Trina wrote: ↑
20 Mar 2021 04:08
Action and Smithster, is it your 6 months yet? Any day now, right?
Yes, quit six months ago today (20/9). So today, tomorrow, which ever way I look at it, it's this weekend
Not thinking about drinking a great deal at the moment as I have switched my focus back to cycling again and the positive things in life, so it helps.
Just messaged one of my old freinds who was one of my greatest drinking pals to let her know, and she is supportive that when we next meet it will be for coffee only. (I think secretly she would quit, and so would her husband, but thier life revolves around booze).
She was one of my catalysts and when we ever met up, is would always end as a bender. Meeting again will be my first test, as we could make any meeting into a bender (Yes we would meet for breakfast and be on Tequilla slammers by lunch, then be home in the garden by 2pm buying bottles of tequilla so we could drink quicker and passing out by 5-6pm and stating again around 10pm until the early hours!). The anxiety of those sessions was immense, and ones I have to remind myself of, so I never drink again. I also think it was those final sessions from 2018 through to 2020 in my late 40's that really took it's toll on my health , both physically and mentally, more mentally to be fair.
Things I have learnt from quitting again.
1. There is life after booze
2. Quitting booze isn't a magic cure or the promised land. You still have to work at life, but don't overthink it to much, everyone else suffers too, they just deal with it better, learn from those people but don't obsess.
3. Sometime you just have to say no to drink!
4. The brain takes longer than a few weeks to rewire itself, in fact I think the clarity only gets turned up every month or so, and certainly beyond 6 months.
5. Health doesn't return straight away. You have to work at it. It took years to screw your body up, so it will take time to get it back to some kind of normality (Measured my BP last night and it's took six months to go from 150/90 back to a normal 128/80. That also goes for mental health, but anxiety does dissapear quicker, and dark thoughts.
6. Hardline or white knuckle the cravings and the bad times at the begining, the rest will follow. Trying to work out why you drink before quitting will mean you never quit. As mentioned above quitting isnt the magic cure.
7. The pleasure of few drinks isn't worth the pain of regret. A famous Tour De France Winner once said about why he didn't miss a training session. 'Pain is temporary, regret lasts a life time'. Bit of a severe comparison, but it nails home the point.
8. See above - Quitting isn't the magic cure. You will put on weight before you loose it. I put 5kg on when I quit. Went up from 88kg to 93.5! Thankfully, with some effort I am now not only back down in weight, I am actually down to 85kg. (I aim for 76kg by the end of the year which would be my school weight, and another source of alternative focus)
Well that's my waffle, not everyone is the same, but I do think there is a similar flow in all of us.
WELL DONE TO MY QUITTING TWIN - ACTION
WELL DONE, WELL DONE. Look back at our early posts Action and see how the tone of our posts has changed. That is a revelation in itself to see how far we have come in ourselves.
Well done to everyone else for making it here too
Stay safe everone. Have a great weekend.