you two have had and leave it at that. Maybe at the very least moderation may help you two make it a few days longer on your next attempt? Instead of taking it all the way, the urge got the bit you've had, and stop it at that. Worth a try, and may make next time easier? <:)> to both of you, I know how hard you two are struggling even with a great desire to make it through the week.
LFH/Will, sorry you are feeling so awful, it will pass and get better. You did right taking time off so please do a lot of rest and relaxation, even if it means a few days in bed. Your body could use the rest, sleep shuts the mind down, and you need to restore your energy to fight and win this. Take care of yourself right now, it IS all about you. Much <:)>, day three is coming for you this time!!
Welcome Hunnie, and great job on day 2. You say it is easier because of how you feel, find a way to remind yourself of those feelings as you begin to feel better. Take notes, write yourself a letter, and/or post about the dreadful hangover days so you can go back and read them as your body starts to recover and think it's ready for more drink. Have a good read around this forum, in my early days reading "negative sides to drinking", "things I notice when I don't drink", the "family" forums, they all helped me greatly when I had urges. It's easy to forget how awful that stuff can be when you are feeling better physically so reading how it disrupted so many others' lives and well being really kept it real that it was no good to pick back up. I believe it was Gerard on here that said once a thought is not an instruction, I apply that to EVERYTHING now, just because my silly head thinks it, it doesn't mean my body should be peer-pressured into doing it. Thoughts pass just like the wind, just wait them out until they pass.
Diane, stay close, follow the threads, it helps greatly. Family motivation helped me, did I really want to chose drunkenness over the ones I loved? Heck no. Were they wrong for having me make that choice? Heck no. I was putting them through h*ll, as well as myself, and if I wanted to wake up hungover, hurting, all alone and left behind, the best way to do it was to keep drinking. Alcohol is not your friend, it will never be family, even with it in your pantry, filling up your fridge and your body, it is guaranteed to still having you feel all alone. Your hubby loves you enough to be concerned about your drinking, he's the one worth consuming your thoughts right now <:)>
PJ, great to see you going strong <:)> You are positive and motivational, that is always great to see on here as it generally shows you are well on your way to week 2! Thank you for your posts, I too find them helpful, another reminder AF means happier moments :-)
Best to all today, and stay strong. Remember as long as you are still trying, you haven't failed. Just keep trying. Anything less than what you were doing is a step in the right direction, and gives you just a little more strength to keep stepping forward. Many <:)> to all today!
It's not anxiety,it's alcohol.It's not depression,it's alcohol.It's not a miserable life,it's alcohol.When u make a choice to drink it,you also make a choice to have anxiety,be depressed,and have a miserable existence.Make better choices.

Zandra 1
Posts: 561
Joined: 29 Aug 2014 06:18
Last Drink Date: 03 Jan 2015
Location: Whales :-D (Wales)
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Zandra 1 » 05 Feb 2015 11:43

I found this on a Blog and its one of the most wises list's I've read on a Blog ;)? Everyone can learn something from this list, but you also have to do it for it to work.
Love to everyone Zandra xxx <:)> <:)> <:)>


43 Life Lessons




Be impeccable with your word. Be honest — with yourself and others. If you promise to do something, do it. When somebody asks you a question, tell the truth. Don’t gossip. Practice what you preach.
Don’t take anything personally. When people criticize you and your actions, it’s not about you — it’s about them. They can’t know what it’s like to be you and to be living your life. When you take things personally, you’re allowing others to control your life and your happiness. “The dogs bark, but the caravan moves on.” — Arab proverb
Don’t make assumptions. The flip side of not taking anything personally is to not assume you know what’s going on in other people’s heads, to not assume you know the motivations for their actions. Just as their reality doesn’t reflect your reality, your life is not theirs. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
Always do your best. Your best will vary from moment to moment. Some days in the gym, for instance, I’m able to lift heavier weights than on other days. That’s okay. I do the best I can every time. This is one of the keys to success and to happiness: No matter what you do, do it as well as you can.
Be skeptical — but learn to listen. In other words, don’t believe everything you hear, not just from others, but also from your own internal self-talk. Keep an open mind, but analyze the things you see and hear to see if they actually make sense.
Be encouraging. There are a lot of people out there who want to tell others what’s wrong with their actions, why the things they want to do can’t be done. Don’t be that way. Instead, do what you can (in big ways and subtle ways) to help others achieve their goals.
People who are happy with their own lives almost never criticize others, to paraphrase Steven Pressfield from The War of Art. “If they speak at all,” says Pressfield, “it’s to offer encouragement.”
Have the courage to pursue your dreams. If you want something, go after it. Don’t allow yourself to be trapped in a life filled with shoulds. Don’t do things just because others expect you to do them. Choose what you want. “The minute you choose to do what you really want to do, it’s a different kind of life.” — R. Buckminster Fuller
Fear is the mind-killer. If you can build confidence and overcome fear, you’ll be happier and more successful. This isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face…You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
“No hay mal que por bien no venga.” — Spanish proverb. That is, there is no bad from which some good does not come. (Or, “every cloud has a silver lining”.) Sometimes life sucks. Bad things happen. But in nearly every instance, the bad brings good too, usually in the opportunity to change, to transform yourself into something new.
Change is good. For some reason, our society is skeptical of people who transform themselves. A politician who changes her mind because she gains a deeper understanding of something is said to have “flip-flopped” on an issue. But personal growth can be amazing. By doing and trying and learning new things, you experience more of life, and you become a better person. Don’t be afraid to change and grow.
Spirituality is personal. The desire for one person (or group) to impose her (or their) beliefs on others is the source of much of this world’s strife. Believe what you want, and let others do the same. “There is no need for temples, no need for complicated philosophies. My brain and heart are my temples; my philosophy is kindness.” — Dalai Lama
Self-care comes first. Eat right. Exercise. Take time to relax. Do your personal chores. Be well groomed. Treat yourself like a princess (or a prince). When you take care of yourself, it’s easier to be of service to others.
You can’t predict what the Future You will like. It’s pointless to even try. Instead, focus on creating the best life for the Present You. Make decisions based on what you need today instead of what might happen tomorrow. (But note this isn’t permission to simply ignore the future. You still need to save for retirement, for instance, but you also need to make decisions based on who you are at this moment.)
Be present in the moment. When you do something, do that thing. When you’re with somebody, bewith them. Don’t multitask. Put away the smartphone or the computer or the book. Be all there. When you do this, you’ll do better work, you’ll show respect to others, and you’ll enjoy yourself more.
Don’t try to change others. “Attempts to change others are rarely successful, and even then are probably not completely satisfying,” Harry Browne wrote in How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World. “To accept others as they are doesn’t mean you have to give into them or put up with them. You are sovereign. You own your own world. You can choose…There are millions of people out there in the world; you have a lot more to choose from than just what you see in front of you now.”
Don’t allow others to try to change you. Again from How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World: “You are free to live your life as you want…The demands and wishes of others don’t control your life. You do. You make the decisions…There are thousands of people who wouldn’t demand that you bend yourself out of shape to please them. There are people who will want you to be yourself, people who see things as you do, people who want the same things you want. Why should you have to waste your life in a futile effort to please those with whom you aren’t compatible?”
It’s okay to say, “I don’t know.” Admitting ignorance isn’t the same as admitting defeat. It doesn’t make you look bad. You know what does make you look bad? Saying or doing something with confidence but being completely wrong. If you don’t know, say so.
Don’t yuck someone else’s yum. Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean it’s bad. Pursue your passions, and let others pursue theirs. If you don’t like something, fine. There’s no need to make a big deal about it. (Note: This is a tough one for me to actually practice in daily life.)
There’s seldom one right way to do something. Most of the time, there are multiple paths to success. For instance, as I’ve said many times here at Get Rich Slowly, there’s no one right way to get out of debt. Don’t believe anyone who tells you there is.
Quality tools can make life better. For years, I equated low cost with smart spending. Now I know that’s not always the case. Now, I’m willing to spend to buy high-quality things when I know I’ll use them all the time. I have high-quality boots, for instance, and an expensive computer. I’m okay with that. I walk everywhere I go, so the boots are worth it. And my computer is my livelihood. The expense is worth it because it makes working a joy. For items used daily, buy the best. If you don’t use it often, of if it’s not important to you, buy the cheapest possible.
Happiness is mostly internal. While external forces do affect well-being, most of your happiness comes from one place: You. Research has shown that about 50% of happiness is biological; 40% of happiness comes from intentional activity, the things you choose to do; and only 10% of your happiness is based on external factors beyond your control. If you’re not happy, change who you are and what you do.
Small passions give life flavor. I love bacon and comic books and Scotch whisky and cats and maracuyá (a passionfruit from Perú). I enjoy walking through the city, reading the news in Spanish, taking the laundry out of the dryer, and ordering the same tea every day from the same barrista. These small pleasures provide texture to life. Savor them.
There’s no such thing as natural talent. If you want to be good at something, you have to spend the time to become good at that thing. Only American superheroes don’t have to work for the abilities they have. And how strange is that? They’re just given their powers. That’s not how it works in the real world. As Malcolm Gladwell notes in Outliers, in the real world, people become experts by putting in thousands of hours.
Be adventurous. Try new things. Eat new food. Learn a new skill. Travel. Watch foreign films. Change your hairstyle. You might not enjoy everything you try, but then you might find something you really love. (From Action Girl’s Guide to Living.)
Be open-minded. Read books and magazines and newspapers and web sites. (And not just the ones you already agree with or like.) Listen to other people’s opinions. You don’t have to welcome every new idea with open arms; just be willing to change and grow. (From Action Girl’s Guide to Living.)
Be positive. Life is short. Don’t waste time complaining. If you can do something about a problem, do it. Otherwise, get on with life and forget it. Route your negative energy in a positive direction. If you hate something, fine, but don’t make it your career.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Who cares if your shirt isn’t ironed? If you forgot to mail the phone bill? If you can’t remember someone’s name? Take it easy. It’s not that important.
Ask for it. You’ll never get it if you don’t ask. And you might be surprised at what you can get just by being bold.
Slow and steady wins the race. The most successful folks are those who work longest and hardest at things they love to do. So try to find ways to make frugality fun, and recognize that you’re in this for the long haul. You’re making a lifestyle change, not looking for a quick fix.
The perfect is the enemy of the good. Too many people never get started toward their goals because they don’t know that the “best” first step is. Don’t worry about getting things exactly right — just choose a good option and do something to get started.
Failure is okay. Everyone makes mistakes. Don’t let one slip-up drag you down. One key difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is the ability to recover from a setback and keep marching toward a goal. Use failures to learn what not to do next time. “Fall down seven times, get up eight.” — Japanese proverb
You can have (or do) anything you want — but you can’t have (or do) everything you want. Being smart with money — or with time — isn’t about giving up your plasma TV or your daily latte. It’s about setting priorities and managing expectations, about conscious living. Focus on the things that matter most to you and ignore everything else.
You don’t need permission. When we’re young, we wait for our parents and our teachers to say it’s okay to do the things we want to do. As an adult, you don’t need permission from anyone else. Do you want to quit your job and travel the world? Do it. Do you want to learn how to ride a motorcycle? Do it. Don’t wait for somebody to give you the go-ahead. You are the only one who needs to give yourself permission to do these things.
Action beats inaction. It’s easy to put things off, but the sooner you start moving toward your goals, the easier they’ll be to reach. It’s better to start with small steps today than to wait for that someday when you’ll be able to make great strides. Get moving.
Along similar lines, it’s not what you say that matters; it’s what you do. Live a life of action, not words. “Action is character.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald.
Look for connections. Share your interests and experiences with people you meet. You don’t need to force your story on others. But learn to strike up conversations with people you meet. Ask them about their lives. They’ll ask you about yours. In Never Eat Alone, Keith Ferrazzi notes this is a great way to form connections you might otherwise miss. In this way, you may sometimes turn a random encounter into a possible “lucky break”. (Occasionally you will be a source of luck for the people you meet, just as they will sometimes be a source of luck for you.)
Keep your options open. Goals are good. But single-minded devotion to a goal can often blind a person to other opportunities. And it’s a mistake to cling to one path out of a sense of obligation. If you enter law school and discover you hate it, quit. Don’t endure years of misery because you feel it’s expected of you. You have more options than you think, but you may need to open your eyes to see them.
Be empathetic — think like the other person. Remember that people are all the same. We each have the same fears and the same desires. Underneath, most folks are pretty nice. Instead of fighting with others are hating them because they’re different, try to get a feel for their story, their point of view. “You never really know a man until you stand in his shoes and walk around in them.” — Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird.
Do the right thing. If you do what’s right, and you do it well, what do you care what other people think? Successful people will always have critics. Learn from the critics or to ignore them, but don’t let them bring you down. Do the right thing, and confidently own the consequences.
Don’t compare yourself to others. I’ll tell you a secret. There are a lot of personal finance blogs out there. I don’t get to read them as often as I used to, but I do try to make the rounds once every week. Sometimes when I do this, I feel like giving up. I feel like quitting. I lose confidence. “I can’t write that well,” I think. “I can’t cover retirement investing as well as Jim did.” Comparing myself to others is counter-productive. It only makes me feel inadequate. Who cares what other people write, or how well? What’s important is simply producing the best work I can. All I can be is myself.
Be yourself. This is by far the most important thing I’ve learned about life. For so long, I tried to please other people, tried to be and do the things I thought they wanted me to be and do. That just made me unhappy. And most of the time, it didn’t please anyone. I’ve had enough of that. Instead of trying to be somebody else, I’m just me. I’m honest about who I am and what I want. Sure, that means some of my old friends don’t like who I’ve become. That’s okay. I’ve made new friends who do like who I am. But the best part is that I like who I am.
“Everybody is talented, original and has something important to say.” — Barbara Ueland, from ''If You Want to Write''.
Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.
Epictetus

All philosophy in two words, — sustain and abstain.
Epictetus

Born to rock and roll
not roll rock bottom
by Zandra

User avatar
want2bhealthy
Posts: 1652
Joined: 21 Sep 2013 22:26
Location: Northeastern US
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by want2bhealthy » 05 Feb 2015 16:34

Morning all,

Isabella you definitely had a trying day yesterda <:)> You have a lot to deal with but you can do it stay strong. If bad things come in threes you have had yours so only good things coming your way.

Diane <:)> to you too. Try not to drink today if you can. Tomorrow make some plans for when the cravings hit. Start changing your daily habits little by little until they are the new healthy routine.

Bodger day 5 is a killer and Thursdays can be tough. As Bent said try to stop and then start counting again tomorrow.

Hedge do whatever you can to get through today. Don't give into the squeaking. You are worth it

Will go back to bed for the whole day if that is what it takes. Walk the dog when your mind starts kicking in. You can get through today my friend, you have the power to do it.

I got through last night but the permission thoughts have started early today. It is like the EAF saying, "you may have won the battle but you have not yet won the war" So maddening. I am off work today which makes getting through last night a huge achievement but also makes getting through this entire day with the EAF on my back particularly hard.

But.....yes...we had more snow today so shoveling should keep me busy for a while :evil: :twisted:

Til tonight my friends,
Kate
It begins in chilhood as a deep insecurity and the alcohol itself is the medicine to that insecurity. Without it most alcoholics are easily identifiable because they simply don't know how to operate.

Trina
Posts: 984
Joined: 01 Nov 2012 03:56
Last Drink Date: 16 Jun 2020
Location: North Carolina
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Trina » 05 Feb 2015 19:12

Zandra, good stuff, thanks for that list!!

And to everyone on here who is struggling, please please give yourself a chance to succeed. The first days/weeks suck, there's no way around that. For me, the way I finally got through it was just to make the decision "I'm doing this" no matter how bad I feel, how many temptations come my way, no matter what happens. I will not drink, NO MATTER WHAT. Strangely, that has made things easier, because the constant "will I won't I" is gone. If it helps, give yourself a day in the future when you will re-evaluate and allow yourself to drink if you want to - but not until then. You may be surprised at how much your thoughts and feelings will change by the time you reach that day. (I am on day 42 of a 100 day challenge and already I feel very different than I did 6 weeks ago.)

Other people have said it before, but it's worth saying again. The benefits of sobriety are so many, and so unexpected. I read a line somewhere that really summed it up for me: Sobriety fixed things in my life I didn't even know were broken. You deserve that, and it IS within your reach!

Trina
Just because the monkey is off your back doesn't mean the circus has left town -- George Carlin

User avatar
Weisir
Posts: 600
Joined: 05 Mar 2013 19:04
Location: Blue Mountain
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Weisir » 05 Feb 2015 21:47

Hi all

Been very tough for you both Hunnie and Will, but you are fighting the good fight, way to go both of you!

I see many are struggling now, hope you find some hope on here...

I've gone a bit quiet these days it seems so hard to make words, but I do read every one of you, and wish so hard for every one of you .
And I am so glad to be in the company of people like you all.
The Sun / Is Free


A sort of blog: Oenochoai.com/road
Doing a diary there now during my stay at a detox place.

Hunnie
Posts: 44
Joined: 04 Feb 2015 22:27
Last Drink Date: 03 Feb 2015
Contact:

Re: The First 7 Days

Post by Hunnie » 05 Feb 2015 23:27

Day 2 almost over. Just finished my late shift, and because I'm on a sleep-in no chance of drinking!
Have managed to eat today, so body is feeling better, strange aches and pains and hot sweats, but I've experienced these before.
Tomorrow night will be tough, in the house alone - so am going to plan to have things to do, even if it's just a long soak in the bath with a good book.
Positive at the moment - hope that feeling lasts!

Will - hope you managed your day 2.....

Post Reply