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Thanks Swordie. Starting day 30 by sleeping in again and being grateful for all I have. I don't go back to work for a few more days yet and yes it is a trigger. Always a reason to stop in at the bottle shop I walk past to get to my car. Successful day, bad day, rainy day, sunny day... any day there is an excuse. You have the strength to resist.

Two big wins this week.
1. I was given the nicest looking bottle of champagne as a gift yesterday and politely declined. I know one sip and I would be hooked.
2. Kids were with their dad and I stayed sober. Kept busy doing house work till 10pm. Normally would have been well and truly on my 2 or 3rd bottle by then. Now I have a clean house.

I am truly grateful for all the support here as I know it is because of all your post I have made it this far. I would like to thank you all individually but using my phone to post is tedious but as soon as I dust off the laptop I will endeavour to return the favour.

All the best for today's travels.

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Morning Peeps
Wow TrueMe! What great achievements! Well done! I am positively :mrgreen: about your clean house! You’re doing so well, great progress

Mudbucker ;)? hope you’re ok

Rather a rude awakening today as back to work. Thank goodness I am working from home otherwise I do not think I would have been on time. Horrid dreams this morning. Really need to sort out my sleep hygiene which is not helped by shouty gaming teenager in the room next to mine. I did go and tell him to be quiet at 10pm but there is definitely a clash of lifestyles at the moment. I like being in bed early as my safe place at the moment but I’m not sure about the quality of rest due to the noise and also screens.

Anyway, nothing much to report here, just had a 2 hour meeting which could have been a bit shorter but was hopefully productive. Back into the fray…

Hope everyone has a good day ;)?

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Good Morning!
Not a lot to report, just got to keep going. No drinking yesterday, intention is no drinking today either. Seriously lacking in work mojo, better get back on it instead of distracting myself on the internet! Went to supermarket yesterday only to discover I need to go again today! Might be able to pop into a small shop after my afternoon appointment. I don’t feel tempted but it is always something that could be a potential risk.

Take care everyone ;)?

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Well done all, and thanks for the positive words.

I'm hanging on- 60 days since I decided to stop, 43 since the last drink. Without the booze, so many issues rear their heads! I'm pushing myself to be productive, but struggling with my reticence to engage. The impending tax return is the least comfortable job, but it goes right down to sending text messages. I'm typing here though, so I'll just carry on typing after this. I can't do it all at once, and I can't not do any of it, so I've got to keep at the mantra- 'Pick A F*****g Thing!'.
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Hi Mudbucker and TrueMe
hope you're doing ok tonight/today

Mudbucker - you have got some impressive numbers there ;)? Are you pleased with how you are getting on? The tax return sounds a bit tough, sometimes I think I just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other when I am not feeling it. I am a big fan of your PAFT concept :lol:

TrueMe - hope you're enjoying your days before going back to everyday life

Although I am sober I have got such a long way to go in terms of being together. Have made steps towards getting back into fitness but there are many more things to do and not enough time, energy and will to get there. I'm just going to keep going, if I am not drinking then things are so much better just because of that. I have been able to drop off and pick up my youngest this evening so that was a positive.

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Hellooo
Still here, still sober, still on it, still got a long way to go! One more day until the weekend ;)? I guess it’s the other way round for you Mudbucker, weekends busy and chill on Monday? Anyway hope you are ok? How are you doing TrueMe?

Does anyone feel that sometimes the sober days creep and then other times you wake up and wonder how all those days accumulated.

Night all ;)?

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Good Morning!
Terrible sleep again but it’s partly my own fault. Why oh why am I so addicted to screens? Even my kindle is an app on a screen. I had better dig out my old paperwhite and see if that makes a difference. Really need to sort out this room so that it is a nice place to sleep. It is currently dominated by a bag of old clothes I dragged out of the wardrobe a few days ago :oops:

Anyway, time to get ready and drink more coffee!

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Hi swordgirl, screen addiction is very much a widespread modern phenomenon, so try not to beat yourself up about your screen use at most people are screen addicts these days!

I'm no exception and I'm always trying to go on my phone less, particularly as I stare at a laptop screen all day whilst working. I have deleted some apps recently and I'm going to try to turn off my phone for at least 1 hour a day to get a break from screen time. Modern technology is a miracle, but being 'always online' can have detrimental effects.

I had serious temptations last night to drink this weekend, but I have awoken after a good night's sleep feeling mentally strong.

In fact, I feel quite positive going into January. I think it is a combination of getting through the dreaded Christmas and New Year period AF, having a few week of abstinence under my belt (five weeks tomorrow) and being strong and true to myself in making the difficult, but right, decision to end things with the woman I was seeing for much of 2021.

I have noticed the days getting slightly longer and I feel like I am freer from the baggage of the past few weeks. I'm optimistic at the moment for the (hopefully) AF year ahead for me!
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Hi Londoner - so great to read your post and hear the positivity and optimism you’re feeling now! Onwards and upwards ;)?

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Hi swordgirl and Londoner.
I'm still here and pushing forward. Two more days before I head back to work. Not really looking forward to it as I was so burnt out before Christmas. The two weeks have flown by doing not much at all except sleeping in late and binging on Netflix & chocolate.

Kids will be away next week with their dad. Not sure if that's a good thing for me. I am determined not to drink and keep busy with house work. Covid is running rampant here and so many people isolating. I have been delivering care packages to friends, even purchased my favourite bottle of champagne for one. First time I walked into the bottle shop in 34 days. Slightly tempted but more determined to stay sober.

Bought a new (2nd hand) car which is fantastic. Just got to sell my old one now. I have been reflecting on how much I have achieved and am learning to be proud of myself. So grateful as a single mum I have purchased my own home, completed some renovations, adopted two rescue dogs, raising two beautiful children each with their own special needs, working in an industry where I fight for the rights of those disadvantaged, upgraded the family car, have a positive relationship with the ex and now on my 34th day AF. Life is good.

There is no way I could see this a month ago. All I could see was my percieved failures and how bad I was as a parent, daughter, friend and co-worker. Reality can be so skewed and drinking only made it worse. I know my childhood has shaped who I am today but today I am shaping how I see myself and being grateful for all I have and all I have achieved. I will not be defeated!

That's my rant over... I hope you both are not struggling with negative self thoughts and can appreciate your own beauty within. Even though we have not met in person I know you both are beautiful people who have achieved your own greatness that you should be proud off. Today celebrate your strengths and achievements. <:)> <:)>

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Wow TrueMe - what a great post! Very inspirational! Well done on each and every single one of your achievements, you rock! I hope you have a lovely weekend, Netflix and chocolate sounds mighty good to me! And thank you for those lovely remarks at the end of your post <:)> <:)> I might have to copy them into my notebook or my phone so I can keep them.

👋🏼👋🏼 To Londoner and Mudbucker ;)?

Nothing much to report here, no drinking occurring here, have managed to resurrect my attempts to get fit, which I truly am not, think it’s going to be a long haul to get to where I want to be. To be honest it’s drinking that got me like this in the first place, that and not going to the gym due to drinking instead, what a waste. I really hope I can get back to a better place in terms of health, it’s not as easy to shrug off those pounds as it used to be!

I am really struggling with working at home this week. I can’t settle and concentrate, too many distractions. I have bought a stopwatch to make me sit down and stop messing about! I will see how I am on Monday and if I can’t get in the zone I’m going to ask if I can go in the office a couple of days to focus my mind. The office will be like to Marie Celeste though so I’m not sure if it will be any better. I wish I could adult a bit better than this!

Wishing you all a good day/night as applicable!

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Morning!
Not a great sleep last night, woke up a couple of times, then misread my clock and got up thinking it was after 8am and wondered why it was still dark, reader, it was only 6.35 :oops: Done some fitness stuff, need to get on with the day. Hope you all have a good one. Mudbucker, haven’t heard from you in a few days, hope you are ok.

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08 Jan 2022 11:56
Mudbucker, haven’t heard from you in a few days, hope you are ok.
Hi swordgirl, still at it, day 46! I've disappeared into myself a bit lately, and feeling a little spaced out. I got an appointment for a brain scan in a month's time though, so it will be good to find out whether I had a mini stroke, and I hope they can see if there was any brain damage from a knock on the head at work years back. They didn't scan at the time as I wasn't knocked unconscious, but things were never quite the same since.

I am getting a bit more used to being sober though. Socialising is different, but more genuine in many ways. I decided to stop drinking on the 7th Nov, and today, two months after that day, I'm playing at the same venue with the same act, at the same timeslot. Although I had one drinking session after that day, it's nice to be back there at a round time since making the decision. After this one I'll be home for dinner with my wife rather than crashing home 12 hours later with blood that wouldn't freeze at the north pole!
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I've reached weeks today since my last drink. I'm feeling good emotionally, physically and mentally.

Did a home workout earlier. Was going to go for a walk this afternoon but it is so grim weather wise here in London today.
Not given up on giving up.

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I've actually had some stirrings of positivity about my own existence in the last few days. I was starting to doubt it was possible, but there have been little glimpses of contentment just to be here.
There are a couple of folks I work with who can be a bit intense, and they rather f***ed me off this morning. Part of me wants to tell them to stick it, but it would be a huge waste of time and effort if I did. Without booze I have to just sit with that irritation and deal with it, but it also means that I'm less likely to put up with being in an unhappy situation for too long in future. As notable as the positives are in that project, there are a bunch of negatives too. My approach will be to just let it all happen- if our plans together work out, it's a win. If it crumbles due to its own issues, it's a win.


It's important to care, but it's also important not to give a toss. Tough balance.
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Just checking in to touch base. Mudbucker - Great to hear that you have reached a different place and have some positivity emerging. I like the win/win scenario ;)? I think as we get older we do tend to lose the ability to suffer fools gladly, I know I have! Encountering the 'scene of the crime' as it were is strange isn’t it? I don’t think I’ve been to the pub yet, however I do cringe every time I go past a shop where I have bought alcohol, there are so many! Good news on the scan appointment ;)?

Good to hear you’re also feeling better Londoner ;)?

Nothing much to report here, just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Have not achieved enough today but it’s time for bed now. I haven’t had a drink and that will do for now.

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Hi Swordgirl,

Eight weeks for you yesterday - great going \:)/

Hope the week is going okay for all on this thread :)
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Hi Swordgirl,

Eight weeks for you yesterday - great going
Thank you Trojan! ;)? Thanks for remembering!

Howdy to TrueMe, Londoner, Mudbucker

Yep Imma still here, and still sober ;)? Having been looking for my earbuds all day so that I could go for a walk and listen to a podcast. They have disappeared into thin air :( I expect they will turn up soon as I’ve ordered some new ones :roll: :lol2:

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Hi Folks
Hey! TrueMe! Can you check in please? Hi Mudbucker, hope you’re ok? Saw your post on another thread, sounds like you’re processing some thoughts and feelings? Nothing much to report here, still not had a drink but did have a drinking thought sneak up on me today when I was trying to sort out a flat tyre, I’m not sure about the spray and then re-inflate kits, it’s still not sorted yet and I’m worried about driving on it and then it won’t be repairable. A little thought sneaked in about how normally a drink would help me relax and stop thinking about it. Would have had to make a special trip on Shanks Pony and I’m not doing that for a glass/bottle of ethanol!

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Hi Swordgirl. I'm still here on day 40. Just finished my first week back at work. Struggled to stay focused. I am working from home so didn't have to drive past bottle shop on the way home which helped. Kids also were away with their dad and it was nice not having to add cooking meals, mediating arguments and bribing kids to go to bed. Feeling alot better then I was last year. Yay...
My apologise for not keeping in touch but you and everyone else on BE have been on my mind.

Keep strong and keep moving forward. 🙂💜

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