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Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by DoneandDone » 11 Dec 2017 16:06

Hello dear Danny D. I have thought a lot about what makes us pick up again.....no answers really, but does seem to be part of being human and the best, kindest, smartest people in the world have had this problem as well. So there’s that. We are in excellent company. Having a catalogue of my personal low points to call to mind does help curb an impulse. LIke picture your worst moments in the mind. Ouch. Big hug <:)>
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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by DoneandDone » 11 Dec 2017 16:10

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Sandy » 12 Dec 2017 04:53

Love it D&D!
I am with you on the AF drinks Suedenim but it took me a little while to "manage" them. I wanted to change my lifestyle when I got sober. I wanted to not be the house drinker who opened a bottle (or3) a night and sat in my own pity party of misery. So I aimed to remove that habit. To have AF wine at night, for me, was what I thought just doing the same nightly thin,g but without the booze. I was also very scared it would "tempt" me to the real thing. Glad to say it never has and I enjoy it now as and when I wish.Might try the gin thing, do you mix it with something?
I am with Danny on the tea tho and love a bit of masaal chai

Naomi loving seeing you in here <:)> Fancy a morning bootcamp over on the fitness thread??

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Post by DoneandDone » 13 Dec 2017 12:56

My retail therapy story

Well, there was a bit of chat around one BE corner or another about the why’s, when’s and how’s of putting away wine and other socially desirable goblets. To store or not to store? Is it better to banish our drinking vessels? There are pros and cons.

One lovely BE peep mentioned they were going to toddle off to Dartington’s to pick up some tall tumblers to sip some type of delicious AF beverage or maybe it was just ice water even. Bells went off for D&D. Dartingtons? I better check that out. Well alas, my bank account is safe, as Dartington’s is not really sold retail across the pond. But...there was a limited selection available on eBay. These looked so sweet I put them on my wish list just for fun.
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Good thing I do not live near a Dartington store is all I can say.....too tempting.
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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by DoneandDone » 13 Dec 2017 12:57

Hi Sandy! Your comments always lift my spirits ;)?
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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by SueDenim » 13 Dec 2017 22:14

Sandy wrote:Might try the gin thing, do you mix it with something?
I have it with tonic, ice and lemon. I preferred bitter lemon or lemonade when I drank 'real' gin; but this stuff tastes better with tonic, to me, at least. A lot of my drinking was done after work in the pub/wine bar, so my lifestyle has changed, and sitting in the evening with an AF 'adult' drink suits me for now. Not every night - there is less point when you don't get the buzz - but enough so that I don't feel denied.

Seedlip comes in 2 very different flavours. There is a Garden one, which is more floral than the other (don't be put off by the chemical smell - it tastes lovely), and a Spiced one which has an aftertaste of clove. I don't know which I prefer - I like them both.

I always drink out of the 'correct' glass, too. Fizz in a flute, 'G&T' in a tumbler and 'wine' in a wine glass. I don't know why, really; but it matters to me :geek:.

I don't really go for hot drinks. I have tea (builders') or coffee with my breakfast, and sometimes have a cup of hot chocolate in the evening, but I am still drinking a Whittard's selection pack that I got last Christmas, so not very often :D. I also like ginger drinks, and have those chilled in the summer (in a beer glass, natch ;) ).

I'm waffling now, so will shut up and watch You've Been Fired.

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Sandy » 14 Dec 2017 09:39

DoneandDone wrote:Hi Sandy! Your comments always lift my spirits ;)?
as long as they don't make you lift any spirits particularly in them fancy glasses then I am happy D&D

where do you buy the gin things Sue Denim?

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by SueDenim » 14 Dec 2017 11:24

Sandy wrote:where do you buy the gin things Sue Denim?
You can get it from Amazon. I haven't seen it in the supermarkets, but hope they start to stock it soon.

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Spats » 15 Dec 2017 07:36

Hi PP, I also drink dry ginger and soda. Has a bit more of a kick to it ;)?

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Post by Cookie » 15 Dec 2017 09:19

Today is Day 4. I am determined to spend Christmas sans alcohol, which will be extremely challenging for many reasons. Plus, my birthday is on Monday and I know I’ll feel that extra sense of accomplishment if I can celebrate it sober! I’ve been WAY too sick for WAY too long. Out of control is no way to go through life. And just going through life is no way to live. I want to hug life and savor it, enjoy it, be present, before it’s too late.
Because we all deserve an optimum, magical life. Right here. Right now. Right on! <:)>

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Post by Sandy » 15 Dec 2017 09:24

Thanks Sue
Good to see you Cookie <:)> what you going to do on your Birthday then?

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Post by Cookie » 15 Dec 2017 19:28

Sandy wrote:Thanks Sue
Good to see you Cookie <:)> what you going to do on your Birthday then?
Thanks so much for the warm welcome back Sandy and thanks for asking!!! <:)> My birthday will be spent having my annual special lunch and antiquing with my mom followed later by a cozy dinner at my favorite restaurant in town. It’ll be very low key but one thing’s for sure, I won’t blackout before bedtime and I won’t wake up the next day feeling miserable if I just avoid the Pinot Grigio Pitfall. Shields Up!
All my best to you.
Sincerely,
Cookie
Because we all deserve an optimum, magical life. Right here. Right now. Right on! <:)>

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Post by Sandy » 16 Dec 2017 10:10

Spats wrote:Hi PP, I also drink dry ginger and soda. Has a bit more of a kick to it ;)?
whats dry ginger spats? is that ginger ale?

Cookie make sure you give yourself that great birthday present...sobriety ...you are going to love it!

Well another Christmas work night out for me last night, I wasn't particularly looking forward to it as it was with my "senior" colleagues. When we got to the venue it was mobbed, people all ready to party. It was loud and I thought it might get a bit "rough" However it turned out to be a really really great night. I danced and sang the whole night and had some really good fun. I watched around my table at the "drinking "of these professional, slightly older people and you know what? they were quite "contained" Most were drinking, some not as driving or religious preferences, but ALL had water in between drinks ,slowed it downed or stopped for a while. As someone who just went at it pel mel (what even does that mean???) this always amazes me!! Anyway another great wee night in the bag. On the way home I reflected a bit on my first Christmas night out sober how difficult I thought it was going to be, how I prepared for it and how I got through it.I remember it not being easy but certainly not as "hard" as I thought it would be. At these kind of events being sober is not easy but it certainly gets easier
tell you what guys- I would rather be do this sober and in style than lying hungover and wasted today worrying what I had said or done the night before!
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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Spats » 16 Dec 2017 10:15

Yes ginger ale sandy. Give it a whirl I have it half and half :\:

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Trojan » 16 Dec 2017 12:45

There are some good articles about Sober Christmas on the Sober School blog here:

http://thesoberschool.com/kates-blog/
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Post by DoneandDone » 16 Dec 2017 13:42

Sober School, nice blog,

So glad Christmas will not look like this ever again
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Post by DoneandDone » 16 Dec 2017 13:58

Pink, Downloaded the Panther’s Christmas video, your avatar inspired. :lol: Love that character.
I agree this thread is excellent and full of spirit.

Hello Cookie,
I had to comment on the Pino Grigio Pitfall. Even though I advanced to god knows how many units of voddie, even more debilitating to me was white wine. Red I always went a little slower. I was primarily a solo drinker. When with others I sipped or abstained. Absenting myself from social events, letting others go in my stead, many times I would decide sometime after midnight to give myself what i came to call The White Wine Haircut. The next morning I would look in the bathroom sink and see my shorn locks and my head looking like Mary Martin ala Peter Pan. Nothing got me more inebriated than white wine. Not sure why.Have a nice birthday and holiday and hang in. Like Sandy says, give yourself the gift of sobriety. You will love the look.
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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Sandy » 17 Dec 2017 08:08

I am going for some personal challenges in the New Year too Pink.
Yes it is quiet.

When does everyone think of their food shopping??

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Re: Christmas: Doing it sober and in style

Post by Sandy » 17 Dec 2017 08:35

If you get some sober time under your belt then the three day hen do shouldn't tax your sober muscles too much , as long as you make sure there are plenty other activities to keep you occupied.!!!

Is that a brazillian restaurant Pink???

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Post by Sandy » 19 Dec 2017 11:09

I went to a brazillian once ( not for a brazillian) oaft!!! the amount of meat...too much for me!!!

Today is one of the last Christmas lunches with work colleagues followed by karaoke!! I am full of the cold and certainly don't feel like going never mind karaoking! Beechams to the rescue! and I will make the effort. Head feels like full of cotton wool Yuk!

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