Yes - Neal, I think this is going to make a pretty good home, isn't it? I hope no-one minds if I join in here? I'm really excited about this new thread, so I hope not!
I say all this because I haven't yet managed the Perfect Year. However, as much as I love the idea of commiting myself to the "fixed-term" challenges, I find them a bit too
challenging for my purposes.
Pineapple - I don't know if you are feeling the same as me or if this will help but, although I'm very happy in my state of not-drinking, I've struggled in recent months to think of this sobriety in terms of reaching set goals. I think my problem is that - because I'm reasonably competitive - I begin to see the end of a challenge (the finishing-line, if you like) as the goal itself, and I forget the reason I'm actually doing it in the first place: in other words, to stay long-term sober in order to:
i) keep my soul, my potential, and my marriage alive; and
ii) to help all three to thrive.
For these to survive and thrive, I need
to stay sober, and I can't imagine a point at which this will change. But I'm finding that much easier to do by just rolling along, remaining ever-vigilant but keeping my focus largely on the present and the immediate future:
Would it do me any good to drink today?
Will drinking have no undesirable consequences for my immediate future?
Could alcohol improve my current life/situation in any
Because the answer to those questions is invariably 'No', and because I can't imagine this ever changing, I consider myself as aiming at - and, at the moment, achieving - long-term sobriety, but without worrying too much about fixing deadlines. I'm just not clever enough to see that far enough into the distance - and when I do try to look too far along this road of
abstinence, I don't notice the pebbles in the section of road I am currently running, and that's when I stumble and trip.
Anyway, this is something I've been thinking about a lot recently, and I think - for selfish reasons - a thread dedicated to living a long-term sober life is absolutely perfect for me, not least because, as Sheila says:
Sheila wrote:Stopping is one thing .... staying stopped is quite another!!
And I think this thread will be an excellent place in which we can all help one another to stay stopped!
Best wishes to all
"I once thought that growing up *meant* smoking and drinking. It looked so good, but I don't want to die from it."
~ Marianne Faithfull
221b for the 2021 Challenge