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The 1 Year Milestone

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Spats » 03 Jan 2020 23:06

Great going Mooths \:)/ (::)

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Cowboy » 04 Jan 2020 00:17

Congratulations Mooths. Inspiring stuff. Cowboy.
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by tomd43 » 19 Jan 2020 10:33

1 year today and what a year it has been, we've had 2 suicides between mine and my wifes family, 1 major death, a really poor year financially and i still didn't feel the need to numb the stress or blot it out with booze. I have had several paws episodes which have come out of nowhere but thankfully have decreased in frequency and length.
I AM HAPPY

I WISH THE SAME FOR EVERY ONE OF YOU TOO!
God bless you all

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by SoberBoots » 19 Jan 2020 10:48

tomd43 wrote:
19 Jan 2020 10:33
1 year today and what a year it has been, we've had 2 suicides between mine and my wifes family, 1 major death, a really poor year financially and i still didn't feel the need to numb the stress or blot it out with booze. I have had several paws episodes which have come out of nowhere but thankfully have decreased in frequency and length.
I AM HAPPY

I WISH THE SAME FOR EVERY ONE OF YOU TOO!
God bless you all
That's amazing Tom, I'm so pleased for yur sobriety.

I feel for you with the suicides - I've been through one myself this year. So painful.

It's such a startling revelation isn't it - we have this ingrained belief that the way to deal with stress is to drink, when in fact it's a complete illusion. Drinking just worsenes situational stress and creates its own on top. Getting free of that is a major achievement.
The best time to plant a tree was 30 years ago. The second best time is today.

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Wilson » 19 Jan 2020 11:39

tomd43 wrote:
19 Jan 2020 10:33
1 year today and what a year it has been, we've had 2 suicides between mine and my wifes family, 1 major death, a really poor year financially and i still didn't feel the need to numb the stress or blot it out with booze. I have had several paws episodes which have come out of nowhere but thankfully have decreased in frequency and length.
I AM HAPPY

I WISH THE SAME FOR EVERY ONE OF YOU TOO!
God bless you all
Yeah, good going tom 😁😎 \:)/

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Topcat » 19 Jan 2020 13:26

(::) Well done Tom (::)
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Winkler » 19 Jan 2020 16:51

Well Tom, amazing! (::)
Lots of family tragedy and heartache, so sorry.
What was the pattern of your former drinking, if you don’t mind me asking?
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by silvergirl » 19 Jan 2020 17:15

Fantastic Tom, good for you! \:)/

And great going recognising paws for what it is. Glad life is improving in every way! (::) (::)

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 19 Jan 2020 17:54

Brilliant Tom especially with the challenges you've faced.
Enough time wasted on this.

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by tomd43 » 19 Jan 2020 23:37

Thanks for the love guys, its much appreciated.
Winkler; i didn't really have a pattern of drinking i just drank, I drank when i was happy, drank to wind down, drank when i was stressed, drank to celebrate, to down my sorrows. In the end i drank to not feel the hangovers i had inflicted on myself. My "relapses" have usually been triggered by sadness or anxiety.

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Bluebottle » 19 Jan 2020 23:54

Congratulations on your year Tom, that's amazing. \:)/ (::) \:)/

Sorry to hear you've had such a difficult year. <:)> <:)>

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Winkler » 06 Apr 2020 09:29

So here I am at a year AF!
Not for the first time but hopefully the last ;)
The world is still in the midst of Coronavirus, horrible thing
I am tired and low this morning - how did I ever ‘cope’ with alcohol?
Had I not been AF I’m certain I would have been drinking wine by the box with the reduced liberty we have. Who would know and who would it hurt? (apart from me and everyone else around).
Have found my ‘go to’ tool of (mostly) daily meditation in the last year and feel I am emerging, rather than continually knocking myself out and back with alcohol every few days
I knew, of course, it was damaging even as I was doing it. Just couldn’t escape, for long.
I do feel it’s a spiritual/personal growth journey and quitting alcohol was a very necessary part.
Memories are coming up of attitudes I once took and ways I had of behaving that now seem alien. Getting sloshed meant I couldn’t address these in constructive ways and I retreated from making changes that could have made my life better, sooner.
I know myself better and recognise when I need rest and relaxation/self care rather than pushing on through
I am very grateful for others on the path and hope I can be of better service to others in times to come
I am also very grateful for friends and family and the material comforts I have in life, I am not so spiritually developed that I don’t appreciate material comforts :D
I think feeling better about yourself opens up the world. Less to dwell on, retreating and licking your wounds, more how things could and should change. Writing this brings to mind the last line of the serenity prayer that SB? put down on the road to abstinence thread recently - your limits and ‘the wisdom to know the difference’ (of what you can and can’t change).
Being AF brings you that wisdom, I think
Thank you friends, I have been around a long time, maybe 8 years? although have deleted my account before.
I often gain inspiration from you guys and will continue to be around, I know that part of my brain that malfunctions where alcohol is concerned will want to take me back to drinking sooner or later and I really, really can do without that.
I don’t want to forget how poisonous and insidious it is for me once I start.
As I say, in some ways this is still early days!
Feeling better about the day now :D
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Mark. » 06 Apr 2020 09:42

Winkler wrote:
06 Apr 2020 09:29
So here I am at a year AF!
WOW! Massive congratulations, Winkler!
\:)/ (::) ;)? <:)> <:)> ;)? (::) \:)/

Well done and I hope you enjoy your day! That's a really great post!
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by martha » 06 Apr 2020 10:05

Great words and reflections, Winkler! \:)/
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Trojan » 06 Apr 2020 10:13

Congratulations Winkler \:)/

I can identify with a lot of the thought processes you describe, and the ups and downs that still come along, but are navigable with a clear head.

Enjoy your day :-D
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by SoberBoots » 06 Apr 2020 10:47

\:)/ \:)/ \:)/ Congratulations Winkler! \:)/ \:)/ \:)/

More good wishes for you over on the noticeboard...
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by smh1 » 06 Apr 2020 18:19

Very well done Winkler onward and upwards! \:)/ \:)/ \:)/ \:)/ \:)/
Keep on keeping on. It might be your last chance. :)

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Winkler » 06 Apr 2020 19:26

Ah, thank you so much guys! :)
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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Leslans » 07 Apr 2020 07:40

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Re: The 1 Year Milestone

Post by Jj123 » 30 Jun 2020 07:21

9 months today hurrah.
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