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Hi everyone. Day 36. Rushing round like a mad woman. Anyway still very very sober here and very very happy and soooooooo glad I’m not drinking. Just bought the rose schloer and it’s quite palatable. Looks rather good in a decent glass too. Thanks for asking Cherry, I’m fine and dandy <:)>
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Well done on 11 weeks JJ ....that’s excellent \:)/

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Thanks Lynn
They are some serious numbers you cherry leslans and Martha are clocking up. How are you all doing? I’ve found the cravings quite fickle strangely starting in the morning instead of wine time. Also my eating pattern has gone bananas can’t get enough junk food into me. Wierd. Just go with the flow I guess.
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Day 29. (Can't believe it)
I agree Cherry 10 re Strictly.
Good luck everyone.

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Yeah soberfun welcome
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Just keep eating the junk Jj as long as we don’t drink. The new year can be the new “us” in terms of food.

At this time of year it gets a little tough coupled with the fact we are getting a bit further on and beyond the “honeymoon” period so to speak. PAWS can set in and so there is a good thread on here to help with that.

I thought I’d just share about my last relapse as the wine witch is around us quite a bit at the moment. I’ve done at least 3/4 Christmas days by the way and it’s fine, it tends to be more this time and then New Year......well it was for me. At around 22 months sober I started to feel left out again. You know that feeling that everyone else was having a better time, it’s not fair why can’t I drink. I then persuaded myself I wasn’t that bad and I guess in terms of my addiction to alcohol, because I’d not lost anything my home, husband had all the trappings of hard work through my working life etc etc I THOUGHT I’d just accept the consequences if I ended up having too much on occasion. I kind of forgot I’d lost my mind, self esteem, confidence!!!!!! I kind of forgot when I was going out of my mind when I thought I’d annoyed or upset someone, especially family if I’d overindulged. A bit like child birth I suppose (sorry if there any men in here) the pain was totally erased from my mind. I just thought I wanted my lovely rose wine back......just like I wanted another baby.

I thought about it nearly every day. I’m lucky to have a place in Spain and sitting having a sundowner of alcohol free drink all of sudden it wasn’t hitting the spot. I went back in. I drank around 2 years sober. I felt great. The taste buds were drooling and I finally told myself I was free again. You see despite the fact I call alcohol the shackles from hell, I turned being abstinence the shackles from hell. I allowed my mind and the wine witch to poison me once again. I loved it when people said oh great we’ve got you back drinking........although all those people had said you are so much healthier without drink and you don’t need a drink to have a good time........all acquaintances I hasten to add, not family.

I plodded on and all of a sudden it got back in my mind again, I started to drink too much, I started sneaking extra drinks, I started saying awful things to my family if they questioned me and I started the torturous journey towards being broken again. 15 months later I was back to square one. That was 24th August 2019. Since then it’s documented on here I drank 6 days at day 65, not consecutive days over a period of about 3 weeks and then I came back on here again on 10th November. Day 37 today.

So the moral of the story do not let your addictive mind persuade you that all will be well if you go back. Sadly it won’t and never will. Being abstinent is the way forward and I’m lucky because I’ve done quite a bit of it I can categorically say that life is happier. We just let delusional thoughts penetrate our mind and so we have to have sober tools to help us.

Anyway I’ve rattled on. Off for Christmas lunch today. More sprouts!!!!!!!
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Hi guys & hi soberfun day 45 here
Feeling ok, just a few random thoughts today ()o
Thanks for sharing your experience Leslans always so helpful <:)>
Doing great JJ, Lynn & Martha (::)

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Thanks for sharing your story leslans, it’s a perfect reminder for me as to why I need to ignore the wine witch when she suggests ‘just one won’t hurt’ etc ... I just want to stay strong this time

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Hi all,
Hi Soberfun, Lynne and Martha, :\:
Strictly was amazing, (::) great Sat evening in!
Yes, off to the ‘6 month’ thread in a couple of days.....hope you’ll all be coming too.
So glad you have posted your story Leslans.....inspiring! This is exactly how I’m feeling, especially with Xmas upon us, and I can feel myself starting to think it’ll be okay...just a couple, just cus it’s xmas. One of the probs being many people are coming to my house for Xmas day and they are mostly big drinkers. It’s not really what I wanted to happen, it’s just ‘evolved’ and I’m in a major panic about being accused of being boring by not drinking......I’m stronger than that normally but having a massive wobble.
Oh dear.......
On the positive side of life....it’s freezing, I’m home alone so I’m snuggled up with my dogs in front of the fire, my horses are snuggled in their stables, and my young one who I went to see earlier this week is jumping 1m 20. 😱 My body is healing (slowly 😴) and hopefully in a few more weeks I might be able to be a bit more active.
So no alcohol = better athlete! Must keep that in my mind.....plus did manage a drink party with neighbours the other day....and drank a whole bottle of ‘nosecco’

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Day 30.
Thanks for your story Leslans. Everyone on here seems really strong minded. I m bashing down cravings. It s difficult when socialising.
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Dougal wrote:
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Hi all,
Hi Soberfun, Lynne and Martha, :\:
Strictly was amazing, (::) great Sat evening in!
Yes, off to the ‘6 month’ thread in a couple of days.....hope you’ll all be coming too.
So glad you have posted your story Leslans.....inspiring! This is exactly how I’m feeling, especially with Xmas upon us, and I can feel myself starting to think it’ll be okay...just a couple, just cus it’s xmas. One of the probs being many people are coming to my house for Xmas day and they are mostly big drinkers. It’s not really what I wanted to happen, it’s just ‘evolved’ and I’m in a major panic about being accused of being boring by not drinking......I’m stronger than that normally but having a massive wobble.
Oh dear.......
On the positive side of life....it’s freezing, I’m home alone so I’m snuggled up with my dogs in front of the fire, my horses are snuggled in their stables, and my young one who I went to see earlier this week is jumping 1m 20. 😱 My body is healing (slowly 😴) and hopefully in a few more weeks I might be able to be a bit more active.
So no alcohol = better athlete! Must keep that in my mind.....plus did manage a drink party with neighbours the other day....and drank a whole bottle of ‘nosecco’
Doing so well Dougal, stay strong & keep that shield up <:)>

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Well done Dougal on graduating to 6 mth thread. Was 'nosecco' nice?
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Hi soberfun great to have you in the three monthers.
Leslans your story is so powerful thank you so much for sharing. 22 months is an amazing achievement and you’ve shown that you can do the long haul. Terrifying that permission thoughts an come at any stage. Alcohol is such a persuasive poison. Out culture definitely doesn’t help in terms of normalizing it as a treat or part of a celebration. Hard to imagine our mindset every being free of thinking of it that way. Your words are so helpful.
Dougal congratulations on your graduation to six month thread that is an amazing achievement and I’m so impressed with how you’ve done with all your illnesses. So glad to hear your youngster is doing well at 120. Great future ahead by the sounds of it.
Cherry Lynn and Maria you are all doing so well. Lovely wee wee group here so helpful thanks guys for keeping posting I love it when I see a 2 to 3 month update when I log on helps so much.
I’m in denial about work today and sitting having a cup of tea with dogs on my knee and Christmas candle burning. I love the mornings as no cravings and easier to enjoy the moment.
Anyway better get on. I week to Christmas eeek feel so behind.
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Oh and lovely Martha
Go girl
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soberfun wrote:
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Well done Dougal on graduating to 6 mth thread. Was 'nosecco' nice?
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It was okay - not sure I’d spend a lot of money on it......just as well to drink anything soft and sparkling in a nice glass (IMO). Some of the AF beers though are really quite nice.
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Hey Dougal. So chuffed for you. You are leading the way for us and we will most certainly follow. Our society makes it oh so normal to drink, especially now then everyone will do dry January because they feel awful.

Morning to all my friends. We all need each other and it’s good to have you all around.

Fab day yesterday having Christmas lunch on an old Steam train. Totally different. Day 38. Can’t remember whether I’ve checked in already 😳 My birthday day tomorrow. Golfing, then a spot of lunch and then Pilates. Happy days 😊😊
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Congratulations Douglas, six months is amazing \:)/ \:)/ \:)/

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Happy Birthday Leslans. \:)/ \:)/ \:)/
Dougal , I agree with you re non alcoholic beer. I enjoyed a Ghost Ship one last week.
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Happy Birthday Leslans \:)/ (::) x

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Hi everyone day 47 for me
Hey JJ read your post in another thread about your AF evening while your pals were drinking, well done you! Def resonates with me when the chat gets repetitive. Similar for me when my hubby has a few & does the same thing.
Been feeling a bit low today, I usually enjoy the run up to Xmas but as we get closer to the day am thinking more about being AF, which I want so much, just wish the FOMO thoughts would stop. Bloody stupid I know

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