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The 1 Year Milestone

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ninja » 19 Sep 2009 10:22

Thanks Darcy. 91 down, 274 to go. I'm on the way bring it on sister. EAF that is. I'm going to kick your A**e
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Post by Ninja » 19 Sep 2009 10:24

Thanks also to everyone else who requested. <:)>
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ninja » 19 Sep 2009 21:17

Hey Bec, heres the lyrics by the great man himself M.J. It'll get us through. Dec takes in my birthday and new years eve as well, that'll be a tough one but as he says, I'll be there. Good luck on our new road. This is for all my friends out there at B.E. who have and will help me through this. Enjoy.

You and I must make a pact
We must bring salvation back
Where there is love, I'll be there

I'll reach out my hand to you,
I'll have faith in all you do
Just call my name and I'll be there

Chorus:
And oh - I'll be there to comfort you,
Build my world of dreams around you
I'm so glad that I found you
I'll be there with a love that's strong
I'll be your strength, I'll keep holding on
Yes I will, yes I will

Let me fill your heart with joy and laughter
Togetherness, well that's all I'm after
Whenever you need me, I'll be there
I'll be there to protect you
With an unselfish love I respect you
Just call my name and I'll be there

(Chorus)

If you should ever find someone new
I know he'd better be good to you
'Cos if he doesn't, I'll be there

Don't you know, baby, yeah yeah
I'll be there, I'll be there, just call my name, I'll be there

(Just look over your shoulders, honey - ooh)

I'll be there, I'll be there, whenever you need me, I'll be there

Don't you know, baby, yeah yeah
I'll be there, I'll be there, just call my name, I'll be there...
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ninja » 20 Sep 2009 13:03

-92 + 273 Not long now eh! :mrgreen:
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Tink » 20 Sep 2009 17:06

Thanks Ninja! It brought a tear to my eye. You are such a doll! I am sober and you have sooo much to do with that my dear friend! <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)> <:)>
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Lel » 20 Sep 2009 21:26

One year - now that would be an amazing milestone!!!

Maybe....just maybe.......

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ninja » 20 Sep 2009 22:34

Hey Tink I'll be waiting at the other end with that mug of tea as you won't be that far behind me. I'll be there.
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Tink » 20 Sep 2009 22:49

I'll be there Ninja! I will hold you to that. I will have a long journey though. I will get there. I had to start over so it will be a bit of a delay from that silly little slip I had a week or so ago. I wrote down the new date and it is on here but I am not really focusing on it allot. I am taking life as it comes and living in the moment. I have just excepted that I am not doing it anymore and so that is that. Got that advise from another friend of mine the other day.

Hope you are all well and I will be here most everyday. I am just not counting right now. Just not doing any drinking anymore.

Have a great day and give yourselves a hug please!
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Sheila » 21 Sep 2009 09:10

Hi to everyone here <:)>
I think this thread is a brilliant idea, and I'd love to commit to a goal of 1 year, but with my track record recently, (slipping big time after about 4 months), I'm taking it nice and easy.
But this is so very very tempting :?
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Post by Ninja » 21 Sep 2009 13:16

Hi girls, Bec I'm also not counting days any more only as far as I want to get to that 1 year mark then I will taste the sweet smell of success. At first it was a challenge getting to 1 week, 1 month etc but as time goes on my life is just going on as well, minus the day counting. I am trying to treat life now just as it should be as if I'd never drank and it seems to be working. I know it's all in the head to a certain point but the more my mind takes it for granted that I don't want a drink the easier it becomes to just live without it. I don't think of it like I used to morning, noon and night and wondering what time I would be drinking or where my next drink was coming from. I have put all the things back into the place they should be in my life. Drink is now so low priority on that list that I can't even see me getting to it any more. That's how far down the list it is. I'm treating it with the respect it deserves and that's none. I have no respect for it. The only respect I have for it, if you can call it respect, is how dangerous it can be if you let it. So I'm not in a race to get to a year and I don't care who beats me, I'm just going to plod along with my head in the clouds a long way from the EAF, thinking about how great my life has become and how better it is getting. In the short space of 3 months there has been such a terrific difference in my life, relationship and work, it's unbelievable. This time in May/June I was nearly out of work, out of a marriage and out on the street. How things can change just by stopping the one thing we think is helping us get through life. It isn't helping at all, it's hindering, that's why we're all here. My wife bless her has been my rock through all this. Without her giving me that one last chance I would be nowhere and for that I cannot thank her enough and have told her so many times already. I knew that deep down behind all that depression I got her into that somewhere the old OH was begging to come back to me but I had to be the old OH as well and as soon as I changed so did she. I kept us in a vicious circle which was spiralling downwards and going nowhere. Now with a clear head I can see where I was going wrong and am putting everything right, I have apologised many times for it and am on the right road. I have the love and respect back from her which I knew was still there but just hidden away from me. You all have helped me get it back with your words of wisdom and your stories to relate to. This sharing thing is not one to be taken lightly. I have attained such strength from it and will forever be grateful and I cannot say that enough. I have had a little fairy sitting on my shoulder shooing the EAF away with her magic dust and for that I am also grateful. Thankyou Tink you are a great mate. Pity you're in the States I'd take you out for a coffee to celebrate. <:)> Bec there is a certain strength to you changing your drink date, you are looking forward, along with your hippy bus that's the way travel, no reverse on those things. Sheila tempt yourself and jump aboard, you can't lose out. We all have a track record. Theres no one on here who hasn't. We can all cruise along to that magic 12 months together. You've done 4 months before so you can do it again. You can. I slipped and got back up so can we all. It's all part of the learning process. If we slipped and never got back up that would be different but we did get back up and that shows us we can do it. We are not trying, we are doing, that's the difference. So my 1 year family I am now finished my soap bax routine and off for a read on other threads. There's always some little snippit which interests me and I get a lot of strength form them. You can too. Loadsa Love Ninja <:)>
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Post by Melina » 21 Sep 2009 14:35

As a very new member (I'm only on Day Four!) I came here to see what was happening. I know I haven't even completed a week yet, but I thought that coming here occasionally and at least contemplating the possibility of achieving Year One would be good for me - it would open up my mind to the fact that it could be done. This is a big step for me, especially since a few weeks ago, before coming to this site, it sounded utterly impossible. I wasn't even remotely considering it.
Birthday was rough, but it's my own fault because I want to go out to a place where I knew everyone would be drunk - New Orleans. I was the only one not drinking!
That alone deserves a special award! I've never been to New Orleans, but I can picture it vividly in my mind, and I think it's amazing that you didn't talk yourself into drinking. "It's my birthday. Look where I am. I'll never get this chance again. It would be SO much fun!" Kudos to you.
Okay, back to Week One. Best wishes to all.
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by sue » 21 Sep 2009 14:53

Ninja, what an inspiring journey you're on. You certainly have made huge changes in your life. You and your wife must be so proud.
I know you said you weren't counting anymore but 3 months is a milestone so very many congratulations for getting there :D
Lots of <:)> <:)> <:)>
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Post by Ninja » 21 Sep 2009 15:06

Thanks Sue, Goodnight. X
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Sheila » 23 Sep 2009 12:17

Hi Rebecca <:)>
So much of your 'story' I can relate to. I went for 115 days and then thought I could re-introduce. Up till then, I'd been doing really well and thoughts of alcohol didn't dominate my thoughts. After that first drink with some friends, I started to believe that maybe, just maybe, I could control my drinking, but time and holidays have proved big time that I can't. I am all or nothing. I've chosen nothing and I think I've finally accepted that at last. I remember that 'feeling' when I re-set my 'Last drink Date'. I've done it a few times since and I've no intention of changing it again :evil:
I've having some health issues right now, and it's made me realise how much I value my health and just how much I took it for granted. I also know that starting drinking again certainly won't improve anything. I am so tempted to 'sign up' here, but something is holding me back. Not sure what right now. I know that my last lapse has knocked my confidence a bit, and I know I don't want to drink again ..... :? :roll:
I'm starting to ramble, so I'll go now.
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Post by Ninja » 23 Sep 2009 12:41

Hey Sheila try all the shorter posts first then just piece them all together like I did, you'll be here before you know it. You're right Bec it is a long bloody flight. Now I'm here I only been back once and it half killed me. :mrgreen: All drinks free so you can imagine what happened. Ah well I survived to tell the tale. No more long flights and no more booze. That's the way I gotta keep it. Big test this weekend on a bike trip with a dozen boozers up to Mt Kaputar about 700 K's north of Sydney. Should be a great ride. OH isn't coming on this one so I have to be vigilent but I'm prepared not to drink so won't. I'm going to be a right tit and muck around and have a load of fun and enjoy riding like a teenager but no drink. It's over, done and dusted for me and that's how I gotta keep thinking. My life can be full of whatever I want and drink isn't anywhere near being let back in. I am focused and determined and I got all that from you lot. Cheers mates. <:)>
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Bela » 23 Sep 2009 13:19

Hi Sheila and all,
I'm with you all here, although it's still early weeks for me.
I was almost to 5 months when I started again with two glasses of wine in late Apirl.
I had a bottle of Zin one Sunday in August, and that was it for me.
It is nice to be into my second month; I really hated counting those early days. :(
Last year I made it through US thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's, and a Feb wine-tasting event without and it was far easier than I had imagined, so I see myself sailing into 2010
Well of course I am feeling good today; have no illusions that there won't be some challenges.
I am certain to draw on collective resources here. <:)>
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Tink » 24 Sep 2009 00:31

Good for you Ninja! I do believe it is behind you. This is a big trial for you though. Don't let it sneak up on ya like it did me. If you have a plan it will be OK. You can do it mate. I am so proud of you and inspired by you. I know we are all human but you are one of the best humans I know. Thank you for your help and encouragement. I am rooting for you and win, loose or draw I am here mate.
I know you can do this and I just know it will all be good.
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Sheila » 24 Sep 2009 20:23

Hi Ninja, Bela, Rebecca et all
Well I've been faffing around for a while now, trying to decide whether or not to join this thread, and I'm getting fed up with my indecision. So, I thought I'd do a kind of list of pros and cons about it. You guessed, I couldn't come up with a single reason not to, and so as I have no intentions of drinking again, count me in :lol: Yippee, at last, decision made :lol:
As Bela has said, I know there'll be challenges at times, but we'll do it together <:)> I managed 4 months earlier this year, and looking back, they were the healthiest and happiest I'd been for a long time. Why have I given in at times and thought I wanted to go back to the way I used to be??? :? I've no idea, but I do know, I want to feel that happy and healthy again, and I'm getting there. My 3rd week started (again) today, day 15, and I actually really like my last drink date -09/09/09 nice and easy to remember. There's no way I want to change it :lol:
I know some of you aren't into counting days, so you'll have to indukge me as I'm a real numbers nut, and I just love to see the numbers creeping up and up ;)
Now I've got all that off my chest and written down, I feel really good inside :)
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Sheila » 24 Sep 2009 20:43

Hi Rebecca <:)>
With the unique support of our Ninja, we'll do it, and cross the finish line together <:)> I'm so pleased you're 'signing up' too.
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ninja » 24 Sep 2009 21:22

Hello to my harem friends. I'm off on a bike trip and wanted to say keep up the good work here while i'm gone. there'll be smacked bottoms all around otherwise. No drinking on purpose just to get the smackeither. I'll do it for free if you're that way inclined. i'm very genorous like that. Good on you Sheila for signing up and i'm sure you'll do well here as we all intend to. show me the finish line although it seems like a starting point to the rest of my life doesn't it. i'm off to get into my 'hot' leather suit. Just for you girls I'll pose at the top of the mountain. Ninja with the Ninja. See ya!
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