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Thanks Jo and TC <:)> I do feel I've come a long way since joining BE - and thank goodness for the wonderful support I've had here - unstinting, constant support from people who really know how it is. I am not 'giving up giving up' - and I won't go back to Day One as I'm not there in my mind - I'm several weeks of AF experience away from that (more if I count my other fairly good AF stints) and it's absolutely right that I can learn from those experiences all the time.

Thanks again all <:)>

I'm making a very comforting dinner tonight - mince n onions with mash and loads & loads of veg - so packed with goodness too. Just the thing to set me right. It's astonishing how 'bad' I feel (ie hungover) from what was, by comparison with my drinking pre-BE (which was about 1.5 bottles of wine a night, EVERY night), a fairly moderate amount. I've no intention of feeling like this tomorrow :)
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Finners, I'm with Topcat, Dave and Jo! Stay with us if it feels right as its just one blip! <:)>

Yes Jo, what a gorgeous day! Collected pup from her B&B, she seems fairly unscathed. :D

Took her to a little seaside village for a run on the beach and then we've been out washing the cars and she was running around with the little critters (kids) in the cul-de-sac and a Cocker Spaniel from a few doors up! She's had a whale of a time!

She's crashed out now on the settee and being very well behaved. It won't last.... and if it did I'd be worried! :D

Got my washing dry on the line for the first time this year. Spring is definitely round the corner folks! ;)?

No drink cravings today but still have thoughts of drinking on holiday. 12 weeks yet though, anything could happen by then.

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Hi all
Feeling a lot less grumpy today and enjoyed a pleasant pm walking by the river in Henley with Mrs Clovis.
Finley, keep with us, I love reading your posts!
Zandra, look after yourself and thanks for all the tips!
Jo - you are doing great!
Wannabe- don't be a stranger!
Rose, I felt crap yesterday and good today for no particular reason....who knows why? Hope you are good today!
Freshie, I've got two weeks in Brazil on holiday closely followed by three week business trip to Beijing, Shanghai and HK. Historically the business trip has been a massive piss up after meetings have finished so I'm trying to prepare myself early so this doesn't happen again.
BNBW, keeping busy distracts us from tipping the ale or wine down our throats. Well done!
Have a good eve all
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Evening all

Quite pleased with myself tonight, this is the last day of the fifth week sober. Think that I'll pour myself a large glass of ......................... orange juice and proudly drink to that :D

Hope that all is well - sleep tight peeps ;)?
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Well done George!
It's a good feeling as the weeks begin to pass.....
It's something that seemed impossible not so long ago...

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Well done George!

Wow Clove! HK, Beijing and Shanghai! You lucky thing!

Mr Fresh and I were supposed to go and live in Dubai and then Kuwait last year but it didn't come off right at the last minute. We were gutted. I loved our stint in Amsterdam and am keen to go overseas again.

Mr Fresh been looking at new job opportunities and one involves possible work overseas with an expatriate package so trying to persuade him to try for it. His choice of course, he'd be working and I'd be a lady of leisure again! Those were the days! :D
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WBN ~ I am sorry that you are feeling down, enjoy your posts so hope you feel better soon.
Finley, I vote the same as everyone else!! Stay, please!
George and everyone, so we'll done to you all!!
Well. My Day 35 is almost over and today was such an easy day for me, went to the beach, took doggies and not a thought of drinking, had a great time. Wish every day was that easy. Even went into a shop after beach where I used to often buy a bottle or two secretly, collected my £25 Lotto winnings instead from there. \:)/
Will save it for a treat and it won't be the liquid kind!

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Evening all,

Finley - stay travelling this road with us, it was a blip and a very understandable own with everything you've been going through, I love having you on the threads with us <:)>

Lovely day today, nice weather, well behaved kids and hubby, lovely long walks, nice lunch out everything swimming along nicely. I admit this morning the thoughts of wine entered my head when we decided to have lunch out today but as it was such a lovely day & the kids were so good, I thought 'this is what life should be like, me sober, not hungover, patient with the kids and happy, very very happy' I know not every day will be like this and there will be big downs as well as ups, but today was a good day,a good sober day.

Analyn, nice win! I love treats, especially ones that aren't booze

Fresh, I love love love travelling and living in other countries, did loads of travelling when I was younger. Not so much now, settled with the kiddies and stuck with a hubby who has a pretty static job, would love him to have a transferable one though, I would totally encourage it!

Clovis, glad your feeling less grumpy today, we live by the river and take daily walks along it, it's so calming and relaxing doesn't matter what the weather.

George, sounding good, hope the chicks are keeping you on your toes.

Jo, wannabe, rose, bent, zandra, chedder <:)> hope I haven't missed anyone?

Happy sober Sunday all <:)>
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Analyn I'm well jello you managed to win something on lotto!
I used to spend a tenner a week but never really won a sausage ...except the odd time I bought a scratchie when filling up with petrol. Lucky I never got addicted to gambling as I never win owt. On honeymoon we went to a casino with some other couples one eve and I was the only one who didn't win.....
I'm not bad at finding money though...often after an eve on the ale I would be walking back looking at pavement to avoid buggering over and I would find tenners and twenties dropped by other refreshed people ;)?
Mind you I probably lost hundreds of pounds falling out of my pocket in pubs and clubs over the years...I often wondered how I managed to get through so much money in an eve.
These days my only active addiction is buying antique tobacco pipes on ebay....three more this weekend..I can't stay away .... :geek:

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Clovis, it's my second win in 2 weeks (same amount!) . I am not normally lucky either. You lucky to find money!!
Saving both my wins up to maybe treat OH & myself to a boat trip or something similar! The old me would have spent it on a different kind of celebration of which I would have very little memory!! :lol:

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DAY 37 Hi everyone \:)/ hope all is well in Television land. Thank God i eventually got my ' be a ninja' head on and went out for a walk yesterday as the weather was lovely and warm out, and i managed a couple of well needed hours out although minutes in i felt like heading back home. The weather forecast look's the same today so I'll be trying again later hopefully, and i got things i want to do around my home as well so I'm hoping for some super power today but am going with whatever i can or can't do. ;)?

Mood swings are manically rotating and I'm living the full spectrum of emoticons and some I'm sure I've invented, anything from second to second, minute to minute and all time schedules either side as well. When I'm out and about and talking and to strangers and playing with their dog, i keep thinking about getting one myself, well actually i think about it all the time as I've grown up with dogs and had my own as well. :)

But one part of me worries what if i get so incapable which may happen i can't look after myself never mind an animal ( I've been thinking about a cat as well) and the other half thinks that maybe no matter what I'd get up and do what i had to for them, but in reality I think its wrong to risk it. It would be awful to end up in a state where the animal may suffer too so I'm going to put that on hold, although some places recommend a pet in these situations as their really good for the spirit and love you unconditionally but i think I'll wait as I get unbearable times and I'd only feel worse with a helpless animal unable to look after its self. :(

wannabenormal xxxx You post away if you feel the need to no matter how your feeling, don't forget thats the whole idea of BE as well as support to get sober, its also for support of what your going through when your sober. Or if its just you can't or don't feel able to post for any reason thats alright as well as there are no conditions for posting or not. What you feel you need to or can do for your well being is what matter's and if you want to let it all out don't worry .

Everyone understands as everyone else also has their time feeling weighed down by reasons they know why and day's they can't understand why. But its all part of the recovery/ healing cyle and your going to get okay day's, good day's, bad day's and day's from hell, but thats what life is all about even for non drinkers. But healing from anything takes time and going all over the place emotionally. mentally, and physically is part of it too so do as you feel you want to sweet heart. <:)>

FINLEY!!xxxx
Don't go anywhere chick , there is more Alcohol in some mouth washes than your blip, and blip it was your not a 7 day candidate for that by BE rules and even if you had done a one day wonder you can still stick with the same thread. People have also done it after two day benders and learned from it and carried on the good fight on their original thread, and stuff like that is part of recovery i believe, sometimes you gotta paddle in the Shark tank to remember why you want to say the hell outta there forever!! <:)>


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Hi everyone, just joining you as it was 4 weeks for me yesterday ;)?

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Thanks Analyn, Sammie and Rose - I will stick around. Sherlock, congratulations ;)? This is a great thread - masses of support and great company. I've loads of work to get through today but will go shopping first. I need to stock up for the week and I think it's better to do it this morning - if I leave it until after work, there'd be more chance that 'reward' thoughts would creep in.

Hope it's a good day for all and will catch up later xx
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Welcome Sherlock! \:)/

Another gorgeous day here. I am off out up the hills with pooch and my parents. Feeling good today.

Like Sammie says though, we'll have good days and bad days, and today just happens to be a good one! :D

Back on the diet, ate my body weight in Creme Eggs at the weekend! :oops:
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Well done Sherlock (::) (::)

Great news Finley and well done for pulling it around straight away. You are listening to the real Finley and not that damn EAF. Good idea re the shopping.

Keep going guys and watch out for complacency. You are doing really well but please don't think it is all sorted and you can re-introduce. It takes a long time to develop a drink problem so be patient in resolving it. One day it won't bother you that you are teetotal because that is what you have chosen to do. Never forget how to felt on Day 0!

Like your post Zandra ;)?

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welcome Sherlock!
Feeling good for not drinking this weekend. It was a tough one due to the ongoing relationship problems with my OH. Yet again i have been let down and he has promised we would have a day out together and has now cancelled. He frequently does this and i find it very cruel :cry:
I refuse to let him win though and i am trying to keep chin up, well as best i can. I have been thinking a lot about moving back home but it is such a big decision and i have to put my son first too.
Despite the massive mess i am in i do not need to add alcohol to the mix!! i might join dry feb too!
I wish you all a nice day! i quite like mondays cos OH is back at work and i can work from home and get an hour in at the gym too! ;)?

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Morning folks!
Back to the gloom of a typical February day after the lovely sun yesterday :cry:
Still, I'm going to keep on with my exercise programme which is definitely making a difference. It's certainly lessened the restless leg syndrome and even though I don't appear to have lost much weight (not that I'm fat, ladies ;)? ) I can feel myself getting stronger.
I'm preparing myself for two big trips, starting with holiday in Brazil next week then business trip to Far East. Brazil should be fine because there will be no pressure to drink and all I want to do is relax on the beach for two weeks, see Rio etc etc and Mrs Clovis' relatives.
The China trip will be more of a challenge because in past years they have taken us out most nights to big boozy dinners, during which they have non stop toasts with a clear spirit called baiju which is more than 50% proof. Remarkably, it doesn't seem to produce bad hangovers but it's definitely not for the faint hearted and is awful if you have beer too, which of course I always did. Last year I was on the piss at these dinners and beyond in Beijing, cocktails in Shanghai and I got up to all sorts in HK, and I'm not talking Bertie Bassett...somebody kept buying rounds of Jagermeister shots in this bar and the effect the next day was indescribably awful. I really do not understand how anybody would want to get drunk on Jagermeister more than once. I ended up in some very dodgy places that eve but fortunately survival instinct must have kicked in and I made it back to hotel in a taxi.
Anyway, I am planning to use "ye olde antibiotycse storye" on the trip to get me out of those situations.
Right, back to work- have a good Monday all!

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Sorry to hear about your problems with OH Rose. Keep your chin up, and you are right, booze will deffo not help. <:)>

Clovis, I dread to think what you got up to in Hong Kong. Bet it would make me blush! You stick to your soft drinks and keep on the straight and narrow my lad! :D

Dave, eeh I know, little piggy I am! Making up for it today though, done lots of walking, made a Hairy Dieters Lamb Tagine and now going to hoover and mop to keep my step count up. Currently on 12,500 steps.

Salmon for tea tonight so that the flavours in the tagine develop nicely for tomorrow. I like to have salmon at least once a week, tends to help with the old depression I find. <:)>
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thanks Fresh,
you have inspired me! i have a tagine sitting in my kitchen. Has been more of an ornament of late so i might fire it up! its ages since i've had a lamb tagine, and the prunes keep you regular! ;) sorry too much info!!

gym was good this morning, must keep it up!!

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