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Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 30 Oct 2019 20:11

Hello lovely lady, just to say again absolutely well done on your amazing 9 years AF ! \:)/ (::)

I hope you have a lovely evening and know just how appreciated you are for all your kind help and support over the years <:)> <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by SueDenim » 30 Oct 2019 22:30

Congratulations! \:)/ \:)/

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 31 Oct 2019 05:00

Wow, Tia, 9 years is amazing. Massive well done. \:)/ (::) \:)/
Fantastic to hear of people reaching goals like this. <:)> <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Tai » 31 Oct 2019 05:51

Thanks guys, celebrating today as the anniversary of my last day one. 9 years of freedom so far and it feels good :D OH is taking me out to our fave restaurant tonight ... going to eat my own weight in noodles or as near as I can manage :lol2:
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Cowboy » 31 Oct 2019 12:42

Late to the party but wanted to offer congratulations to a lovely lady in these parts who is a real inspiration.

Well done Tai. Cowboy.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Rachel » 31 Oct 2019 12:55

Belated congratulations from me too, Tai.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by smh1 » 31 Oct 2019 19:05

Congratulations Tai, what an achievement! \:)/ \:)/ \:)/
Keep on keeping on. It might be your last chance. :)

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by pickles » 01 Nov 2019 08:12

well done on 9 years !
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Post by Tai » 07 Nov 2019 05:38

Thanks guys <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 08 Nov 2019 11:38

Helloooo, just checking into see how everyone is <:)>

Was thinking of Wylass, how are you doing ? It won't be long now until Ed and Fiz join you here :)

Hope all beyonders are well and happy <:)>

Its a beautiful sunny day here. And its Friday ! Have a great weekend folks \:)/
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 09 Nov 2019 14:29

Well done Tai, 9 years is amazing. Yes Shadowlad, in 2 days time I will be moving up here. To be honest I feel a little underwhelmed! Just life I suppose. The thing about drinking, depending on how deep you are into it, is that, for me, it was a bit of a rollercoaster. Hangover day, two or three days hangover free. The hangover days had become awful but the non-hangover days had a certain sweetness to them. Of course, every day now is a non-hangover day but they have no context of awfulness. Not sure that makes a lot of sense but anyway. Looking at life in the eye, for all its greys and beiges, is definitely better than looking at it through the distorted lens of regret and emotional and physical pain. I'm trying to slowly work through where this drinking has got me. 'if only...' but there is nothing i can do about the past now. I gave up for a year about 10 years ago. Its amazing how time flies. Its amazing what difference 10 years does to you. I remember raring to get out of the traps after about 6 months - running, socialising, travelling. The view from the mid 40s is somewhat different. A bit more sludge underfoot. Still, the last few months Ive been studying for some certificates. The first time in years. Im also nicotine free since about 3 months. I feel like im building up to a plan, but I am not sure what yet. I have drunk once in the last year. 363 days ago. Keep on keeping on everyone. One foot in front of the other. Thats all we can do.

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 09 Nov 2019 21:40

I think i get the underwhelmed feeling in the first year. The drinking life for me was eventful, not in a good way, but in a surreal way when i think back. After about 10 months of sobriety i was feeling flat, and (subconsciously) missing the familiarity of chaos. Who would miss the kind of chaos that alcoholism brings ? Binge drinking.....dependent drinking......it is all a rollercoaster headed for disaster. I didn't really want any of it it back but the drama, hangovers, blackouts, etc had been 'normality' for a very long time.
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Looking at life in the eye, for all its greys and beiges, is definitely better than looking at it through the distorted lens of regret and emotional and physical pain. I'm trying to slowly work through where this drinking has got me. 'if only...' but there is nothing i can do about the past now.
That is very true Ed. The past has gone and there is nothing we can change about it. I was in my early 40's when i stopped drinking, but i spent some time wishing i had done it so much sooner. Now i think it is pointless worrying about wasted time, because there is a life to be lived, no matter what age we are. And like you say, it is so much better living life authentically, with no regrets because we are living life sober and in our true state.
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09 Nov 2019 14:29
I gave up for a year about 10 years ago. Its amazing how time flies. Its amazing what difference 10 years does to you. I remember raring to get out of the traps after about 6 months - running, socialising, travelling. The view from the mid 40s is somewhat different. A bit more sludge underfoot. Still, the last few months Ive been studying for some certificates. The first time in years. Im also nicotine free since about 3 months. I feel like im building up to a plan, but I am not sure what yet. I have drunk once in the last year. 363 days ago. Keep on keeping on everyone. One foot in front of the other. Thats all we can do.
It sounds like your plan is well underway, one of better health and of personal development. A very worthwhile plan. Its funny really but no matter how much we try to find our direction, being AF just opens the doors to endless possibilities and opportunity. It really is an interesting journey of self discovery but it just takes a little time for it to reveal itself. I'm so glad i stumbled past the 1 year milestone onto firmer ground. It has been so worth it :)

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Topcat » 10 Nov 2019 06:20

Ed wrote:
09 Nov 2019 14:29
Looking at life in the eye, for all its greys and beiges, is definitely better than looking at it through the distorted lens of regret and emotional and physical pain.
So true Ed ;)? Life chucks bricks at us as well as rainbows, but there is no doubt that life without alcohol in it is a lot better (we can see the bricks coming) ;) :lol: Wish I'd understood that sooner, but hey ho, got there in the end and that's the main thing.

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It sounds like your plan is well underway, one of better health and of personal development. A very worthwhile plan.
I second that ;)?
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Topcat » 11 Nov 2019 09:15

\:)/ WELCOME TO THE PALACE BEYOND ED \:)/

Massive well done to you on reaching this milestone. Make yourself at home <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Rachel » 11 Nov 2019 10:56

I think in the end (of my drinking days), I just wanted, and hoped for 'normality'. Yes, a much maligned word, but there is some sense to it. I felt as if I were on the outside of everything, with my nose pressed against the glass. Totally separated and alienated from what most people take for granted. Of course, when you are back on the other side of the glass, life is, well, as 'normal' be it mundane or extraordinary or something in between as you make it. Sobriety may be a necessary condition for happiness, contentment, fulfillment etc. but it's not a sufficient one, of course.
(My first year off the booze was, in fact, hell, but not because I wanted to drink or because my expectations were not met. I had a lot to recover from.)

I rarely got hangovers. You don't when you are certain way down the line. I think I couldn't drink enough, before falling 'asleep', to get one. But during my first year of recovery and every 8-10 week relapses... boy did I get them.

Anyway, a massive

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Cowboy » 11 Nov 2019 11:43

Congratulations Ed. Well done amigo.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Trojan » 11 Nov 2019 12:18

Congratulations Ed - great to hear that you've passed this milestone ;)?
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Tai » 11 Nov 2019 14:43

Brilliant Ed \:)/ \:)/ many congratulations! A whole year of freedom ... and many more to come I hope. I hope you feel good about this achievement Ed, that’s a lot of really solid decision making right there. Well done you <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 11 Nov 2019 16:17

Many thanks everyone, so kind. So great to have the support of all the people here. 10 years I have been on and off this site. Off when Ive been drinking and on when I havent. Thats the way it goes I guess, head in the sand. It means a great deal to me. Ive been working all day and been looking forward to logging in, like a child running to the letter box on their birthday. Its tough what we do here. We all know how tough it is. Ive had so many earnest efforts at this and I hope its more encouragement than discouragement that persistance is key. Not to say its beaten, its not but I'm chuffed with 1 year sober. Life is better. Thank you all, you wonderful people.
Enough time wasted on this.

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Mark. » 11 Nov 2019 16:58

Ed wrote:
11 Nov 2019 16:17
Life is better.
Well done, Ed! (::) (::) (::) (::) (::)

There are some more congratulations over on the Notice Board too. I hate to mention it, except that I was rather chuffed with my Lovejoy tribute ;)? :lol:
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