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Morning all ....more rain again, looks like I'm going to get soaked lol. Riding again this morning, practising for a dressage test next weekend. Watching the rugby first though...c'mon England!!
Have a good day all...stay strong \:)/
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Thanks for the good wishes Cherry, feeling a bit flat myself. Think it must be the weather? It’s been hurricane like here for just about 24hrs! Feeling the gin urge, avoided so far with hot choc........quite certain OH will still be celebrating (working abroad) the rugby score and won’t bother to call me. I often feel rather let down and alone - then I drink.
Mac...I have horses too! Not riding much at the mo ☹️ as recovering from a fracture which is maddeningly frustrating. Part of my reason to give up the booze - to be a better rider as well as an all round nicer and healthier person.
Bring on ‘Strictly’ that’ll cheer me up! Happy sober Sat night all!

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Good to be amongst you here. Douglas, Mackintosh and Cherry. I like the idea of having you guys around to support me. This is a tough old road......but I’m moving forward and I know this is the right direction. <:)>
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Hey everyone
It's been a tough one today, glad Saturday night almost over....& breathe. Sunday is always an easier day yay (::)
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Leslans,
It really is a tough old road.....I really don’t think I’d have managed 34 days AF without reading some of the inspiring and supportive comments from this forum. I managed somewhere close to a year AF around 5 or 6 years ago, but fell back into it..........another spell around the same time as this last year for 3 months....then alcohol came creeping back in until I was again at ridiculous consumption levels. (My OH is a very heavy drinker which doesn’t help, our relationship of 20 years has been based around booze).
And the biggest ‘lightbulb’ moment this time was someone saying simply do this for myself.....and that’s what I’m hanging on to. I’m (uncharacteristically) selfishly changing the direction of my life for me, and I’m more determined than ever....as hard as it can be!

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Morning guys. Day 63.

Apologies if I’m repeating myself but for me it’s not the stopping it’s staying stopped. By that I mean the delusional thoughts that “I’m being left out or it’s not fair”. My relapses at 12 months and 2 years have all been because I haven’t been able to let go of my perception that being able to drink will enhance my experiences whether that’s a family lunch, wedding, funeral or simply watching a film at home. Our conscious mind knows that the above is total rubbish, our subconscious mind which is the stronger totally overrides it. Learning to not give our delusional thinking any airtime is hard and which is why this is a journey. My relapses have been planned well in advance by my subconscious mind taking over. Only a few days ago I was thinking well if I can get to January when we go skiing I will drink because I will have done really well and then I can join in with the others. WRONG. Delusional,thinking, planning relapse, allowing myself permission for good behaviour. So I continue to bat away those thoughts and not waste any energy on them.

So that’s my share for the day a happy sunny Sunday. Have a good day folks <:)>
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Yep, I get that completely....what you’ve said Leslans is the reason I’ve slipped back into old habits after fairly significant periods of abstinence.....really want to be able to never drink again. ()o

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Morning all hoping the weekend was good to you. Went to the races yesterday and had a great time, drank cranberry juice which I poured into a wine glass I prefer a nice glass and not having to drink out of tumblers all the time....plenty of coffee too. No one tried to push me to have an alcoholic drink which was a breath of fresh air. Really annoys me when you're made to feel.a freak for not drinking or forced to offer an explanation for wanting a soft drink.
Seems we have plenty in common Dougal...sorry to hear about your injury hope it heals soon and strictly was fabulous!!!
Hope you're doing ok cherry <:)>
Well it's a beautiful day, though freeeezing out there so better kick on 😊
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Morning all :\:
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Well done Mackintosh & a good idea of cranberry (which I love) in a wine glass!
Great to read your thoughts Dougal & Leslans, so much of what you guys have experienced resonates with me. Particularly planning a relapse into drinking which my subconscious mind is doing for my OH impending birthday weekend away in November :o hope I can stay strong

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Hi guys 28 days today so guess I’ve managed 4 weeks looking forward to getting to know you. JJ
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Hi JJ! 28 days.....that’s amazing!
I’m loving the wine glass containing cranberry juice idea....genius. (::) I have a black tie do in a week or 2 (already slightly dreading, it’s for charity but most are going for the partying) and I think this could be my drink for the evening! Would that work for you Cherry, for the birthday thing?

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So agree guys on the nice glass point. I drink elderflower tonic in a big balloon glass with fresh lime chilli and loads of ice. Helps me. Thanks for welcome. JJ
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Day 65 here on a cold and frosty morning in deepest Cheshire. Just spent a couple of days in North Wales, Anglesey. It was beautiful over there. Good times. Off golfing again today. Happy days everyone <:)>
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Morning all...welcome JJ good to have you along.
Struggled yesterday, mood was low and felt overwhelmed...stayed AF though. It's bright and sunny today and riding and swimming later so onwards and upwards.
Stay strong....keep.positive.
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Hi everyone
Welcome JJ :\: & congrats..it is a great feeling to hit the monthly milestones.
Yes I think the soft drinks in wine glass are def the way forward for social events, will be giving it a go.
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Thanks guys for the welcome means a lot. In London for work and having major permission thoughts. Always used to enjoy a couple at the airport after a busy meeting. I won’t drink though. I’ve got the car at the other end. Still it’s a tough old journey. JJ
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Also initially I had only pledged a month but as I’ve move through the weeks I’ve decided on 100 days and moving towards thinking sobriety is the only life choice to suit me. However still have that link with old triggers big time. I’m not going to let them win though. Dig deep. JJ
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Crashed and burned. So sorry :|
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Hey Leslans, it is such a bloody tough journey, but at least you did clock up a lot of AF days which is a great achievement. <:)>
Hope you got through your low spell Mackintosh, feeling a bit like that myself this week. Suffering from AF boredom syndrome. Ridiculous really I know, hope to keep making strides.
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Leslans <:)> ....be kind to yourself.

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