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Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 17 Dec 2019 21:59

I'm finding that. It might be self fulfilling prophecy. Also winter and Christmas is hard. I want the news to disappear but I can't seem to avoid it. It's not as if I can do anything about it.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by joholdbrook » 23 Dec 2019 19:00

:\: just want to wish you all a very happy Christmas and a happy new year

Feeling the best I have in years very relaxed and happy
Je suis prest

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 23 Dec 2019 20:03

Happy Christmas Jo and all.

Great you're feeling good. Physically I'm doing ok. Sugar not getting the better of me...yet!
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 23 Dec 2019 20:08

Merry Christmas to you too Jo, great to read that you are in a good place :\:

Hope all beyonders and anyone looking in are doing ok <:)>

All good here (just for today) ;)?

xxx

Crossed with Ed, i have fell off the sugar wagon again, lol. Mother's fault, she brought out banoffee pie and that was it ! :lol2:
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by joholdbrook » 24 Dec 2019 19:45

\:)/ wow I feel it tonight I'm stronger than the desire its just everywhere I look even in here but it's just thoughts nothing more

Roll on next year summer will be coming
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by joholdbrook » 24 Dec 2019 19:56

For anyone watching eastenders it's a great storyline and watching helped me no end a reality check
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 25 Dec 2019 20:01

Merry Christmas everyone <:)>

I’ve spent the last 3 days with friends and family, the atmosphere has been, happy and energetic, quite a bit of alcohol has been drank, but none by me. But, I have to admit, I’ve had a few urges, and I’ve felt a little bit left out at times, no one has even mentioned whether I drank or not, I reckon if I’d drank, also no one would have mentioned it, everyone has just been normal around me, they’re drinking I’m not, all urges, negative feelings were from my addiction, simple as that. But, I’ve not cracked, I’ve had a couple of early nights, but I’ve not given in. I’m glad of this, but, I also feel a little sad about it too.
I just needed to log this. X
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 25 Dec 2019 21:04

Nice one Fiz. Tricky time of year, making it through is the essential. The festivities will pass. Hangovers will be had by some. Having a quiet one, 6 of us, a bit of drinking going on but not much. A frosted bottle of aquavit was doing the rounds which tempted me momentarily.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Iroquois » 25 Dec 2019 21:23

Good for you Fiz!

I am four years and a half sober, but I still can't go to holiday parties where there will be alcohol!

I admire you AF people that can go and not drink! Some day for me maybe!

Otherwise, I am just glad it is over so I can quit feeling guilty for not going and for not enjoying holiday parties!

There, I've admitted it, I always felt such pressure to be joyous and used alcohol to fake it and to get through it! All the hype just makes it so much harder! Sorry,that I am so bah humbug!

I hope all that love festive had a great holiday! And all of us introverts that kinda prefer quiet, Happy Christmas, too!

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 27 Dec 2019 07:35

I know what you mean Deanna. My second sober Christmas, last year was harder as I was only a month sober. This year has been ok. Me, my partner and her aunt's immediate family. 6 of us. Quite pleasant. Just relaxed, a bit of walking. Nobody really drinking very much. I avoid Christmas festivities like the plague if possible but I don't find the drinking difficult. You'd probably find it easier than you think after 4 years but better to be safe than sorry.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 27 Dec 2019 08:04

Hi all <:)>
Iroquois wrote:
25 Dec 2019 21:23
There, I've admitted it, I always felt such pressure to be joyous and used alcohol to fake it and to get through it! All the hype just makes it so much harder! Sorry,that I am so bah humbug!
I think its the hype as you say Deanna that makes this time of year so hard, especially for quieter, more introverted people. So many expectations from others ! There is a quiet satisfaction in being true to ourselves and exercising our rights to choice. This year there seems to have been a social 'expectation' to be the 'good samaritan' too. Or is that just me just being cynical ? I'm all for helping others where possible, but tend to feel that this is at the discretion of the individual person all year round and not just for Christmas ? Just a thought after possibly spending too much time on social media :? :)

Well done on 4 1/2 years sober by the way Deanna <:)>
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Merry Christmas everyone <:)>

I’ve spent the last 3 days with friends and family, the atmosphere has been, happy and energetic, quite a bit of alcohol has been drank, but none by me. But, I have to admit, I’ve had a few urges, and I’ve felt a little bit left out at times, no one has even mentioned whether I drank or not, I reckon if I’d drank, also no one would have mentioned it, everyone has just been normal around me, they’re drinking I’m not, all urges, negative feelings were from my addiction, simple as that. But, I’ve not cracked, I’ve had a couple of early nights, but I’ve not given in. I’m glad of this, but, I also feel a little sad about it too.
I just needed to log this. X
I totally get those conflicting feelings fiz, they are so common in the first year or so and even beyond occasionally. Absolutely well done in staying AF. Same to Ed. Its funny really because that feeling of being left out seems to come to me too, even now. It is more of a mild feeling these days, but it is still there. Its little things like there are three of us living in my home at the moment. Two 'special' Christmas wine glasses were bought recently and it kind of highlighted that i wouldn't need one, In actual fact i would have liked one for my sparkly appletiser but i din't say anything. It is just a little example really.

I remember when i used to get strong urges around holiday days it kind of irked me that family/friends who were drinking at leisure didn't seem to notice whether i was drinking or not. It was such a big thing for me to be abstaining at that point how could they not see ?? :x Of course the most important thing here is my own affirmation, not that of others. As hard as it was in the early days, years, i was doing it for me primarily. It was my choice whether i abstained or whether i stepped back into the destructive cycle again.

You are doing great fiz, and the fact that you are logging your true thoughts and feelings on your journey is a really good thing :)

Love to all xx
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Topcat » 28 Dec 2019 07:16

\:)/ OUR LOVELY NICKY IS 7 YEARS AF \:)/

What a great achievement \:)/ You are such an inspiration and a really great lady. Well done. Enjoy your day and many, many more to come <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Lush4life » 28 Dec 2019 09:09

Congratulations my friend, 7 years is fantastic \:)/ \:)/ (::) <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by SoberBoots » 28 Dec 2019 10:03

Wow that's amazing! \:)/ \:)/ \:)/ CONGRATULATIONS \:)/ \:)/ \:)/
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Trojan » 28 Dec 2019 10:43

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\:)/ Congratulations Nicky \:)/

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by smh1 » 28 Dec 2019 12:26

Well done Nicky, what an achievement! \:)/ \:)/ \:)/
Keep on keeping on. It might be your last chance. :)

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Ed » 28 Dec 2019 12:57

Well done Nicky. Great effort.

\:)/ \:)/
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 28 Dec 2019 17:27

Wow what a beautiful cake TC ! Its too good to eat, but do help yourselves to the cupcakes everyone ! :D Thank you for your friendship too TC, your good humour and kindness is appreciated xxxx

Thank you Ed <:)> Sue <:)> Sally <:)> Lushie <:)> and Trojan <:)> for your good wishes and for being here sharing your inspirational journeys along the way xx

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 29 Dec 2019 09:30

Fantastic achievement, Nicky. Congratulations \:)/ (::)
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 29 Dec 2019 12:52

Thanks fiz ! Hope you are well <:)> xx
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