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Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 18 Nov 2019 06:01

Well, I’ve popped my head around the door a few times, but never dared to allow myself to fully step in, I was afraid, I’d tempt fate.
But I’m here, on day 365 \:)/ \:)/
It feels amazing, I never thought I would do a whole year, but here I am.
This site is just the best, we have the nicest most kindest members on here, thank you all for helping me to get here. <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Topcat » 18 Nov 2019 06:19

\:)/ (::) You beat me to it Fiz - didn't have time to get the carpet down \:)/ (::)

You'll just have to go out and come in again ;) :lol:
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Massive well done on reaching this milestone Fiz. It's a great achievement. Enjoy your day <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Trojan » 18 Nov 2019 07:23

\:)/ Congratulations Fiz \:)/
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Cowboy » 18 Nov 2019 07:59

Way to go fiz. Well deserved. You rock girl.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by SoberBoots » 18 Nov 2019 08:55

CONGRATULATIONS FIZ!!!
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 18 Nov 2019 09:08

TC I don’t mind going out and coming back in at all, thanks for the red carpet. <:)>
Trojan, Cowboy, thank you so much. <:)>
Soberboots :lol: :lol2: fantastic, I love it. <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Shadowlad » 18 Nov 2019 19:50

Hey fiz ! sorry this is late in the day but huge congratulations ! on your special 1 year milestone ! \:)/ (::) \:)/ <:)>

A warm welcome to you :D
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Post by fiz » 18 Nov 2019 22:08

Thanks Shadowlad, have you been spying on me dog training. :lol: :lol2:
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Post by Shadowlad » 18 Nov 2019 22:12

:lol: ;)?
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by SueDenim » 19 Nov 2019 22:43

Well done, fiz \:)/ \:)/

Many congratulations (::)

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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 20 Nov 2019 05:06

Thanks SueD <:)> I keep having to tell myself it’s real. I can’t believe I managed a whole year. X
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Rachel » 20 Nov 2019 14:41

Slightly belated congratulations, Fiz!
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by pickles » 20 Nov 2019 16:21

Very well done ,Fiz (::)
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 21 Nov 2019 05:17

Thank you Rachel and Pickles. <:)>

Well, silly season is upon us, I wonder how many people will drink next month, who really didn’t want to? Quite a few I’d wager. I’m going to a party with some friends on 20th December, nice bunch, but, big drinkers, now I don’t have a problem with that this year, I did last, and it’s nice to feel I have such a long way for me not to panic, worry, or even care about alcohol at this gathering, however, already, I have been asked, are you drinking this year? You must have completed your 1 year by then! Another said, aw, I hope you’re not going to be a party pooper this year, you put a right downer on last years get together. It’s not bothered me as much or at all really, as it did last year, but why do people think you’re either not enjoying yourself, or you’re spoiling the mood for everyone else by not having a drink? These people are not young people, I think the youngest in our group is 50, the oldest 70. Oh well, I feel better equipped this year, I just think it’s a little sad that we do this to one another, and I was the worst one for saying stuff like this to others once over, now I regret doing that.
Have a lovely day all.
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Post by Rachel » 21 Nov 2019 08:38

That's not a very nice thing to say. They possibly feel a bit guilty about their own drinking and see you not drinking as a kind of judement? (Used to get the same with vegetarianism, although I realize there are other things going on there.) We live in a conflicted society in which drinking is ok, yet not ok. I think a lot of younger people have a different approach. The ones I know don't seem to go out, get drunk then be half shame faced, half proud of it the way people of my generation did at their age.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by SoberBoots » 21 Nov 2019 14:29

Another said, aw, I hope you’re not going to be a party pooper this year, you put a right downer on last years get together.
Tempting to video people like this "having a good time" and play it back to them afterwards so they can see how boring and annoying they are!
Good on you, though, your mindset is so different now.
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Iroquois » 21 Nov 2019 17:22

Welcome Fiz! Good job, and this is the place after you've gotten through the first year!

Set another milestone to keep you going, like 18 months or 2 years, etc. I think it always helps to work toward a goal, so you don't get slackish!

I found it easier to just stay away from the past drinking friends, a new life, new friends or see old friends in only non drinking situations. Sobriety changes a person, we begin to enjoy more sane things, quieter things, hours and days are more precious, and so we begin to seek out others that are of like mind. Don't be surprised if this happens to you, and don't rush back to drinking to salvage old friendships. It just isn't worth it!

The holidays are upon us, and I kind of dread the whole time, especially in these tough, divided times. don't beat yourself up if you feel like sitting out a few parties where alcohol will be present and in great supply! Celebrating quietly and reflectively can be joyous, too.

Cold and snowy here in Colorado!
Gotta get some more nuts and crackers out to my little squirrel friend who is VERY used to humans! He had the audacity to nibble on walnuts I put out, last summer, and chide and chirp at me the whole time, like I was disturbing his peace! He made me chuckle, but he sure doesn't avoid my charity, and I am sure on a cold day like this, enjoys free snacks!

Hope everyone is thriving and getting on with AF life!

Best wishes, Deanna <:)> <:)> <:)>
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Topcat » 21 Nov 2019 19:15

Iroquois wrote:
21 Nov 2019 17:22
Cold and snowy here in Colorado! Gotta get some more nuts and crackers out to my little squirrel friend who is VERY used to humans! He had the audacity to nibble on walnuts I put out, last summer, and chide and chirp at me the whole time, like I was disturbing his peace! He made me chuckle, but he sure doesn't avoid my charity, and I am sure on a cold day like this, enjoys free snacks!
Love the sound of your little squirrel friend Deanna ;)? :lol:
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Celebrating quietly and reflectively can be joyous, too.
So very true. With all the emphasis/pressure on us to enjoy ourselves and to make sure everyone else has a good time, sometimes we forget that just being quietly reflective can be extremely pleasant (and so much less stressful) ;)?
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by Trojan » 21 Nov 2019 19:39

Iroquois wrote:
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... Celebrating quietly and reflectively can be joyous, too.
That's a lovely thought Deanna :D
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Re: Beyond the 1 Year Milestone

Post by fiz » 22 Nov 2019 07:06

Thanks Deanna <:)>
Celebrating quietly sounds good to me, at least that way you get to wake up feeling fresh and guilt free. ;)?
I’ve already set myself a new challenge, I’m going for two year next, and I’m already on day 3 of that \:)/ I also might do another 💯 day challenge, I find that one a nice number to complete, the challenges have worked for me this time around, it’s the first time I’ve really thrown myself into them. But one day at a time is good for me atm. ;)?
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